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You Should Feel Nothing But Compassion For Dying, Homophobic WBC Leader

shutterstock_37314790I know that the title of this post alone is going to get a lot of angry responses, but please give me a moment to read it with an open mind.

I am not pro-Westboro Baptist Church by any stretch of the imagination. I completely agree that Westboro Baptist and all it stands for—namely, its incredibly hateful anti-gay agenda—is the worst of the worst, the scum of the earth, the most terrible representation of anything that has the audacity to call itself “religion.”

But when I learned that the founder of this hateful religious group, Rev. Fred Phelps Sr., was dying, I felt nothing but sadness and compassion for him.

According to the Washington Post:

Phelps, 84, is being cared for in a Shawnee County facility, Westboro Baptist Church spokesman Steve Drain said Sunday. Drain would not identify the facility.

Westboro Baptist Church is described as:

Members of the Westboro church, based in Topeka, frequently protest at the funerals of soldiers. They carry signs with messages such as “Thank God for dead soldiers” and “Thank God for 9/11,” and they say the deaths are God’s punishment for American immorality and tolerance of homosexuality and abortion.

Everything that the Westboro Baptist Church stands for is disgusting, and I’m sad that they bring God into the equation. I think people are smart enough to know that this is an outrageous hate group that shouldn’t be confused with mainstream Christianity.

That being said, when I heard that Rev. Phelps was at the end of his life, my first reaction wasn’t: HA, he got what he deserved. My reaction was: How sad that this man has spent his entire life making himself and other people miserable and sorely misrepresenting God.

I think Fred Phelps’ entire existence is truly pathetic. Hearing what he and his “church” have done upsets me, but it doesn’t make me hate him and believe that he should be burned at the stake. You may believe in God or not, but I also don’t think it is fair to say that “God will punish him.” That doesn’t make us any better than him in his hateful judgment of everyone he encounters.

Fred Phelps is dying, and evidenced by his life, he is a very unhappy man. To add insult to injury, his estranged son reveals that his father was also excommunicated from his own church in August 2013. This man is alone and completely hated at the end of his life. He has done unspeakable, unforgivable things, but I feel nothing but compassion for him.

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  • JLH1986

    If this man can be so hateful to strangers, I cannot imagine the hate that he has for people he does know. I don’t feel sorry for him, as death is a part of life. However, I can’t go so far as to say I feel compassion for him. We reap what we sow. He lead an ugly hate filled life and now in his final days he finds himself alone. Is it sad? yes. It’s sad that no one appears to be mourning his loss. But again, I wonder what was happening behind closed doors if he is that willing to be so hateful openly?

    • wonderstruck

      I also agree that I can’t say I feel compassion for him – he spent his life trying to make others feel ashamed, hated, and fearful. We reap what we sow is the perfect way of describing it.

    • JLH1986

      I tell my clients that if you put positive out, you’ll get positive back. It might take a while but it happens. If you put negative out, you’ll get negative back. This is what happened to him.

    • Bethany Ramos

      Just for arguments sake… And this is probably going to sound very “hippie” of me, but I think the ability to extend compassion to someone like this is us putting positivity back out there, as you described.

    • wonderstruck

      Well, maybe the people who can do that are better for it, but I can’t/don’t want to. When you think of all the people he has hurt – what he has put mourning family members through after the death of their loved ones…I can’t put any positivity or compassion out there for him.

    • http://Mommyish.com/ Eve Vawter

      I feel the same way, I am all like hey it’s nice you guys have compassion but I don’t wanna for hiiiiiiiiiim

    • JLH1986

      I would agree. And that’s not hippie at all. I would like to strive to be a person who can be that compassionate (seriously kudos). But I’m not there. I won’t wish his death, nor will I wish it be a painful drawn out thing. I hope his eventual death is quick and painless (something I think we all deserve, but rarely get). But I am having a hell of a hard time feeling compassion for this man. I’m hoping one day I can find that place in me. But today? I’m not there.

    • brebay

      He was 84….it took a pretty long time for something that happens to everyone to happen to him.

    • whiteroses

      When my godson gets picked on in school, I always tell him that everyone eventually gets exactly what they deserve. It may not be today, it may not be tomorrow, but it always happens eventually. And if you’re very, very lucky- God lets you be around to witness it. I think this is exactly what’s happening here.

      Nobody deserves to die alone, but he is. And he’ll have a lot to answer for. Maybe that’s justice of a sort for all the pain he caused.

    • JLH1986

      Agreed. Karma is a bigger bitch than I can ever be. She’s also not likely to forget.

  • http://Mommyish.com/ Eve Vawter
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  • CMJ

    Nope. I got nothing. I feel nothing. No compassion. No Sympathy. This guy blows.

    http://the-gaggle.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/08/willy-wonka-you-get-nothing.gif

    • http://Mommyish.com/ Eve Vawter

      Yeah.. I cannot do it. I appreciate how nice Bethany is but I will probably have a personal big party when he dies.

    • pixie

      Will it include tacos? Because if so, I’m there!

    • http://Mommyish.com/ Eve Vawter

      ALWAYS

    • pixie

      YAY FOR TACOS!

    • CMJ
    • pixie

      That was quite possibly my favourite line of the entire series!
      I’m upset that I can’t find the last season online :(

    • jane

      First of all, I am always up for a taco. So Phelp’s death is really more of an excuse than anything.

      But I mostly agree with Bethany. I’m not sure I feel “compassion” but sadness. Sadness for his sad little life, sadness for standing so obviously on the wrong side of history and morality, sadness that he lost all that he should have valued in his single-minded passion for hatred. And I am grateful that Phelps existed, only because he stands as a reminder for what we can become when fanaticism takes over our lives. In the end, Phelps angered many people, but truly took nothing away from them; not the love they had for those they lost, not the love between gay partners or gay people and their children, not love for gay people from a just god (if you believe in that kind of thing) not even legal rights of gay people. But in trying to take those things, he lost everything. We all die in the end, but what a pathetic life to have left behind.

    • pixie

      Oh yeah, I agree with you, I just want an excuse for tacos as well.

    • Bethany Ramos

      YES.

    • Bethany Ramos

      I promise you that I am not BSing on this one. He is a truly disgusting person, but I feel sad for anyone that ends life like this – whether they’re a drug addict or Hitler. It’s sad that his entire life was filled with hate, and he definitely created his own hell on earth.

    • http://Mommyish.com/ Eve Vawter

      I am not sure he created his own hell. I think he was happy to spew his bile and his hate filled bigotry and I think it probably gave him great job to cause so much misery. He was all YOLO I am gonna be a total hate mongering asshole.

    • Bethany Ramos

      Nah, there’s no way he could be happy. Hate breeds hate. His life was terrible.

    • http://Mommyish.com/ Eve Vawter

      I hope his funeral gets picketed hard

    • Tinyfaeri

      I hope no one cares enough to have one for him. I’m trying to feel guilty about typing that, and failing.

    • wonderstruck

      That would be amazing!

    • candyvines

      I disagree – I hope no one pays him any more attention. Funerals are for the people left behind, not the deceased. Let’s not stoop to this man’s level.

    • Alicia Kiner

      This definitely needs to happened. All those soldiers’ families need to do this!! Payback’s a bitch! And that’s so not nice, Alicia. bad, bad, bad girl.

    • Ddaisy

      I disagree. Picketing his funeral wouldn’t serve any good. It wouldn’t achieve anything at all, except sowing more hate and anger. Why should anyone else sink to his level?

      The best way to fight against his message of hate is just to go on living happy, respectful, equal-right-loving lives.

    • Angela

      Sorry, but picketing a funeral is wrong no matter how much you disagree with the person who died. And more picketing would just be evidence of more hate living on. I would prefer that his hate die with him.

    • a_narwhal

      What’s to picket? Picketing is for things you don’t like and disagree with. I say break out the party hats and noise makers and have a great big celebration that they world has one less huge hate-mongering asshole in it.

    • Snipe

      Why not have a party instead? Sounds much more fun, and it would probably cause him to spin in his grave. Two birds with one stone.

    • Momma425

      It is sad- but the people he hurt with his venom and hate is more sad. It is those people that I feel compassion for.

    • SmrtGrl86

      Having been involved with conducting a veterans funeral and worrying if these idiots would show up and protest (they threatened to) that fucker can go rot in hell.

  • K.

    You’re a better person than me. I’m by no means dancing on Phelps’ grave, but I don’t feel sorry that he’s gone, nor do I feel remorse for the fact that he created his own sadness, anger, and isolation.

    And let’s get something straight: WBC was not JUST spreading anti-gay propaganda. They were also deliberately and callously using the deaths of children and American servicemen and women (among others), railroading over any sense of decency and compassion for those who were in mourning.

    So, speaking of dancing on others’ graves, we are better off no longer having their example.

    • Alicia Kiner

      I’m pretty much with you. Everyone- and I mean every single person on this planet – dies. How we live is pretty much up to us. The “church” he led brought hate speech to funerals of so many people who didn’t deserve it. This group threatened to protest at the funerals of children who died in a house fire near my home. I do believe that whatever you put out comes back on you. Karma, Heaven, Hell, Justice, whatever you call it. It’s all the same in the end.

    • keelhaulrose

      Spot on.
      I ran into Phelps and crew over a decade ago at a gay convention. That wasn’t a big deal, we walked past (a few may have held hands or kissed to get them riled up) and mostly ignored them until someone started collecting pledges for an LGBT center based on how long they protested. They left soon after. It didn’t bother us, we saw them as a group of hateful jerks but they weren’t going to wreck our good time because we were strong enough to block them out.
      But they crossed every line possible when they started protesting funerals. No should see that hate on the day they’re saying goodbye to someone they love.
      I’ll save my compassion for the people they’ve hurt. I won’t celebrate Phelps’ death, but I won’t be sorry he’s gone.

    • Lilly
  • Jessica Miller

    It’s called reaping what was sown. If you don’t want to die alone, live your life in such a way that somebody will want to be by your side.

    • jane

      I agree wholeheartedly. I don’t blame a soul for not being there. But I can still feel compassion for a person whose capacity for hatred was so much more than his capacity for love. How pitiful.

  • pixie

    I don’t personally believe in the Christian manifestation of God (I identify as atheist), but I do hope for Phelps’ sake that if there is a God, he or she is a forgiving and merciful being. I know there’s a ton of manifestations, but in high school I was taught that the Christian God was supposed to be kind and merciful, unlike the God of the old testament (no offence to my Hebrew friends) who was usually seen as jealous and vengeful.

    That being said, Phelps is truly a disgusting man and all I feel for him is pity. Pity that he had such a narrow-minded view of the world and pity that he couldn’t encompass the true values of the faith and God he supposedly followed. It’s sad that he’s dying alone and despised, yes, but he alienated himself through his hateful words and actions from people who could have cared about him in his old age.

  • Elizabeth

    Does anyone listen to the Moth storytelling programme on the radio? This reminds me of a story told by an 80-something year old man about how he came to forgive the man who broke into his daughter’s house, robbed her, strangled her to death, and raped her. It was incredibly sad an incredibly moving. I’m tearing up just thinking of it. If I can find the link, I’ll post it.

    eta: http://themoth.org/posts/storytellers/hector-black

  • Maria Guido

    I have no compassion for this man. He made his bed, now he’s lying in it. If anything, it reassures me that karma and the law of attraction is real – and comforts me quite a bit.

  • Tinyfaeri

    You’re a better gal than I am. I usually try not to judge, but I can’t say the world will not be a better place without him in it, because it will. It will have a little less hate in it. And hopefully his church will fizzle out without him in it. I’m glad that he doesn’t have as strong a following because at least there’s no chance he’ll be a martyr to strengthen his cause. If anyone has earned dying without anyone mourning him, it’s this man who has done nothing but cause so much pain and suffering for innocent people (families of soldiers, families of shooting victims, victims of Katrina, and the list goes on) who had nothing to do with the people he actually hates.

  • Alex

    Screw compassion. I feel nothing but joy and happiness that he’s dying, hopefully very painfully with lots of suffering.

  • Paul White

    I’m sad he’s wasted the last couple decades of his life but I’m not going to mourn his passing either.

  • Kendra

    And I am a terrible person, because my first thought was “I hope someone pickets his funeral”.

  • Liz

    Only the good die young and all that.

    I really don’t want to sink to his level by hating his guts… but I’m not sorry he’s dying. I am sorry for the estranged family members that will not get to say goodbye to him. I am sorry to the people he has impacted with his hateful ways. But I’m not sorry he’s dying and I won’t be sad if people picket his funeral or have gay orgies on his grave. It’s depressing to say, but his death would help make the world a better place, even if it’s depressing as hell to me that the WBC isn’t dying with him.

  • Sam Inoue

    I certainly don’t feel compassion, he destroyed other people’s funerals for his vicious beliefs. Death is sad for any family, but this man does not deserve your compassion. He decide to live his life in a hateful and judgmental way. He is a terrible person who has caused intense pain and sadness for so many other people over the years he deserves exactly what he is getting. I don’t normally hate people, I normally try to see the good, but I never have and never will see any good in Phelps. He spent his life misrepresenting God and I very much hope people don’t forget this when he dies and pretend he wasn’t the scum of humanity simply because he died.

    • Bethany Ramos

      Respectfully disagree. I believe that everyone deserves compassion, especially since it is the opposite of what this man stood for.

    • Sam Inoue

      That is exactly the problem, he never had compassion so I see no reason why anyone would return the favor. Of course you obviously can have compassion for him, I suspect you will be in the vast minority on that though. Its hard to get past causing more grief for parents who are burying their children. The thing about death is compassion for him isn’t all that important, death is really more about sympathy for the family who has lost someone which is sad for them as this is someone they love.

    • Kelly

      That attitude is part of the reason why evil people get so many opportunities to do more evil though. The “good” people won’t just abandon them to the miserable fate they created and “bad” people love taking advantage of other people’s kindness and compassion.

      Your energy is better spent elsewhere. This man doesn’t appreciate your warm feelings and would only use the shit out of them to further his agenda and hurt you just for shits and giggles.

    • thebadlydrawnfox

      Perhaps everyone deserves a minimum level of compassion, but they cannot ask for it from those they have harmed. Fred Phelps has done a great deal of harm to a great deal of people, both directly and indirectly.

      I feel like it somehow dismisses their hurt to ask for their compassion. Not everyone finds peace in forgiveness.

      As for me… I do not wish harm on him, but death after a long life is not a harm, it’s an inevitability. I am not sorry to see him go.

    • Bethany Ramos

      I appreciate your point of view, but I definitely don’t agree that this dismisses hurt in any way. If anything, this sets a better example of ending a cycle of hatred. Just my opinion.

    • thebadlydrawnfox

      Your compassion definitely absolutely doesn’t dismiss anyone’s hurt.

      To ask for compassion, for example, from the loved ones of people whose funerals WBC picketed… I don’t know if it does or doesn’t, but I feel like it might. I have known people who have been badly hurt, and even the suggestion that I have compassion for those that hurt them has caused a lot of upset.

      It is always a tricky area when someone who has caused a lot of damage dies. I don’t know if you saw the response in the UK when Margaret Thatcher died, but it was pretty brutal. I wasn’t around when Thatcher was PM, so I felt like I couldn’t chastise those celebrating, but it made me very uncomfortable.

    • Bethany Ramos

      Yes, that makes sense. :)

  • GuestSpeaker

    Honestly, I can see where you’re coming from. Pain is pain and suffering is suffering, regardless of whether or not it is deserved. I also feel compassion for him in that he will now have to answer to God for what he has done and I also feel for him in that I cannot begin to imagine what has happened to him in his life to lead him to do what he does. Just my opinion and worth exactly what you’ve all paid for it… ;-)

  • Valerie

    I am with you. Although I only feel a little compassion- I mostly feel pity and sadness that anyone would dedicate their life’s work to hating others and marginalizing them. I can’t imagine how awful it would be if he had a lucid moment at the end and realized what his life had meant to the rest of the world. And I am also sad to think what led him down this road to begin with. Yes, he is a vile piece of shit and the world will be better off without him and the agenda he promotes but it is still sad that anyone would spend their life the way that he has. Something led him that way whether it was in his own heart or from outside sources. I just hate to think of that kind of darkness regardless of its beginnings.

  • NotTakenNotAvailable

    Good for you if you can get past this asshole’s assholery. I couldn’t help but wonder what part your faith played in your opinion–as I’m given to understand it, Jesus was all about compassion and pity, even though his followers (see the very subject of this article) sometimes blaze straight past that message.

    Me, personally, insofar as I had any religious education at all, was raised strictly Old Testament…eye for an eye and so forth. I’ve also heard that there are some sects of Judaism that embraced the concept of an afterlife so hard that they believe heaven and hell are divided by a wall, and the righteous people who went to heaven can grab some popcorn, sit on the wall, and watch all the evildoers being tormented in hell. In short, I come from a group of people who believe that you should only turn the other cheek if it gives you an opportunity to wind up a knockout roundhouse punch. So when I heard that Phelps was dying alone in mental anguish, all I could do was smile grimly and think, “Good.”

    • Bethany Ramos

      Yes, my faith plays a part in my perspective, but I promise you that I came to this point of compassion on my own, not because I was told to by religion. I know that Christian churches always tell people to forgive, but I really wasn’t going for that in this post. The more that I have gotten to know God outside of religion, I truly believe He is kind and not judgmental, pretty much the opposite of Fred Phelps. It just makes me sad that Fred was never able to realize that.

    • NotTakenNotAvailable

      You definitely don’t strike me as the type to believe or say that you believe something just because your religion said to! I was just wondering if that had shaped your view at all, because even though I identify as an atheist, I know the faith my family subscribes to is pretty spiteful, and I can see how it’s informed some of my views on moral issues. I know if I weren’t an atheist, I’d probably lean toward the Old Testament God who was something of a judgmental jerk. But I agree with you that it is sad that someone who professes to believe in God–presumably the kinder, loving God that my people would have a hard time accepting–was never able to embrace His message.

    • Bethany Ramos

      Thanks!! I was only pointing that out because so many people say these cheesy things from church, and that’s what I was trying to avoid. Haha :)

    • NotTakenNotAvailable

      Oh, trust me, I grew up with some of those cheeseballs. I’ve become an expert on sincere, informed thoughts vs. “my pastor said if I don’t think this way, I’m going to hell.” :(

  • Katherine Handcock

    When you have a husband who is a minister, you get to hear a lot of interesting theological opinions. One he told me about was this: if you approach the world from a belief that there is a God, and that when you die, you will be with that being, it follows that when you die, the fallacies and frailties of “human-ness” fall away and all that is left is the spirit. That spirit suddenly sees not only the face of the divine, but also all of the hate and hurt you left behind, whether accidental or deliberate. From this point of view, THAT is what hell is: the sudden realization of all the terrible things you have done — and the fact that you can never make up for them.

    It should always be a cause for sadness when a person’s life ends before they come to this realization on their own, and a cause for joy when someone realizes it in life and tries to make up for what they have done. You can have compassion for what is happening to this person while still acknowledging that his life’s cause was horrible.

    • Bethany Ramos

      Thank you for this!

  • Alene

    Thank you for this. Having compassion only for people we like, agree with, and support completely misses the point.

  • ZenBender

    There is a part of me that is glad he won’t be around to damage anyone else with his reckless hatred anymore, but what a sad wasted life he has led. Instead of finding joy and living with real purpose, he has spread malice and hurt.

  • Rachel Sea

    The WBC is the only thing on which the whole country can agree. He is a horrible man, and the world will be a tiny bit better when he’s gone.

    I’m not going to picket his funeral or dance on his grave or anything, but I don’t feel sorry for him. Lots of people have fucked up childhoods without becoming the anti-charismatic leader of a cult based on hated, abuse, and oppression. The fact that he bred himself a following makes it even worse.

    I hope when he’s gone that more of his kids and grandkids are able to rejoin the rest of us in the real world.

  • Williwaw

    If I were a nurse or doctor assigned to care for this man as he was dying, I hope I would do my duty and make him as comfortable as possible because I like to think I am a civilized decent person. However, I have zero compassion for this piece of shit. He chose to live his life causing misery to others who had never harmed him. He chose to make the world a worse place. He delighted in making the suffering of the newly bereaved even worse. I’m also sure that although most Christians of all denominations didn’t agree with his venom, he probably did convert a few other assholes to his brand of hate. I don’t believe in any kind of god, but I have no issue with those who
    do, unless the god they promote is just a hideous reflection of their
    own inner ugliness. This guy did no good that I know of and did a hell of a lot of evil.
    I’ll save my compassion for the generation of children in Syria growing
    up in a war zone, for people with painful or fatal illnesses, people
    who have lost loved ones, people who are persecuted for religion, race, sexual orientation, or whatnot – in short, any of the millions of human beings
    who actually deserve compassion because they have not devoted their entire existence to making others suffer.

    • Kelly

      I’d refuse him as a patient. Seriously, I’d rather lose my job than interact with him at all.

    • CaneCorsoMom

      Oh, I’m sure the nurses/staff are doing the absolute bare minimum for him. Most nursing homes do the bare minimum for patients they LIKE.

  • http://wtfihaveakid.blogspot.ca/ jendra_berri

    When he’s dead, I’m donating to an AIDS charity in his name.

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  • airbones

    Not a GIF, but:

    • http://Mommyish.com/ Eve Vawter

      that is so beautiful

  • Kelly

    I guess my feelings are wrong then. Funny, my therapist tells me that my feelings can never be wrong, only my actions.

    But, I felt relief and happiness at the news that he’s dying. The world will be just the tiniest bit better without him in it. I don’t see how my feelings on the subject could ever make me just as bad as him unless I created a church and organized people to go scream at random people mourning loved ones over it.

  • Ptownsteveschick

    Emotional responses like hate, happiness, compassion, grave dancing, they are all wasted on someone who I feel like has been a complete waste of life on this Earth. So I choose to feel nothing, because he isn’t worth the tiny amount of effort it takes, and his death is met with a resounding MEH from me.

  • Ash

    I should feel compassion for a dying man. I -should-. But I don’t.

    Now, I’m not going to make a huge post about dancing on his grave and celebrating, because I don’t feel that way. I’m going to ignore him, his hate-filled followers, and their ignorant words. Because they want attention and I’d like to deny them all this, even in Phelp’s final hours.

  • Jayamama

    You’re obviously a better person than I am. I grew up in Kansas, and these people were everywhere. They even protested my brother’s graduation from KSU because they have a LBGT group at the college.

    That being said, who’s organizing the picket of his funeral? I’d almost fly home to attend, wearing rainbow and holding a sign that says “God loves EVERYONE, even homophobic a$$holes.”

  • CaneCorsoMom

    Is anyone else remotely curious what he did to be “excommunicated” from the very church he founded? The one who continues with his vitriolic brand of hate?

    I like to think that at some point in the last few months, he had a “come to Jesus” moment (pun intended), and that’s why he was kicked out.

  • Frannie

    The strongest feeling I have regarding all of this is hope. Hope that maybe once he’s gone his family and church members will see the light and abandon the church and its mission. I know a lot of people (his own children included) have had to escape the church in dramatic ways- maybe if there are more people who feel trapped they can leave once he no longer holds any power over them. Of course, I felt the same way when Kim Jung Il died, too, and that didn’t turn out so well, but I still have hope.

  • March

    Yes, I agree with you. His life has been one long uninterrupted drama of hate and frustration, he has never known the joys of humanity, he will leave no legacy of any true value. When his suffering ends, he will surely feel blessed. Just imagine – he cannot even rightly blame anyone else for his misery. It has always been all his own doing, and he must bear that burden unrelieved.

  • SarahJesness

    Eh, I don’t really feel anything about this. I don’t really feel happy after hearing someone dies, though I suppose I might if said person was a super-murderer who was continuing to hurt people, or like, some genocidal maniac or something. But I don’t feel super sad either. Everyone dies, and I had no attachment to this guy whatsoever, so I can’t really muster up much on this news.

  • Emily Clocke

    “This man is alone and completely hated at the end of his life.”

    Because of things he did. He wasn’t tragically thrown into this situation, he put himself there. I’m not happy that he’s suffering, because I’m not a horrible person. But I’m not the least bit sad or sympathetic. I hate him in life and in death, I’m indifferent.

  • Sarah

    “I did not attend the funeral, but I sent a letter saying I approved.” -Mark Twain

  • Momma425

    I agree. I’m not doing backflips about him dying or
    anything- he is first and foremost a human being- but honestly, he has caused
    so much pain and hardship on so many people in the name of God, I have a hard
    time even so much as batting an eyelash at him receiving negative medical
    news.

    I do think that the world would be a better place without him in it, unfortunately.

  • Tea

    What I try to remind myself, with him, and people like him, is that I’m sure it hurts to be that angry, that hateful, and that scared. I refuse to delight in his death, but I’m certainly not going to avoid speaking ill of the dead when he’s gone.

  • scooby23

    I just pity him. I pity that he never realized what disgusting crapface he was being and never changed his ways to do good instead of evil. He wasted his life on hate, and it’s pretty much too late to change that. Shame.

  • jess

    I agree.

    There is a lady at my work place who is the most vile person I have ever met.
    Every interaction is laced with bitterness- and she hides behind her cross to justify her hatred, anger and awful discrimination against others. She seeks me out because I am a Catholic as well – although I have made it clear to her I do not hold her viewpoints at all. I’ve said this before here- but the God I know will love and forgive.

    I don’t feel it’s my place to judge her- because the world she looks like a fool. From snippets of talking to her- I understand her children don’t speak to her, and her husband left her quite some time ago.

    Although her words and actions make me very angry (she’s been reprimanded at work more than once for telling the gay guy at work he’s going to hell) – for the person herself- I feel very sorry for her. Something must have messed up truly very badly to hold so much hate in her life. I’m the only person in the office who speaks to her -even though I have made it very clear I do not hold her bigoted views. You can’t fight hate with hate- and not to be cliche- but a candle loses nothing by lighting another candle.

  • Amber Starr

    I wish that I could feel some kind of sadness for him, but he and his followers wanted to picket the funerals of children who were murdered during the massacre at Sandy Hook Elementary. That alone pretty much ensures that I will feel no compassion towards him and is just one of the many reasons that I say “Good Riddance” to this sorry excuse for a man.

  • http://itsmyworldcanthasnotyours.blogspot.com/ wmdkitty

    I agree. Returning hate for hate just perpetuates the problem, and I refuse to do that. As hateful and horrible and abusive as this man was… he still doesn’t deserve it.

  • uhavegot2bekidn

    I am not sure I would picket but I would want to be there just to make sure he was really dead and that we have one less scum of the earth around to take of oxygen, but then again I would definitely be wearing my pride shirt and would make sure I laid a pride flag on his grave. This man by no means deserves any respect. He is full of hate and anger not only for others but for himself. He will be glad to learn after he dies that there is no God so he wont have to worry about being judged for his hatefulness however; I see no reason protesters shouldn’t show up at his funeral hold signs stating how happy we are that he is gone, and that our world has one less evil person to spread anymore hate. They feel they have to right to protest the LGBT funerals, the funerals of children and those in the military, they see nothing wrong with their actions, therefor they should see nothing wrong with people publicly celebrating his death. No I am not stooping to their level I am saying we should celebrate the fact that one less evil person is roaming the earth, just as I would celebrate the death of a rapist, murderer or child molester because again they are one less evil person roaming the earth

  • PuppetMaster2

    Only wish he could come back from HELL and tell all his followers how wrong he was and how he is now suffering for eternity!