To Each Her Own And All That, But I Am Not Breastfeeding A Grown Man

Some men like to “feed”off of their breastfeeding woman’s boobs. You learn something new every day here at the Mommyish offices. Thanks, Bethany, for sending me down this rabbit hole. There is actually an acronym for it; ANR. It stands for, “a nursing relationship.”

When my wife had our kids she always had a lot of milk but hated using a breast pump so I voluntered[sic] and found I loved it ( so did she ). Any time she was “full” I would suck her dry. Also if we were going out for an evening and she didn’t want to be bothered. If she started to “leak” we would adjourn to the car for a few minutes and take care of it. We both found it very enjoyable and bonding.

Well, that sort of eliminates the need for a pesky breast-pump, doesn’t it? But where does all the liquid gold go? Into his stomach? Knowing how hard it is to get a good stockpile of breast milk, I can’t imagine any breastfeeding mom would be okay with this. What a waste!

I would like to clear something up, many people out there may know of a fetish where people may dress up like a baby (complete with plastic pants/nappie/diaper) most often referred to as an “aby” (ay-bee) or “Adult baby”

This fetish is commonly mistaken for anr as they both incorperate breastfeeding but the person being the “aby” is cared for in many of the same ways as a baby is during the early years of life.

Anr is different in many ways, to sum up the differences in a nut-shell:

Aby – dressing up like a baby + being looked after like one + breastfeeding

Well, thanks for clearing that up. You don’t have to dress like a baby to enjoy feeding off your wife’s boobs. That’s a totally different fetish.

I don’t want my man dressing up like a big baby, and I don’t want him going anywhere near my boobs when they are full of milk. But I’m sure there are plenty of things I’m into that these people wouldn’t care too much for, too. Thinking. I got nothing off the top of my head, but I’m sure there’s something.

For me, there was a lot of pain in the first weeks of breastfeeding, so I don’t find that sexy. But once the pain passes – there is just a general sense of “get away from my boobs” that exists. My baby breastfeeds constantly. The last thing I want to do is “breastfeed” my man, too. What the hell? There are not enough minutes in the day.

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