I Pity The Fool That Renames Their Newborn Baby

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Naming a baby can be really hard. Maybe there are some parents that don’t put much weight on it, but the way I saw it was—This kid is going to have his name for the rest of his life. NO PRESSURE.

I’m a fairly decisive person, so baby naming wasn’t as torturous as it could have been. I am also anal, so my husband and I toyed around with our top list (at my insistence) as soon as I got pregnant. By the time I hit the 20 week ultrasound, we had a first name and middle name all picked out for both kids. Naming was done, and we were confident. Time to decorate the nursery.

Couples that have a harder time deciding on a baby name may suffer from “baby name remorse.” Yes, this is a real thing. I saw it discussed several times on BabyCenter Birth Boards and other mom forums online.

These couples may have decided to name their baby when they met him or her, and there’s nothing wrong with that. This is a typical practice I hear from many people who wait to name the baby until after it is born. But if you don’t like your last-minute choice… You’re kind of screwed.

One forum mom said:

My husband continued telling me he looked like a Liam and my father’s name is William, so I basically caved. I did NOT think it would get so popular. Now, it is predicted to be in the TOP 10 in the U.S. this year.

I confessed to my husband a few weeks later that I wanted to change it. He thought I was NUTS and explained that he felt it was almost like taking our son’s identity from him (esp. since he’ll always have 2 social security cards, etc.). He really felt Liam “fit” him, but told me I could do it if I wanted.

After discussing w/ my husband and family I felt guilty changing the name, so I didn’t. Fast forward 7.5 months later and I am still sick over it (but mention it to no one!). I really just don’t like the name as much (not sure if it’s the popularity of it or what?!). Everyone says his name suits him, but I sort of wish we had gone w/ Aacen, Levi or Vaughn.

I totally get where this lady is coming from, and I don’t envy her one bit. This sounds like an unnecessary headache to deal with after having a baby, especially if you are considering changing his Social Security information. I also agree with her husband that changing a baby’s name after it is born seems to mess with his identity, at least the identity that had been created in the eyes of the family.

Baby naming is hard. Narrow down your top names before your baby is born to avoid buyer’s remorse.

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    • keelhaulrose

      Am I the only one who thinks Liam might have lucked out by not being named Aacen?

      • Robotic Socks

        Yo Xing Heyno Augustus Eisner Alexander Weiser Knuckles thinks either is good.

      • Lackadaisical

        He may be less then a year old but every night he whispers “thank you daddy” as he goes to sleep.

      • pixie

        Yeah, I have a feeling it’s an issue of “not being unique enough” if she wishes she named him Aacen, Levi, or Vaughn

      • Jallun-Keatres

        I know of a Vaughn… Kid’s a rockstar lol

      • pixie

        I know a Vaughn, too, but he’s a year or so older than me lol.

      • Kitsune

        I am a Vaughan so I’m kind of biased on how awesome the name is. I did want to be Tiffany or something ordinary when I was little but I got over that pretty quickly. I still tend to be the only Vaughan people know which I like.

      • airbones

        I like Vaughan for a girl! I don’t like it at all in place of Liam.

      • Kitsune

        Thanks! It’s a family name and the less common spelling.

      • Kat

        How do you pronounce it? Just like Vaughn?

      • itpainsme2say

        rhymes with fawn or at lest my friends last name does

      • Kitsune

        Yes. It’s the same name, just a variant on the spelling.

      • Williwaw

        Vaughan is way better than Tiffany!

      • KarenMS

        So cute! I’ve never heard of that for a girl or a boy but I love it.

      • Natasha B

        My cousin’s number 3 is a Vaughn. Not sure of his middle name. #4 is Hendrix Rhys. I don’t even know what’s going on over there…..

      • pixie

        Well he’s got Rhys in his name so he can’t be too bad of a guy ;)

      • keelhaulrose

        The only benefit to the name Aacen is you get to be totally lazy when the teacher tells you to line up by first name.
        “Fuck off, Aaron, I’m first! Move your ass down the line.”

      • pixie

        Very true!

      • Megan Zander

        Lololololol

      • JLH1986

        I know 3 Levi and 4 Vaughn. No Liam (yet). So those aren’t incredibly unique names either. Aacen? yes. but…I’m not even sure that’s a real name

      • airbones

        Yes… also Vaughn.. and Levi is also questionable.

      • shorty_RN

        Liam > Aacen

      • Williwaw

        Liam>>>>>>>>>>>Aacen.

      • Kati

        Please tell me it’s “Aye-sen” and not “Ass-sen” because to be honest, I’m having a hard time reading it any way but with an “ass.”

      • keelhaulrose

        I have no idea because I’ve never seen that name before. I have worked with an Isen, pronounced Aye-sen, but never ‘Aacen’. I’ve been pronouncing it A-sen in my head, but considering some of the yoonique names out there I wouldn’t be surprised if it was pronounced ‘Bob’.

      • Psych Student

        Those are interesting choices. I thought it was “Ace-n”.

    • Robotic Socks

      I bet the husband is regretting too.

      Marrying that woman

      • Lackadaisical

        Harsh … and yet I don’t think I would be comfortable being married to someone who neurotically worries that there are other children with her kid’s name and constantly whines about wanting to change it despite the kid having had the name for long enough to recognise it and be confused at the change.

        As she has three contenders for names she wishes she chose I suspect if she changed her son’s name she would find a new reason to think it is the name of lesser mortals and need to choose a new one in a couple of months.

    • Megan Zander

      My cousin changed her daughters name- twice. In the hospital she named her Matza, a couple months later her mom ( baby’s grandma) got legal custody and renamed the baby Julie, a couple months after that my cousin convinced her mom to change it to April. I thought the whole thing was odd. At least they changed it early enough that she only remembers having one name I guess?

      • Bethany Ramos

        I’ve always wondered if that was a problem for people who waited until the day the baby was born. Even if you wait to see if the name fits the baby, are you really sure in your final decision?

      • Mystik Spiral

        I’m one of 7, so my parents had to do a lot of baby naming. They had a hard time coming up with a name for one of my younger brothers, and finally had to make a decision when they wouldn’t let them leave the hospital without a name on the birth certificate. My mom says for a while afterwards, when asked what his name was, sometimes she honestly couldn’t remember… lol.

        It’s not a bad name, and it fits him for sure, it’s just hilarious that my mom couldn’t remember her baby’s name… haha.

      • Bethany Ramos

        Hilarious!

      • Tk

        Here in New Zealand we have 6 weeks to send away the birth cert. We were still so stuck on a middle name, we hadn’t sent it away yet! I got a letter saying I had to do it, I think I finally did it about 8 weeks. I still wish that I had given her my choice of middle name, but who uses their middle names much any way?

      • whiteroses

        We had three possible names that we considered, and made our decision when I was six months along. We changed it the day he was born.

        We’re totally ok with it. His name is, well, who he is at this point. I can’t picture him being another name.

      • http://wtfihaveakid.blogspot.ca/ jendra_berri

        Matza caught a lucky break there.

      • Jessifer

        An aunt of mine adopted her son when he was 3 years old. The plan was to rename him Martin, but every time he spoke it was “Corey wants juice, Corey wants cereal, etc…”, so they just gave up and kept it as Corey.

      • Megan Zander

        That’s smart I think, once theya re old enough to know thier own name unless they want to change it I think it’s confusing. Corey is a cute name too!

      • Williwaw

        I don’t think I could rename an adopted baby, even if it was only a few days old. I know it wouldn’t matter to the kid (at least, not until they were much much older), but I would feel like I was stealing its identity or something. I knew someone who adopted a girl from another country, and the girl was 8 or 9, and they gave her a new name – that just feels wrong to me. Her original name wasn’t hard for anglophones to spell or pronounce. It was like they were erasing her heritage. It’s one thing for someone to come to a different country and choose a name they will go by there – I know many Chinese people who came to North America as children who chose or helped their parents choose an English language name – but it’s another thing to separate a child from their past and even take away the link of the name. I think adoption is wonderful but a person’s past from before the adoption still happened.

      • Darras

        It is odd with the name changes! In Norway you aren’t allowed to change the name of your adopted baby. Which is how my friend ended up with a son named for one of the less common elves in Tolkein.. Poor kid ;)

    • CMJ
      • Bethany Ramos

        Lolllll

    • lpag

      I love both my kids’ names, but we had such different experiences arriving at those conclusions. The first, we had it all picked out from about a month before. The second, we narrowed it down to three before the birth and just couldn’t get it down further. Then he came out and we looked at him and at each other and we knew which of the three it would be. He LOOKED like a [Chosen Name]. I can’t explain it, that’s just how it went down.

    • Jallun-Keatres

      Lol. I hate the name Liam.

      • pixie

        If I were a boy I would have been Liam Llywellen Karl (homage to Irish, Welsh, and German heritage..and I’m not sure if I spelled Llywellen or Karl correctly in terms of the Welsh and German spellings), but would have gone by Karl.

      • Jallun-Keatres

        Haha that’s a cool name

      • EmmaFromÉire

        Llewelyn. The welsh fucking love their consonants.

      • pixie

        Thanks. I couldn’t remember for the life of me how it was spelled (and too lazy to look up).
        And yes. I definitely noticed that last time I visited Cardiff. My mom and I were having lots of fun trying to pronounce the things on the road signs :P

      • EmmaFromÉire

        I think at some point the country must have decided to just mess with everyone. Llanfair Caereinion is actually just pronounced city centre or something.

      • pixie

        Ha. Probably. And I wonder if all these “yoonique” name spellings are secretly the Welsh taking over. With all the extra y’s and l’s and whatnot.

      • Jallun-Keatres

        To be fair, W is a vowel and dd/d and ff/f have different sounds :p

      • Psych Student

        Such an amazing language!

      • Jallun-Keatres

        Yes! Although I don’t speak it at all I gravitate to it for some reason and learned how to somewhat pronounce everything.

      • Jennifer Freeman

        I am not a fan of using the short form of names as the whole name. Just a weird thing I have. I have a brother who named the boy Liam instead of William, and another who named the boy Ricky instead of Richard. I guess the problem I have is that by going with the short form you sort of limit the kid’s options. Ricky is cute now, but probably not so much when he is a grown adult.

      • Guest

        OMG! I have this same “thing”. If you like a short name, I think that’s great and you should totally call your child that. But, I think it’s only fair to give them a full name, so that if they get older and they don’t want to be called a “cutesy” type name anymore, they have that choice. I was always sad my name isn’t “nicknamable” when I was younger, because my friends were shortening their names and getting to choose what they wanted to be called.

      • Jallun-Keatres

        This. Our first boy is getting the full version when I liked the shorter one better, though now I think I like the long one more now. It’s Tobias/Toby.

      • NYBondLady

        Ha me too. For 2 reasons- popularity, and, I don’t like traditional nicknames as real first names.

    • Linzon

      Hm, we didn’t name either of our kids until they were born and I’ve never had a moment of name regret. For both of them we tossed around names and went through the baby name apps and books and then BAM, my husband pulled a name seemingly from nowhere and it just fit perfectly both times. I’ve heard the reverse too, couples that had a name picked out for ages and then found it just didn’t fit once the baby was born.

    • AugustW

      I love my daughters name (Reilly) for many reasons, but sometimes I wish it were the more popular spelling, so she could get those cutesy custom cups and crap like that.

      • Iwill Findu

        My mother was upset about that. My mom was a sucker for those when I was a kid hair clips toothbushes pens pencils note books cups for 4 girls that’s a lot of custom (non-custom) clutter.

      • C.J.

        I have that problem with my Celina. She ends up with a lot of stuff that just has a C on it.

      • Jennifer Freeman

        My Brenna used to desperately look for things with her name on them and eventually settle for things that said ‘Brenda’. Poor kid! I like that her name isn’t super common but it is definitely hard to get customized trinkets and such.

      • Psych Student

        I hear that! I own *one* thing with my name on it. It’s a key chain my dad had made for me because there aren’t things with Corissa one them. And there are about 8 different ways people try to spell it, but my last name is a color, so that makes up for it.

    • AugustW

      I love my daughters name (Reilly) for many reasons, but sometimes I wish it were the more popular spelling, so she could get those cutesy custom cups and crap like that.

    • MellyG

      My significant other was adopted at around 13 months, and his name is different from what it was his first year of life. I don’t remember the original name, but he does. He prefers the one has now.

      And i totally get why his parents did it, since they wanted to name their son. (and his last name would change anyway)

      I can’t imagine doing it just because you’re indecisive though!

      • JLH1986

        My good friends parents adopted a 5 month old (when they were in their 50′s and their daughter was almost 30) her name is Neveah. The ONLY stipulation the birth mom had was that they cannot change her first name. They had planned on changing it to something more traditional (their daughter has a typical 80′s girls name). They were disappointed but at 4 they can’t see her name being any different now.

    • Tinyfaeri

      There were 5 people in my class that had my name, and often at least two of us were in the same classroom, and some even had the same last initial. Add in other grades on sports teams and in band and there were many, many more. Hence, nicknames. It’s really not the end of the world to have a common first name, it’s a shame these parents get so upset about it on behalf of their kid who will probably end up not caring.

      • CrazyFor Kate

        It annoyed me, so I will probably try to choose a relatively uncommon name when I have kids. Just not youneek. There’s definitely a middle ground between having five classmates with the same name, and being called Sparklepaintzxqw.

      • Tinyfaeri

        It could be worse, you could have been a Jennifer born anytime in the 70′s or 80′s… :)

      • Jessifer

        Or a Jessica *sigh* There’s 5 of us in my office, I mistakenly receive their emails or phone calls every… single… day…

      • Jennifer Freeman

        I am one of those Jennifers and yes, it was pretty bad. There were at least 3 of us in any class through my elementary/middle school years.

      • JLH1986

        As a fellow Jennifer…I actually rarely meet another Jennifer these days. Once I graduated HS…it was a none issue.

      • Pzonks

        Where did all the Jennifers go? How is it that there were multiple in every 80s classroom but now I only know a few?

      • JLH1986

        Right? There were 4 in my class of 30. Now? The only Jennifer I actually know…I went to HS with.

      • CrazyFor Kate

        Rachel in a highly evangelical community in the 1990s. There were never less than three at any time!

      • shorty_RN

        My name was at the top of the popularity charts for decades, and it’s never really bothered me. I think if you really love a name, give it to your kid regardless of its popularity.

      • Tinyfaeri

        That’s my thought. I got my name because it’s a family name. It also happened to be popular at the time, but that had nothing to do with why I got it, and it’s suited me well because of the family connection.

      • Psych Student

        Exactly. My group of friends in high school had, I kid you not, 7 Josh’s and 5 Nicks. We used a lot of last names. I’m not sure anyone was ever bothered by it.

    • JJ

      Yet we don’t ever seem to see people who names their kids crap like Jermajesty, Vagina Vulva, Audio Science, Pwecious snowflake, every crappy spelling variation of Jaxden, Jaxson, Daettona, Ryiker etc change their kids names. Nope its the people who give their kids nice, pronounceable names like Liam, Sarah, Charlie or Chloe who are like, “you know what this name isn’t right lets change it to (insert awful name here). Sooo unique and much better no one else will have the same name or spelling as Yoonique.”
      Because lord knows the worst thing in the world is having your kid, gasp, share the same name as another kid or a few in their school. The horror, the horror!

      • shorty_RN

        Totally naming my next kid T-rex Skeleton Gunslinger.

      • Armchair Observer

        Basically why I was named after an alcoholic beverage…and a terrible 70s song. Yeah, my parents just had to be yoonique

      • squib

        But I bet you’re a fine girl!

      • Armchair Observer

        Ah, but never the wife. ;-)

      • ShanLea

        I went the exact opposite way-I grew up with a unique name, so I went as simple as possible with my boys-Alex (not Alexander) and Noah. It’s nice to know that everyone will always be able to spell and pronounce their names correctly and find personalized items. Sure, there will be other kids with the same name here and there, but Alex was on his 3rd school before he ended up with another one in his class. They became best friends, so now once in a while I have to call my son by his last name so they know which one I’m talking to!

      • Kat

        I wanted mine to be Ooboo Ursela when I was younger. Lmao…

      • Taquoshi

        I think the absolute worse was one set of parents in New Zealand who named their child….and I kid you not…. “Talula Does the Hula From Hawaii”. It must have been one heck of a party…

        Here’s the link:

        http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/newstopics/howaboutthat/2452593/Talula-Does-The-Hula-From-Hawaii-not-a-girls-name-New-Zealand-court-rules.html

        However, a friend who is an M.D. actually had a patient named “Syphilis” one day. The mother explained to my friend that she thought the name was pretty. My friend was rendered speechless and managed to pull it together enough to ask, “So, how do you pronounce it?” “See-Fall-is”. At least Talula was able to get her name legally changed.

    • CelesteF

      Ugh! The other names are hideous! Three cheers for dad

    • Kara

      THIS IS ME RIGHT NOW! I am so lost, and picky, very picky. My husband vetoed Carmel, (thank god because that name was ridiculous) so now I have to figure out a girl name with a y in it that isn’t in the top 300 in popularity, isn’t ridiculous sounding (no kiley) and isn’t spellled all strange. I got into a Facebook cat fight yesterday with my husbands cousin wife because I told her I didn’t like the name Emery. Bitch called my kids stupid and it took every ounce of my being to not cuss her out. HELP ME!

      • Missy

        We had a hard time with girl names for the same reason. We ended up looking up a whole bunch of historical goddesses/mythical names and picking from there for our “first” name. Maybe that will help you?

      • Kara

        Thanks I will look some up tonight, I have spent so much time on baby name websites my eyes are starting to cross.

      • Missy

        No problem! Baby name books and websites turned out to be not for us, so that’s why we went that route. The boy names were super easy for us for some reason. I hope it helps!

      • shorty_RN

        Does it need to end in y or just have y in it somewhere?

      • Kara

        It has to have a y in it somewhere, my girls names now are Ashlyn, Sylvia, and Rosalyn. I like pretty, simple names but I am drawing a blank with this one haha

      • Bethany Ramos

        I love the name Bryn, but I don’t know how popular it is!

      • Kara

        I like that name, thanks!

      • My2bits

        I love that name too…and know someone who changed her newborn’s name to Bryn. She named her Sidney first (back in the 80′s when it was pretty unusual). Everyone called her Cindy, so she had it changed to Bryn.

      • Tinyfaeri

        Daisy, Lily, Dylan, Sidney, Rory?

      • Kara

        Daisy is our dogs name :) I do like it though. I really like lily but its super popular :(

      • Jennifer Freeman

        Maisy? That name reminds me of when my daughter was little and she loved the cartoon Maisy (about a cute little mouse).

      • pixie

        I’ve always liked Branwyn and it’s not too popular. Evelyn, Lynette.

      • Kara

        I like evelyn but my husband vetoed it :( he also vetoed carolyn, aubrey, Audrey, and Bethany. We both like lydia but its popular :( I like lynette I’ll have to ask him about that one thanks!

      • CMJ

        lyla?

      • Kara

        I like it but its tainted, an ex friend named her girl that last year.:(

      • Kitsune

        Branwyn was the name we would have gone with if our baby had been a girl. I’ve always thought it pretty.

      • Natasha B

        BFFs today. Our (current) littlest is Evelyn.

      • pixie

        Such a nice name :)

      • Jen

        Gwendolyn, Alyson, Kelly, Tiffany, Arya, Cynthia, Marilyn, Holly… =)

      • Kara

        Thanks!

      • shorty_RN
      • Kara

        Thank you! Looking now

      • Jennifer Freeman

        A few suggestions…Kyra (still pronounced kee-ruh) was one I considered if I was going to have a girl. Some friends named their little girl Ryan and it totally suits her.

      • Jennifer Freeman

        Also maybe Jocelyn, Carys, Blythe (I am loving old lady names lately, sorry!).

      • JLH1986

        My friend just named her daughter Carys Maeve…and I LOVE it. I love old lady names. They weren’t always old ladies! :)

      • Jennifer Freeman

        Ohh! LOVE the name Maeve.

      • JLH1986

        I know! I was like damn it! I love that name and now I kinda can’t use it. It’s apparently going to take us a while to get a baby so it might be ok if/when one arrives. It was either Carys Maeve or Maeve Agnes. They waited until she was here before deciding on which.

      • NYBondLady

        Molly? Kay? Dorothy? Hayley? Layla? Whitney?

      • Natasha B

        Evelyn :) but I’m biased! We’re on the hunt for a boys name…6 letters… Starts with a vowel. It’s hard lol.

      • Jennifer Freeman

        Andrew :)

      • Natasha B

        That’s going to be middle name-Andrew is my FIL name. Our 4yo son middle name is my dad’s name!

      • Jennifer Freeman

        Dang! How about Archer? This was my husband’s #1 choice for our boy for awhile. We went with something else, but we liked it because it’s similar to other occupation names (Carter, Parker, Hunter) but isn’t common yet.

      • Natasha B

        I actually really like Archer, will have to add it to the list. It’s been hard to find a name….our three kiddos all start with vowels and have six letters, so now hubby thinks we have to carry on the tradition lol.

      • NYBondLady

        Eugene (Gene!)
        Elliot
        Oliver (popular though)
        Aidynn (j/k!)

      • Natasha B

        I had to laugh at Aidynn…another blogger I read was just ranting about the army of ynn/en names that are taking over. We have an Olivia, so Oliver would be a little close lol. Maybe we’ll just name him Apollo or Optimus and he’ll be rich and successful one day (eye roll)

      • Ptownsteveschick

        Sidney fits that bill. Its pretty classic, although it has the whole used to be a man’s name thing to it. We named our daughter that because after 8 months of pregnant crying, my mom suggested it and it didn’t make me cringe. Its actually pretty fitting for my kid. Don’t worry, you will find something eventually.

      • Bethany Ramos

        I looooove the name Sydney.

      • Kara

        The girl I got into a fight with has a girl named Sydney, so that names out.

      • Jennifer Freeman

        Try http://www.nymblr.com . YOu can pick like 6 names you sort of like and it will make suggestions based off those. Be warned, though, it can get addictive.

      • CW

        I love the names Tamsyn (it’s a Cornish name) and Bronwyn (Welsh) but my DH vetoed both of those. Both are unique without being made-up kre8tiv.

    • shorty_RN

      Aacen??? No. No. Nope.

    • tk88

      I worked with someone who said her parents couldn’t decide on a name for her baby sister. Her sister was three years old before they fully decided on a name for her. They’d been calling her a few different things until then.

    • EmmaFromÉire

      You know, I just don’t get the fear of top 10 names. They’re popular for a reason. You think i’m the only emma floating around? Hell in Ireland it was in the top ten for pretty much the entire decade I was born. Hell of a lot better than Aacen (how is that even pronounced? All I’m thinking of is Aachen, the place.)

      • pixie

        My riding coach’s youngest daughter is named Niamh (Neeve for all of you unfamiliar with the name, but I’m sure you’ve heard it before, Emma). It’s pretty well completely unheard of here. When she visited Ireland she was so excited when she came across a girl working in a grocery store with that name on her name tag. It can sometimes be awesome finding someone else with the same name as you.

      • EmmaFromÉire

        A really good friend of mine is currently working in Utah. He spent the first ten years of his life in Utah, and the subsequent twelve in Ireland. He told me the other day that since working in a public office that requires people to ID themselves, he’s come across an uncomfortable number of people who have traditional Irish names but can’t pronounce them. So obviously we find that HILARIOUS. Don’t name your child Saoirse, Sadhdb, Madbh, Siobhán, Áine, Caoimhe or anything similarly trad unless you can say it correctly, and make sure your poor child knows the correct way to say their own name.

      • pixie

        Bahaha. That’s hilarious. Of course, out of those I only know how to say Madbh (I think at least) and Siobhàn (I’ve known a couple of those and at least one was Irish)

      • EmmaFromÉire

        If you do happen to come across them
        Saoirse: Sear-sha
        Sadhbh: s-eye-vuh
        Madbh: May-vuh
        Siobhán: Shh-uh-vaw-uhn
        áine: Aww-nnn-yah
        Caoimhe: Coo-eve-ah

        My best friend worked for Novartis last summer, an internship arranged through one of our professors. Someone from HR had to ring her to clarify how to pronounce her name before she came over so the lab techs wouldn’t make a mess of it! Her name is Aoife. Just a collection of vowels, so I do feel for people who see Irish names and can’t wrap their head around them!

      • shorty_RN

        I really like Irish names. I love finding out how they are actually pronounced. They always sound much nicer than how I’m pronouncing them in my brain.

      • RW

        I love the name Aoife! But yeah, I’d never name my daughter that just because I can just imagine how sick she’d get of always having to both correct people trying to read it and having to explain the spelling. Throw in my husband’s Belgian last name and people would just give up!

      • Ptownsteveschick

        I so love the name Saoirse, but unless we move to Ireland I can never use it because I so don’t want to be telling people how to say my kid’s name for ever and eternity.

      • Karen Milton

        Huh. I know two Caoimhes and neither is pronounced like that – more like “Keeva”. I love that name, but it wouldn’t have worked in Nowhereville Ontario, my daughter would have gotten sick of misspellings/awkward pronunciations before she was finished kindergarten.

        I am, however, the mother of an Aidan, much like about 30% of the population at this point. He was born when the name was only starting to take off, so he’s always the only one in his class, but the grades younger than his are absolutely infested. He really doesn’t mind – he made the point that everybody named Mike seems to have survived just fine. Touché, my child.

      • Tk

        Aoife is my fave! If people knew how to say it, we would have gone with it for sure. We went with Indie, which I guess is a made up name really.

      • RW

        Siobheanne is my favourite! No one would ever guess the pronunciation would be She-vaughn.

        I named my son Cael (for the member of the Fianna) and we were torn between keeping the proper ‘c’ or anglicizing it with a ‘k’ so that he wasn’t constantly explaining how his name should be pronounced. But I thought Kael looked silly and made up (though most people probably think Cael is anyway) and people would probably just assume a mis-spelling of Kyle so we opted to keep with the more traditional spelling. I kinda wavered on name regret for awhile too, because I have to admit I’m pretty judgy on trendy names, so people probably thought I was one big hypocrite for picking something so off the wall. But as I lost my name when I married, I wanted my children to have names deeply seated in their Irish origins.

      • koolchicken

        My Aunt and one of her friends were joking about that not too long ago. Their kids have traditional Irish names. But they’re both Irish, and can both spell and pronounce those names.

        I feel like there should be a rule. If you can’t pronounce a name (properly) you aren’t allowed to use it.

      • Tara

        Ah, Caoimhe is my favorite name ever! My mom grew up in Ireland, so we do know how to pronounce it, but I just can’t bring myself to use it here in the States knowing that it would be butchered constantly.

      • koolchicken

        If I were pregnant with a girl my husband and I both loved the name Niamh, but the spelling is almost identical to our last name. In fact I get super confused trying to spell the whole thing out loud. It was like a contest in my family to see who could do it.

        I am actually Irish though. It kind of drives me nuts when I see people who are obviously not Irish with such names- and then they’re not even spelled or pronounced correctly. They were just named that cause it was trendy. WTH? I just don’t get how someone else’s ethnic identity can be trendy?

        My cousin in Oona so I get the whole finding someone with the same name thing. Almost no one over here is named Oona, and even rear to have that spelling. The only other one I knew was born in Ireland.

      • pixie

        Oh yeah, I get that. My riding coach is Irish though, as I’ve mentioned before, which is how I know how to pronounce the name ;)
        And I’ve met a few people with Welsh names that are pronounced incorrectly and I just shake my head. They’re lovely names, but if you’re really gonna use an ethnic name at least find someone from there (or who knows how to pronounce the jumble of letters) and get it right.

      • Pzonks

        I personally wouldn’t use a Top 10 name because I wouldn’t want my kid being 1 of 4 in a class. Jennifer was a big name when I was in school (although oddly now I only know a handful – where did they all go?!). One year I remember having 5 Jennifers in my class and 3 had last names that began with the same letter so using the last initial (Jenny M.) was out. They were numbered. Jenny 1, Jenny 2, Jenny 3, etc.

        What REALLY annoys me though is the “I’m going to use a Top 10 name but CHANGE the spelling so it’s DIFFERENT”. A friend did that with her kid. Jaden, Jayden, Jaydin, Jaydyn….no matter how you SPELL it, it still sounds the same, it’s the SAME name. It’s not like a teacher is going to spell their name to call them out in class, or say, “Jayden with 2 ys – what is the answer to question #4?”

      • RW

        I AGREE. I hate when people take a perfectly decent name, then start buying vowels. I spoke with a guy on the phone the other day whose name is Landon. But since I worked with someone who named their kid Landyn I had to clarify “um, is that spelled with an o or a y?” I swear I could see the WTF look he gave me through the phone. “…It’s with an o.” I shouldn’t have to ask that question! But as we all know, yoonique is spelled with a y.

        I have to admit we changed the name we picked for a girl for the same reason – we don’t want our child to by 3 of 6 in a class, and the name we chose – Kiera – is not only rapidly gaining popularity, but is a name full of mangled spelling. Kiera, Kira, Kiara – not to mention the proper gaelic spelling of Ciara that can’t be used in North America because NO ONE would say it right. Fortunatey we had a boy. But we’re back to the drawing board on girl names!

      • pixie

        Funnily enough, my riding coach’s older daughter is named Ciara.

      • http://www.facebook.com/valerisexton.jones Valeri Jones

        I totally laughed out loud at the “then start buying vowels” part.

      • Williwaw

        “Jayden, with 2 ys – how do you spell ‘mitten’”?
        “M-Y-T-T-Y-N”.

      • notorious

        I have a name that was really popular in the 80′s. There was always at least one other in my classes. Nothing happened.

        Incidentally, I named my kids normal names without checking the top 10 lists, and they have fared equally as well.

      • JLH1986

        I’m Jennifer. The most popular name of the 80′s and early 90′s my friends were all Amandas and Stephanies. We all survived just fine. Though people still spell my name all sorts of crazy (Ginipher?) It’s about how a person makes them feel not their name. In general if someone ONLY remembers your name…you have bigger problems than a unique name.

      • Jennifer Freeman

        My Grandfather spells my name differently every time he writes it. Jenniffer, Jeniffer, Jenifer, Geniffer, etc.

      • JLH1986

        ha ha. Grandparents I think get a pass (mostly because my grandparents are quite up there). To be fair though, my parents taught me to spell “Jen” with only ONE N. but Jennifer with 2. So I spell it Jen, so my grandpa forgets if it’s Jenifer or Jennifer.

      • Jennifer Freeman

        My Mom always spells it Jenn. I have no idea why because I have never, ever spelled it that way. Drives me nuts! I guess she did pick the name though. :)

      • JLH1986

        ha ha. It’s funny depending on which Jen you are talking too. One friend would be irate if you spelled it Jen (She was a Jenn girl) then..Jenny or Jennie? I am not a fan of Jenny, but I was in the 5th or 6th grade when Forrest Gump came out so I heard “Jen-nay” for several years. Who knew there were so many dynamics to such a vanilla name?

      • KarenMS

        I named my daughter McKayla after my grandparents last name of McKay…and Grandma still spells it “Makayla.”

      • A-M

        My name is Anne-Marie, not that odd you would think? My French relatives all know how to spell it as it’s common over there, but I get a whole random assortment from the English ones. Annmari, Anna Maria, Anne Marree (Marree, who ever heard of that?) Anne Mari etc. Oh well, as long as they took the trouble to write out a birthday card, I don’t mind. Just don’t call me Anne!

      • Allyson_et_al

        I can so relate. I was born in 1969, and Allyson/Allison/Alison was the Jennifer of my time. When my son started preschool, there only 8 kids in his class, and 3 of the moms were Allyson, but each of us spelled it differently. No one ever spells my name right on the first try.

      • Marigold

        My sister feels your pain – also a 1969 baby. She’s Alison with one L. Not Allison, Allyson, Alicen, Allicen, Alysyn, Allycen, Alisson, or any other variant thereof.

      • CW

        My son’s name was #97 on the Social Security list the year he was born but there were FOUR other boys with the name in our park day playgroup alone. I would’ve been better off naming him Tyler (#16) or Dylan (#24) as there weren’t any boys with those names in his playgroup. So you never can tell the popularity of a given name in a particular social circle.

    • Kim Hunn Budnick

      I found my daughter’s name from a novel I read years ago. Loved it, even after it was made into a movie :) It’s not super strange but I get questioned ALL THE TIME! What does it mean? Is it a family name? Are you Irish/English/French/etc..? Sometimes I regret it but then I look at her and it just fits. Yes, she will probably have to spell it out and explain it for everyone but it’s hers.

      • itpainsme2say

        can i guess golden compass

      • Kim B

        Not even close. Her name is Siddalee. I found it in “The Divine Secrets of the Ya Ya Sisterhood.”

      • Sara

        I love that book and that name! It’s so pretty and it’s not something you see every day :)

      • itpainsme2say

        Oh I was thinking Lyra (sp.) because it was made into a movie recently and had vague origins. That’s a beautiful name btw.

      • Psych Student

        Oh, Lyra is pretty!

    • Cat

      Both my brother and I were named things other than what my parents had planned. It took them almost a week to name me because they just couldn’t decide and it was a home birth so no one was around to force the issue and my mum was still drugged up post cesarian when a nurse came by insisting on a name for my brother, who ended up named after the person who had just visited her. But really, the names they had “decided” on really wouldn’t have suited at all. I’m not a Lily and he’s not a Jackson, and thank goodness their plans weren’t set in stone.

    • jeanette

      I have baby name remorse, my husband and I toyed with so many names. Our first was Sadie anf that was it, never second guessed it. Our second o had much harder time. We waited until she wasbborn to finally pick. We choose Mazzy. I do like it. But I feel now that I love Gemma? Arg. But the paperwork, the whispers of family members. I am also tired of explaining where Mazzy comes from, I am getting a very strong vibe that other people are not fond of if! Maybe that is why I am doubting myself???

      • Bethany Ramos

        I love the name!

      • whiteroses

        It doesn’t matter if other people like it. If they want a different name, they can name their own kid.
        People HATED my son’s name until I finally looked at them and said, “It’s a good thing he’s not your son, isn’t it?”

    • gothicgaelicgirl

      I actually know a woman who renamed her baby FIVE TIMES before she was 6 months old.
      She was Tiffany when she was born.
      A few weeks later she was Shinola (I kid you not, I tried explaining that it was a brand of polish but hey, what do I know)
      Then she was Shakira
      Then she was Brittany

      Now she is a year old and is called Jade.
      She hasn’t been baptised yet though so I’e heard rumblings that the name might change again…

      • Williwaw

        Jade is the best of the lot, but it sounds like the odds of her staying Jade are not good….

      • ILoveJellybeans

        Poor kid, how is she ever supposed to learn what her name is if her parents keep changing it?

    • Sara

      One of my friends had her name changed at a few months old because infortunately there was a huge murder scandal at the time and she shared the name with the murderer and her family was getting hounded because the press in my town is really fucking stupid!

    • Blahblah

      I named my daughter because of a dream I had while doped up on the epidural. Now i realize it is impossible to pronounce and I do regret that. But I think her name suits her, and at least her nickname is cute. It’s still HER name.

    • CW

      We had a girl’s name picked out for our oldest but couldn’t decide on the spelling of it (think Elizabeth vs. Elisabeth). Then 3 weeks before she was born, I was watching Miss America and the lady who won had the less common spelling of the name. I took that as a sign and decided to go with that spelling. I soon came to regret choosing the less common spelling but it was too late. Stupid pregnancy hormones!

    • notorious

      Aacen? Did your cat walk across your keyboard? Little Liam there got lucky.

    • Jessica Scholze

      Or just don’t name your baby in a rush. We were supposed to send in papers to name our baby by 1 month, we didn’t so we’ll get mailed a $50 fine and take our sweet time. If we still haven’t picked a name in a year there is a $100 fine. No big deal. I was sure my baby would be Aurelia or Lyra, and when she came out she seemed so unlike anything I had imagined. We like the names Althea, Brunhilda (admittedly this is unusable) and Ombeline. We’re calling her Ombeline for now, and once we (meaning I) settle on a middle we’ll send those papers in. Until then we just can’t cross the border, but she’s still got health coverage under my name (Canadian healthcare).

    • maire

      For my second son, I could not get my husband to agree to any of the 50 out so names I suggested. The only one he would consider was Llyr, a Welsh name pronounced like Lear that means “the sea.” I preferred it as a middle name only, to much better names such as Alastair, Fintan, Ciaran, Colin…. And the 50 other names I suggested. The only one he wanted was Desmond, which I don’t like because it’s shortened to Desi. So we “compromised” on Llyr, and then argued over whether the middle name would be Desmond or Alastair. Then we compromised again and went with Callum. I don’t like Llyr Callum much at all. I tried to get him to change it to Leander around when he was 1. And I still think about changing his birth certificate from Callum to Alastair. Now my son is 19 months. He refers himself by name, so that’s settled. Every time someone asks me his name, I cringe, I have to repeat it twice and then spell it. Then I always say, “it wasn’t my idea!” Yep, I totally and completely have baby name regret. It’s hard when you can’t agree!

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    • Lauren Victoria

      The kid is so ridiculously lucky that his crackpot mother didn’t name him Aacen. That looks like the name of a vampire.