The choice to adopt isn’t something I think any parent takes lightly. It often takes years of planning, a ton of money and endless patience, and even then it doesn’t always come to fruition. Which makes it even more baffling when parents abandon their adopted children. Much like a similar case that occurred in Russia, one family did just that in Cincinnati last month.
Cleveland Cox, and his wife Lisa from Cincinnati turned themselves in this week for allegedly abandoning their 9-year-old son who they adopted when he was just 3-months-old. The most unbelievable part of this story to me is that according to Ohio law they are only being charged with a misdemeanor.
The details are damning and it’s easy to judge this family, but there is more to the story. According to the couple, the boy (who remains unnamed in new sources) had “behaved aggressively.” Back in August Mrs. Cox filed a report with police claiming that the boy suffered from “mental issues,” and that he had threatened to kill herself, her husband and their two other children. The boy had also been hospitalized on several occasions.
Don’t get me wrong. I’m in no way defending this couple’s actions. The country prosecutor in charge of this case, Michael Gmoser, said about the situation:
‘When you are the parent and you recklessly abandon a child or children, there are criminal consequences. These children don’t have a return-to-sender stamp emblazoned on their forehead. The child is hurt and confused and doesn’t understand what is happening…If your 9-year-old needs help, you get him help,’
As the mother of a 9-year-old, this story is heartbreaking. I couldn’t imagine walking away from my parental duties for any reason. That being said, it’s easy to judge when one hasn’t walked through their shoes.But considering the myriad of options this wealthy, upper-middle class family had at their disposal, I still think they are heartless and will never get the punishment they actually deserve.