I hope John Legend finds sobbing women with smeary eye makeup attractive because that’s what this new video for his song You And I (Nobody In The World) results in. let’s break it down, shall we? We have older women, younger women, little girls, women with mastectomies, pregnant women, thinner women, bigger women, a gorgeous little girl getting her ears pierced, weight lifting women, chemotherapy women, broken nose women, going out women, going to work women and the astoundingly gorgeous Laverne Cox taking off her makeup. More
My nine-year-old daughter has a makeup bag. It’s filled with all of my leftovers, lipstick shades I decided looked awful on me, garish eyeshadows that I attempted to make work once or twice, samples from department stores that came with my purchase. She has foundation and disco dust and mascaras in tiny little tubes and a plastic container of makeup remover wipes. When she is home from school she sits in her bedroom surrounded by stuffed animals and dolls and does her face, always too much blush and sparkly blue eyeshadow up to her eyebrows and lipstick smeared beyond the natural lines of her tiny little mouth. On occasion she draws flowers on her cheeks with an eyeliner.
She will ask me if she looks pretty.
Of course she does. She is my daughter. More
I know that I shouldn’t care, and that I should tell her that she is beautiful because of whom she is inside. But I know all too well that outside appearances count more than people like to believe. I was always one of the prettiest girls in school; in fact, I won numerous pageants as a teen that allowed me to attend college almost free of charge, due to various scholarship and cash prizes. I know that it was my looks that gave me an edge, and I can’t help but feel heartbroken that my daughter won’t get those same advantages. More
Before I had my kids, I took great care with my appearance. I’ve always been a girl who wears makeup, has regular hair appointments and attempts to keep up with clothing trends. I have never been one to wear pajama pants in public or go out with unwashed hair. It was partly vanity driving me but I was also raised to keep in mind that the way I take care of myself says something to the rest of the world and I wanted to give the impression that I had my act together. I definitely believed that people respected me more for making an effort and caring about how I look.
Bet you didn’t know I was a skincare professional in a past life, did you? Yes, I went to cosmetology school in my early twenties and am licensed as an aesthetician. That’s actually how I got my start in writing—as a beauty blogger and health writer years ago. More
Recently your father wrote you an article in the Huffington Post all about how he finds makeup aisles “very oppressive” and how he wants you to to delivered ” through this gauntlet of institutionalized shame and into a deep, unshakeable sense of your own worthiness and beauty.”
Calling a pile of lipsticks and nail polish a gauntlet of institutionalized shame is a bit overdramatic, and Little One, I’m here to tell you that your dad is wrong. More
I used to get my nails did. Back when I was knocked up with my eldest getting my nails done was one of the only times I could feel like an actual human and not just a giant incubator for my baby. Even though I waddled into the nail salon and my hair was usually fashioned with a scrunchie it made me feel good about myself. More
So if you are interested in updating your spring look, why not try one of these hot sexy hairstyles that every new mom can use? More
Listen, I’m sorry you are a bad parent and you are unable to raise your daughter to make her understand that looks aren’t everything. I am the mother of a VERY beautiful little girl, actually, I am pretty sure my daughter is prettier than this lady’s kid, but because I have taught her that looks aren’t everything and it’s what’s inside that counts she is doing just fine. This is just so absurd. There are so many WORSE things than having a kid people call “pretty.” More
Yes, girls who just recently got pubic hair are removing their pubic hair, all in the name of beauty. I don’t have a teenage daughter yet, but if mine came to me at age 16 and asked me to take her for a Brazilian I would be horrified. It’s bad enough these girls are all straightening their hair and getting makeovers at the Chanel counter, but waxing off their body hair is pretty appalling at such a young age. More
Yeah, yeah I know, I should just shut up and be thankful that Dove isn’t running commercials that feature scantily clad picture perfect heavily photoshopped Mombots in their ads, but these commercials feel so manipulative to me, especially since advertising is used to sell us junk. Alison Tate, ‘s article was so touching and gorgeous to me, and she wasn’t trying to sell us anything, other than the notion that moms are beautiful and we need to recapture the same joy we had as young girls in believing we are beautiful as old girls, stretch marks and all. More
Don’t you worry because a company has developed baby wigs for even the tiniest babies so you can get your baby on the road to gender identity right away! EVERYONE knows baby girls CAN’T be bald! If you have a daughter who is bald it will be horrific because people may use the wrong pronoun when asking you how old HE is and saying things like “aww, what a cute little boy.” More
The Internet is a horrible place packed with bad news. That’s why I get really excited when I see something that fills my heart with joy. More
I’m not a raging fan of some of the content on XoJane. As a woman of a certain age, who has children, I just couldn’t get behind some of the content that the editors of the website choose to publish. As a feminist I believe that woman can do whatever the hell they want with their bodies, it’s their business, and I really don’t care if adults want to act like idiots their entire lives. It’s just not my jam. But what I do care about is the abuse of children, so when I was linked to this article on Jane Pratt’s new beauty website, XoVain.com, I was pretty appalled: More