I made sure to tell everyone, from the nurses in admitting to the anesthesiologist as he set up my epidural. He promised me a good experience this time around. It was anything but. More
Topic: Labor Pains Week
Weâ€™ve been here before, my daughter and I. She was a late mover. A late roller. A late smiler. A late crawler and a late stander. At each of these milestones, Iâ€™ve done everything I can to help facilitate her growth. More
The parameters under which these women delivered their babies is far scarier than any conventional labor pain. More
I felt sort of terrible for him because he wasnâ€™t quite smart enough to realize that, instead of fleeing the room, he could have just moved closer to my head.
After years of trying to get pregnant, it’s given me a lot of time to think about labor and how I might do it differently. It’s even made me consider something that I had no problem turning down the first time around, natural childbirth. More
I’d like to think that my parenting choices are just that — choices. But at the end of the day, my parental behavior is determined by my paycheck.
The media “mommy wars” are never-ending. There is always a new parenting debate that begs us to choose sides. Co-sleeping or not? Daycare or not? Nanny or not? Extended breastfeeding or not? These questions aren’t parenting questions. They are questions of money. We take the sides we have to take. Well, I won’t speak for anyone else. I’ll just say I take the sides I have to take — because I am broke. More
I was 34 weeks along with my first pregnancy. Itâ€™d been an extremely easy pregnancy and at my checkup, my doctor told me heâ€™d start checking at my next appointment to see if I was starting to dilate. The next morning I woke up at five with an urgent need to pee and cramping. Iâ€™d had UTIs before, so I figured that was the problem. More
Since it’s Labor Pains Week on Mommyish, I figured I’d add to the conversation with a similarly-themed column. Except, instead of sharing heartfelt stories about childbirth, I’ve put together a collection of labor-related status update Don’ts. Because no matter how many times I try to reinforce the STFU, Parents Basics, people continue to post TMI updates about labor and delivery. More
I was never against the drugs. Drugs, I thought, were for other people. For people who could tolerate long needles shoved up their spinal cords. For people who didnâ€™t mind being confined to a bed. I didnâ€™t have something to prove when I opted for a natural birthâ€”I was just deeply afraid of doctor intervention. Now, I know this makes little sense when comparing the level of pain one endures during the dreaded ring of fireâ€”the agonizing sensation that occurs when your baby stretches your vagina to its capacityâ€”but there is a difference between the fear of the unknown and the fear of needles.
I opted for the unknown. More
I was completely shocked when a week and a half AFTER I had my baby, and attended my daughterâ€™s graduation ceremony, when not one, but three, mothers said to me, â€śYou look like youâ€™re ready to pop!â€ť And, â€śYou must be due any day now.â€ť And, â€śYou must be ready to get that out of you!â€ť More
â€śYouâ€™re all first time moms, right?â€ť she smiles broadly in her pink scrubs. We all nod, looking around at one another for confirmation. â€śOk, so you may THINK youâ€™re in labor. But youâ€™re probably not. No, youâ€™re not in labor until you are white knuckling it at my desk. Understand? You should not be able to SPEAK because it will hurt so bad. THEN you are in REAL labor. OK, Mommies?â€ť
I started to feel that pineapple churning. Oh god. More
Scratchy towels, no blankets, and the only â€śproductâ€ť that was in the bathroom was hand soap. So all those magazine articles and blog posts that say, â€śyou donâ€™t need to bring anything! The hospital has it all,â€ť are LIARS. More
At 32 weeks, I went into hospital with vomiting, seeing black and white spots and abdominal pain – all classic signs of pre-eclampsia. After a positive fibronectin test, they told me my baby was coming early, and the pains I was having were labor! More
Ricki Lake and Abby Epstein‘s documentary, The Business of Being Born, helped educate thousands of women about how to advocate for themselves and get the natural birth that their babies and themselves deserve.
It also single handedly ruined my birth experience. More