It’s Almost Impossible Not To Root For Lindsay Lohan When You Realize How Sad She Is

Lindsay Lohan OprahWatching Lindsay Lohan on Oprah‘s Next Chapter, it’s almost impossible not to feel really bad for her. Despite the prison stint, the car wrecks, the drugs and booze and fur coat snatching, I think the biggest takeaway from her interview is that she had no one looking out for her. She started working at just three-years-old as a child fashion model, and by the time she was 11 when she starred in the Disney remake of The Parent Trap. She basically grew up on camera. And she has been in rehab six times.

Speaking about her relationship with her parents, Michael and Dina, when Oprah asked her if the public perception of her parents being exploitive is correct, Lindsay said she is still very close to them and that they never took advantage of her. She said she loves her parents and in certain situations she wishes they would have handled things differently but that is in the past. She spoke about the frantic phone call from the back of the limo when Lindsay accused her mom of being on cocaine and how that entire thing wasn’t true, but she was so angry with her mother that she was acting out and acting like a crazy person. She knew the one thing that would set her mom off and trigger her was calling her father.   Her father has been arrested nine times. Lindsay also said she will be having lunch with both of her parents together this week, which means after filming.

Lindsay also said that she wishes people realized her parents are just parents, and at no time they sold her out, but her father had no right to say the things he did about her. When Oprah asked if there is toxicity in their relationship, Lindsay said not at this time.

I wouldn’t consider all of this true, but how can any of us know really? I think we have all read the tabloids and seen public appearances by both her parents and I’d be lying if I didn’t say that at least to me they always seemed what Oprah asked, exploitive. But I’m not Lindsay, I don’t know any of these people, and personally, it’s no one’s business. Not even mine even though I’m writing about it.

I know it’s so easy to judge and consider the whole train wreck of the situation that is Lindsay Lohan, I get as annoyed as anyone when I see these rich, beautiful, incredibly lucky young starlets throwing it all away. Oprah even addressed that. But you gotta feel for Lindsay when she says that all the chaos is a process of growing up, and that she has had no right to complain, and that people can say whatever they want because she has put herself in the public eye. She said she wishes that people knew the real truth of her, but there is no interest in normalcy. And all she can do is stay on her own path to recovery.

She seemed sad in the interview to me. Sad and sort of lost. But also really brave and honest. And I can’t help but root for her. It’s hard for me not to remember that adorable little girl we saw in The Parent Trap and hope that she makes it this time. Or as Oprah said, I want her to win.

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    • brebay

      There’s no way her mom wasn’t high as a kite in her Dr. Phil interview. I don’t mind Lindsay, she had some talent, and I hope she stays clean and does well. But just because she says (or even truly believes) her parents didn’t exploit her, doesn’t make it so. It might be easier for her not to believe it or, having been raised by two assholes, she might not even really understand what exploiting your child even looks like and just thinks that’s how all parents are. I don’t think she’ll ever really get better and happier until she can accept some of the ugly truths about her parents, which doesn’t mean she can’t love them anymore, but may mean she has to set up some different boundaries and depend on them less emotionally. Either way, I’m pulling for her.

      • http://Mommyish.com/ Eve Vawter

        Yeah I am PRETTY SKEPTICAL about all that. Lindsay bummed me out, her and her inflated lips, why Lindsay whyyyyyyyy

      • Kat

        You are an enigma.

    • Kay_Sue

      “And I can’t help but root for her. It’s hard for me not to remember that adorable little girl we saw in The Parent Trap and hope that she makes it this time. Or as Oprah said, I want her to win.”

      I agree. I was 11 when the Parent Trap remake came out, so it’s really hard not to root for her.

      I do wonder if it’s just hard for her to see fault in her parents. It’s really hard to look at someone who has been pushed to work since she was three and say that was really a healthy dynamic, you know? But it can be hard as a child to see a parent for what they are…kind of like it’s hard for a parent to see fault in a child. I dunno. I can’t narrate her experience, but I do wonder.

      Side note: Despite the somberness of this post, I was kind of excited to see a post this late on Sunday…it was a fun surprise when I had planned on just stopping by to catch up on earlier posts since I actually had a life today. ;)

      • Crusty Socks

        Now we all know how old you are ;P

      • Valerie

        How old are you? Unless you tell me otherwise, I have been assuming all along that you are a college frat boy trolling us all….

      • Kay_Sue

        #ditto

      • Crusty Socks

        We should have a get to know your troll day

      • Kay_Sue

        Only if there are snacks.

      • Crusty Socks

        booze

      • Kay_Sue

        I dunno. Snacks are still pretty necessary.

      • Crusty Socks

        Jello shooters?

      • Kay_Sue

        As long as they are not ALL jello–went to a bachelorette party two weekends ago and the jello shots were pretty much totally jello.

        Ruined my evening. #FirstWorldProblems

      • Valerie

        Ugh, that’s the worst. Like when you order a super giant margarita and it is basically sour mix, salt and a splash of tequila.

      • Crusty Socks
      • Kay_Sue

        Could have used it…

      • Valerie

        I have been known to stash a few minis in my purse if I think the drink output at whatever bar I am at might be lame. Because #YOLO.

      • Valerie

        Snacks are always necessary. Without exception.

      • Valerie

        Come on, Crusty. One real fact. Age, gender (still not sure you are a dude….), first name, country of origin. Anything!

      • Crusty Socks

        <— Dude

      • Valerie

        Thank you for your transparency.

      • Crusty Socks

        Anytime chicky!

      • Valerie

        One more. Do you actually have kids? Or do you just enjoy discussing the finer points of parenting with a bunch of super witty internet MILFS?

      • Crusty Socks

        LOL

        M’ish is my refuge. I troll so much on CNN, where everyone’s insane/sociopathic/dumb, I just need a place with normal people sometimes.

        I randomly stumbled onto M’ish a few months back, brought along some other CNN trolls with me and Eve was really cool about it. Then I started reading your snarky articles and comments, and it was fun. So I just kinda stuck around on my best behavior (most of the time)

      • Valerie

        Awww, we are your refuge? Crusty, that’s adorable.

      • Crusty Socks

        That and I’m trying to get you all to post selfies

      • Valerie

        A bunch of us posted like, a thumbnail of a selfie last week on the weird Baby Generator article. But my baby that I made with Ben Affleck was super creeps. Like, I feel like it would have stabbed me in my sleep.

      • Crusty Socks

        LOL all those babies were creepy

      • Valerie

        Yup. The one with the eye that was differently sized than its other eye kind of kept me up at night.

      • Crusty Socks

        OOOH, mystery’s afoot!

      • Kay_Sue

        Pssssh, if you haven’t figured that out before then you are less astute than I have given you credit for!

      • Crusty Socks

        You gave me any credit???

        >;P

      • Valerie

        Agreed that it was nice to see a new post on a Sunday night. Walking Dead sucked (again) so I needed something to entertain me.

      • Kay_Sue

        I SECOND THIS SO HARD!!!

        Less feelings, more zombies, please. It’s sad when I am looking forward more to Talking Dead than to the show itself. Not sure how many more episodes like this I can take!!

      • http://Mommyish.com/ Eve Vawter

        last week was a total snoozefest too

      • Kay_Sue

        I know. By the end of it, I was really wishing I didn’t have to be up early the next morning so I could get as drunk as Beth and Darrell…..

      • Valerie

        Beth was just the worst in that episode. I never realized how truly awful her acting can be.

      • Kay_Sue

        Yeah, she’s alway flown under my radar. I don’t know that I remember many episodes where she was featured that prominently, so it was shocking to see how badly that was acted. It all felt so forced, in a way, right down to flipping off at the end.

        I had some folks on Facebook who said it was great character development, because you learned so much about Darrell. I didn’t leave the episode knowing anything else about him that hadn’t already been heavily intuited. He and Merrill ran away from home and were vagabonds–already knew that. His dad was a backwoods abusive dickhead–pretty sure we’d all already picked up on that. And so on and so forth….

      • http://Mommyish.com/ Eve Vawter

        yeah all we basically learned is Darrel did NOTHING ever. haha. he was made for the zombie apocalypse.

      • Valerie

        Yeah, I learned absolutely nothing about either of them in that episode that I had not already heavily assumed. They really need to move on from being on the run and splattering zombies to finding another settlement and rebuilding ‘Merica. I am bored.

      • Kay_Sue

        Ditto!

      • Crusty Socks

        The problem is that now it looks like D and B are gonna fall in love…

        That whole, “oh now you think there are good people out there… What made you change your mind”… “OH”

        That was lame.

        I did like getting to know Bob better. His former solitude and what’s driving him to help Maggie so much. I hope he sticks around… but I’m sure he won’t make it past this season.

      • Valerie

        Yeah, the D and B thing is so lame and predictable. And frankly, kind of gross. She is what, 17? Squicky.

      • Crusty Socks

        #bethisdumb

      • http://Mommyish.com/ Eve Vawter

        Man I need to watch it. I did True Detective which upset me SO MUCH and Friday’s hannibal. But yeah if you guys want a post sunday nights I will happily make this happen.

      • Kay_Sue

        No pressure! It was a nice surprise because I hadn’t anticipated it, and like Valeria pointed out, that episode was pretty much a snoozer…so having something to read and think about was much appreciated.

        It was either that or continue pinning Lego storage ideas, and I did not want to fall back down that rabbit hole.

      • Valerie

        Oh God, True Detective. If Matthew does not win all the Emmys for this performance there is no justice in the world. By the end, I was a mess of tears and just wanting to stand up and applaud him. So sad its over but wow, did they do an amazing job!!
        Sunday posts would be great! :-)

      • http://Mommyish.com/ Eve Vawter

        SEE! If you had asked me what I thought about him a year ago I basically had zero interest, but now he is officially the best, between this and Dallas Buyer’s Club, just amazing. I loved TD sooooooo much. The finale broke my brain

      • Valerie

        I know. I was sitting on the couch with my husband watching the scene in the weird cave-like dwelling going “NO NO NO!! This is not how it was supposed to end!” And then the last 10 minutes I was all tears and anguish and awe. It def made me feel all the feelings. Just a tremendous piece of work.

        And I didn’t give a flip about Matthew at this time last year either but now I am in lurve.

    • chickadee

      I can see where she is a pitiable creature, but I also have a hard time weeping big tears for someone who has expensive therapists and rehab options basically at her beck and call. There are a lot of kids out there with unbelievably horrible lives who don’t have access to the things she has.

      So you’d have to have a heart of stone NOT to feel for her to some extent, but when can you expect an adult to be responsible for herself?

      • Momma425

        THIS, all day long.

        I do feel badly for her- but I can think of much, much worse childhood upbringings that my personal friends and family members and others out there have had to go through- and don’t have the options or resources she has.

      • chickadee

        I know there’s a significant difference between Simple Affluenza and Famous Affluenza (in that suffers from the latter malady tend to have the pressure of public scrutiny from a very young age, which can truly screw you up), but I still look at it with a jaundiced eye.

      • Kelly

        Yeah, I was one of those kids and I’ve managed not to become a great big fuckup. I don’t feel bad for her.

      • chickadee

        My daughter’s school has a very diverse socioeconomic mix, and I can’t help comparing LL’s situation with my daughter’s friend who got mugged during his block-and-a-half walk home. That guy is only going to college because of his intellect and his musical ability…and he is the only person in his family to graduate from high school.

      • ted3553

        Agreed. She had crappy parents and terrible guidance but she’s an adult and is now in charge of making her own decisions. You can’t blame your parents forever. It infuriates me when people do this when I know of some children who may never be able to adjust because they’ve had horrid parents. Things we can’t even imagine and grow up in communities where this behaviour is the norm. That’s when it’s tough for kids to adjust as they’re adults because their entire world around them has the off-behaviour as the norm.

    • EmmaFromÉire

      I’ve always felt so bad for her. She was exploited beyond belief, raised by narcissists who gave her no sense of direction and she just always seems so lost. She’s a good actress, to this day Mean Girls is my favourite movie, and if the rumoured sequel actually does happen I hope it’s a good stepping stone back into solid work for her.I know chickadee said it’s hard to feel sorry for on some level and i get that, but i think it must be a million times harder to seek help when you’re constantly scrutinised in the media for absolutely every move you make. There’s still so much stigma about seeking help and admitting to problems.

      I feel like we’re seeing a lot of this lately, kids who grew up in the relentless spotlight don’t know what to do when they need help and it sort of erupts. I mean look at poor Amanda Bynes, I think we all knew she had a serious mental health issue and it makes me sad it took so long for her to get the help she needed.

      • JLH1986

        It likely would have taken longer for her to get help if she weren’t famous and it wasn’t splashed all over the news. Different police forces don’t always communicate so various charges may not be readily available. Judges are usually reluctant to commit people for more than 72 hours, but given her celebrity it was VERY clear to see she needed it. Some of my clients will do what Bynes did for a decade or more before actually getting the treatment and medication they need…and once they start feeling better stop. It becomes a viscous cycle. this might be the one instance where I think someone’s notoriety helped.

    • whiteroses

      On the one hand- I agree with you, Eve. She was exploited by her parents and, as another commenter mentioned, just because she doesn’t think she was exploited doesn’t make it so. She had people around her who were supposed to love her, yet saw her as a meal ticket. They didn’t care enough about her to question her choices.

      On the other hand, I think the main reason why Lindsay Lohan pisses so many people off (whether they can admit it or not) is simple. Most people remember that she was tremendously talented. Back before all this started, she had a real gift for comedy and she could do dramatic acting as well. She had this phenomenal gift (probably still does) and, so far, has done virtually nothing with it. It’s frustrating to watch her-knowing what she can do, the amount of potential that she has, and what she’s chosen NOT to do. She’s worked with Jane Fonda and Meryl Streep, for God’s sake, and she was able to hold her own. But it’s so hard to see past her personal life. And she did that to herself. She had SO many opportunities, more than most of us will ever have.

      I do feel sorry for her. But at the same time, I really don’t.

      • Alicia Kiner

        I agree with so much of what you said. She possesses such a tremendous talent. And she’s wasting it. Yes, her parents publicly suck, and that sucks big time for her. It’s past time for her to woman up and either live up to her talent or live the life SHE wants without them. She is an adult now, it’s time to move past them and live for her and not them.

      • whiteroses

        It’s kind of freaky when you think about the fact that, had she made a few different choices, she could have been another Jennifer Lawrence.

    • WriterLady

      I don’t generally feel sympathy for celebrities who get themselves into all sorts of trouble, but I can’t help but see Lindsay in a slightly different light than the Biebers and Spears of the tabloid world. Much of this has already been noted, but Lindsay had a truly dysfunctional home life (despite her upper middle-class upbringing), and the saga only continues. Add to that a propensity toward addiction (which clearly runs in the family), and you have a recipe for disaster. I truly doubt that any individual in her immediate family recognizes the grave danger that she is in because they have a.) denied nearly all claims of neglect or wrongdoing; b.) clearly placed immense pressure on her all of her life in order to be their media darling (likely as a way to profit off her fame); and c.) done absolutely nothing to truly address her life-threatening problems. Though people with many fewer resources than Lindsay have risen above their addictions (which is totally commendable), this girl seems genuinely miserable, as if she’s trapped in a situation in which she can’t escape. Dina–perhaps the worst Hollywood mom to date–needs to stop doing interviews and partying with her D-list entourage and remove herself completely from the public eye to focus on her daughter’s health and well-being. Better yet, she might want to stay away from Lindsay altogether until she gets her own shit together (if that’s even a possibility). Michael could also use a swift kick in the ass as a wake-up call to worry less about his bevy of girlfriends and his daughter’s money and much more about her very apparent years’-long crisis. The first thing Lindsay needs to do is distance herself from her family and probably all of the friends that are enabling her. If and when the family begins to see the light of day and actually takes proactive measures to better themselves and ditch the greedy motivators, they can slowly begin to make amends with their daughter. Next, on Lindsay’s own part, she needs to accept that, as an adult, she must accept responsibility for her actions. She may need to put her career on the back burner for longer than six months or even a year to seek legitimate, long-term, non-court-appointed treatment for both her addictions and mental health issues—and not at a facility trumped-up to look like the Four Seasons. Treatment centers aren’t particularly effective when they operate as luxury centers, with loopholes and five-star amenities for celebrities. Because everyone knows that an addict needs to *want* to get better for reasons other than to appease someone else–in Lohan’s case, a director or PR agent, for example. Then, and only then, do I believe that Lindsay has a fighting chance at returning to the talented, beautiful, lovable girl (or woman now, I guess) that she is capable of being.

      • Kay_Sue

        Yeah, it’s hard to recognize someone you (supposedly) love is in danger when you are busy screaming, “Wasn’t me!”

        I second this comment so hard.

    • Rachel Sea

      I hope she survives all this. Access to good rehab is nothing if she keeps going back to the environment that makes her sick.