Author Archives: Hayley Krischer

I’m Trying Really Hard To Raise A Feminist Son

I'm Trying Really Hard To Raise A Feminist Son

I’ve recently discovered that the feminist mantras I’ve been teaching my son are becoming slowly undone. All the years of warning him not to underestimate princesses because they might surprise you with a blaster gun like Princess Leia, as well as all those nights singing Annie Oakley’s theme “Anything You Can Do, I Can Do Better,” have lately felt like they’ve been taught in vain. More »

Labor Pains: My Natural Birth Made Me Appreciate My Epidural

Labor Pains: My Natural Birth Made Me Appreciate My Epidural

I was never against the drugs. Drugs, I thought, were for other people. For people who could tolerate long needles shoved up their spinal cords. For people who didn’t mind being confined to a bed. I didn’t have something to prove when I opted for a natural birth—I was just deeply afraid of doctor intervention. Now, I know this makes little sense when comparing the level of pain one endures during the dreaded ring of fire—the agonizing sensation that occurs when your baby stretches your vagina to its capacity—but there is a difference between the fear of the unknown and the fear of needles.

I opted for the unknown. More »

Don’t Tell Your Daughters, But Eventually We All Need Makeup

Donât Tell Your Daughters, But Eventually We All Need Makeup

My 3-year-old daughter has reached the age of wanting to dabble in beauty products, which means most of the time she just wants to smear red lipstick all over her face like Diane Ladd in Wild At Heart. But when she’s not demolishing my lipstick, she’s become fascinated in the meaning of makeup. As in, Why does Mommy wear makeup? What is makeup for? And most importantly, Can I wear makeup too, please?

I fumbled with her line of questioning, mostly because I’m not a daily makeup wearer. I only started wearing makeup more regularly in the past few years since turning 41, when my anxiety-provoking, unchartered vanity issues have turned into daily battles. More »