Sleep is a big issue in my house. Despite never having read a study that helped me, I am a sucker for any sleep headline. I’ve read all the books, heard all the tricks, probably even listened to your great-grandmother on the sidewalk tell me he should be napping right now, but my first born has never been a big sleeper. A new study is telling me, once again, that I’m doing him a disservice — but I blame our genes.
The author of the study, Reut Gruber, a psychologist at McGill University suggests:
“…even modest changes in sleep — one less movie or video game — can affect the way children react to their world, and that in turn can affect their ability to learn and form relationships with others. Sleep, it seems, is just as important as diet and exercise in keeping children’s bodies and minds healthy. We could have really significant positive and negative impacts on children depending on how we choose to prioritize sleep.”
Let’s ignore the suggestion that I am letting my child stay up to “watch one more movie or play one more video game” and all the judgment that’s implied in such a statement, and just ask yourself: who wouldn’t love their child to sleep an extra hour? That would mean an extra hour of quiet time in the house, an extra hour of bonding time with my husband, or maybe even just an extra hour of sleep for me! I’d welcome this with open arms. If it was only that easy. Sadly, the study gives us no practical advice on how to accomplish adding this extra hour of sleep to our children’s biological clocks.
I’m also not challenging the (admittedly tenuous) results of this sleep study. Gruber explains that children who get less sleep tend to be more emotional, impulsive or sensitive than ones who sleep better. I’m no scientist, but that does in fact appear to be true in my house. However it just seems to me to be genetic. My husband and my daughter are more consistent, regular and stable where my son and I are more emotional, hyper-aware and fluid with our time. They also like sleep while my son and I have trouble settling down. I don’t know if the connection is coincidental or not, but the number of hours logged laying down aren’t likely to change who we are.