Author Archives: Lyz Lenz

I Judged My Mom For Staying With My Cheating Dad, But I Would Now Do The Same

I Judged My Mom For Staying With My Cheating Dad, But I Would Now Do The Same

I grew up hiding in the hall when my dad would sneak home late at night. I lay in bed and heard my parents argue. I caught my mom crying in the bathroom, at the stove and whenever she thought we weren’t looking. And there were a few weeks, when I was eight, when my dad left on a “really long trip” as my mom called it. Years later, my dad again left. But this time it wasn’t under the guise of work. We were grown, so this time he used the word “divorce.” More »

Katniss Everdeen: The Perfect Antidote To Twilight’s Limp Bella Swan

Katniss Everdeen: The Perfect Antidote To Twilightâs Limp Bella Swan

It’s over a decade into a new century and we are still bullying girls into fairy tales. Even dressed up with vampires and prom, the heroines we’ve chosen for our daughters are interesting only because of the men they love. Without Edward or Jacob, Bella Swan would just be another vapid teen, upset because she’s skinny and pretty and has too many men interested in her. Rough stuff indeed. Or if these characters do happen to be smart and strong they are sidelined to minor roles, am I right, Hermione? Or worse, like Rapunzel in the movie Tangled, they are strong, smart and still limited by the tropes of happily ever after. More »

Tell Michelle Obama To Leave My Big Fat Baby Alone

Tell Michelle Obama To Leave My Big Fat Baby Alone

My daughter is fat.

Once a stranger at a grocery store told me I was feeding her too much. A relative warned me about childhood obesity. A friend of a friend reassured me that my daughter would “eventually” grow into a tall willowy supermodel, eventually. And a nurse once commented that it was a shame for girls to be fat. She didn’t think anyone should start their life out like that. The only problem? My daughter is only three months old. More »

My Husband Is A Better Parent Than I Am

My Husband Is A Better Parent Than I Am

When she was born, I felt totally clueless and helpless. In the hospital, as I struggled to breastfeed , a nurse offered to send in the lactation consultant. The woman who walked into our room happened to be the same consultant who taught our class. Dave, of course, remembered everything and impressed her with his knowledge. I sat dumbly on the bed, holding my screaming daughter in one arm and my tortured boob in the other. More »