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I Refuse To Be Ashamed When My Kids Google Me In 10 Years

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Since I work as a so-called mommy blogger, I’ve been thinking a lot about my Google trail. We all have a Google trail in some form or another, whether through a personal blog, blog comments, or social media. For most parents, social media is clearly the biggest culprit. This is why many parents today are worried about what they post about their kids—in case talking shit about toddler tantrums comes back to bite them in a few decades.

I’ve thought the same thing too. I’ve had moments of self-doubt where I worried if my “mommy blogger” job was going to destroy my kids and our future relationship. I thought and thought and weighed all the possible outcomes. I’ve come to my own personal conclusion in response to the many mommy blogging critics: FUCK THAT.

This is my job, and I love every minute of it. I also love talking with and getting to know the Mommyish readers, and I am being my authentic self. Yes, I’ve written about quite a few unsavory topics (blow jobs come to mind), but I’m not ashamed of any of it. If you met me in real life, I would talk and act the exact same way.

So I’m not sure exactly what I am supposed to be hiding from my kids? They are going to use the Internet in the future as they drive their hologram robot cars to work. But they are still going to be my kids. I would hope that we would already have an open dialogue and an open relationship. When they decide to Google all of my blogs and possibly read them, I would love to talk with them about it. Or, maybe we could Google and read them together and hash it all out.

I just don’t see how all of this can be damaging if you already have a solid relationship with your kids. Yes, I make jokes about parenting on the Internet, and I also make jokes about myself. This process of becoming a transparent mommy blogger has challenged me to be more honest with myself, and I really am proud. If my kids want to know anything about me, on the Internet or off, all they have to do is ask. I’m an open book blog.

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You can reach this post's author, Bethany Ramos, on twitter.
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  • Kelly

    LOL I work in the adult industry and I just laugh when people ask me what I’m going to do when my kids google me.

    Um, my kids aren’t weirdo perverts who want to have sex with their mom so they aren’t going to google me. They know what they’ll find. They don’t want to see that any more than any other normal human being wants to see their mother naked. Ew, gross.

    • Psych Student

      Well said. And it’s not like there’s anything to be ashamed of!

  • JorgeSRobbins

    Holy crap, everytime i read these articles from bethany, im laughing. I wonder how funny she is in real life! http://buyh.tk/es

  • Ife

    I am not going to unnecessarily flatter myself by pretending my kids will give two shits about anything I ever have or ever will say online. I’m sure they’ll be bored and embarrassed by me enough in person – surely they wouldn’t bother taking the time to be virtually bored and embarrassed by me on top of that.

    • Bethany Ramos

      Right?!? Good point.

    • http://www.MyEZPZLife.com Kris Morseman

      My kids are already teenagers and all over social media. Its true they don’t care what you are spouting off about.

  • Bic

    I think it could be damaging if you are putting (very) personal information about your children online and embarrassing stories. Some people, like me, like their privacy. I think a blogger like Girls Gone Child who has gradually slowed down writing about her older child is a fair compromise. Unless your kids ask you to stop writing about them at which point you should do as they ask.

  • Robotic Socks

    Yea seriously. I dunno about all my nude pictures floating on the internet.

    • Robotic Socks

      Also the trick is to have a very very common name.

      I would go by “Beth Ramos” instead of Bethany. Or change it to Elizabeth as a pseudonym.

  • tSubh Dearg

    I wonder will they even be bothered to google me. I know I have never felt the urge to google my parents and I know my dad would be in there a lot. I’m also fairly sure that the Beau’s eldest hasn’t googled her dad because she thinks he’s a boring old fart a lot of the time.

    • http://www.MyEZPZLife.com Kris Morseman

      UGH Now I have to ‘Google’ my mom and dad. You better hope I don’t find anything gross!

    • http://www.MyEZPZLife.com Kris Morseman

      Phew they are boring, not that it would have changed anything.

    • tSubh Dearg

      I breathe a sigh of relief for you that you didn’t find anything horrifying about or by your parents. Now you can continue to look them in the eye without having flashbacks to the squishy porn they made.

  • http://www.max-logic.com/ maxfab

    I wonder about this a lot (about my own kids, that is). Partly because I’m in the process of writing a book in my head chronicling the ugly truth about new motherhood. One of the reasons, other than epic laziness of course, that I haven’t actually taken it out of my head is concern about their reaction if I were ever to put pen to paper…or em, keyboard to screen.
    But more importantly, in my pre-mummy life I wrote a dating and relationships blog where I was known for my potty mouth. Let’s just say I had a weekly series called Nasty Fridays that was responsible for the conception of a whole lotta babies. I used to really worry what my son would think if he ever read it.
    But really I think that if I am unfortunate enough to have raised my children to see people in a multi-dimensional way. IF they end up being the kind of people who would let my internet persona change the way they think about me, then I have way bigger problems as a mother than what happens when you Google my name.

  • http://www.fourerr.com/ Fourerr

    Well as long as mommy bloggers are like you, who blogs as their real selves need not to worry at all. Like you said, talking to you will be just the same as they read you on your blog. And in the decades to come, kids these days will surely be smarter when they grow up:) Just have fun blogging Bethany!

    • Bethany Ramos

      Thank you!!

  • Psych Student

    We’ve enjoyed getting to know you too, Bethany!

    • Bethany Ramos

      Thank you! I really love your insightful comments. :)