10 Most WTF Responses To ‘Why Don’t You Use Birth Control?’ From All Over The Internet

Buzzfeed asked 24 women who don’t use birth control what their reasons are for not using it. I wanted to write something poignant about it, but their answers were so stupid I actually became dumber as I read them.

I hate the idea that young women are being convinced that taking control of your fertility and your options with pregnancy planning is tantamount to poisoning yourself and not taking responsibility for your actions. People are allowed to feel however they want to feel about a topic as important as sex – but I can’t help but think that these women have been brainwashed.

1. “Because it is all worth it.”

Wait, what’s worth it? The pregnancy scares? The avoiding sex completely? What is the “it” that we are speaking of?

 

2. “Because I’m responsible and make mindful decisions, accepting the consequences of my actions.”

A lot of people would agree that planning when you would and would not like to be pregnant by using birth control is making a mindful decision.

 

3. “Because fertility isn’t a condition that needs to be fixed.”

Are we all supposed to feel bad for all the babies we aren’t having every month? No thanks. It doesn’t need to be “fixed,” but it certainly needs to be managed.

 

4. “Sex = TOTAL gift of self.”

I’ve got nothing.

5. “Because I don’t have to give up my WOMANHOOD to be a feminist.”

Deciding when you will become pregnant does not equal giving up your womanhood.

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    • Valerie

      Wow. So much stupid, all in one place. I don’t even know what to say.

    • Ursi

      “Because I don’t have to give up my WOMANHOOD to be a feminist.”

      Um. Did this person just equate being fertile every month with being a woman? Because that’s some serious bullshit.

      • http://fakegeekmom.com Aimee

        Transphobia/transmisogyny, anti-elderly people, anti-infertile people … am I missing anything on my Hateful Fuckery bingo card?

      • Jen

        I was going to say the same thing… The mindset of people like number five pisses me off so much.

      • Momma425

        Shit, husband and I tried, but no pregnancy happened last month. Guess I have a penis now…

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      • meteor_Whoricorn_echo

        Yup, you’re missing childfree people :)

      • NotTakenNotAvailable

        I think we’re the center square.

      • meteor_Whoricorn_echo

        Indeed.

      • K.

        “Hateful Fuckery Bingo”?!

        I know what the post-Thanksgiving activity is going to be this year!

      • Ezzy666

        Are you playing the word one or the picture one?

      • alicebourque.tumblr.com

        You’re missing people like my Mom, who had to have a total hysterectomy at age 26 because she had painful ovarian cysts that kept coming back and bursting inside her no matter how many times they were removed. It made it kind of difficult to care for a 4 year old (me) while my Dad was away every other month working on a towboat to provide for us.

        So she has no internal lady parts now. Does that mean she’s not a woman? According to number five, she’s not.

      • NotTakenNotAvailable

        But God don’t you know that bursting cysts are justifiable punishment for the sins of Eve?! Of COURSE your mother isn’t a real woman, or else she’d have been able to put up with a REAL WOMAN’S PAIN!!!11one!1

        Sadly, that might actually be how people like 5 think. And on that note, I’m going back to the Canna Cola Bombs.

      • alicebourque.tumblr.com

        Oh right, I must have missed that Bible verse somehow.

      • effingplates

        Better tell infertile ladies that they aren’t women anymore, not that they don’t hear that idiocy enough already.

      • Rachel Sea

        Guess I’m not a woman. BRB, off to notify the DMV. I hope they issue me a penis with my new licence, I hear it’s pretty bitchin’ to be a dude.

      • Andrea

        Wait….you can get one of those at the DMV???? Cuz sign me up, I’ve wanted to try one out for ages!

      • Rachel Sea

        I should think so, that place is up to here with dicks, they must have some to spare.

      • DeanaCal

        BWAHAHAHAHAHA! That was awesome!

      • Hibbie

        Someone behind me at the grocery store asked me if I have children because she thinks parents automatically go to heaven. I told her I wasn’t interested in discussing it, to which she replied “Well, if you don’t already have children there is clearly something wrong with you or you are a fucking loser.”

        What. The. Fuck.

      • Justme

        Oh. Because THAT response was so Christian of her…

      • Hibbie

        This happened 3 weeks ago and I am still flabbergasted. I actually started crying in my car because it is a very sensitive issue.

      • Justme

        People are ass holes.

      • Rachel Sea

        I’m so sorry, I’ve been there. Hell really is other people.

      • CMJ
      • adk35

        ^^only appropriate response to all of this.

      • Spongeworthy

        I’m so sorry. The lady who said that to you was probably just a miserable person and looking to pass it on.

      • Rachel Sea

        Oh grocery store line people, you are the BEST. Many of my what the fuckiest moments have originated there. From the woman who told her daughter that I wouldn’t mind if she pulled on my hair, to everyone who has commented on the way my lack of children makes me a bad person, I salute you all.

      • Ezzy666

        Someone once made a comment like that to a woman in one of my classes whose child had died. She was very upset and wouldn’t describe what she liked like to those of us who were ready to look for the offending person and make her regret saying that.

      • momma425

        Right, because God is calling for all of us to pry into the lives of strangers in the groceryvstore and then call them fucking losers.
        This way into heaven lady!!!

      • NotTakenNotAvailable

        Ah well. My friends and I were planning to hijack hell when we got there and turn it into Party Central anyway.

      • noodlestein’s danger tits

        Yep, our plan, too! Can’t wait to rage with Ghandi.

      • wispy

        WTF DOES THAT EVEN MEAN?

      • guest

        I hope I never encounter these grocery store people… nobody has ever talked to me in a grocery line except the cashier and only once did they ever say something somewhat stupid. For the record: I was buying prenatal gummy vitamins (in prep, because they’re delicious, and I hear they’re great for hair and nails) and she looks at me and goes “Are you pregnant?” and I was like noooppe… pretty sure I’m still skinny and I understand the confusion so I wasn’t mad at her but I was like that is a really blunt question to ask.

      • courtneth the modest unicorn

        hmmm I wonder if that includes all the parents who abuse and murder their own children.

      • rockmonster

        I don’t…what?

      • Marianna

        Well, at least you’ll get to pee standing up.

      • Rachel Sea

        I can do that already, I’m looking forward to being able to get prospective employers to take me seriously.

      • Marianna

        I would love to have that skill!

      • Justme

        If you ask my daughter, she’ll tell you it’s easy to pee standing up when you’re outside by the pool.

      • Marianna

        Your daughter is made of awesome!

      • Justme

        She thought it was hilarious that she was peeing just like our dogs.

      • Ezzy666

        It is a great skill to have. I started to pee standing without splashing myself when I saw my male cousins doing. I only traumatized one of them who was horrified i didn’t have penis and wanted to know what happened to it. My other cousins gave suggestions on how to stand and were proud of me when I did it.

      • K2

        I don’t remember why – probably laziness (seriously!), but I started peeing standing up at school when I was about 8.. Anyway, some other girl came in and was talking to those of us peeing, and she decided to climb up the door to look in the cubicle. They looooved teasing me about me ‘peeing like a boy’ for a while after..

      • joanne

        You will immediately get paid more so there’s that.

      • Justme

        WOMANHOOD and FEMINIST: I don’t think those words mean what she thinks they mean………..

      • Psych Student

        Yeah, my wife had a hysterectomy a few years ago due to various issues but I’m fairly certain she’s still a woman. But hey, I’ll check this weekend. You know, to confirm. Just in case. And then I’ll check again, because one never knows. ;}

      • http://batman-news.com Bunny Lou

        Apparently having any fertility problems = not being a woman

    • Kim

      Those are really really weird reasons to not use birth control. That is just… odd. There are completely legitimate reasons to not use certain types of birth control but those aren’t them. Because it treats the symptoms, not the problem? Huh?

      • K.

        She’s basically saying: “Female sexuality is the problem and birth control prevents us from properly experiencing the ‘symptoms’ (or consequences, really.”

        …ie, if women have access to the birth control, they will never reconsider (or repress) their desire to have the sex.

    • Jezebeelzebub

      my frontal lobes are never going to be the same after today. Lobotomies all around! One for you and one for you, and hell… two for me! WHY THE FUCK NOT?

    • http://fakegeekmom.com Aimee

      Do … do they not understand it’s possible to have children at one point in your life while using birth control at others?

      Actually, don’t answer that. I’m afraid that if I try to contort my brain to understand what they’re thinking here, I will damage it irrevocably.

    • Jennie Blair

      Barf. I stopped taking birth control to get pregnant, and will be investing in something permanent once I stop being pregnant

    • CMJ

      I don’t take birth control because I don’t like what the hormones do to my body….but I will fight for every woman to have accessible and affordable birth control for as long as I exist.

      These are, LITRUHLY, the dumbest things I have ever read.

      http://cdn.fansided.com/wp-content/blogs.dir/276/files/2013/12/Nerd-Rage.gif

      • Jem

        I’m with you. The hormones make me CRAZZzYY which is why I was thankful every day I had my paragard, non hormonal, copper IUD. The very one hobby lobby thinks is just oh so sinful. So I’m with you. I won’t take hormonal birth control but I’ll sure as shit fight for everyone else’s right to take it!

      • M.

        Me too…I’m currently preggo with baby #2 and am looking at paragard as an option after my pregnancy. How do you like it, if you don’t mind my asking…I don’t know anyone with a copper IUD so just curious :)

      • Jem

        I don’t have it anymore but that’s just because I’m trying for #2. I loved it because I didn’t have to take anything, time anything or feel hormonal surges. I did notice a few more UTIs than normal but weighing the pros and cons I still would do it again.

      • waffre

        If you’re still reading… I also had paragard and I LOVED it. No hormones, no remembering to take a pill at the same time every day, no fumbling with condoms… It did give me heavier-than-normal periods but that was a minor inconvenience compared with the way my body reacted to hormonal BC.

      • http://batman-news.com Greta Young

        I can’t say enough good things. I wish I’d know more about them as a teen/young adult, as a pregnancy-free 14 through 24 would have been fucking awesome. I just got mine installed in early June and I’ve only had one cycle so far, but I’ve heard the first is the worst and they get better after that. It was a bit crampy the first day but other than that was pretty normal. I haven’t had any complaints from partners about being able to feel it either – I can touch the string with my finger so I know it’s there, though one guy said he couldn’t feel anything. Another could, but he said that’s because his ex girlfriend had an IUD so he knew what it felt like.

      • Snarktopus

        Right? My hormonal birth control was making me have two periods every month, so that’s why I’m not on it. For real, though, everyone should have access.

    • http://fakegeekmom.com Aimee

      Also, the contrast between when Buzzfeed asked its employees why they DO take birth control and this is impressive. (http://www.buzzfeed.com/laraparker/we-asked-women-why-they-take-birth-control-and-these-are for the curious).

      That one is “because I have a medical issue”, “because I want to be in control of my own fertility”, “because of my cramps”, etc. This one is, to an astonishing extent, “BECAUSE I AM BETTER THAN THOSE SLUTS”.

    • wispy

      Because I LITERALLY gave birth to my IUD. Like literally. I called the dr about the horrible “birth” contractions and she said it would be like birth and I would dilate and expel it. It was horrible!

      • Hibbie

        Holy shit that is terrifying :(

      • wispy

        It was! And the nurses acted like it was NBD “just make sure the whole thing comes out!” um ok!!?!?!?

      • WhoremonalCrazyLotusBitch

        I just accidentally screamed a little. *hug you! *

      • wispy

        Thanks!!!! Horrifying!

      • Ezzy666

        My mom got pregnant with my little sister while she had an IUD. She also got pregnant while one pill, with my dad pulling out, and the calender thing. She got her tubes cut to make sure she didn’t have any more of us. I made sure to be on birth control when I started having sex. I didn’t want to find out if I was as fertile as she was.

      • wispy

        OMG!! Um yeah seriously!

      • Williwaw

        I heard a story about a woman who gave birth and the baby came out clutching the IUD. (Interesting, but it has an alligator-in-the-sewers sound to it, so maybe it’s just an urban legend.)

      • wispy

        OMG did they not ever see it on the ultrasound? Well I guess by that time there would not be much they could do about it. That is scary!

    • http://www.whatwouldshethink.com/ Rachelle

      I just want to hug all of them. Out of concern. And for their own safety.

    • noodlestein’s danger tits

      It’s not a superpower if roughly half the population can do it, and not to mention, that you need your “hero support” Sir Semen to accomplish it. Having babies – a really cool ability? Yeah. But a superpower it is not.

      • Spongeworthy

        Right? It’s not a superpower if every fucking female species on the planet has the same ability.

      • The Actual Devil

        “Sir Semen” ahhhh dying

      • Ezzy666

        Sir Semen screamed in agony as the stomach acids began to destroy him. “You did it wrong” was his last thought.

      • Justme

        WINNER!

      • Williwaw

        Now everyone on the commuter train is staring at me because of my maniacal giggling.

      • Justme

        “Sir Semen”

        *snort*

        I will refrain from making a comment about getting on one’s knees to be “knighted” as “Sir Semen” because I’m not in 7th grade. ;)

      • noodlestein’s danger tits

        Bahahaha! I just totally got a mental pic from that, so…thank you?

      • Spongeworthy

        But it even LOOKS like a sword!

      • Justme

        I think there’s probably a porn already made about this.

      • Spongeworthy

        Haha “a porn?” I’m guessing there are many versions of “The Sword and the Stone”. But the stone is a chick.

      • noodlestein’s danger tits

        “Who so pulleth out that sword from that stone…” SEE?? Even the pornos want you to use at least the pull out method!

      • Justme

        Only so that Sir Semen can cum to rest on the heaving bosoms.

      • noodlestein’s danger tits

        And she, on whom our good Sir Semen comes to rest, shall be dubbed Queen GuiniVirile

      • Spongeworthy

        They call that “the doubloon shot”.

      • shel

        Right? My 16 year old sister can accidently do it.. I don’t think it’s that much of a super power…
        Animals can do it- cats and dogs and mice and cute wittle bunny rabbits… Having a baby was a pretty cool experience and a miracle and all that, but like breast feeding, it’s not some special thing that only a few select special people can do.

      • Rachel Sea

        Slugs fuck and have zillions of babies. It’s not that impressive.

      • WhoremonalCrazyLotusBitch

        Fucking slugs, man.

      • Justme

        No, I will NOT fuck slugs.

      • WhoremonalCrazyLotusBitch

        Slimy, wiggly, cylindrical… Really, what’s the dif?

      • Jezebeelzebub

        the whores of the animal kingdom.

      • WhoremonalCrazyLotusBitch

        Slug shaming!!

      • Jezebeelzebub

        HAHAAAAA, they’re just fuckin’ and YOLOin’ all over the place, all the time.

      • WhoremonalCrazyLotusBitch

        Slither and lace? (too much of a stretch?)

      • Jezebeelzebub

        shit, no- that was awesome.

        My brain just puked up a wonderful image of a slug wearing false eyelashes and one fish-net stocking.

      • WhoremonalCrazyLotusBitch

        LOL!!!! I can’t even respond! Rolling…can’t…LOL snort!

      • Ezzy666

        And dancing to I’m sexy and you know it while it wiggles.

      • Jezebeelzebub

        i’m getting a more Rod Stewart vibe, myself….

      • WhoremonalCrazyLotusSlugalo

        Little wiggly slug butts.

      • Ezzy666

        Leaving their snail trails all over the place. Now I have to find out if slugs leave snail trials.

      • WhoremonalCrazyLotusBitch

        Slug slime…snail trail…same thing. I remember the day my mom took a UV light into my teenaged brother’s room. Slug slime. Everywhere.

      • Jezebeelzebub

        OH GOODBYE FOREVER, i have been slain.

        “sorry, Mom… YOLO!”

      • Obladi Oblada

        You made me snort. DAMMIT.

      • Cate Radley

        YES THEY DO UGHHHH

      • Scarjo82

        That is seriously the funniest comment I think I’ve ever read.

      • Maria Guido

        Tears.

      • The Actual Devil

        I’d love it if slugs would use birth control, baby slugs are the worst. You never see them until it’s too late.

      • noodlestein’s danger tits

        And that slime, you just can’t get it off! Actually, this is true of most human baby slime, too.

      • Williwaw

        Aren’t slugs hermaphrodites? Also, I think they sometimes chew each other’s corkscrew penises off after sex, so they would maybe go for leather and chains before lace…

      • WhoremonalCrazyLotusBitch

        ahhhhk!!

      • Jezebeelzebub

        I said they were the whores of the animal kingdom! They can’t live without the d! They’re into weird sex and chewing on junk and listening to Alice Cooper! Who else acts like that?? Disgusting.

      • WhoremonalCrazyLotusBitch

        Jugalos?

        (Now that I know about them, I’m weirdly intrigued by them…like slugs, come to think of it.)

      • WhoremonalCrazyLotusBitch

        I’m a Slugalo!!!

      • noodlestein’s danger tits

        Okay, I demand that you change your Disqus name right now!

      • WhoremonalCrazyLotusBitch

        I really should….LOL!

      • WhoremonalCrazyLotusSlugalo

        Done & done… But nothing beats “danger tits”

      • noodlestein’s danger tits

        Haha! Awesome! And thanks – credit goes to CMJ on that one. :)

      • http://nessyhart.wordpress.com/ pixie Ninja Tits

        hey now, I’ve got ninja tits ;)

      • WhoremonalCrazyLotusSlugalo

        This has always been my favorite…. Always & forever

      • WhoremonalCrazyLotusSlugalo

        …and is that you on the horse?

      • http://nessyhart.wordpress.com/ pixie Ninja Tits

        Yep! It’s one of my favourite pictures from the show I competed in last week.

      • WhoremonalCrazyLotusSlugalo

        Wow! An equestrian, too!

      • noodlestein’s danger tits

        WHOA. I…did not know that.

      • Rachel Sea

        Slug sex. Not safe for mealtimes. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wG9qpZ89qzc

      • noodlestein’s danger tits

        I love the contrast between his super posh voice and all the filthy, filthy slug logjammin’ he’s talking about.

      • Shelly Lloyd

        I just do not know what to say to that….the penis! Behind their head…I can’t even….

      • Rachel Sea

        They keep their brains close together.

      • noodlestein’s danger tits
      • Old Lady Phillips

        This whole thread needs to go into the Guiness Book as the world’s longest and/or most entertaining conversation about slugs ever!

      • guest

        I know I can’t either. And even worse, I just keep picturing human men as being built this way. With dicks sticking out of their heads-literal dickheads.

      • http://overthecuckoonest.blogspot.com/ Wicked Prophet Kay Sue

        I know. The last time I stepped on a baby I like to never got that crud off of my shoe, man.

      • http://overthecuckoonest.blogspot.com/ Wicked Prophet Kay Sue

        This comment…is amazing. On.So.Many.Levels.

      • Ezzy666
    • chickadee

      I feel very sorry for these young women–they seem to have bought into the antiquated idea that birth control is for slutty sluts and boys don’t marry slutty sluts who take steps to have safe sex. Because that means they planned ahead to have sex rather than just being swept away by the magnificence that is That Guy. He was so awesome that he manages to overcome her principles….because she is not a slutty slut who might have sex with more than one guy.

    • The Actual Devil

      Birth control is ebil, ’cause I created it.

      • http://overthecuckoonest.blogspot.com/ Wicked Prophet Kay Sue

        Yet another reason that I am secretly a Satanist.

    • Spongeworthy

      I can only hope that these women are very, very young, and just need to get out and be exposed to more of the world. Because all of these answers make me alternately sad and furious.

      • Justme

        I felt the same way about the Why I Don’t Need Feminism list.

      • Spongeworthy

        OH GOD that list…I don’t even want to remember some of those responses. I’ve blocked it all out.

      • Justme
      • Spongeworthy

        Oh…oh my. Every time I thought I hit the end, it kept scrolling down. Dude, just continue to be up your own ass. Don’t inflict yourself on anyone else.

      • Justme

        And some of them were SO specific! Like….what happened to that guy that “you smell like the food you eat” made the list?

      • Spongeworthy

        I think “what happened to this guy” is the question here about every single one of those.

      • Justme

        There were a few that I agree with….like the type of person that would spit in a customer’s food. But I assumed that was pretty much on everyone’s dealbreaker list?!

      • CMJ

        Jinx AGAIN. I didn’t scroll down.

      • Spongeworthy

        Great minds…

      • Jezebeelzebub

        I am so glad you provided a link…

        I do agree with him about the “YOLO” thing, though. YOLO… I will cut you if you say YOLO to me.

      • Justme

        Saying “yolo” and “swag” are grounds for detention in my classroom.

      • Rachel Sea

        YOLO: because carpe diem and momento mori are from one o’ them evil furriner languages, and this is ‘MURICA.

      • http://overthecuckoonest.blogspot.com/ Wicked Prophet Kay Sue

        LATIN IS CLEARLY SOCIALIST AND ALSO THE LANGUAGE OF THE ANTI CHRIST!

        Don’t bother fact checking me. I’m a prophet. I know these things.

      • CMJ

        OMG. I kept thinking it was ending.

      • NotTakenNotAvailable

        Well, I love The Doors, so thankfully I was able to stop reading after the first entry.

        (Though seriously, that’s his Number One dealbreaker?!)

      • Justme

        Apparently he doesn’t like fun.

      • http://overthecuckoonest.blogspot.com/ Wicked Prophet Kay Sue

        What the actual fuck? I can’t even click the link now. Thank you for this.

      • http://stillskies.dreamwidth.org Sherri

        -1 from the gene pool!

      • Justme

        I guess we can all be happy that he probably won’t find a mate and procreate little misogynist heathens like himself?

      • noodlestein’s danger tits

        Plus, we need a pic of this paragon of masculinity. I’m thinking the chances of him looking like Brad Pitt with the personality of Patrick Stewart and the budget of Warren Buffet are slim to none.

      • keelhaulrose

        Omg, one of his “deal breakers” is considering yourself a happy person.
        He recognizes that no one with an ounce of self esteem/respect would date him.

      • Spongeworthy

        Abandon all hope, ye who meet me at Starbucks for coffee.

      • http://batman-news.com Bunny Lou

        “You believe gender is cultural.”

      • Jezebeelzebub

        I’m gonna look… I’m gonna do it. I have never seen that list or whatever and now I must, even though I really, REALLY do not want to look. God, what’s WRONG with me? I’m SICK. I’m a sick motherfucker.

      • Jezebeelzebub

        “I don’t need feminism
        because my choice of hygiene product is not a political statement.”

      • Spongeworthy

        Don’t say I didn’t warn you.

      • Coffee&Cats

        After reading that horrifying list that’s dripping with stupid, I can’t even… I just can’t understand why women would be so willfully ignorant about how much Feminism has helped us advance in society and have a voice (I’m not saying the fight is over, but I try to focus on the positive).

      • Justme

        Perhaps I’m the eternal optimist, but I noticed that the vast majority of those girls were terribly young and maybe just didn’t have enough life experience to truly embrace, appreciate, and advocate feminism.

      • Coffee&Cats

        That’s what I’m hoping too. When they become adults and experience misogyny in the world they’ll be thankful for Feminism and support the movement, hopefully.

      • rockmonster

        Those girls and women are fed up with radfems and fourth-wavers, who are making it hard for abused and raped men to talk about their experiences and get help, calling transmen traitors and trans women infiltrators, and of the perceived #YesAllWomen victim complex.

      • Coffee&Cats

        No, these girls are brainwashed into believing that feminism means rejecting feminity. Our patriarchal culture has spun lies about the Movement to make people believe that feminists hate men and anything feminine. This isn’t the case. Feminism is about equality for men and women as well as the destruction of harmful patriarchal ideals.
        Now what you’re saying about radfems is correct, but that is a very vocal minority within Feminism. The majority of Feminists think they’re ridiculous. Male rape survivors are supported by feminists. The main issue is that whenever the rapes of women and the societal problems that come along with it (victim blaming comes to mind) are discussed men come and derail the discussion to make it about themselves. That’s inappropriate. So that’s on men, not feminists.

      • rockmonster

        Then fucking be more vocal. Call out the radfems. Work to improve women’s situations here and abroad. Prove to me that you aren’t like the dumb bitches on tumblr who think that compliments are harassment. Remember the male rape victims and discuss separately if you must. I almost don’t want to call myself feminist because of people who say that those that aren’t are brainwashed and/or Phyllis Schafly.

      • Coffee&Cats

        I call out radfems all the time. So don’t put that on me. Have you read feminist sites? They call them out too. Don’t call me a dumb bitch, I’m not one. I was respectful to you, so I deserve respect back. I definitely believe that male victims need to be discussed separately. But the issue with that is, they try to derail women’s rape discussions and don’t bother creating their own conversation. That’s not Feminism’s fault that they don’t put in the work to raise awareness to male rape.

      • rockmonster

        I admit that I was being disrespectful. I’ve probably spent to much time time on tumblr. They’re pretty fucked up, with a bunch of people, troll or not, drinking out of male tears mugs and getting misandry tattoos. There also idiots from the other side of the spectrum, like neo-nazis and twats of all the other belief systems inbetween. there are people who think chromosomes are a social construct and that “lizard” is a gender. I’m sorry for calling you a bitch, and, hell, I’d rather talk about something else.

      • Coffee&Cats

        Oh I know! I think they’re terrible too. I avoid their tumblr page bc it is ridiculous and is harmful to feminism. Thank you for apologizing, I appreciate that :).

      • Sarah

        Tell me about it. I take birth control for cramps, but I’ve actually had people try and shame me about taking it. This viewpoint makes me sad and kind of ragey at the same time.

      • Spongeworthy

        Sometimes I feel like we’re just going backwards, you know? I started taking BC in the late 90s and it wasn’t a big deal to anyone. Maybe the internet has something to do with it, I don’t know. But it seems like despite so much info out there, people are getting dumber. And are proud of it.

      • Sarah

        It does feel like that. Back in junior high and most of high school, no one gave a damn about me taking birth control, and then around senior year and onward it became everybody’s business or something. You should’ve seen the look I got from this lady in the pharmacy when I went to pick up my prescription once. I swear, she looked like she was about to launch into a sermon right there in Publix.

      • noodlestein’s danger tits

        I was reading an article the other day that I wish I could find again that talked about how a massive wave of conservatism is sweeping the globe, and that many sociologists think that it’s a response to economic hardships. Not sure if that’s true, but it made sense to me that falling on hard times would make (idiots) long for the good old days.

      • Justme

        The good old days were not really that good – that’s what these people don’t understand. My grandma couldn’t divorce her abusive husband because there were no social safety nets for an immigrant woman with three children. That’s not “good.” Proportionally, there were just as many incidences of crime, alcohol/drug use, etc. but we just didn’t hear about these things as much because the 24 hour news cycle didn’t exist.

      • noodlestein’s danger tits

        Oh, absolutely. They’re delusional, and can’t realize that equal rights make life better for everyone, and don’t threaten some imagined ‘male superiority,’ but instead, help us all live better, more self actualized lives. SMH.

      • Justme
      • noodlestein’s danger tits
      • Justme

        But you know what? I was actually “with” them through almost the entire thing. I mean, if it works for them, who cares?! That’s the point of feminism, right? To allow other women to make the best choice for their own life. But then they went into the tangent about how ALL marriages would be better off living in the manner of the 1950s and I was all HELL no.

      • noodlestein’s danger tits

        Yep! I was like, hmm, okay, okay, okay…what to the WHAT??? Oh, hale, no!

      • WhoremonalCrazyLotusSlugalo

        That is just so.. but … no!

      • ChickenKira

        Best thing I have read on the topic was someone on a forum saying that people who go on and on about how better life was back in the day have gotten all their information on the 50′s (because let’s admit it, it’s usually the 50′s people go starry eyed about) from pin up photos, fridge magnets with vintage pictures and sassy slogans about chocolate and coffee and pretty dresses.

      • Spongeworthy

        Nostalgia is a hell of a drug.

      • Véronique the Attachment Shark

        that’s like when i thought the 20 would have been awesome and then remembered that women had no rights…

      • Justme

        There are a lot of things that are good “in theory” but terrible in actuality.

      • Williwaw

        One time my great-uncle, in his eighties, started rhapsodizing about how he missed the days when men were men and women were women. His wife turned to him and said, “Back then, all women were closet drunks!” (It was much better than any comeback I could have come up with quickly.)

      • http://batman-news.com Bunny Lou

        Technically it was more dangerous in the 70s and 80s than it is today.

      • Spongeworthy

        It makes sense. It’s been long enough that “the good old days” can be looked at as some idyllic time and no one remembers how things weren’t all that great.

      • Justme

        I’m starting to feel that way about the 80s back before teenagers had such access to technology. But then I remember the AIDS crisis, Flock of Seagulls hair, The Soviet Union, and Reagan….and I’m not so sad anymore.

      • Williwaw

        Don’t forget acid wash and banana clips.

      • https://twitter.com/perfctlyflawd1 JenH1986

        I can remember in college that we discussed the US is basically on a huge pendulum and we swing from pretty extreme conservativism to pretty extreme liberalism and then back again. I’m starting to see that.

      • Shelly Lloyd

        You know I was thinking that same thing too. It seemed like 20 years ago I never heard a peep from the conservatives about BC. But it seemed this whole “quiverful” movement started and we all moved back in time to the good ol’ 1950′s.

      • Spongeworthy

        It’s weird for me too because I was in junior high/high school when AIDS was still really scary and so we were taught all about birth control/condoms/safe sex and the correct terms for everything. Abstinence was like a one-sentence part of the course. And NO ONE batted an eye about it. And now, you can’t even say the word “sex” without conservatives freaking out about the sluttification of youth. It just all seems so regressive.

      • http://batman-news.com Greta Young

        RIGHT?! Okay, I’m glad it’s not just me who is making these observations. Between the pedestalization of motherhood and attempts to legislate away our access to reproductive rights, it seems like the effort to spin back the clock to some weird neo-1940s dystopia is really gaining steam. And yes, I feel like a lot of the time it IS going backward – like look at the breakdown of gendered toys today vs when we were kids, it’s way worse now.

      • shel

        I guess it’s like pain control during labor…. how dare us womenz want to not be in terrible pain because of our lady parts… but that is the curse of having lady parts and therefore we must suffer instead of using the medicine designed to make people feel better.

        (If you personally choose not to use pain medication, great, go for it… that’s wonderful for you… but it doesn’t make someone who does less of a woman)

      • http://overthecuckoonest.blogspot.com/ Wicked Prophet Kay Sue

        Remember: If it doesn’t hurt, you are absolutely not paying for the sins of some distant foremother well enough! #Blessed

      • keelhaulrose

        I’ve been shamed for getting my tubes tired. I was told I should have gone with birth control that was “more reversible” in case my husband wants another baby.
        First, um, hello, I get a 50% say in pregnancy talk, and I’ve already decided it’s not happening. Two rough pregnancies and an autistic kid who wouldn’t be able to deal with me being on bed rest made that decision pretty easy.
        Second, both my kids were pill and condom babies. Reversible measures= babies for me, and I’d rather not be in the “shit, I’m pregnant unexpectedly” position ever again.
        Finally, if it’s not your body you get (gets out megaphone) NO FUCKING SAY!

      • http://overthecuckoonest.blogspot.com/ Wicked Prophet Kay Sue

        Wait…what? All I can do is shake my head at that first paragraph…

      • keelhaulrose

        Darn “the Bible says a good wife obeys her husband so I’m taking that to the extreme” crowd. Seriously, I went to lunch with one of them and she called her husband to get her “budget” and ask if she could have a glass of wine even though she wasn’t driving.

      • Spongeworthy

        That just gave me such a sad face…

      • http://overthecuckoonest.blogspot.com/ Wicked Prophet Kay Sue

        If I shake my head any harder, it may detach.

      • ChickenKira

        I just… what?

      • WhoremonalCrazyLotusSlugalo

        I would like a snapshot of your facial expression during that conversation.

      • keelhaulrose
      • WhoremonalCrazyLotusSlugalo

        LOL! That is pretty much what I imagined.

      • kiki

        Did they realize it’s 2014? It is still 2014, right?

      • Sarah

        Sometimes I wonder.

      • ChickenKira

        I work in a very conservative, religious area and I often forget that until I go and get my pill on my lunch break. At home it’s a non-event, maybe I will buy some of those diabetic jellybeans at the counter and then it’s noteworthy, especially if they have the bags of just aniseed ones because they’re the best, but if I forget that I work in conservative-town and go an get my script filled there it’s so uncomfortable. I get asked why I take them, it takes a ridiculously long time, I get poor customer service, at first I thought it was just a dodgy pharmacy with crap staff, but when I went in to buy some of the cheap nailpolish they have at the front they were sweet as pie.

        I mean, I just want to control the symptoms of my endometriosis, do I have to be treated like shit because of that?

      • guest

        I’m so glad I live in an area where it is expected that all women are on it. Like everyone is. We’ve discussed it in my office, discuss it at the pharmacy, discuss it whereever and nobody gives an eff.

      • K.

        It starts to sound like a weird form of Stockholm Syndrome, doesn’t it?

        Like, “my oppressors are benevolent and slavery is good for me! I can’t be trusted with my own freedom!” kind of language.

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    • Tina

      “Because I can control myself.”

      Um what? If everyone involved is into it, why would you WANT to have to control yourself? Like for me, I LOVE sex. My boyfriend + sex = amazing awesomeness. Both people having less sex than they want + anxiety about potential unplanned pregnancy = unfulfilling sex life and zero awesomeness. That’s not really something girls should be proud of as a reason they don’t take birth control.

      • NotTakenNotAvailable

        By that logic, controlling myself is pretty easy–the idea of being that close to someone else’s naked, sweaty body nauseates me. It would require way more self-control for me to have sex without barfing! Maybe by “control” she just means she’s asexual or Aspergery?

      • Tina

        I don’t know, I didn’t take it that way because saying “control” sounds to me like someone is actively trying to suppress an urge. Which you in particular aren’t, you’re just uninterested in sex. Which is totally cool and there is nothing wrong with that but I just wouldn’t say that you’re “controlling” yourself. My assumption is that the girl who wrote that one feels attraction and want for sex but believes she has more willpower and is therefore superior in character than Slutty McSlutterson who gives in to animalistic horniness.

      • NotTakenNotAvailable

        What you’re saying makes absolute sense, I just can’t wrap my mind around the reasoning behind it if that’s what some people are thinking. Unless you’re in a society where you will be stoned to death for having sex, why deny yourself something that the vast majority of the population finds enjoyable? Frankly, I’m glad to live somewhere where sexuality comprises such a wide range of options, because otherwise, I’d probably be married off and expected to make babies by now, which sounds horrifying on so many levels! But then, there’s a lot about the rest of humanity that I just don’t get. :/

      • Katherine Handcock

        There are still so many people for whom “control” of urges represents superiority. Usually it’s a misinterpretation of a variety of meditative/religious techniques (used by many different faiths) where you restrict a variety of bodily desires to enhance focus on the divine (restricting eating and sleeping are used the same way – reading some of the accounts of Medieval monks is CRAZY.)

        Which isn’t to say that you can’t do that as a personal sign of devotion, if you want (assuming you actually want what you’re denying yourself in the first place – it doesn’t count if you deny yourself something you don’t care about!) But the attitude that choosing to do that makes you a better person than people who don’t is really, really counter to the whole point, which is to make you STOP focusing on yourself and start focusing on higher things.

      • NotTakenNotAvailable

        Your last sentence…I’d never thought about that, but that does sound somewhat selfish upon reflection. There are some forms of self-control I feel are overall pluses–moderation in food and alcohol is just plain common sense as a way to stay healthy (though I follow the advice of my M.D. father and emphasize moderation over total abstinence!). And going back to sex, I could see abstaining if you’re like a friend I have who was so terrified of pregnancy that even knowing she lived in a place where she could get to a Planned Parenthood easily if all else failed wasn’t consolation enough, and if you truly believe you are going to hell if you have an abortion, yeah, maybe don’t put your soul in jeopardy if you aren’t ready for a kid. But denying yourself just because that’s supposed to make you a better person? Wut.

      • Ezzy666

        I thought the person meant she could control the actions of her uterus without using birth control. Your view makes more sense.
        I can control myself because I don’t have kids. I’ve seen way too many parents who can’t control themselves or their kids. And I’ve also seen a couple of sane people start to lose it when their kids become teenagers.

      • guest

        I was thinking she meant she’d control herself and just never have sex until she was married and ready to be a Duggar?

      • K.

        I think she’s referring to her ability to control her ovaries and prevent them from releasing an egg with her mind and prayer.

        Seems about right.

      • Tina

        Damn. Then she’s got to teach me her mad skills. I would definitely stop taking birth control if I had legit superpowers.

    • RayneofCastamere

      How the hell do birth control pills take away “womanhood?” What Martian logic is this?

    • momma425

      “Sex = TOTAL gift of self.”

      Herpes…the gift that keeps on giving. Yay STIs!!!

    • Shelly Lloyd

      I don’t take BC because my ovaries died and has put me into early menopause. But since I’m almost 40 and have 2 teens I’m over the baby stage. So I’m good.

      • Justme

        There goes your womanhood.

      • Shelly Lloyd

        Wow. Does that mean I can get a raise, and go topless at the beach now?

      • Justme

        I was joking….a play on the “womanhood” remark?! No? Didn’t go over so well?

      • Shelly Lloyd

        I wasn’t mad I thought it was funny and was continuing the joke. Sorry. I’m a bit fuzzy today–I was knocked almost unconscious at the beach by a HUGE FREAKING WAVE so I guess my humor is a bit off.
        Though that wave did knock my swim suit’s straps off so I was briefly topless at the beach today :)

      • Justme

        Okay. I was hoping so…the “Wow” with the period kind of threw me off. I really meant it in a Dionne from Clueless “there goes your social life” kind of way.

      • Shelly Lloyd

        yeah, that is sad thing about the internet, you can not always tell the tone of someone through their typing. But we’re all good.

      • kiki

        Yup! Pee standing up, too.

      • noodlestein’s danger tits

        Time to go get your new penis from the DMV!

      • Shelly Lloyd

        Yeah! Do they have options like the vanity plates? Can I get a custom designed penis?

      • http://overthecuckoonest.blogspot.com/ Wicked Prophet Kay Sue

        I want one in chrome. I think it would be so stylish!

      • WhoremonalCrazyLotusBitch

        I need some more information on the state issued penises…is there a selection based on girth or length? Color? I like purple sparkly penises..can I opt for one of those?

      • noodlestein’s danger tits

        Yes, but we’ll have to give you a test for that one – it’s considered class C penising.

      • 2Well

        Can I get a turbocharged penis?

      • Williwaw

        I want the special glow-in-the-dark penis with a cup holder.

    • NotTakenNotAvailable

      Re. # 3…but I WANT to get fixed! And frankly, I’m glad to have and know about that option! Now to persuade the doctors that I’m not going to change my mind and sue them in ten years when I can’t get pregnant, because the complete inability to get pregnant is precisely what I’m going for.

      And # 8…not all gifts are welcome, desirable, or even kind enough to come with a solid return policy. A baby would fall under the same category as a handmade itchy sweater from Aunt Gertrude for me in that I would hate having it anywhere near me and wouldn’t be able to pawn it off on anyone else.

      • Rachel Sea

        Dude, plenty of people here you could pawn one off on. But yeah, no one should have to have a baby who doesn’t want one. It’s not a good situation for anyone.

      • NotTakenNotAvailable

        I’d have to caution them about the high likelihood of Type I diabetes and autism and whatever else was in my mother’s fucked-up family, but yeah. Still bad for everyone involved!

      • Katherine Handcock

        I feel badly for both people who want a permanent fertility solution, because there are just enough people who have tubal ligations/hysterectomies and later do try to blame the doctor for the decisions they made themselves to scare ALL the doctors. It’s another good example of the whole “one bad apple” thing.

        I hope you manage to find a doctor who can help you out.

      • 2Well

        Why can’t we have better, more binding waivers to protect these doctors from lawsuits by women who made their choice?

        I’m 24 and single. I do not want biological children. There’s no way I’d be able to get a tubal right now, though with the way I fear the battle for contraception is going, I might have to find a doctor to convince soon. I live in a conservative state with senate candidates that want states to be allowed to ban contraception. If the Supreme Court gets one more ultra conservative person, forget Roe, say goodbye to the Griswold v. Connecticut decision and the right to privacy.

      • guets

        Do these people just want thousands upon thousands of babies to support on welfare and Duggar families everywhere? That does not make even a bit of sense to me. I am so glad my parents never took me to visit these states that have clearly lost their godforsaken minds.

      • shel

        No, what they want is for women to not have sex, at least not sex that they enjoy and have a choice about. You need to be married and then only having sex when husband deems it appropriate and if you get pregnant, so be it. But those single ladies shouldn’t have the sex EVA!

        But the single dudes can. Though with this set up, I guess they’d have to have sex with each other, since the women aren’t allowed to.

      • 2Well

        Especially with the bee population dwindling. By the time this current generation of babies is fully grown, we could start to see food shortages.

      • NotTakenNotAvailable

        It’s probably a good thing I’m not religious, or else I’d be praying that Scalia keels over while Obama is still in office. :X

      • NotTakenNotAvailable

        Thank you! It’s a definite process, and one I’m having to start over from scratch thanks to a new insurance company, but I live in a fairly liberal area and have reasons that an M.D. should find solid (I’m now 28 and single–the horror!–AND have several heritable chronic conditions that could also make pregnancy a real bitch).

    • Myra A Cottrill

      The only rational explanation for these responses is that these ladies don’t understand how birth control works and what feminism even is.

      • noodlestein’s danger tits

        Or both of those things. Yes, survey says both.

    • aCongaLine

      ahhh, number 8. not only will the unplanned perhaps flip you up on your ass in surprise, but it will also do that to your (my) partner. Who will freak. out. just like you. (Er, me).

      its notso romantic as it is STRESSFUL. And everyone assumes you’re an idiot who can’t use the pill correctly, even when you do.

      I love you, children, but I did not love the stress and heartache and anxiety of the surprise positive pregnancy test.

      sigh.

      • http://overthecuckoonest.blogspot.com/ Wicked Prophet Kay Sue

        I feel you. *fist bump*

      • aCongaLine

        I’m glad I’m in good company. :)

      • Linzon

        Pill baby moms FTW!

      • aCongaLine

        :) the number 8s of my life are so much more enjoyable now that they are people, and we are no longer freaked out! (well, at least by their existance… the poop, though, that still freaks me out.)

      • http://facebook.com/guineverew Guinevere

        pill baby here!!!

    • Marianna

      From the original article: “Because even though cramps suck and I get acne, that’s a normal part of being women!” I kinda wish she had the same cramps I used to have before I started taking birth control. Passing out from the pain, nausea, throwing up, having my feet and hands turn bluish and cramp up, having to miss school. I wonder if she’d still be spewing this “it’s all part of being women” crap.

      • noodlestein’s danger tits

        Yep, I feel you there, my cramps were like hell on earth. Plus, that’s such bullshit. You know what else is a natural part of being a woman? Dying in childbirth or getting ovarian cancer, but I bet they’d seek medical intervention if those little things came up, huh?

      • Justme

        No, no, no. All those things associated with our periods? Those are BIBLICAL pains. We are supposed to be suffering for the sins of Eve in the garden.

      • Marianna

        I must burn for the sins. Burn for all the sins.

      • 2Well

        I bet Eve at least got her suffering on a regular basis, rather than whenever it deigned to show up.

      • Shelly Lloyd

        I hope she isn’t taking any Advil for those cramps. Wouldn’t want her to miss out on being a woman would we?

    • NotTakenNotAvailable

      Oh fuck me I just read the actual list. “Because my body is a gift to my husband and that gift includes motherhood.” Brb, gotta find out what happens when you mix vodka and Canna Cola.

      • Marianna

        I think they think birth control = sterilization. The stupid just overflows on that list.

      • NotTakenNotAvailable

        Dude, I could SEE my IQ dissipate–actually, I take that back. More like it fled in terror after reading that list!

    • momma425

      Ok, I just read the whole long list, and my forehead is a bleeding mess from banging against the wall.
      “Because my body is a gift to my future husband and that gift includes motherhood.”

      “My body does not belong to me.”
      “Not only does my body not belong to me, but it belongs to a man.”
      “Not only does my body belong to a man, but it belongs to a man I HAVE NOT MET YET.”
      “The decision to be a parent should be made by one spouse.”
      “The decision to become a mother is a gift I owe my spouse.”

      HEAD BLEEDING.

      • NotTakenNotAvailable

        Want to try some of the Canna Cola/Svedka drink I mixed explicitly after reading that one? Tastes awful and isn’t doing dick about the head bleed, but it’s really helping the pain!

      • Momma425

        Omg, I will have all of that!!!

      • Spongeworthy

        I can’t believe these women are willing to cede control of their own bodies and minds to someone that they have NEVER EVEN MET. I just…I have no words.

      • momma425

        Right? Plus, I was not aware my body was a “gift” I give to my husband. I have decided that next birthday, when he asks what I got him, I will sprawl out on the bed and say, “you have the gift of me.” A thousand bucks says my husband blinks for a minute, crickets cheep, and he’ll start laughing and go, “ok really babe, what did you get me?” Guys are great like that.

      • Spongeworthy

        Well it’s going of make Christmas shopping a hell of a lot easier.

      • Blueathena623

        Are they all pregnant right now? Are they giving those gifts?

      • http://overthecuckoonest.blogspot.com/ Wicked Prophet Kay Sue

        I am sending you a pillow, my friend. You can install it on whatever hard surface so that the severe misunderstandings of the uninformed will no longer cause you bodily injury.

      • kiki

        I’m a little sad, now.

    • http://stillskies.dreamwidth.org Sherri

      Can we stop a minute and talk about #11: Because it allows me to use women with no consequences.

      Use women.

      I cannot even.

      • noodlestein’s danger tits

        Right – because I’m not a fully realized being who can decide to have sex. That would be CRAZY. Nope, nope, I’m just an orafice for guys to USE when they want to. Grrrr! They think they’re taking back power for women, but what they’re really doing is reducing our worth or lack thereof to the purity of our vaginas. No thank you, please!

      • http://stillskies.dreamwidth.org Sherri

        Exactly. I mean, we’re just here for the pleasure of the mens. Even those of us who don’t particularly want penises near us. :|

      • meteor_Whoricorn_echo

        Yup. Clearly, us sex-loving women either are invisible pink unicorns, or we’re Slutbeasts McAborschinsons (aka hate fodder for all those lovely god-fearing, birth-control ditching ladies on the list).
        How cute.

      • Williwaw

        I think I’ll name my next cat Slutbeast McAborschinson, so everyone can giggle like I did when I read it.

      • meteor_Whoricorn_echo

        Go for it. I managed to name my boyfriend’s cat Kraken Gorgonsnout (and the cat is a girl), and the name stuck. Clearly I am the best cat namer!

      • http://stillskies.dreamwidth.org Sherri

        Ooh. Can I be an invisible rainbow unicorn? Not fond of pink.

        Also, WHICH SENSHI IS IN YOUR PIC??? I cannot tellllllll D:

      • meteor_Whoricorn_echo

        Yes, yes you can :3 We can hold an invisible unicorn party, too!

        That’s Saturn. She and Pluto are best girls IMO (though I might change the userpic to Neo Queen Serenity or Black Lady. They’re cool too).

      • http://stillskies.dreamwidth.org Sherri

        Hoorah!

        I had thought it was Saturn, but the hair looked a little long. :D I might end up changing mine to Uranus and Neptune eventually, but I’m kind of enamored with this Draco face. XD

      • meteor_Whoricorn_echo

        It’s from one of the DVD covers of the Infinity Arc. I loved the art for those.

    • AnnH

      Where did they find these women ?!
      Surely there are reasonable explanations for not using any kind of birth control. For example, this is a very heteronormative sample, as lesbians would have one reason less to use BC than straight women. Also, oh hi, not everyone wants to have sex at all -something people tend to forget- as the existence of asexuals shows.
      And finally, there’s my own reason : I’m not dating, haven’t been for a few years, and it’s not the plan for at least the next year. So why bother until then ?

      • shel

        OMG! Can you imagine the response if someone’s reason had been “I don’t use birth control because I have sex with women” ? I wonder if it would have made some heads explode….

      • Dctraveler

        Funny thing is, all the lesbians I know use birth control (unless they over the menopause age).

      • https://twitter.com/perfctlyflawd1 JenH1986

        My dr told me unless we are actively trying for a baby she wants me on the pill because it reduces cancer, cysts etc. etc. so that makes sense to me. Since birth control actually does more than control pregnancy.

      • Dctraveler

        It made sense to me too since that was the reason I started with birth control.

      • la vega

        I’ve heard some lesbians use BC pills to regulate or skip their period. Is this right?

      • Dctraveler

        Yep, though mostly for regulation and health reasons rather than skipping.

      • NotTakenNotAvailable

        That’s why I use it. I’m asexual.

      • shel

        But. But.. I don’t understand… do you mean there are uses for BC besides just not getting pregnant when you are a slutty mcsluttersen?? MIND BLOWN!!!
        (*sarcasm*)

    • Cate Radley

      I know I’m late to the party on this, but one of my HS friends is part of this religious blog network that was responding to the Buzzfeed article. I didn’t read the post because there was a picture of a woman holding a sign that said, “Because fertility is not a condition that needs to be treated” and I was just like: Nopetopus.

      • Cate Radley

        And the thing is is it wasnt from the Buzzfeed article. Like it’s a mini-meme or something?

        I need a glass of wine, please.

    • Blueathena623

      Why I no longer take birth control: because after a kid and breastfeeding I decided that the amount of sex I was having did not justify having to take a pill everyday with side effects. Hello condoms!
      However, please note that I was magically able to use birth control for part of my life and still give my spouse the gift of a kid *when we planned to have one.*

      • jo

        Not to freak you out but I had a baby using your current method!

      • Johnstone

        Her method of using condoms? RISKY!

    • OptimusPrime*

      What kills me (KILLS me) is that I have a FB feed that includes someone who responded to the list with this choice one: “This says it all, yay! I’ve given up talking about this because I can’t anymore because it makes me too sad.” I’m a ragey-ragey-rage monster right now.

      • la vega

        Pretty sure that’s grounds for Unfriending. CONGRATS!

    • 2Well

      Most of those women talking about NFP have children and talk about how it helps you “space your children.” It doesn’t seem like it would work for those who want no children at all.

      Also, apparently they recommend Naprotechnology for PCOS? Surgery is somehow better than taking a pill? I’m currently in the process of finding out if PCOS is the reason for some of my health issues, and I quite welcome the prospect of difficulty getting pregnant.

      • NotTakenNotAvailable

        While I wouldn’t wish chronic issues on anyone and hope that you can find a good treatment program if it is PCOS, I know what you mean about hoping for secondary side effects that would render pregnancy a statistical unlikelihood. Sub/infertility is one of the documented side effects of Type I diabetes, and since mine was pretty difficult to control before I went on a pump (which wasn’t an option for the first decade and a half or so after my diagnosis), it’s likely that my own practically non-existent period when I’m not taking hormonal BC is due to that secondary issue. Still doesn’t mean I want to take chances, though!

    • Spitting_mad

      Conundrum.
      Let’s say I DO give my body fully over to my husband, and because I am his wife I am supposed to give him the sex whenever he wants, as is my wifely duties.
      But then he’s all “I don’t want kids”. WHAT DO??
      Please tell me, because as a woman I’ve trained myself not to have thoughts.

      • WhoremonalCrazyLotusSlugalo

        “…the sex…”

        *giggles*

      • Snarktopus

        Oh god, the WHAT DO?? makes this. Yes.

    • http://wtfihaveakid.blogspot.ca/ jendra_berri

      I didn’t use birth control… when I wanted to have a baby. I think that’s really the only time it makes sense.

    • CW

      #7 is a reference to women taking birth control pills to regulate their cycles. That is just treating the symptoms rather than the underlying issue causing the irregular cycles (often something like PCOS).

      • footnotegirl

        Except right now, there aren’t any good treatments for a lot of those things (like say, endometriosis!) and the pill is well tested, cheap, and readily available.

    • footnotegirl

      You know what, being able to create another person is, basically, a superpower. It’s pretty awesome.
      But you know what else?
      Superman doesn’t fly everywhere.
      The Flash walks sometimes.
      Scott Summers wears glasses so he doesn’t melt everything with his eyes.
      Bruce Banner works really hard not to get angry.
      Spider-Man goes to school and has a day job.
      Because using your superpowers all the time is a BAD IDEA. And regular life has to happen in the meantime.

      • Katherine Handcock

        Extra internet points for extending that superhero analogy in a BEAUTIFUL way! :-)

      • footnotegirl

        I blush and flutter. BLUSH AND FLUTTER.

      • NotTakenNotAvailable

        And there’s always at least one angsty issue in which the superhero wishes s/he could ditch it all for a completely normal, boring existence, and if we’re using this same analogy, I TOTALLY RELATE.

        And it is an incredible analogy. Nerd fistbump!

    • Guy C

      I had my superpower surgically removed after our second daughter came along…

      • CatPlacenta

        lol

    • Guy C

      Is it possible that some of these responses came from women who found themselves unexpectedly pregnant, and did not wish to face the fact that they could or should have used birth control (and their partners – responsibilities in bed, on the sofa, behind the bushes, etc. also goes for potential fathers)?

      These responses could come from mums who have not internalised the consequences of their choices and so they are trying to sound like they were happy with the outcome all along.

    • breakfastburrito

      I was hoping at least one answer would be because it’s unaffordable.

      • M.

        Or that at least one was “because I’m trying to get pregnant.” But alas, people really are just stupid.

      • footnotegirl

        I’d have been happy with “Because I don’t want to.” I mean, eesh.

    • Leigh

      Well these answers are dumb surely but I find not using birth control pills in general to be dumb. There are other means of preventing pregnancy and yes that means not having sex sometimes but. Really dafter three very planned kids I’m not into sex daily anymore. Rarely has the timing been an issue. When done correctly Nfp works pretty well and eventually a vasectomy will work better ;). I’m a poor candidate for an iud and hormonal birth control makes me feel sick all the time – no thanks

    • K.

      #8: If a child is a gift, will the poster be kind enough to send her name and address to me? I’m always on the lookout for someone who babysits for free…

    • K.

      And FUCK. How does #9 relate to birth control AT ALL?

      HOW??

      OK, I’m losing IQ points now.

    • Kasia

      I think a lot of the posts were directed towards HORMONAL birth control, which I don’t use either because I just haven’t been able to find a pill that agrees with my body, ad after having post-pill amenorrhea and being stuck with acne worse that in my teens after the last one, I don’t think I want to try another one…

      Also – The one saying acne and cramps are a normal part of being a woman doesn’t have acne, and I can guarantee she does not have painful cramps. When you are debating calling an ambulance because you simply cannot walk, you’re going to go for hormonal birth control.

      • Courtney Lynn

        Yeah, she’s clearly never dealt with craters everywhere like I did as a teenager. Nothing could control it. It was the worst!

    • Courtney Lynn

      I think some people believe birth control = taking pills/nuvaring/hormones. We use NFP for now because it’s the best option for us until we can afford a vasectomy. I HATE the hormones. I tried BCPs after I had my son and gained 20lbs out of nowhere (and I was eating very healthy). It also made my depression worse. Also, I’ve tried and tried. I fucking hate condoms.

      • CMJ

        Every time I’ve gone OFF hormonal BC I’ve gained wait. Wait that was never there before I was on it. It blows, I hate it. Although, my sigh would say: I don’t take it because I hate the hormones.

        The pseudo-science these girls are spouting is mind boggling.

      • Courtney Lynn

        It is. I think it’s fine to either use or not use BC. That’s our right. I wouldn’t begrudge anyone the right to use or not use it or tell another woman what to do with her own body but clearly, that doesn’t mean their reasoning is good.

      • AP

        Even in articles about birth control/contraception written by fairly reliable sources, I often see “birth control” unfairly equated with “hormonal contraception.”

        There’s plenty of options other than hormones, but for some reason, they tend to be given second shift in comparison- or even labeled as dangerously unreliable and risky. It’s not right.

    • Katja Yount

      The comments in the article, though, are depressing. And yeah, not at all slut shamey.

    • Megan H

      I didn’t use BC until I was 24…….. because I was perpetually single until I met Boyfriend. (I was a late bloomer/scholastic overachiever with no social life/picky about men.) Then I promptly got on BC because I thought it would be nice to have a physical relationship AND be able to finish grad school. I still haven’t been pregnant and I really like it that way. Boyfriend and I agree that we want kids eventually… when we are in a more stable financial situation and after we get married, which will happen when we are ready for it. The ability to plan these things makes me SO happy, because 24 years of abstinence was long enough, thankyouverymuch.

      I have a Catholic acquaintance about my age who is very anti-BC and would probably agree with most of the statements on this list, especially #8. I think that if abstinence is working for her, great! I just wish that she had the same attitude toward women who use different forms of birth control. I can’t wait for the day when there isn’t all this bullshit surrounding BC and the women who choose to use it.

    • Carolina

      Ahh, it embraced all the talking points of Catholic NFP so perfectly.

    • http://stillskies.dreamwidth.org Sherri
      • LTKINNEY86

        The reviews for this book are amazeballs

      • http://stillskies.dreamwidth.org Sherri

        I know, right? It’s friggin’ awesome. I like that the entire book is written in CAPSLOCK SO THAT YOU KNOW EXACTLY HOW IMPORTANT THIS IS AND THAT PUNCTUATION IS FOR CHUMPS> AFTER ALL: JESUS SAYS AMIRITE?

    • Anonagal

      I think this all comes down to being spoiled. We are dealing with a generation who has never lived in an era where the actuality of back alley abortions is real. Talk to a lady who had her uterus poked out in a dirty row house because her boyfriend raped her then come back to me with your spoiled bullshit notions. Women fought hard to give us the choices that some so ignorantly piss away.

    • Krista

      Well, as if these response/article as a whole wasn’t mind-boggling enough, I did myself the disservice of heading on over to WND.com when I was done perusing my favorite site (don’t judge, I like to read the comments of the crazies.). And– I’m so ragey I had to come on back here to share before my head exploded.

      I don’t know if it’s the awesome debates had about Bethany’s Jesus Freak articles (LOVE!) or what but the horrible, close-minded and downright derogatory comments/ opinions of the folks on this WND article had me seeing red. So much so that I almost posted a rebuttal but stopped myself because well, you can’t reason with crazy.

      I get that staunch ‘no gray area’ pro-lifers have been salivating for an update on the TX abortion numbers since that law passed but to get your ‘statistics’ from a pro-life website without questioning the validity is just ridiculous. As in, what did you expect a site called “Lifenews” to report on?

      While I respect all people’s opinions whether we agree or not, internet crazies seem to be grating on me lately but I just can’t look away… this story was the perfect example:
      http://www.wnd.com/2014/07/texas-abortion-rate-plunges-with-new-law/?cat_orig=health