Kid Sent Home For Amazing Act Of Kindness Because Adults Are Idiots

1174615_10203442575488141_915398647_nA nine-year-old Colorado school girl shaved her head to support her best friend who is battling cancer. Her act of solidarity violates her school dress code. She was sent home and told she would not be allowed back to school until she grows some hair back or wears a wig. It’s pretty disturbing when nine-year-olds act with more compassion than adults.

With her parents’ blessing, Kamryn Renfro shaved her head to show support to her cancer-stricken best friend, 11-year-old Delaney Clements. Clements lost her hair as a result of her chemotherapy treatments in her fight against neuroblastoma, a childhood cancer. Delaney was thrilled with what her friend did. She said, ”It made me feel very special and that I’m not alone.”

Does anyone remember what it was like to have a childhood best friend? Those friendships are completely different than adult bonds. I would have walked over hot coals for my best friend when I was in grade school; I loved her like a sister. This is a beautiful gesture, and definitely a case when the school should see beyond their protocols, act human, and respond with acceptance and kindness. They aren’t.

When she tried to return to school after parting with her braids, she wasn’t allowed in. The school released this statement:

“Caprock Academy does have a detailed dress code policy, which was created to promote safety, uniformity, and a non-distracting environment for the school’s students. Under this policy, shaved heads are not permitted,” said Catherine Norton Breman, President and Chair of Caprock Academy Board of Directors.

The Academy’s statement also clarified that sometimes exceptions can be made to the dress code policy under “extraordinary circumstances.” I guess they don’t think that a nine-year-old parting with her hair to love and support her best friend is extraordinary enough. What a shame.

This little girl is acting with compassion and selflessness; aren’t those characteristics we should be supporting in our children? I think so. Her mother was told she couldn’t return to school until she grew her hair back or wore a wig. Nice.

The school has since changed their position and has decided to let her return to school today, and will meet tonight to discuss the situation and the policy. I guess they all need to clarify that if an 11-year-old girl is fighting a deadly illness it should be okay for her friend to support her. Because that’s not common sense or anything.

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  • Kendra

    I need more stories like these to remind me that some people are good. I have seen all about the razor blades on the playground on facebook today and it has made me feel very cold toward people in general. I’m so proud of this little girl for doing something so awesome for her friend. Parting with hair at her age is probably a much bigger deal than people realize. I’m also glad the school has since changed their position and stopped being giant jerks.

  • Robotic Socks

    IKR? It’s not as if she pointed her index finger and said “pew pew”

  • Ann

    WOW! Absolutely touching story about the girls, and then you read about the adults who are ridiculous! In my son’s high school they participate in a charity to benefit childhood cancer research called St. Baldrick’s. Every year for the past four years (he’s a senior now) my son has grown out his hair and received sponsors to help him raise a minimum of $100. to shave his head. (This year he made $370) the whole school participates and there are as many girls as there are boys who do this and I am always so proud of the shaved kids! I can not believe that a school would hear this story and send her home. I’m proud of her!

  • jendra_berri

    And that’s what happens when schools blindly follow the letter of the law, rather than the spirit of the law when it comes to enforcing certain rules. This dress code was to prevent pink mohawks and clown wigs, not acts of love and compassion.
    Though, at my school there was a kid with a punk mohawk and another who dyed her hair neon orange and learning went on just fine.

    • Iwill Findu

      I don’t see how hair is distracting to the learning process. Unless they think kids are goldfish? oh look at that hair, oh look at that hair. Bullies are more distracting to the learning process, but you know I once flipped a bully’s desk (with him in it) because he took a pair of scissors to my hair, so my being bald would have been less distracting that day.

    • SarahJesness

      I’m pretty sure the “distraction” clause is just there so they can use it every time they want to enforce a really stupid rule, like the kid with the pony backpack.

    • JLH1986

      That’s probably because the school didn’t make a big deal of it. Kids wore all sorts of interesting hair when I was in high school. It was no big deal and we acknowledged Ryan had a red Mohawk today or Meghan got her hair cut. We didn’t talk about to memorize the periodic table of elements. Schools I think make some things far worse than they really are.

  • keelhaulrose

    If I were a teacher there I’d set up a St. Baldricks event, but I like to make waves.

  • TngldBlue

    Just goes to show that often times kids are smarter than adults. I would be so proud of my daughter if she did this and that school is ridiculous.

  • KaraStrong

    I guess they all need to clarify that if an 11-year-old girl is fighting a deadly illness it should be okay for her friend to support her. Because that’s not common sense or anything.

  • Paul White

    why the hell is it against the dress code to be bald?

    • Robotic Socks

      the principal is Principal Strickland?

      Don’t be a slacker Paul!

    • Paul White

      I never understood that movie. If I could become as proportionately strong as a wolf, and had sharp teeth, and was more than able to tear that guys head off and frame it to look he’d had a run in with a power saw…he wouldn’t have made it out of the previews.
      I also didn’t understand why the werewolf looked more like a were-tamarin but that’s just the animal guy in me

    • Robotic Socks

      That’s Back to the Future

    • Robotic Socks

      the principal is Principal Strickland?

      Don’t be a slacker Paul!

    • thisshortenough

      In many boys schools near me you weren’t allowed to have your head shaved below a number two razor.

  • Katherine Handcock

    The thing that gets me is that there’s even a clause in the rules saying specific exceptions can be made…and they didn’t figure the right call was to say, “Look, kiddo, next time let us know in advance. Now get back to class”? If it were totally blind following of the rules (“BUT THE RULE SAYS NO SHAVED HEADS!”) I would actually understand…I’d still DISAGREE, but I’d understand.

  • Kelly

    Hair is required for school, are you fucking kidding me? That’s disgusting.

  • TwentiSomething Mom

    Her mom should get her a big Afro wig, or a floor length platinum wig just to show them she’s no longer a distraction.

  • C.J.

    That’s sad, that little girl is awesome for supporting her friend. Cancer sucks and it probably meant a lot to the girl with cancer that her friend shaved her head for her.

  • Buffy

    I am so angry I can’t even write.
    All the best wishes for the girls, for a long, long lasting friendship.