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10 Adults Who Think It’s Okay To Bully A 9-Year-Old For Wearing A My Little Pony Backpack

10014624_10151957275486615_1684752114_n__1395157840_142.196.167.223Last week, a little boy was told he could no longer carry his My Little Pony backpack to school because it was making him a target for bullies. So instead of punishing the bullies, the school made the choice to punish the victim of the bullying. Victim-blaming a nine-year-old; a new low. According to Facebook, a lot of adults think what the school did is just fine.

I hate blaming parents for everything, but these little bullies have to learn their behaviors from someone. I forget how many adults haven’t fully evolved. It’s a depressing thing to think about, but Facebook is always here to remind us just how awful adults can be.

The story is trending this week, so of course many adults are weighing in. Some of these comments are truly baffling. I can’t imagine being raised in an environment that is so blinded by gender stereotypes. I can’t imagine having a parent who would say mean things about a child in a public forum. Reading the following comments, I actually felt really bad for children who are learning from these adults. It’s just depressing.

1. “The pussification of men!”

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2. Kids should be independent thinkers, but not really.

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3. Kids need to kick more ass.

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4. What do you expect?

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5. You might as well let him drag a blankie to school.

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5. They can wear princess pony backpacks when they grow up.

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6. Be prepared to face the consequences.

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7. Man-up, nine-year-old!

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8. No father figure, obviously.

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9. God-jacking.

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10. I would pick on him, too!

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Good job, adults. Yeah, let’s not teach our children it’s good to be independent thinkers and that bullying is not okay. Let’s teach them to hide their interests so they don’t have to worry about getting beat up – or better yet – teach them to solve their problems with violence.

Can we evolve, please?

(photo: Facebook)

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  • Kelly

    I love how people say that kids need to get bullied to learn about the “real world.”

    Yeah, right, because it’s totally normal for me to get attacked because people don’t like my purse when I go outside. Yep, that’s normal adult behavior that we need to prepare kids for. *eye roll*

    • JAN

      THIS. In the “real world” you would file assault charges on the people laying hands on you.

    • SarahJesness

      Agreed. What about teaching the bullies acceptable behavior? The stuff we call “bullying” when kids do it is usually “harassment” in the adult world, and many non-school environments won’t tolerate it.

    • Allen

      This is what bugs me about bullying apologists who claim that it helps kids learn to deal with conflict. In the adult world, when conflict goes beyond what someone can deal with personally, the accepted thing to do is to involve a higher authority. People can report workplace harassment to HR, or consult a lawyer. People can be sued for libel or slander. People report assault and stalking to the police. So why should this stuff be treated like a rite of passage or a mere interpersonal conflict when it happens to kids?

    • brebay

      Exactly. You “tell” the authorities, and go through the system. But when a kid does it, it’s “tattling”

    • brebay

      Seriously! Anything that would carry a criminal charge if an adult did it in the workplace is NOT bullying, it’s battery! Bullying is “Hey, four-eyes,” Not a physical attack.

  • Kay_Sue

    I feel like at least #3 isn’t blaming the kid. It’s advocating violence and is totally distasteful…but not as bad (to me) as the rest. Still worthy of this list.

    The rest are just…well, I think I’m going back to bed and pulling the covers over my head for a while.

    • Kelly

      Number three really bothered me. I don’t like this trend I keep seeing where people casually blame the bullied kid because he or she can’t or won’t beat down the bully.

      A bully isn’t usually a smaller than average kid who will just fall down and cry because someone stands up to him. I tried to stand up to the kids who bullied me as a child, know what happened? I got the shit kicked out of me. Over and over again.

    • Kay_Sue

      Like I said, totally distasteful. But I did think it was a nice break from the victim-blaming in most of the others.

    • Kelly

      See, that’s where we disagree. I think it is victim blaming. It’s like saying, “Oh, kids should just not let themselves get bullied.”

      It’s the same thing as saying, “Oh, women should just not let themselves get raped.” That’s why it bothers me so much.

    • Kay_Sue

      I can see that, I suppose. But at the same time, I find the ‘what parents would let their kids wear this, it’s going to get them bullied’ mindset much more disturbing. I believe folks have a right to defend themselves if they choose, so I don’t see #3 the same as you do.

    • Kelly

      Folks have a right to defend themselves… Yeah, you’re totally missing my point.

      So, if some guy walks up to you and punches you in the face, you should have just not let him do that to you because you have the right to defend yourself, right? No. The right to defend yourself doesn’t mean we expect people to always be able to overpower and stop their attackers, especially when we’re talking about children.

    • Kay_Sue

      That’s not my point, either, Kelly. But it’s okay. I see that it’s easy to misconstrue. I didn’t see the commenter as saying “If only this kid had stopped this” so much as saying “If only schools allowed kids to do it, maybe there would be less bullies.” While I don’t agree with the sentiment, I don’t see it as victim-blaming. I’m approaching it from a different perspective than you are because I don’t have the experience with standing up to bullies that you are bringing to the table. So lacking that experience, my perception is colored by a different perspective. That was my entire point with my last comment. My interpretation of self defense colored my interpretation of the original Facebook post, not unlike how your own experience has led you to a different reading of the same words.

    • SarahJesness

      Yeah, kids are always discouraged from fighting back even when it could be the only option, and sometimes they’re punished when they actually do it. Sucks.

    • Kati

      Standing up to bullies only works for certain bullies and certain victims. I was bullied in middle school. She targeted me because I was little. What she couldn’t have known about me is that I had three older brothers, loved fighting (still do, and I’ve been boxing/rolling with the boys in MMA/earning my black belt since). Even though she had 30 lbs on me, I wasn’t afraid to fight her. In fact, I was ready to go. She backed down. The bullying by her and about 30 other girls stopped. It was great. However, even I can recognize that my bloodlust is uncommon amogst those targeted by assholes. However, creating a culture in a school where bullying is openly condemned by a bully’s peers is effective. Apparently, a lot of school districts haven’t gotten that memo.

    • SarahJesness

      Agreed. People really shouldn’t act like there’s one solution to bullying, because it depends on the bullies, the victims, and whoever is in charge. Fighting back is a bit more difficult if the bully is much bigger and/or has a lot of friends backing her up. Ignoring the bully can work, but not so much when it’s physical bullying. Telling a teacher can work, but only if the teacher has the power to do anything. (I’ve had a number of teachers who saw kids being picked on and wanted to do something, but couldn’t do shit because the school gave them no power to punish anyone. Though when that’s the case, it usually means you’re less likely to get in trouble for fighting back)

      I got called a lot of names and shit. Eventually I started insulting them back. I was considered a shy, quiet girl, so getting badly insulted by me in front of everyone was considered especially bad, and it would make them shut up for the rest of the day. If I had started doing that earlier, I bet it would’ve caused them to stop picking on me entirely. (but by the eighth grade, pretty much everyone had matured past that anyway) There was this one girl who liked to get right in my face and insult me, and one day I just pretended she wasn’t there and she freaked out, it was really funny. I never got attacked physically (though my friend did once, when she went up to a girl and told her to stop picking on me. I couldn’t do anything since the girl in question was really heavy and had about three or four friends with her) but if I did, I would’ve definitely fought back. (fight dirty. I’m too physically weak to do anything else)

  • Momma425

    7 and 10 are the same idiot man.

    • Alex Lee

      Here’s one to make up for the duplicate idiot:

    • G.S.

      *goes up to check*

      Yeah, that Jerry Bundy seems to be two scoops-full of Douchecanoe today, doesn’t he? And he’d pick on a kid a third his age for carrying a rainbow pencil case?! Would he pick on the kid for using a box of Crayolas, too?

      “All those bright, sorted-by-hue-and-colour crayons are fruity, kid! What are ya, some kind of baby homo?! Man up! Only colour in red, blue, and black! Maybe green and yellow. But that’s it! And make sure that’s what it says on the wrapper! None of this baby, girly “Robin’s Egg Blue” bullshit! And don’t you DARE arrange them to look like a rainbow, loser! Haha, I’m an emotionally-mature adult!”

    • http://fairlyoddmedia.com/ Frances Locke

      Some people are so dumb that one entry just doesn’t do them justice I suppose.

  • JLH1986

    Taking God out of the schools resulted in My Little Pony backpacks on boys…what?

    • Véronique Houde

      haha i was about to comment on that ;)

    • K.

      Yup.

    • Linzon

      Ponies are a gateway to Satan.

    • http://mother--bored.tumblr.com/ Aimee Ogden

      Twilight Sparkle? More like Twilight ALL HAIL OUR DARK LORD SATAN

    • pixie

      You mean Twilight ISN’T our Dark Lord Satan?

      Dammit, who have I been sacrificing all those animals and first born sons to then?

    • Kheldarson

      No, no, see the text got it wrong. We have to sacrifice to the cult of the Cullens first. THEN to Twilight Sparkle.

    • pixie

      Ah, so that’s where I went wrong!

    • aliceblue

      Well, ponies do have hooves and tails.

    • Courtney Lynn

      Thank you, THIS! As a Christian, it makes me scratch my head.

    • Natasha B

      Thanks, Obama.

    • G.S.

      My first thought was that it was sarcasm. My second thought was that I hoped it was sarcasm.

    • JJ

      Fine then I will send my kid to school with a graphic Jesus backpack of him on the cross hung up. Taking “bring God back into schools” very literal. Then if anyone says the backpack is not appropriate I can actually say, “your kicking Jesus out of the school system” as I leave down the hallway. :)

  • CMJ

    “I am against bullying BUT….”

    Classic. These people are all classic.

    • http://mother--bored.tumblr.com/ Aimee Ogden

      There are definitely three letters in the word “classic” that I feel apply here.

    • http://fairlyoddmedia.com/ Frances Locke

      Like my dad says, anything after butt is bullshit.

    • Williwaw

      “I am against bullying BUT I do enjoy doing it from time to time.”

    • JJ

      The same people who say this crap are the same people who say they wish days would go back to being the good old 1950′s when women stayed home with the family and knew their place, men worked and drank a lot after a long day of work and anybody who was a minority was seen as garbage who didn’t have any rights. Oh those good old days, huh, when we just let kids beat the snot out of each other and any boy who dare express sensitive emotion was fag or a sissy. Yeah what wasn’t great about those days(eye roll).

    • brebay

      These are the “I’m not racist…” people.

  • Ritalmumbai
  • Sexy Robotic Arms Dealer

    If you’re on Google Hangouts, type in the following for endless fun!

    /ponystream

  • Michelle Pittman

    there is an entire fandom dedicated to My Little Ponies — they’re in fact called Bronies — including lots & lots of boys from kids to young adults…quite a few of them in our youth group — i just don’t get why everyone was so up in arms about a kid’s backpack and thinking he would be (or deserve to be) bullied…http://th04.deviantart.net/fs71/PRE/i/2013/059/3/9/bronies_by_300bulletproof-d5wjpe9.jpg

    • G.S.

      But he’ll catch the gaaaaAAAAAAAaaaaaay!

      /sarcasm

  • keelhaulrose

    Alternate title: 10 assholes who think it’s okay to bully kids.

  • Plonk

    But he is nine ! He IS old enough to make his own decisions ! And if we’re talking about the bagpack in the picture, what on earth is the problem ?

  • Sexy Robotic Arms Dealer

    OK, bullying a 9 yr old boy, that’s bad. I get that.

    But if you’re a brony… I reserve my right to bully you incessantly till the cows come home. I don’t care what anyone says!

    http://3.bp.blogspot.com/-iIg7daG_GbM/UBjkUTYWobI/AAAAAAAAJ2Q/RkwHFXkIryI/s1600/600_144441862.jpeg

    • G.S.

      Oh, wow, people in costume. Lock up your kids, lock up your wife, it’s just total amorality in there. Yeah, I can totally see why this requires you to be a jerk to them. Good for you. You must feel so big today. *eye roll*

    • Kheldarson

      I think the OP was being sarcastic…

  • http://mother--bored.tumblr.com/ Aimee Ogden

    Yup, the #1 societal problem is “pussification”. Not violence, poverty, or advocating the bullying of small children – definitely pussification is the real problem here.

    Also as we all know, everything of value in society was created or discovered by men. Ada Lovelace, Hedy Lamarr, Grace Hopper, Rosalind Franklin, Marie and Irene Curie, Barbara McClintock, Rachel Carson, Cecilia Payne? ALL SECRETLY DUDES. MANLY, NON-PUSSIFIED DUDES.

    • K.

      Meanwhile, I would say that the problem with society is the dickification.

      I think I’m right.

    • Frannie

      I KNOW you’re right.

  • amber

    Why do we teach kids the world is an accepting place in school, and teach them to be respectful of others? Because one day they will be in charge of the world and you will be dead.

  • Rachel Sea

    If I were God-King of everything, I would round these people up and drop them on an uninhabited atoll to sort things out among themselves. A few years of them kicking each other in the “gnards” and they would effectively sterilize each other.

    • Psych Student

      Huzzah!

  • Frannie

    Oh for F***s sake. These are the same people who blame rape victims for wearing short skirts. Go ‘Merica!

  • pixie

    Some people *shakes head*

    I’ve had this conversation with my boyfriend before, because if we do get married and have kids, I want to be positive that if we have a son, he will love his son and nurture his son’s needs and interests regardless if they fit societal masculine conventions or not. What we both agreed upon is that we would love our son no matter what and would allow him to wear a dress or a My Little Pony backpack or paint his nails without question. If he wanted it, that’d be cool to us. We would, however, explain that there are people who might not understand why he likes his My Little Pony backpack or his sparkly pink shoes and might be mean to him, but it doesn’t make him a bad person for liking things that not all other boys like and he should never be ashamed. I wouldn’t tell him not to wear or do something, but to instead let him make that decision (and I’m hoping I don’t sound like I would be trying to influence that decision, because I would try very hard not to, but just place him in a bubble thinking that everyone is as open and accepting as myself and my boyfriend are)
    Even if I have children who fit societal gender norms, I plan on not hiding the realities of how intolerant some people are, but hopefully they will be surrounded by enough kind and accepting people in their lives to completely not give a fuck and continue rocking their own style.

    • Larkin

      That’s exactly our plan as well. I think it’s only fair to let the kid know that a choice may get them some negative attention, even if I personally think that choice is awesome.

      “I love your My Little Pony backpack, but some kids don’t get it when people do things that are different from what they would do, and they might say mean things to you at school. That doesn’t make you or your backpack any less awesome. Mom and Dad are OK with whatever decision you make, and we will always be here to help if people are mean to you. It’s up to you to decide.”

    • pixie

      Exactly! :D

    • Katherine Handcock

      Slow clap for the awesome way of explaining things to kids!

  • Larkin

    Gotta love how a nine-year-old boy with a My Little Pony backpack is “being held back emotionally by his parents,” while no one would think twice about a nine-year-old girl with a My Little Pony backpack. My niece is nine, and she loves My Little Pony… and she’s not emotionally stunted. It would never even occur to anyone to assume that. So weird how they made the leap to assuming it was some sort of comfort object that he NEEDED like a younger child, instead of just… y’know… a backpack with characters that he liked. Don’t most kids that age have backpacks and school supplies with their favorite things on them???

    • G.S.

      It’s not so much that it’s My Little Pony, but just the fact that it’s a “girl’s backpack” and thus, “inferior” to him having a “boy’s backpack.” The girl can have either a girl’s backpack or a boy’s backpack with no problems, but if a boy has a “girl’s backpack” he’s considered weird or messed up because WHY CAN’T HE SEE THAT BOY TOYS ARE BETTER?! HURRDURR!

    • gothicgaelicgirl

      THANK YOU!
      Why is it always in reverse for girls?
      My girls LOVE what is supposedly a boy’s tv show, Dragonball Z. It’s all about fighting, powering up, lots of shouting and punching and they LOVE IT!

      So much they’re saving to go to a convention to meet the guy who does most of the voices.
      I actually wrote a letter response to a guy who, in an anime magazine, said he believed anime (cartoons) like that should NOT be shown to girls because y’know, they’re made for boys, supposedly.

      Not only is my letter being published, it won star letter and a picture of the girls in all their anime gear will be printed too.

      So to find stereotyping STILL rampant just breaks my heart.
      Just as I think OK maybe I’ve done SOMETHING to open ONE person’s eyes, shit like this happens!

    • tSubh Dearg

      Slightly off topic but are you guys going to Shamrokon in August?
      http://www.shamrokon.ie/

      My friend is on the committee so I’ll probably be working the door.

    • gothicgaelicgirl

      oohhh looks interesting!
      We’re going to Nom Con and Eirtakon lol

    • tSubh Dearg

      Awesome. We’re probably going to take the Beau’s kids along since I’ll most likely be helping out, PLUS kids under 12 go free which means we only have to pay for 1 of them :D
      Actually must remember to get tickets for us before the price goes up again.

  • Jessieface

    I cant even read the tweets I am so incensed. I heard about this on the radio. What a power dynamic they are creating. A kid is being bullied for being a little different, lets tell him to be the same as everyone ‘for his own good’. You know what? This sends the message that his bullies were right. It puts his bully in an even greater place of power (because bullying is about power). “Look, i was an asshole to someone, and I kind of won…I wonder what else I can be an asshole about?” And what message does it send to this sweet boy who likes what he likes and is confident enough to broadcast it? “actually you were wrong for liking this…the kid who tortured you were right”. Nope. This begins a dangerous journey of self doubt and low self esteem. Instead of VICTIM BLAMING, we should be using this as a teachable moment FOR BOTH OF THEM. Teach kids that different people like different thing, and some people might make fun of you or tell you you are wrong for liking it – but you should be CONFIDENT in your choices. You don’t have to like what someone else likes, but you need to be respectful of their likes. Not caring what anyone else thinks is one of the most difficult things in life – as adults most of us still struggle with this on the daily. But the foundation work needs to be laid early, and this, THIS seems like the perfect oppurtunity.

  • Elisabeth TheQueen Smith

    how about not teaching your kids to be complete assholes? Let the kid wear whatever he wants to school.

    and anything before the ‘but’ in a sentence doesn’t count

  • Danyelle

    I can’t believe people these days. Such double standards, prepare them for the real world? WTF? I do not recall having any of my fashion choices remarked upon as an adult, let alone any sort of bullying, teasing, or especially physical repurcussions enacted towards me. That would be crossing the line into assault territory, and these bullies need to be made aware of that. I am 100% certain that school is really regretting their stance by now.
    On a side note that shows my own maturity level, all I could think of #3 was Man I know quite a few people that need a kick to the knards. Lol.

  • Kati

    My only concern about this is I hope that by enlisting the help of social media, the boy isn’t at the center of a spectacle. I can’t be the only person who was horrified by my parent’s intervention into problems at school, can I? In fact, my dad marching down to yell at my teacher about an incident I mentioned to him is the reason I didn’t tell my parents when I was getting bullied or any time I had an issue in school thereafter. I’m pretty sure I’m not the first kid whose instinct was to never involve my parents in my problems again for fear of embarrassment in front of my peers. I see why the mom turned to social media. We’ve seen they it’s been an effective tool for social activism. I don ‘t think there are simple answers, though, about the effect that putting an issue like this such a public platform has on the kid. However, would the mom be able to effect change if she didn’t publicly involve her son? Again, not a simple answer.

    • Kheldarson

      Well, I know when my mom got involved with issues at school, I was embarrassed, but felt relieved anyway. It generally meant things were beyond what I could handle. It’s the same premise as going to HR as an adult.

    • Kati

      That’s the way it used to be, like going to HR. Now, it’s like going to HR but having that mtg broadcast school and nationwide. Again, I’m nit saying it’s wrong she’s using such a public platform, I’m just sayin that we’re entering a new era where lots of issues are handled like this ( sometimes, with great success. Never underestimate the power of group pressure, just look at subway and the yoga mat chemical thing that recently unfolded). I think we simply need to be conscious of the fact that making things so public can have a profound effect on the kids involved. My past experiences would make me think long and hard about turning my child into a cause, even if I thought I could make a large impact by doing so, others may feel completely differently. I just think it should be part of the discussion.

    • Kheldarson

      It’s more like going to the HR meeting, being told your concerns are invalid so get back to work, and then you turn to the media because nobody else will listen.

      Yes, mom needs to be concerned about the effect this might have on her child, but in the original article, it seemed he was ready and willing to stand up for what’s right, no matter what. They’re standing against the bullies of the school and school system publically. Honestly, this would’ve been found by the internet no matter what.

    • Kati

      Again, it’s not that I said she was wrong to do so or that it didn’t help her cause. This kid may have no problem with the notoriety but other kids kids might. We all know that there can be a downside to notoriety. For all the comments in support of him, there are still asshats insulting a 9 yr old boy on public forums for his awesome backpack. It’s just something that parents should consider before clicking the share button.

    • Kheldarson

      Right, but the mom and child involved obviously are willing to deal with Internet trolls. To a great extent, they matter less than the real life bullies.

      I do get what you’re saying though. I wouldn’t have wanted my mom going to the media with my bullying. But I also backed down from them and tried to change my behavior to suit to a degree. Of course, it didn’t matter; they still teased. But that was my response, and mom’s responses were in keeping with that.

      But the same thing is being done here by this mom: she’s taken her cue from her son.

    • Williwaw

      Agreed. I told my mom about being bullied (both physically and psychologically) and the main perpetrator got a suspension for a few days…but I was the loser in the end because everyone in my grade hated me after that. I never told my mom about being bullied again (at least, not till long after the fact, when she could no longer act on it).

    • Kati

      Yeah, I think that’s pretty common, not to tell parents for fear of embarrassment. It’s such a delicate thing to handle. You want to help your children however you can but you want to do it in a way that will make sure they seek your help in the future.

  • Kheldarson

    I love the “no father figure” lines. Wonder what they would say if this were to happen with my family, where my husband’s a brony? Bronies aren’t just kids and teens!

    • G.S.

      Probably something along the lines of, “What the hell kind of grown man would watch a show made for 6 year-old girls?! Is he a pedophile, or something? CREEP!”

      (But in all honesty, I’m sure your husband is a stand-up guy.)

    • Kheldarson

      Lol! Probably.

      And he’s the best guy. A self-admitted troll, but even he knows better than to bully a kid!

      (You only troll friends and internet jerks. The former either ignore you or troll back, the latter get pissed.)

    • gothicgaelicgirl

      Well I’m 23 and am saving for the entire Hamtaro DVD collection.
      So…does that make me creepy? =P
      Always one rule for girls and another for boys!

    • G.S.

      THERE’S AN ENTIRE HAMTARO DVD COLLECTION?! :D *rushes off to Amazon to see*

    • gothicgaelicgirl

      hurrah for anime nerds!

    • Joye77

      When I went to a family function and saw my 27 year old brother with a vintage MLP shirt on my 9 year old brony son was thrilled. Bronies are awesome!

  • Joye77

    As the mom of a 9 year old self described brony these comments sadden and sicken me.

  • whiteroses

    I take it these people have never heard of “Bronies”, then?

  • March

    It’s really funny how often people confuse “the Internet” and “the real world”. Maybe because so many of them only ever open their mouths in the safe anonymity of the former.

  • CandaceB

    I wonder what these people would think if I told them that my 1st grade son was teased over his Iron Man backpack by older kids. Judging by their posts, my child should have been golden. After all, you can’t get much more stereotypical than a little boy with a super hero backpack. The teasing bothered him enough that he asked to get a new plain backpack a few months into the school year. Bullies will bully, and that is where the problem lies. Period.

  • scooby23

    You know, Russ, I think the REAL “wuss babies” are people who basically show their fear of boys/men who dare to not punch with a Superman toy daily and drink metal nails and motor rust smoothies for breakfast are “wuss babies,” but what do I know?

  • Jayess
  • http://fairlyoddmedia.com/ Frances Locke

    People like Anna Marie are the types who would be totally okay with a national religion (Christian, of course) and people being punished for not believing.

  • Williwaw

    You can tell which end of the bullying Mr. “Pussification” and all those other assholes were on when they were kids.

  • Williwaw

    If I were a guy, I would totally buy a My Little Pony backpack and take it with me everywhere, just to show my support. (As a female, I could do that too, but I don’t think it would have the same effect on people.)

  • gothicgaelicgirl

    How about you teach your kids not to be little bullying shits?

  • brebay

    Ugh. This theory of the little kid punching the big bully in the face and the big bully running away is just nonsense. That little kid is going to get his ass kicked! Have these people never heard of prison?

    • gothicgaelicgirl

      yeah i hate to say it, from personal experience, this whole- stand up to them bull does NOT work.
      the only thing that works are actual threats or involving a parent/teacher.

      I am ashamed to say I HAVE threatened a child who was bullying my stepdaughter. She was being a truly horrendous child, texting my 10 year old stepdaughter saying she (S.Daughter) was the reason her mother and father broke up, that she should kill herself and that’d make everyone happy.

      This child’s mother WILL NOT LISTEN and is very much in the “My daughter shits unicorns” group.

      So when I checked the S.D.’s phone and saw a text from this brat saying that everyone hates my S.D and to run away and kill herself again, the next time I saw her I told her to stop texting her, stop bullying her and if she ever came near her again, I’d make her sorry because the Guards were the next step, and if they didn’t work, I’D sort her out.

      Yes, I probably should not have reacted the way I did but this poor child for a long time DID blame herself for her parents splitting, and I just saw red after trying for months to get through to her mother.

    • brebay

      I totally have too. The kid was so much bigger than my kid. I didn’t touch him or threaten him, but I did scare the shit out of him. The school took it really seriously, but this kid knew that they couldn’t touch him and just wasn’t afraid of anything else. He laughed at the principal, he’d been suspended so many times, he just didn’t care. I basically just let him know his life would be much easier if he found a new victim. The sad fact is, when you’re talking about a seriously disturbed child not just a schoolyard bully, the only thing they really do respond to is a bigger, meaner bully. I only did it once, but it did work.

    • gothicgaelicgirl

      thank god I’m not the only one.
      I did cry when I got home because I thought I was being a horrible person to an 11 year old girl.
      Until the stepdaughter came home and said the girl hadn’t come near her in days.

      Then I realised OK,maybe this time, I DID need to be the bitch.

      Kids know now that they cannot be touched, but I made it clear to my kids that while it’s sometimes necessary for a parent to get involved, they should NEVER threaten someone, EVER.

      They know, at the end of the day, that I am an adult and their parent and I am allowed to do certain things, as an adult, that they are NOT allowed to do.

    • pixie

      If I were that kid, I’d have probably shit myself. No lies. There’s something about Irish people when they’re angry that is completely frightening (got a lot of Irish in me, myself, and I’m pretty scary when I’m mad). I’ve never seen my very Irish riding coach completely pissed before, but I have had her give me a slight telling off and seen her give others a huge telling off and it’s very frightening!

    • gothicgaelicgirl

      lol I’m actually quite calm and quiet most of the time, but mess with the kids and I will go scary Irish Mammy on you, complete with disapproving finger waving. =P

    • pixie

      Disapproving finger waving is the BEST! :P

    • gothicgaelicgirl

      All I need is a wooden spoon and I’m sorted lol

    • G.S.

      No, no, I’d totally have reacted that way too. Telling/texting someone that they should kill themselves IS a criminal offense (encouraging suicide), and just an all around really shitty and dangerous thing to do, so I definitely would have went off and made it clear that I would have gotten the cops involved if it didn’t stop immediately.

    • gothicgaelicgirl

      I understand the bully has a hard homelife too, but to try use triggering language.
      I have had experience with suicide, both on my end and sadly lost my best friend to it, so someone even joking about it is enough for me to react like a demon.

      The worst thing is, in Ireland, the only time a child can be brought before a judge for criminal behaviour, is when they turn 14!
      I was actually told by a Garda that unless I was raped, or stabbed I had no standing in court until the kid turns 14. This was against a 12 year old who keeps harassing me and threw firecrackers at me twice.

      So lord knows, I’m waiting for that day in court when ALL of my reports and complaints will be brought against him.

    • Jezebeelzebub

      If that kind of bullying ever happens to my child, I’m going to prison. I’ll be there for a long time on multiple homicide raps. That’s just how it is. I marvel at your discretion, because nowhere did you mention hitting that kid’s mom in the face with a brick 45 times.

    • gothicgaelicgirl

      I admit, slapping her with a pirhana studded plank did cross my mind…

  • http://wtfihaveakid.blogspot.ca/ jendra_berri

    Bronies are everywhere, man. They’re here, they like sparkly ponies, get used to it.

    Just watched the Bronies documentary, actually. Check out the Facebook page for tons of dudes loving the show. The show actually looks like quality programming. I think it’s kinda great that males these days are feeling less and less confined by only traditionally masculine and aggressive entertainment.
    Fuck that school and those retrograde jackasses.

  • C.J.

    I’m really not surprised by this. Of all the children I know that have been bullied I don’t know one single child that had a school really do anything about the bully.

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