Before becoming a mom, I had never asked the question, “Is it okay for this child to use my sock as toilet paper?” Or, after my two-year-old sprinkled her great grandparents ashes in her hair, I asked, “How much soap does it take to get human remains out of someone’s hair?” The answer: A lot. But I have asked these questions, now, and I can never go back. More
Topic: being a mom
I have two younger brothers. Growing up, this meant that most of my possessions were safe because, girl stuff. However, there were still items I had to guard with my life and I can remember thinking that I could not WAIT to be an adult so I could stop worrying about people I live with snatching my stuff without permission. Little did I know, my brothers were going easy on me. Since my daughter was a toddler, I have had so much crap go missing in my house and it makes me nuts. More
I am 32 years old. My husband and I have owned a home for close to a decade. We have two children and we both have full-time jobs. We keep our house tidy most weeks, we are organized and I am a pretty good cook. On paper, we are legitimate grown-ups in every way and more than capable of hosting a holiday but I have absolutely less than zero desire. My mom hogs hosting holiday events and because of how amazing she is at it (and out of pure laziness) I have no problem with that at all.
When my husband and I first got married, we could easily finish out the week on $125 worth of groceries and eating take-out or going out to eat maybe twice. This would even include us both bringing lunch to work most days. It was very manageable. Since our daughter started solid foods, the bill began to steadily climb. At first, it was barely noticeable- $150 or so, mostly due to fresh fruit that she liked, her yogurt and jars of baby food. Once she started eating what we ate, it went up a little more. Then, our son was born and the climb continued. More
I suffered through crappy toddler and pre-school TV for years- Caillou, Thomas the Train, Dora- all of the usual suspects. I figured life would get a lot better entertainment-wise once my kids were older. Well, those days are here- my kids are seven and five- and I have come to discover that the big kid TV shows are also pretty shitty. More
As much as I hate to admit it, sometimes, I let myself fall victim to the very creative and manipulative things my kids say to try to make me feel guilty for working. Most of the time, I am well able to roll my eyes and move on with life, knowing they are seven and five and just being kids. Sometimes, I feel like they are tiny sages speaking an absolute truth that I am too old, lazy or jaded to see on my own. It is a near-daily occurrence that my kids try to make me feel guilty about my job and I am trying to rise above it. More
It’s only natural to want to shield your kids from every sort of hurt. I have cried myself to sleep before worrying about the future and my kids being bullied or disliked. Just the thought of them being left out or feeling lonely is enough to get my lower lip quivering. It is a very normal instinct as a parent to step in and try to stop the hurt from happening but we need to fight this urge, particularly when it comes to letting our kids learn to deal with mean people. More
An unnamed nursing mom on jury duty was told to pump in what anyone would consider disgusting conditions at a Memphis, TN courthouse. This kind of story is, sadly, nothing new as so many nursing mothers have been told to pump in bathrooms, cramped and dirty storage closets or in places that have little to no privacy. More
I’m sure this will be met with sneers but my house will go dark on Halloween this year from dinnertime on. We will shut the lights, close the curtains and hightail it out the door as soon as the sun goes down. My husband and I will trick or treat with our children, ages seven and five, and we will have a blast. For a few very important reasons, we won’t be handing out Halloween candy this year and I won’t lose a moment’s sleep over it.
We have discussed before how some of us are secretly happy we had a c-section. I cannot say I am one of those people as I did try for a VBAC the second time around but that was for the purpose of a (hopefully) faster recovery and not because I was so traumatized by my c-section. When a group of moms are together, the trading of birth stories is inevitable and after so many of these gatherings over my time as a parent, I can tell you that we need to stop pitying c-section moms. More
I know we can all tend to get bogged down by the Pinterest-perfect lives depicted by other moms. Or maybe we are jealous of that working mom that seems to have her act together in every way possible while we struggle with a mountain of laundry, just trying to squeak by. We all have our good points as parents and of course, we all have weaknesses. However, we are all great moms when we play to our strengths. More
Becoming a mother is a very individual experience for all of us. It means something different to everyone. However, there are certain motherhood cliches that really seem to hold true no matter what kind of mom you are. More