It’s perfectly acceptable for a couple to decide not to invite kids to their wedding. But if they do invite nursing babies, is it OK to ask people not to breastfeed at their event? Because one couple did just that, and now a lot of people are really upset.

The note originally was posted to the Breastfeeding Mama Talk Facebook group. A mother with a three-month-old baby was invited to a wedding where her husband was going to be the best man. Tucked into her invitation, she found a note from the couple that said:

“To all our mommies who are breastfeeding, we are thinking of you; we are sensitive to the fact you may need to breastfeed during our event, therefore we have designated an appropriate place for you to feed your baby so that you do not have to do so in public in front of our Family and Friends. For your convenience we are accommodating you with a comfortable and private area with chairs and baby blankets in the ladies room. We request that you use this area when you are breastfeeding. Thank you.”

The mother said the wedding is for her husband’s best friend, and that there have been several arguments in the past over her “breastfeeding ways.”

“They have multiple times voiced that I need to go elsewhere to do that in ‘private!'” she said.

The mother had originally planned on just leaving her two-year-old and her nursing three-month-old with her best friend, who has nursed the baby before multiple times. (The baby won’t take a bottle, and some people are cool with other people nursing their babies.)

Then the woman’s mother-in-law objected to the idea of her grandchild being wet-nursed. So the mother planned on bringing the baby. Then she go the invitation with its little note inside.

“No way in hell I will leave and nurse her in the bathroom (no matter how ‘nice’ they make it!),” she wrote.

Plenty of people felt very strongly that it was not OK for the wedding couple to tell guests to breastfeed in the bathroom.

In the end, the mother left the kids with her friend to wet-nurse. She went to the wedding with just her husband.

Do you think the wedding couple was out of line for asking her to breastfeed in the bathroom? Let us know in the comments.

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