I’m a mommy blogger. Mommy bloggers are my people. Lately I have been noticing that people like to use the term “Mommy Blogger” as an insult, because having kids and then writing about issues dealing with kids and parenting is pretty much the worst thing ever. True, there were times in my life, mainly before I had kids of my own, that I had zero interest in many parenting topics, teething, bedwetting, why do babies on occasion have terrifying diapers that look like the Creature From The Black Lagoon vomited in them, but back in those days blogging wasn’t even a thing. I just didn’t read parenting books (which were the blogs back in the day) like the same way I don’t read things that don’t interest me now, like blogs about insects or ones that feature cartoon character fan fiction.
I’m sorry if people find parenting or things that interest parents (wine, House Of Cards, birth order, sex, pacifier reviews) boring, but what annoys me more than that are common misconceptions people have about the people who write about these topics. Mainly:
1: Mommy Bloggers aren’t real writers:
Not everyone can work at The New York Times. And not everyone wants to. This all depends on what you think a real writer is. Is it the number of books you have published? How long you have been writing for? How many typos or grammatical mistakes you make? I make a lot of errors in my work, spelling errors, grammatical errors, and I know it. But I also think a lot of Mommy Bloggers write engaging and interesting content despite errors. You can teach someone to write technically perfectly, but you cannot teach them how to engage readers or write content people want to read.
2: Mommy Bloggers basically write longer form Facebook posts
Sure, some write lengthy posts all about what they ate for lunch or where they went on vacation or how little Timmy related hated getting his vaccination, but the majority of Mommy Bloggers write content that will appeal to a wide audience, not just to their family and closest friends.
3: Mommy Bloggers ignore their kids all day
I don’t know any Mommy Bloggers who are able to actually write unless their kids are at school, napping, asleep at night or occupied with a box of brand new toys. Most of the time I’m working when my own kids are in school, but if they are around when I’m writing it’s amazingly difficult. There is nothing fun about trying to form complete sentences when someone is asking you for a drink or narcing on their sibling every few minutes.