I was shocked to find out my daughter is not an angel. I know. I know. You’re probably thinking, “Of course she’s not perfect! What kind of mother are you to think that you’re daughter is perfect?” Well, I knew she wasn’t perfect, but I always thought she was the kindest, sweetest girl ever and, well, yes, aside from her morning breath, I did think she was pretty damn near perfect. I thought she was a good girl, meaning she never argues with me, she always listens to me, she did well in school, and we have never fought.

When she knows I’m not happy with her, she writes me these cute “I’m sorry mommy. I love you soooo much and I’ll never do it again!” notes. However, my fiancé has been telling me, for at least a year now, that my daughter is different when I’m not around. He won’t or can’t explain exactly how, but apparently she’s a lot more confident and has a lot more attitude. I shrugged this off, thinking, “Not my girl. She’s so sweet!” Perhaps it was my fiancé who was pressing my darling daughter’s buttons. But then a rash of things happened that made me think, “Huh, maybe my daughter DOES act differently when I’m not around.”

First, I got a call from a mother saying that her daughter complained to her that MY daughter is always so critical of her. I was like, “Huh? My daughter is the sweetest person in the world! She’s not critical of people.” I didn’t say this, but I was kind of shocked when I heard the rest of the story. Apparently, my daughter told this girl that she should stop doodling while another girl was doing a presentation in front of the class. My daughter said to this girl, “How would you like it if someone was doodling while you were doing your presentation?”

I almost was going to say to this mother, “Well, actually, my daughter HAS a point.” But I was more interested in the fact that my daughter spoke up to this girl. Then this mother also told me that my daughter said to her daughter, “This is the way I am. You have to like me just the way I am.”

Honestly, when I heard that, I wanted to laugh. Again, I thought my daughter had a point. But, also, I have NEVER heard those words out of my daughter’s mouth, so I’m not sure where she got them from.