New John Legend Video That Celebrates Diversity In Beauty Will Leave You A Sobbing Mess

I hope John Legend finds sobbing women with smeary eye makeup attractive because that’s what this new video for his song You And I (Nobody In The World) results in. let’s break it down, shall we? We have older women, younger women, little girls, women with mastectomies, pregnant women, thinner women, bigger women, a gorgeous little girl getting her ears pierced, weight lifting women, chemotherapy women, broken nose women, going out women, going to work women and the astoundingly gorgeous Laverne Cox taking off her makeup.

To be honest, I don’t know much about John Legend besides he is swoony but now he is a million times more swoony for creating this gorgeous video.

If you are anything like me, then you may possibly be having a day where you don’t feel like you look your prettiest and your hair may be doing something stupid and you also may have dribbled coffee on your T-shirt. So this one goes out to you all. I don’t know how women get over those ugly little voices in our heads but ever since I gave birth to a daughter I’m trying to be less critical of myself, especially out loud, so I don’t pass any of this bad voodoo onto her. I want her to feel as empowered and as pretty as this song and video make me feel. Can we all start a John Legend fan club or something?

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    • LadyClodia the Modest Rat

      That was lovely. :)

    • JenH1986

      John Legend is what Robin Thicke aspired to be. He’s funny has sexy and dirty songs, BUT there is not rape to his songs (that I’ve heard anyway).

      • Bleu Cheese Bewbs

        John Legend is one of my celebrity boyfriends. He’s talented, not a d-bag, and smart, too. :)

      • Obladi Oblada

        I had forgotten how cool he is. I really need to download some of his music…but not to listen to at work. I’d get nothing done.

      • Bleu Cheese Bewbs

        Yeah, no kidding. I don’t need to sit around and daydream about a date with John. I’m supposed to be writing my performance appraisal! =P

      • Obladi Oblada

        I spend a lot of my day in my office, especially in the afternoons. I would sit and sob and daydream. Nothing and I mean NOTHING would be accomplished. I’m such a loser. haha

      • Bleu Cheese Bewbs

        It’s like you’ve been spying on me. LOL

      • JenH1986

        His wife is pretty awesome too. I follow her on IG. She’s a nut. But in a good way.

      • Bleu Cheese Bewbs

        Lies! JL has no wife because he’s waiting for me!

    • courtneth the modest unicorn

      Beautiful! The lady removing her bra punched me in the throat.

    • Obladi Oblada

      That song hit me so hard. Good thing my kids are in the other room. Jesus, Mary & Joseph…

    • http://nessyhart.wordpress.com/ pixie Ninja Tits

      When I first read the article I was like “nah, I’m not going to cry.” But here I am, sitting here with tears streaming down my face. This was absolutely beautiful.

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    • guest

      Ugh, John Legend had me at his “All of Me” song. I love that man.

    • ELK

      John Legend seems like a beautiful person.

      I just put this song on Spotify and cried while I danced to it with my nine month old daughter. She was confused.

      • Surly Canuck

        I can’t wait to do the same with my little sea monkey. Right now when I try to dance she punches me in the ribs.

    • Spongeworthy

      Maybe I’m dead inside, or maybe I’m just really tired, but this video didn’t stir too much in me, although I do appreciate the diversity of women in it.
      But I cry every time at the end of Indiana Jones and the Temple of Doom–all the kids running back into the village to be reunited with their parents!–so it’s probably best to not use me as an emotional gauge.

      • http://Mommyish.com/ Eve Vawter

        You are a monster.

        Just kidding.

      • Spongeworthy
      • julesgilead

        Oh, man, that makes me cry too! Every time. (I also teared up with this video, though. I cry very easily.)

      • Spongeworthy

        Lol so good to know I’m not alone!!

      • SunnyD847

        Ugh, I hated that movie. Kate Capshaw’s constant shrieking drove me crazy.

      • Spongeworthy

        Oh, it’s not good. Especially when you compare it to Raiders of the Lost Ark and The Last Crusade. But I still cry at the end :)

      • Obladi Oblada

        Yeah the video didn’t get me so much as the song did. It hit a nerve for some very personal things going on right now.

      • Spongeworthy

        Fair enough. Songs can do that! Honestly, part of it is probably that I’m very tired today and grumpy about being at work.

      • Obladi Oblada

        Oh I feel you completely. I go back to work in a couple of weeks and I’m really not ready. I don’t wanna get up at 430am!

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    • Kelly

      So this video is supposed to help raise awareness for his Operation Girl initiative, which is a fundraising campaign for charities focused on women and girls. I KNOW.

      More info here, in case you need to love him more: https://www.crowdrise.com/operationgirl

      • guest

        Dammit John! Stop being amazing!

      • http://overthecuckoonest.blogspot.com/ Wicked Prophet Kay Sue

        I thought it could not get anymore amazing…

      • Kelly

        ETA:
        In fact, a companion documentary created in conjunction with the music video explores the different stories behind the various women featured in the music video, called When I Look In The Mirror, and together they will act as a platform to raise awareness and increase engagement in the #OperationGirl Charity Challenge, according to the press release.

        “We live in a world where egregious injustices occur regularly against girls and women. We have a responsibility to take action and disrupt the conditions that allow for such tragedies to occur,” Legend said. “Through #OperationGirl we hope to amplify the voices and impact of the many organizations doing great work on behalf of girls and women.”

        Launched by the singer, RYOT and the Burkle Global Initiative, the campaign will bring together the best organizations in the world focused on empowering, educating and protecting the rights of women and girls, the release states. The Challenge is a concerted response to the violence, oppression and inequality women and girls suffer every day all over the world.

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    • Spiderpigmom

      “Guess you don’t know that you’re beautiful (…) you were fine in my eyes a half hour ago”: oh, that’s all fine then. Thank Goodness I have a man to save me by validating the way I look. Because as a woman, not being found beautiful is the worst that can happen. Sigh.

      Nah, sorry I’m the Grinch who Stole Christmas but this video just rubs me the wrong way. Though I guess having a pop song acknowledge that there is such a thing as old, fat and handicapped women is a progress over the ordinary, I guess.

      • Spongeworthy

        I’ll be grinchy with you! Diversity in our standards of beauty? I’m down with that. But it still reinforces how important it is to be regarded as beautiful above all else.
        Don’t like the way you look? Who cares! As long as some dude thinks you’re beautiful, that’s all that matters, right? His opinion counts more than yours.

      • Bleu Cheese Bewbs

        I get what you are saying, but there has to be some way to spread the “diversity in beauty” message. I don’t see it so much as “JL thinks your beautiful despite everything that is wrong with you” so much as just a general declaration that everyone is beautiful. So, not so much his seal of approval.

      • Spongeworthy

        Meh. To be a total jerk, I’m kind of over the “everyone is beautiful” message, at least as far as how it’s being spread in regards to physical attributes. You can be a good person and a kind person; all of those things are something to strive for. But I don’t think everyone is beautiful, when talking strictly about looks. I’m not. I’m solidly average in the looks department, AND THAT’S OK. I don’t say it as a way to get reassurance. I’m comfortable and happy with how I look. More so, I’m happy with the person I am, outside of my looks.
        I don’t mean to get all deep about the lyrics of a pop song, and if this song makes someone feel good about themselves, then that’s great. Really. But I’m just getting sick of the message that in order to feel good about yourself, you HAVE to feel beautiful or be told you are. You don’t see the message being spread that everyone is smart, or everyone is kind, or anything like that. It’s ALWAYS about how everyone is beautiful. I’d like to see something else be emphasized for once, that’s all.
        Again, I’ll say that if this video or song makes your day better, that’s great. It just isn’t something that gets me in the feels.

      • Bleu Cheese Bewbs

        HDY! Seriously though, I do understand what you are saying. I will say that it’d be hard to spread an “everyone is kind” message because lots of people are jerks. I do, however, love some of those commercials that show people doing kind things/making sacrifices for strangers and then in the end the reward isn’t monetary, but acknowledgement or appreciation or love or something else along those lines.

      • Spongeworthy

        Lots of people are jerks! So wouldn’t that mean that they aren’t beautiful people? If beauty is being pushed as a standard for not only how you look, but how you act, then jerky people aren’t beautiful.
        I would love to see beauty pushed as a standard for how you treat others, what you do with your life, etc. and I think some people do think of it that way. But plenty think of it as physical only, and that it is the be-all end-all for how you are evaluated as a person. And I’m just over it. Kind of the same way I’m tired of reading supposed “fitness” magazines that are chock-full of ways to lose weight. I can want to get more fit without wanting to lose weight. And I can want to feel good about myself without wanting to be assured that I’m beautiful.
        I think I’m rambling a little here. Yikes. There’s just not enough coffee in the world sometimes.

      • Bleu Cheese Bewbs

        Coffee? Psssh. What we need is Zima to brighten our day!

      • Spongeworthy

        LOL, with a Jolly Rancher dropped in apparently! I must have missed the word on that trick.

      • Bleu Cheese Bewbs

        Me too. I feel like I lost out because I drank my (terrible) Zima plain, like a sucker.

      • Spongeworthy

        We’re just too hard core. Zima straight up!

      • SunnyD847

        Aw, come on!

      • Hibbie

        I had the same thought at the beginning, but realistically speaking, many people do seek approval for the way that they look (whether from friends or lovers or, most importantly, themselves). What I like about the video most are the moments when the subjects find beauty/approval from within. That’s a very powerful message.

      • Kelly

        I didn’t totally hear it as a song about being beautiful, though it certainly is a song about being beautiful.

        I thought it was more a song about relationships, and that feeling of being the two of you, the only ones in the room, no matter what else is happening. I think that is a theme in the lyrics…

      • http://overthecuckoonest.blogspot.com/ Wicked Prophet Kay Sue

        I suppose I don’t find it so bad to want to be told you are beautiful enough, especially by your partner. I spent a long time not feeling beautiful, and one of the things that did help me was the realization that my husband–then my fiance–finds me beautiful, no matter what. It was a validation, yes, but also an acknowledgement that looks aren’t the most important thing. Beauty is based on so much more than that.

        We have a very one-dimensional view of it, because that’s what we’ve been taught beauty is. But there’s beauty in a book that’s well-written, or in the stars and the study of them. There’s beauty in music, and style, and speech. It’s a multi-dimensional concept.

        In that sense, him saying she was beautiful? It could mean a million different things. It could mean a conversation that they’d had, where he appreciated her passion. It could mean a moment they’d shared, where they experienced something profound. It could mean anything.

        The overarching theme for me wasn’t so much “you need my validation” as “you’re so much more than what you see in the mirror”, which is a message that every woman needs to hear, in my opinion, from the people around her–including her partner.

      • http://overthecuckoonest.blogspot.com/ Wicked Prophet Kay Sue

        I should have added that I totally see where you are coming from, though. I just came at it from a different angle, I think.

      • guest

        Definitely-your description “you’re so much more than what you see in the mirror” is what I took from it too. Why else would he have included such a diverse range of bodies, looks, etc.

    • Hibbie

      Watching the little girls cry was too much. Too fucking much, Eve! Great to see all the smiles at the end, though. I think it’s sweet that he started the video with his wife.

      That was a strangely cathartic experience.

      • Vicki Lewis

        And ended it with himself and his wife. I think that was them walking out of the walk-in closet at the very end.

      • guest

        Yep, that is his wife. She was in the “All of Me” video too. I think that is another reason I love him is he sings these songs about beauty, love, whatever, and has his wife and not some random in the video. I like that.

    • http://overthecuckoonest.blogspot.com/ Wicked Prophet Kay Sue

      Well, you did warn us, and yet, here I am. Sobbing on the couch while my husband frantically asks if I’m okay….

      That was absolutely beautiful and captured all of my feels. So glad I worked through the stories in reverse chronological order and came to this one last. It’s made my day immeasurably more positive.

    • biased?

      This reminds me of the Dove commercials where they take naturally very beautiful women and present them as “everyday women” who aren’t 100% confident with their looks. I understand that naturally beautiful women are often self conscious like most women, but to me, this video and the Dove commercials do not show true diversity of looks when they start with very beautiful women and throw in a couple unconventional beauties to make it “diverse”. I’d like to see more normal, actual everyday looking women in these type of things. If this makes any sense.

    • TngldBlue

      I have always loved John Legend but between this and my nephew-who met him recently on a flight- telling me he was so kind and patient with all the autograph seekers and thanked my nephew multiple times for his military service…well, I am all in on a mommyish fan club!

      • Bleu Cheese Bewbs

        That is pretty cool that your nephew got to meet him and that he was such a nice guy. It only strengthens my crush. He really does just seem like a genuinely good guy.

      • TngldBlue

        It is always nice when someone turns out to be as cool as you hoped they’d be!

    • WhoremonalCrazyLotusBitch

      How beautiful.

    • journalgal2

      Holy sweet crap, Laverne Cox is stunning. And so talented. Love her.

    • http://www.whatwouldshethink.com/ Rachelle

      I’m a 30-something woman with vitiligo covering 40% of my body, a soft orange-peel tummy as a souvenir of once hosting a human parasite, and I’m a working mom. This video is me. And I appreciate the art direction a lot, reminds me of a certain campaign where two beautiful women removed their makeup to reveal their unconventional beauty.

      Sobs all around.

    • RW

      I watched this video because I’m in desperate need of a good emotional cry, so I was more than a little disappointed that it did not have the desired impact. I understand the message, and I get it. No matter what you look like, someone, somewhere will find you beautiful (even if it’s your personality that makes you that way). There is no single standard for beauty, and I do really love and appreciate the social push to reject the commercial standard of what we “should” look like, and instead focus on and embrace our differences. But I just don’t see it as emotionally moving or uplifting.

    • Sara610

      Is it just me, or were there a couple of little transgendered girls in there as well? I could be wrong, but I think there was at least one.

    • EmmaFromÉire

      Eve you’re killing me, this was so lovely and now my mascara is everywhere.

    • RW

      This song/video got me though!

      https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GXoZLPSw8U8