Popularity is as confusing as an Excel spread sheet these days. No longer is it about just the students, itâs about logistics too. My ten-year-old daughter, who goes to an all girls school, explained to me for more than twenty minutes what âpopularâ means at her school. I had so many questions, and I was stunned at how âpopularâ now works in these modern times. I asked her if the teachers were aware of this, and she said, “No. You canât tell them!â I promised I wouldnât. But I told her I was writing about it.
I will tell you that being popular these days, or wanting to be popular, is as confusing and difficult as figuring out, letâs say, how a car engine works. (At least for me.) It starts at the beginning of the school year.
On the first week of school, there is something called, âacceptance week.â The teachers know nothing about this. During that week, the children decide what group they want to be in. There are four groups: âThe Populars,â âThe Cools,â âThe Losers,â and âThe Outcasts.â
You can choose what group you want to be in. But once youâre in that group, you are pretty much stuck there for the entire year. But what really shocked me was how, in pretty much every class or room in their school, âThe Populars,â have their special hang out. Even down to the locker rooms! (When I went to school, the âPopularsâ only hung out in ONE place.) They didnât mark their spots, like dogs, all over the school.
After their weekly swim lessons, âThe Popularsâ hang out on the Marble floor area to shower. âThe Coolsâ shower on the wood floor area, but I donât know about âThe Losersâ or âThe Outcasts.â
As my daughter explained, the MOST popular of âThe Popularsâ take the private shower stalls. âBut how do people know who is popular and who isnât?â I asked my daughter. âYou just know,â was her answer.
Even sitting in rows, at assemblies for example or watching a sports team, there is a pecking order. âThe Popularsâ sit in the top row, âThe Coolsâ sit in the middle row, and âThe Losersâ sit in the bottom row. (Again, as for âThe Outcasts,â I really donât think they care, because they live in their own dreamÂ world, one that I would live in!)