Ben is our true daycare baby. Claire was three when I went back to work but Ben was barely 18 months. He has pretty much grown up in daycare and it shows. For us, that is only a good thing. My kids would not be who they are without daycare and their amazing teachers. More
Topic: being a mom
I truly believe that children need more freedom than our current pearl-clutching parenting culture allows them- probably because I grew up in a pretty relaxed environment and totally survived. Eff that, I thrived. More
I did my duty as a waitress and bartender for ten years. I’d like to think that it gave me a great work ethic and a few fun stories to tell at parties. Little did I know that my time in the service industry would prepare me perfectly for motherhood. More
Once your child is older, they will have opinions about how their bedroom looks and while this may sound like a bummer, I am here to reassure you- it is pretty much awesome. More
I have always felt somewhat clueless and stumbly about doing my own hair as well as others. I remember being the scourge of 5th grade sleepovers because whoever was in front of me in the Braid Chain knew they were getting a piece-of-shit braid that would fall out within 15 minutes while the other girls created beautiful styles that held all night. More
I do not think you have to be a supermodel to have a happy marriage and feel good about yourself. I do not think you should go to great lengths with personal upkeep solely to please your husband. I also do not think there is ANYTHING wrong with donning yoga pants and throwing your hair in a ponytail if that is what makes you happy. More
I see it all over the ads for stores like Gap Kids, Crew Cuts, Janie and Jack and the like. There is a lot of pressure in society to make our kids look super precious with more accessories than we adult women have. More
For my part, I was quite the smug douche rocket when my daughter was a baby because she was basically, the World’s Easiest Baby and there were so many things she never did that most new parents grapple with. More
It’s the end of summer, and time for kids to go back to school. All kids, including children with disabilities. Unfortunately, all those back to school ads featuring shiny, happy, pimple and attitude-free children rarely (if ever) include kids with disabilities. Why? Because kids with disabilities aren’t considered attractive. And because they remind us of a fact of life that many would rather forget. Photographer Jenni Driscoll, who is also the mother of a child with Down syndrome, is trying to change that.
The decision to have our first child was an easy one- we got married at a young age for a reason- we both wanted to have a baby and be young parents. The decision to have a second was also a no-brainer. We wanted our kids close in age and we wanted me to stay at home until our youngest was at least a toddler so we had to get moving if I was ever going to get back into the work force. Now, we face the decision to have a third and it is paralyzing. More
I am admittedly a bit removed from the life of parenting a toddler (although, school age kids can still BRING IT when it comes to parental torture) but I remember it all so vividly. The irrational fits, the picky eating, the bedtime bullshit, the messes- it is not for the faint of heart, that’s for certain. More
But, I would never trade throwing my identity onto the ever-burning-pyre-of-childhood-need for anything.
Ha. Yes I would.
Long story short, it’s hard not to feel exhausted and dejected and overwhelmed and confused and under appreciated and basically every other verb that suggests misery. It’s hard not to think of the what-ifs. Most of us have, or do regularly. Everyday. Whatever the case, I give you complete permission to love me or villainize me for creating this list of child alternatives. Feel free to send me a bottle of wine as gratitude/punishment. More
It was when my son was born that I was introduced to the concept of the high-need baby/sensitive child. And that was when I learned that having a sensitive child is like handling a grenade. You have to be very careful or you might have a devastating explosion on your hands. More
There are so many exciting things a pregnant woman and her partner get to look forward to in the months leading up to the birth of their child. I used to think that picking a baby name was one of them. More