Dottie Sandusky Is A Vile Child Molester Apologist

Penn State child abuse scandalFormer Penn State assistant football coach Jerry Sandusky will likely die in prison for the 45 counts of sexual abuse of young boys he’s been charged with. His wife, Dottie, continues to try to explain it all away. Pathetic.

I imagine it would be difficult to come to find out you were married to a child predator for 37 years. I imagine it would make your life seem like a disgusting sham. I’m not exactly sure what the best way to deal with that revelation would be – but I can say it definitely wouldn’t be to be in such deep denial that you essentially claim almost 50 victims of sexual abuse are money hungry liars, like Dottie Sandusky is doing.

In a recent interview with Matt Lauer she said, “I think it was, they were manipulated, and they saw money,’’ she said. “Once lawyers came into the case, they said there was money.” I find it impossible to fathom that this woman actually believes that dozens of people could be lying. Her husband was convicted on 45 of 48 charges of sexual abuse of young boys. 45 charges.

She describes her husband as a misunderstood lover of children. She explains that his showering with children was totally innocent: “I believe he showered with kids. That’s the generation that Jerry grew up in….There were always people coming in and out no matter what time that was.” It’s really hard to listen to someone who is clearly deluded by an unwillingness to admit she was married to a monster. Dottie Sandusky is a case study in denial.

When faced with the question of whether she is in denial – she goes even deeper into it by claiming that there’s basically nothing to be in denial about. She showed Lauer the basement where the abuse took place, to prove that it ”is not a dungeon. It is not what those kids said. You can scream, and you can hear it up to the second floor.” Oh my God.

Okay Dottie – you can go away now. No one can force you to accept that your husband is a convicted serial predator of children who will probably die in prison for his crimes. But you can certainly stop talking about victims you don’t believe, whose lives were irreversibly scarred by the man you took vows and shared a roof with. I just can’t feel sorry for someone who could be so oblivious about the person she is married to. It’s disgusting that she continues to stand up for a predator, hoping beyond hope that she can convince a public that is not in her deep place of denial that all of his victims are not credible.


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  • Martha

    Eww. She is just a gross as he is. There is denial, and then there is….collusion. She should be locked up to rot away as well. Yuck.

  • Guest

    I know everyone responds to grief and shock differently but damn. Nobody needs to be interviewing her, nobody wants to hear her thoughts on the matter. She needs to go hide under a rock somewhere- now THAT would be an appropriate response.

    This crap that she’s spewing only serves to make her look like an accomplice or at the very least someone who knowingly turned a blind eye to what was happening.

    • TwentiSomething Mom

      If she would have came out and said I want to apologize to those boys and their families for what my husband did to them I understand giving her TV time, but allowing her to go on TV and victim blame is just ridiculous.

  • CMJ
    • Megan Zander

      That eff it all cat is my favorite. Sometimes I pull it up on a bad day and it always makes me smile. Esp the ” that thing in particular ” part. LOVE

  • Tiffany

    Her victim blaming is jaw-dropping. Her husband ruined the lives of several young boys, and no amount of money is going to fix those emotional scars. If she’s in such denial, she should probably keep it to herself instead of giving an interview that just makes her seem callous and uncaring toward the victims.

  • Taxes Make Kittens Cry

    Soon Yi thinks she’s delusional

  • pixie

    She thinks they’re lying because they saw money?
    It’s not like nearly 50 kids get together and say “hey, I think we could get rich by accusing our coach of molesting us”.

    And I find it incredible, in a mind-boggling, very confused way, that she is dismissing the fact that he showered with the boys. It’s normal for the athletes to shower together. It is not normal for the coach to shower with the athletes, even if they’re not underage. And I really don’t think it’s a generational issue.

    • Taxes Make Kittens Cry

      She’s just a woman who’s standing by her man

      …who butt raped teenage boys.

    • ted3553

      My parents were both athletes as was I and none of us or anyone we knew ever showered with a coach. This horrifies me because I know what a strong bond you can develop with a coach and I have also had males coaches who were VERY tentative when working with high school females because they didn’t want anyone to think they were improper. Does it make it better if you twist words? Coach showering with underage athlete or grown man showering with non-related (ie. not his son) child? How could anyone defend this

    • pixie

      Yeah, I have no idea. When I was in high school my rugby coach was super careful in regards to all of his actions because, although he was never inappropriate towards us (we were kids, he was an adult with a wife and baby), he really didn’t want any one to think he was doing anything inappropriate (there was never anything that would ever incriminate him, but I’ve heard a lot of people being uncomfortable of girls having male coaches).

      Even with my limited athletic experience, I’d never heard of any coaches showering with athletes, regardless of age. Athletes showering together after a game or practice? Yes, that’s pretty normal (as long as they’re all either underage or of age), but never EVER the coach/grown man showering with underage athletes/children who weren’t related.

  • Lackadaisical

    Someone who could get away with abuse like that over such a long period of time must be manipulative and good at it. If she isn’t involved in anyway or isn’t damaged/nasty enough not to care she may well be fairly … brainwashed for want of a better word. He can abuse kids, he may have been all kinds of manipulative and emotionally abusive to her. That doesn’t excuse her attitude to her husband and victims, obviously.

  • Jennifer Freeman

    The comment about being able to hear the screaming? Dear God. That sounds suspiciously like she did in fact hear screaming…

    • Katherine Handcock

      Or like she heard something, but convinced herself that, because it WASN’T screaming, it wasn’t what she feared it was.

  • tk88

    “She describes her husband as a misunderstood lover of children.” No…she just misunderstood HOW her husband was a “lover of children.” Disgusting. She should be in jail too. Don’t tell me that stuff goes on in your house for decades and even to your own child and you don’t know it’s happening.

    • Mara Rae

      The only way he could possibly be a lover of children is in a sexual way. As in a sexual kind of ‘lover’. But then again, lovers are people who give consent when they’re gonna do all that frick frack stuff. There was absolutely no consent here.

  • CMP414

    I don’t think I could ever love my husband (or any other man) enough to stand by him and defend him if he did something like this. It would be marriage over. You can’t excuse away something that is inexcusable and this is beyond aweful.

  • K.

    I have sympathy for women who find out that their husbands are guilty of such crimes, and I also understand why such women sometimes can’t accept the truth and stand by their husbands but seriously–WTF?!!

    Look, if this were me and even if I couldn’t accept such things about my own husband, I would at least keep my piehole shut and go off and live quietly by myself.

    Which is what Dottie should do–curl up in a dark hole somewhere and never utter another word.

  • JJ

    Hey Dottie here’s a tip: people would be a lot more sympathetic to you if you didn’t speak out and say the things your saying. I can only imagine what you went through when all this came out I am sure it was overwhelming. But please don’t go to the media and make gross excuses for your husband it really destroys your image as the innocent wife who didn’t know what her husband did and is a victim too. Seriously just back away from the media Dottie, go live in peace away from any public speaking. Or you risk making yourself look a little guilty too.

  • Jell

    I have to admit, I feel more sorry for her than I feel offended by her.
    I can’t imagine how screwed up you’d have to be to believe the man is innocent. I wouldn’t go so far as to say she’s a victim, but I think that something is clearly broken in her. People sometimes do insane things to protect themselves from a truth they can’t live with.

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  • Rachel Sea

    Yeah, keep talkin’ lady. The more you say, the more likely it is that you will say something even more incriminating about your husband, ensuring that he dies behind bars.

  • whiteroses

    Part of me thinks she’s a disgusting apologist. The other part thinks that, when all this happened, something in her brain broke. I wouldn’t be able to live with myself if I knew my husband had ever done something like this, mainly because I’d feel responsible.

    I think she just can’t handle the truth of it all. So she’s making excuses.

  • koolchicken

    I think she’s as much of a victim as the boys were/are. We don’t know exactly what when on in that house, but we do know it was ugly. Who knows the real reason she’s saying this stuff. Maybe she believes it, and maybe, just maybe she needs to believe it.

    So speaking as a person who was wildly abused for the first decade of my life by my father, don’t blame the wife. My mother was an uber involved stay at home mum. She would put today’s helicopter mothers to shame. Yet my father got away with various atrocities for a very long time. In fact if my sister and I hadn’t finally spoken up it probably never would have stopped. And to this day my mother is still apologizing and trying to figure out how she could have missed it all.

    • Ennis Demeter

      I understand what you are saying, but I don’t think Dottie is in the same category as your mother. She is emphatically not apologizing, and there has already been a trial and a conviction and dozens of victims, not to mention an eye witness of a rape in a shower. She is only missing it all because she is refusing to accept it, Also, she is a mother – what about her own children?

    • K.

      I dont’ think anyone’s blaming the wife FOR the abuse, but we are holding her accountable for the victim-blaming after the fact.

  • Justme

    I’m sorry, but if this was my husband, I would be hiding my head in shame…not parading Matt Lauer through my house like a damn HGTV host.

  • Rhi

    As far as the victim hierarchy goes, she’s not as much a victim as the ones who were assaulted by Jerry but the families of social predators are victims. I read and watch a lot of true crime and people hold the families almost as much accountable for the actions of one as the criminal him/herself. Pretty much all the ‘big name’ serial killers were married men with a wife and children and all of those families had to go so far as to changing their names and moving out of their states, changing the children’s names and often away from the place they’d lived their entire lives, because they were getting death threats, people were destroying their houses (bricks through windows, fires, vandalism, etc). All because you were the unknowing wife or even child of a predator.

    So I don’t see it as odd or at all unexpected that she’s basically disassociated with it and is making whatever excuses. It often takes decades for them to work through everything and many often still find themselves confused at the end. Ted Bundy’s mother was a staunch defender of his. Even after he made his confessions to her that he was guilty of everything, she still went to her grave only a few years ago uncertain and loving him.

    I don’t think people should expect or look to her to give any sort of rational or fair statement. She’s got a long, long, long road ahead of her and until she reaches somewhere near the end she’s going to continue making these statements. Take it for what it is…part of the process, not the conclusion.

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