Some people are tidy people. Some people are messy people. Sometimes, tidy people have messy children, and then it’s a huge bother for everybody involved. Parents spend their whole lives trying to get their kids to clean up after themselves, or cleaning up the kids’ messes and resenting it. Kids grump because they don’t care about the mess, and their parents are constantly on their backs about it. Now one mom has gone viral with a Facebook post about how she learned to just shut the door on the mess and walk away.

“I love a clean house. I do. It’s the one thing in my life that I feel like I have complete control over. If my environment is organized, life is just, better,” Heidi Hamm wrote on the Her View From Home Facebook page. “But, kids.”

Hamm has a problem common to parents who like things tidy: Her kids aren’t tidy. And they don’t care.

“They don’t care,” she said. “I don’t get it. Clearly they are lacking in the clean gene department. I don’t know how many times I have had the same conversation with them. Me: ‘How can you stand it? You can’t even walk in here.’ Kids: ‘Yes we can! We just play hopscotch around the toys.'”

That sounds like basically my entire childhood. I am not a tidy person. My mother spent my entire life hounding me to clean up. (It continues to this day.)

Finally, Hamm had an epiphany. She stopped picking up her kids’ pile of LEGO from the playroom floor (and color-coding them) and she just closed the door on the mess and walked away.

I always wondered why my mother didn’t do that. My room was messy, and I didn’t care. Why did she? The rest of the house was clean the way she liked it. I still don’t know why she cared so much about my room.

Hamm says she’s reached a compromise. Her kids clean their own playroom once a week. The rest of the time, she leaves the door closed and ignores the mess. Now her situation sounds pretty close to perfect.

Do you stress over messes, or do you shut the door?

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(Image: Facebook / Her View From Home)