Topic: being a mom

My Kids Try To Make Me Feel Guilty About My Job And Sometimes, It Works

My Kids Try To Make Me Feel Guilty About My Job And Sometimes, It Works

As much as I hate to admit it, sometimes, I let myself fall victim to the very creative and manipulative things my kids say to try to make me feel guilty for working. Most of the time, I am well able to roll my eyes and move on with life, knowing they are seven and five and just being kids. Sometimes, I feel like they are tiny sages speaking an absolute truth that I am too old, lazy or jaded to see on my own. It is a near-daily occurrence that my kids try to make me feel guilty about my job and I am trying to rise above it. More »

Mean People Are A Part Of Life So Kids Should Get Used To Them Now

Mean People Are A Part Of Life So Kids Should Get Used To Them Now

It’s only natural to want to shield your kids from every sort of hurt. I have cried myself to sleep before worrying about the future and my kids being bullied or disliked. Just the thought of them being left out or feeling lonely is enough to get my lower lip quivering. It is a very normal instinct as a parent to step in and try to stop the hurt from happening but we need to fight this urge, particularly when it comes to letting our kids learn to deal with mean people. More »

We Won’t Be Handing Out Halloween Candy This Year And I Don’t Feel Bad About It

We Won't Be Handing Out Halloween Candy This Year And I Don't Feel Bad About It

I’m sure this will be met with sneers but my house will go dark on Halloween this year from dinnertime on. We will shut the lights, close the curtains and hightail it out the door as soon as the sun goes down. My husband and I will trick or treat with our children, ages seven and five, and we will have a blast. For a few very important reasons, we won’t be handing out Halloween candy this year and I won’t lose a moment’s sleep over it.
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Stop Pitying C-Section Moms Because They Are Probably Happier Than You Think

Stop Pitying C-Section Moms Because They Are Probably Happier Than You Think

We have discussed before how some of us are secretly happy we had a c-section. I cannot say I am one of those people as I did try for a VBAC the second time around but that was for the purpose of a (hopefully) faster recovery and not because I was so traumatized by my c-section. When a group of moms are together, the trading of birth stories is inevitable and after so many of these gatherings over my time as a parent, I can tell you that we need to stop pitying c-section moms. More »

We Are All Great Moms When We Play To Our Strengths

We Are All Great Moms When We Play To Our Strengths

I know we can all tend to get bogged down by the Pinterest-perfect lives depicted by other moms. Or maybe we are jealous of that working mom that seems to have her act together in every way possible while we struggle with a mountain of laundry, just trying to squeak by. We all have our good points as parents and of course, we all have weaknesses. However, we are all great moms when we play to our strengths. More »

I Am Not The Mom I Imagined I Would Be

I Am Not The Mom I Imagined I Would Be

I had a million ideas of what my mom-self would look like. Having struggled with infertility before my first child, I had years to think about it. I fantasized about the mother I would become – so much so that she kind of took on a life of her own. She was amazing, this future me. I crafted her perfectly in my mind, convinced I knew what she would look like. More »

10 Reasons You Are Suffering From Mom Guilt This Week

10 Reasons You Are Suffering From Mom Guilt This Week

Mom guilt. It is so insidious and can creep up on you when you least expect it. Whether it’s an innocent question from your little one that stirs up feelings of yuck (“Momma, why you so grumpy at me?”) or thoughts of inadequacy spurred on by the extreme mothering of the Pinterest- perfect crowd (ugh, quit it with the crafting already) I can guarantee there were moments in the last week where you had twinges of mom guilt. More »

There Is No ‘Right Age’ For A Babysitter

There Is No 'Right Age' For A Babysitter

We have yet to hire a babysitter outside of our family and regular daycare providers. We don’t go out a whole ton but we are fortunate that my parents or brother typically say yes when we need a babysitter. This is mostly a cost-saving measure as well as a way of ensuring our kids get some quality time with their grandparents or uncle. However, if and when we do hire someone outside of family I don’t know that I have a particular age in mind as much as a particular level of responsibility and trust-worthiness. I really believe there is no “right age” for a babysitter. More »