A Queensland woman stirred up quite the debate recently when she expressed her views about bath time. The mother refuses to allow her husband to bathe their daughter. According to the woman, girls should be bathed by their moms, and boys should be bathed by their dads, because they have the same parts. There’s a lot to unpack here.
The mother refuses to allow her husband to bathe their daughter, because they have different parts. She posted about her “problem” on Facebook, where people were like, um what.
“So Hubby is upset with me …” YOU DON’T SAY. She goes on to say that she doesn’t feel comfortable with a man bathing her daughters. Even though he’s their father? I’m not even sure what to say here. She believes girls should be getting washed by their mothers, and boys should be getting washed by their fathers. She doesn’t mention the ages of their children, which could theoretically play a part in this. Just that she doesn’t want her husband, and the father of the girls, to bathe them.
Then she says people “play the ‘I was molested card’ so very often these days I just don’t want in way to give my kids the chance to even think about that.” Oh … kay? So perhaps talking to your kids about appropriate and inappropriate behavior is a good option?
Fathers should be encouraged to participate in every aspect of the parenting journey. And we shouldn’t automatically assume that men will MOLEST THEIR KIDS DURING A BATH OR SHOWER. There’s obviously a lack of trust (and education) happening here, and it’s really unfortunate. What about single fathers? Gay couples? Moms who need a goddamn break? There is nothing wrong with a father giving their kids a bath or shower, girls or boys. Planting this sort of seed in her kids’ minds will do far more damage than a dad just trying to get his kids clean.
What are your thoughts on this? Do you think it’s appropriate (up to a certain age) to dads to bathe their daughters?