Topic: family

If I Give You All The Reasons I’m Not Having More Kids, Will You Stop Asking?

If I Give You All The Reasons Iâm Not Having More Kids, Will You Stop Asking?

I love my pediatrician. She is a smart French lady with an air of classy kindness, and once, before I had insurance, she let me pay her in hugs. Well, she billed me later, but she handled my embarrassed tears with kindness at the time. I love her so much that even though I moved out of the city years ago, I still make the hellish drive to see her twice a year. Still, she does this thing that annoys the crap out of me where at the end of each visit, she asks me in desperate Franglish when I’ll be giving my daughter a sibling, because kids need siblings. More »

TGI Thanksgiving Open Thread: Let’s Be Thankful And/Or Talk About How Crazy Our Families Are Driving Us

TGI Thanksgiving Open Thread: Let's Be Thankful And/Or Talk About How Crazy Our Families Are Driving Us

It’s Thanksgiving so maybe most of you will be away from your computers – happily enjoying time with your family. If that’s the case I am super glad for you and hope you are having a fantastic day. But maybe others of you are going bat-shit crazy dealing with your relatives. I thought I’d create a little safe space to vent. More »

They Twerk And 9 Other Reasons Why I Love Grandmas More Than Anyone

They Twerk And 9 Other Reasons Why I Love Grandmas More Than Anyone

I wish my own grandmother were around so she could spend time with my kids and get to know them and tell them all the stories she used to tell me when I was growing up. I think kids need grandmas, and they need to be around people who love them like only grandmothers can, totally unconditionally. Plus, the older I get the more I realize how much youth is totally overrated. Young people are boring. They are nowhere near as interesting or as cool as old people. Especially old ladies. So why do grandmothers rock so hard? More »

Let’s Talk About All The Crap I’m Going To Let My Kids Eat Today During The Superbowl

Let's Talk About All The Crap I'm Going To Let My Kids Eat Today During The Superbowl

Are you ready for some football? If by football you mean am I ready to eat a mess of junk food and watch some amazingly expensive television commercials and BEYONCE then yes, yes I am! And my kids are ready too, because my daughter woke me at six a.m. this morning asking if it was time to eat the king’s cake I purchased for breakfast, and I think she mainly wants it because this bread is bedecked in mardi gras beads and  fake gold coins. I love Super Bowl Sunday you guys. My refrigerator is filled with beer and we have takeaway pulled barbecue pork to pick up and I will be making something involving cheese and salsa and tortilla chips. Plus, cupcakes. Plus, that super gross and by gross I mean amazingly good onion dip and salty potato chips. More »

Michele Bachmann’s Anti-Gay Vitriol Is Understandably Breaking Her Gay Little Step-Sister’s Heart

Michele Bachmann's Anti-Gay Vitriol Is Understandably Breaking Her Gay Little Step-Sister's Heart

While my personal Bachmann-coping mechanism is to always chalk her up to harmless crazy, I can understand why this tactic might be a little more challenging for Bachmann’s own family. I, after all, never have to bump into her at family reunions, nod my head at her at Thanksgiving, or even pretend to like her Christmas presents. But one woman does: her lesbian step-sister. More »

Hanna Rosin Tells Mommyish Why ‘See-Saw Marriages’ Are More Flexible

Hanna Rosin Tells Mommyish Why 'See-Saw Marriages' Are More Flexible

Hanna Rosin, senior editor at The Atlantic and founder of DoubleX, covers a lot of ground in her complex and compelling book The End of Men. The facetiously titled exploration of contemporary marriage, families, and education reveals that while women are succeeding, men are flailing. Although young women and girls are rapidly closing in on the space that has been recently awarded to them, such as better career opportunities and higher education, men, for the most part, are not adjusting. Whether it’s finding work in the still slumping economy or staying the steady course to college, they are quickly falling behind a new cohort of ambitious and driven females.

Hanna, a mother of three herself, shares with us the ruptures within the scholastic trajectory for boys, why we’re seeing an uptick in violence among young girls, and the growing trend of “see-saw marriages.” More »

This Family Commune Idea Isn’t As Easy As It Looked

This Family Commune Idea Isnât As Easy As It Looked

I’m building a community. It’s a somewhat half-baked, hair-brained idea at this point, involving large pieces of real estate, a potential web of legal concerns, the very real need for serious budget talks and myriad other logistical issues. But at its core, it’s about people; good people who want to live among other good people with a great deal of trust and healthy co-dependence floating around. It is for this reason that the “people” part of this complicated equation is by far the most important. More »