Mommy Bloggers Are Told To Sit Down And Shut Up Because They Are Women Writers With Kids

mommybloggerI’m a mommy blogger.

I’m not ashamed of this. I’m a mom who writes for a parenting website and hence I’m a mommy blogger. But lately it seems that more and more the term “mommy blogger” is used as an insult, as a way to discredit the opinions and points of view of female writers who also happen to have children. If you’re a writer on a website that doesn’t have a print edition you are technically a blogger. If you write mainly about parenting you’re a “mommy blogger.” So why has this become a derogatory term?

I’ve been quoted extensively on websites recently because I’m not too happy about a child’s toy being used in an adult, sexualized magazine. When referencing me, I’m referred to as “Mommy Blogger” Eve Vawter or “Mommyish blogger” Eve Vawter – during a radio interview yesterday I had to inform the hosts that I’m the editor of a website, because they wanted to introduce me as a “Mommy blogger.” I don’t have an issue with being known as a mommy blogger, because that is what I am. But I’m also an editor, and I have earned this title and I’m pretty proud of the job I do. I’m also a mom, I love being a mom, I love writing about parenting, and this is the field that interests me. I have other interests as well, but as present I chose to write about parenting. But I can’t help but feel as a mom and as an Internet writer these two things coupled together are being used as a way to discredit my opinions, to make them seem less valid, or less than worthy of conversation.

Yesterday CNN did a small video segment about the Sports Illustrated Swimsuit Edition Barbie cover and the host of the segment, Erin Burnett, loudly says “BLOGGER!” as a way to get her point across. When writing about my opinion of Barbie on the magazine cover, the verbs used to describe my opinions are “seethed,” “snarked” and “complained.”  I’m not sure a childfree man writing about the same topic would get the same treatment. I’m also not sure a childfree man would receive the type of comments I have in regard to the issue:

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And this is because I simply stated I didn’t think a child’s toy that my own young daughter is very fond of belongs in a magazine featuring sexualized images of women.

I can’t help but feel if a man were making the same point he might be taken more seriously. And because of the whole Barbie firestorm, the way in which women writers who have children are preceived has illustrated to me how the phrase “mommy blogger” is used as an insult. I’m a mommy blogger, but I’m also a college-educated middle aged woman who has written extensively about all sorts of serious topics, including rape, violence against women and children, politics and current affairs. I may not work for a website with a major print edition, but that doesn’t mean my opinions are any less valid.

There is also a disturbing ageist aspect to all of this, because many women with children who write on the Internet skew to a demographic over age 30. When reading comments (and yes, I know, never read the comments) the replies to my original thought are met with comments like “Fat, old, middle-aged housewife, ” which again, negates my opinions simply because I’m a fat, old, middle-aged housewife. I don’t think men writers who are also dads get their opinions disregarded because they are also fat, old and middle-aged.

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    • Bethany Ramos

      Eve, those comments are nuts, and I’m so glad you wrote this post. It is never easy to deal with Internet hate, and I am constantly baffled why people are outrageously offended by OPINIONS. I always appreciate your honest opinion, so….. they can stick it in their #bolthole.

      • http://Mommyish.com/ Eve Vawter

        Thanks but as you know, it’s not just me, or YOU, who got a whallop of BS yesterday, women writers deal with this all the time, but I think Mommy Bloggers get it on a whole other level, because as women you are negated, and when you add kids, well, you basically have NO right to an opinion

      • http://www.gamedevwidow.weebly.com/ Theresa Edwards

        We should all try dangling. Maybe then we’ll be legitimized and get some of the backpats that people like Matt Walsh get *eyeroll to infinity*

      • Jessica

        Every time someone shares his blog posts on my Facebook, I temporarily black out from rolling my eyes so hard.

      • http://www.gamedevwidow.weebly.com/ Theresa Edwards

        oh man me too. Makes me lightheaded

      • http://www.ambiencechaser.com/ Elizabeth Licata

        I agree entirely. “Fashion blogger” or “food blogger” do not have nearly the negative associations of “mommy blogger.” I see one rich, famous young woman on a beauty site talking about her beauty routine immediately after having a baby, and the commenters are like, “If this turns into another mommy blog I’m gone.” I even see comments from people attending blog awards where other bloggers (food, fashion, travel, beauty, cars, etc.) are like, “Ugh, all the *mommy* bloggers are causing problems again.” It’s ridiculous.

      • http://Mommyish.com/ Eve Vawter

        yep, it’s used as an insult, which is very weird to me

      • http://www.ambiencechaser.com/ Elizabeth Licata

        Maybe they are only semi literate and think that you want to ban the Sports Illustrated Swimsuit Issue because it could make small children feel bad or something. It doesn’t sound like they were paying attention to much.

      • http://www.ambiencechaser.com/ Elizabeth Licata

        I made that comment! But I made it in response to a different post and now it is here not making any sense at all in this context. x_x

      • http://fairlyoddmedia.com/ Frances Locke

        I was thinking the same thing. It looked like a few of those guys didn’t even read the article or watch the clip.

      • http://mother--bored.tumblr.com/ Aimee Ogden

        It’s funny the overlap that exists between “Ugh, mommy bloggers” and “Nooo, being a mother is the MOST IMPORTANT JOB IN THE WORLD (that my wife should do, I’ll be over there”. Basically “we can’t live without you! but please shut up forever k thx”

      • AP

        I suspect the issue of Mommy Blogger being pejorative is that there’s a lot of bad Mommy Blogs out there. As in, “I had a baby and now I’m an expert (sample size: 1) on babies!!!!” (And as we all know, a nurse, a taxi driver, a chef, a teacher, and a janitor…)

        Or, “I’m a mom and I’m going to take up blogging because I’m woefully underqualified for anything that would require vetting of my skills by an objective third party!”

        The hate thrown at Eve shows that the internet gives an equal, democratic voice, regardless of how stupid they are. And a lot of those stupid people start blogs, thinking they’re the next Plato and Mark Zuckerberg. Legitimate bloggers have to constantly fight to establish their legitimacy as a result.

      • chickadee

        This, I agree with. The problem is that there seems to be no real distinction between “casual mommyblogger” and “blogger about parenting who also gets paid and thus has standards to which she is accountable and also did we mention it’s her job and not her hobby?”

        I’m not denigrating the casual blogger by any means, but the paid writer generally has more credibility than the hobby writer. Or at least is perceived to have more credibility since there is objective judgment, as you mentioned.

      • rrlo

        True but there are tons of really bad blogs out there. Terrible movie blogs, terrible food blogs, you name it – people are blogging about it badly. But the Mommy Blogger seem to really bring out the wrath…

      • Alicia Kiner

        It’s that whole women are meant to be barefoot, pregnant and in the kitchen, but they aren’t permitted to have a thought in their head that I didn’t give to her thing from the Middle ages. God forbid we think for ourselves and think it creepy that grown pass men view a Barbie doll as a sex symbol.

      • http://www.ambiencechaser.com/ Elizabeth Licata

        Yeah. “Mommy Blogger” is definitely used as an insult. It’s very weird. “Lady Blog” is sometimes used derisively, but I’m not sure if it is to the same extent as mommy blog.

      • http://fairlyoddmedia.com/ Frances Locke

        The only other place I’ve gotten the amount of hate I’ve dealt with when writing parenting stuff is when I used to blog about video games. Gamer DudeBros are cray once you out yourself as a Woman On The Internet.

      • Sri

        YES! I used to write for a video game news site in college, and when the readers found out I was a girl, 3 things happened: 1) Some of the guys asked if I was hot. My editor sent them a modelling photo of a hot girl in a bikini with the watermark clearly visible just to laugh at those guys. Ironically (?), it was Yvonne Strahovski, who went on to be the face of Miranda in ME2. 2) Suddenly, every word I had ever written came under intense scrutiny. I referred to RE4′s over the shoulder 3rd person perspective as a nice change from the clunky controls of previous games and asked readers if they preferred the previous controls, the over the shoulder view, or if they’d like true first person, and I got a ton of threats and generally nasty comments because, “God, you’re just a fake gamer girl like all the rest. Clearly you suck at games, because the old RE controls aren’t clunky (uh, yeah, they totally were. I <3 zombies and played all of them through to completion, and I still think that they were clunky as hell) Everyone knows that RE4 is 3rd person, not 1st! God!" Despite the fact that that…was what I wrote. 3) I got a lot of really creepy dudes pming me pictures of their dicks. Completely unprompted dicks. I had never talked to them besides maybe responding to a comment, and suddenly dicks… dicks everywhere. The worst part was that I had to report stuff to the police, because I was an adult and a lot of our readers were in high school, so I technically had a ton of child porn in my inbox.

        I did get a few genuinely nice kids who asked me how to treat a lady, which I thought was sweet. They wanted to talk to girls they had crushes on, and I gave them advice for how to not be awkward that didn't rely on "negging." The problem would be getting them to back off if the girl said no.

        It is unbelievable what dudes think they can do to a woman because she dared to be in a "man space." And then they wonder why girls don't like them and think that it's because they were "friendzoned" for being "too nice." Newsflash, dipshits, you aren't nice. You're assholes, and girls don't want to date you because you're creepy assholes.

      • ElleJai

        I have nothing to add here, except “Amen”.

        You’ve summed it up purrfectly. (Added purr for emphasis. And awesomeness:P)

      • Guest

        :)

      • Kay_Sue

        I disagree with this post thoroughly because Interwebz.

      • Bethany Ramos

        #howdareyou

      • Kay_Sue

        #comeatmebro

      • Bethany Ramos

        with a #groupondildo… too much? ;)

      • Kay_Sue

        #groupondildoforthewin #hashtaghistory

      • Crusty Socks

        Go on…

      • jane

        I actually think that step 1 is: Have a vagina. The next two steps then follow suit.

      • G.E. Phillips

        Seriously. Just, EW. Ew with those comments. TEAM MOMMYISH 4 EVER!

      • Bethany Ramos

        You are lifting our spirits!! Mine, at least. :)

      • G.E. Phillips

        This is the only website I visit every single day. You guys are all amazing, strong, thoughtful, hilarious, interesting women, whose opinions I value. And anyone who has an issue with Mommyish or any other “Mommy Bloggers” just because they’re females who primarily write about parenting can EAT A BAG OF DICKS.

      • Bethany Ramos

        Aw, I really value your opinions as a regular reader and great mom – you are a huge part of this community. THANK YOU! :) We need a Mommyish party.

      • G.E. Phillips

        YESSS!

      • http://Mommyish.com/ Eve Vawter

        This is the best comment ever

      • http://fairlyoddmedia.com/ Frances Locke

        They can eat ALL THE DICKS!

      • http://www.gamedevwidow.weebly.com/ Theresa Edwards

        I’m just sitting here with my stretched out vagina rageblogging about this RIGHT NOW. #momrage #howdarei #groupondildos4lyfe

      • http://Mommyish.com/ Eve Vawter

        OK, please send in when done

      • Bethany Ramos

        I’m dyyyying!

    • Kay_Sue

      Just (hug). I really can’t see to type anything else through my rage-vision, honestly, or I’d have a more heartfelt comment, I promise.

    • Megan Zander

      Screw that. When a man states an opinion and some one disagrees, no ones making assumptions about his appearance. The very fact that these comments reach for the ” easy” weapon of trying to make a women feel lesser by calling her ugly just strengthens your argument IMO. Also, ” mommy blogger? ” pretty sure CNN doesn’t have a print edition, is thier editor referred to as a blogger? Even Newsweek stopped doing a print edition for a bit, are they just bloggers? Until you start writing a weekly ” What I ate Wednesday” post ( and even if you did I would devour it) you’re a journalist in my book.

      • Kitsune

        I was going to type something similar. The fact that the worst insults they could come up with were fat, old, and ugly for a woman just proves that there is a problem. I also hate that any questioning of a sexualized image of a woman is chalked up to jealousy, which is then used as a way to stop any discussion.

      • http://Mommyish.com/ Eve Vawter

        They claim I am jealous of a plastic doll. It’s like how did it go from being just not thinking it cool to have Barbie with half naked models to me being JEALOUS of a doll? That’s a long way to go for a roast beef sammich.

      • CMJ

        You don’t want Barbie’s “heel-ready” molded feet? You know you want to be walking around on your tip toes all day.

      • Kitsune

        Wait you don’t want the inability to wear flats and a built in excuse for saying no to cilantro? I thought that was the dream.

    • bl

      So tired of the age/looks way of discrediting women. If we discounted men who were fat, old, and middle-aged (love the doubling up on age descriptors btw) there would be an abundance of vacancies in positions of power. If we did that for women, I don’t think it would be near as noticeable :/

      • practicallyperfectineveryway

        THIS! This really bothers me. A woman in the public eye gains one pound and either she’s pregnant or let herself go. Either way it’s in the news. Meanwhile men of a similar status gain/lose weight, go gray, age etc as they please and no one gives a crap.

      • http://fairlyoddmedia.com/ Frances Locke

        Right? Remember Matthew PErry’s fat years on Friends? It was a complete non-issue. That wouldn’t have flown if had been Jennifer Aniston or Lisa Kudrow.

      • Andy

        No kidding…to this day, if Jennifer Aniston eats a big lunch, the tabloids say she’s expecting for a week.

    • http://www.ambiencechaser.com/ Elizabeth Licata

      I will never understand the logic of commenters who call female writers fat on the Internet. It’s like fat, old, and ugly are the ultimate insults they can come up with, and they use them despite the fact that it should be obvious to everyone involved that *they cannot see us.* They don’t know what size we are or how old we are or anything about our appearance, and still that’s where they go because that’s just where you go when you don’t like something a woman says. It’s ridiculous. Whenever it happens I’m more bewildered than anything. It’s like if I were to insult them for being bald. I don’t know if they’re bald! I’d just be making shit up, and everyone would know it and I would look stupid for not addressing the actual issue the person had brought up.

      • http://Mommyish.com/ Eve Vawter

        word, I am gonna start using that for every point I disagree with. Who cares what you say you must be bald!

      • CMJ

        Oh, you’re a man? You must be bald. YOU DON’T GET A SAY.

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      • Guest

        I just love it because you know that there are plenty of young attractive slim people on the internet too…there are all types of people on the internet…its the effin internet

      • CMJ

        Throw short in there too!! Since apparently we’re all ugly, single, fat, and liberal (obviously those go together)…..they can be short and bald. Oh, and virgins who can’t drive. I always want to use that insult.

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      • Bethany Ramos

        Hahahahaha

      • ElleJai

        Wait, wait, they’re also mouth breathers who live in their mom’s basement. We can’t forget that.

        Maybe we should attack the size of their wallet too. That might get them.

      • Sri

        It’s because, as a woman, your only value to those people is how fuckable you are. You said something they don’t like, and are therefore totally unfuckable. If they create this misogynist fanfiction where you’re unfuckable, you have no value and your opinions have no value, and they don’t have to actually listen to what you’re saying because the only reason these bags of dicks listen to women ever is because it’s a ploy to eventually fuck them.

    • pixie

      Sad. :(

      I just can’t think of anything to say. It just boggles my mind how so many people are so willing to viciously attack strong-minded and opinionated women on the internet. Instantly they’re labelled as fat, old, ugly, jealous, etc, when they have strong opinions about something that a lot of people may not agree with. More often than not, the commenters really have no idea what the writer looks like physically but just assume they must be ugly and jealous. I’ve received replies to comments I’ve posted on here MONTHS after the fact with someone attacking my physical appearance and level of activity (ex: you’re fat and lazy, just like all the hypocritical women on here!). And I don’t even really say anything too out there.

      Also, I’ve noticed a lot of the people who attack so viciously and have pictures of themselves aren’t exactly up to society’s beauty standards. ;)

      You’re gorgeous, Eve (and the rest of you, commenters and writers!), and have valuable opinions. A lot of what I’ve read on this site has actually opened my mind to a lot of new things. You, especially, have made me find the strength to come out as a feminist.

      <3

      • CMJ

        Sometimes I just want to tell them that calling me a crazy/lesbian/feminist/liberal is not an insult to me.

      • pixie

        Oh yeah, I always laugh at that added insult. “Oh, she must be a jealous, fat, ugly, bitch…and a dyke!” Because, clearly, if the woman doesn’t say something you agree with, they must be not only fat, ugly, and jealous, but also a butch lesbian.

      • Kitsune

        I love when they do that. I get that the crazy has some problematic intonations but replace lesbian with bi and that’s just how I label myself.

    • G.E. Phillips

      I think it’s pretty obvious that all of those nasty commenters have vagina envy.

    • http://www.twitter.com/ohladyjayne allisonjayne

      Man all these bald guys are really upset that people are questioning their god-given right to fap to a photo of a kid’s toy.

      • http://Mommyish.com/ Eve Vawter

        this is basically what it comes down to, and as usual you have put it very eloquently

      • http://www.twitter.com/ohladyjayne allisonjayne

        I hope the next time they quote me in the NYT they point out that I’m not just “a commenter” but a QUEER CANADIAN commenter. Because the readers will need to know that in order to decide if my comments have any validity.

      • http://fairlyoddmedia.com/ Frances Locke

        You gotta make sure they mention your age range too. You don’t want people wondering whether if they should be disregarding your comments because you’re an ancient beyatch or a dumb kid, amirite?

      • http://www.twitter.com/ohladyjayne allisonjayne

        Good call.
        NOTE TO REPORTERS: I’m 33. I’m white and skinny and I have long hair and wear make-up, but I don’t shave my pits, I have visible tattoos, and I have a longish face and my eyes are kind of close together. So there ya go muthafuckas.

      • http://www.ambiencechaser.com/ Elizabeth Licata

        I just don’t get what they’re upset about. Whose joy is being ruined here? Do they really *want* Barbie in SI? Do the Barbie and Swimsuit Issue fanbases overlap that much? The Swimsuit Issue is a magazine full of sexy ladies for people who like looking at sexy ladies to look at. Barbie is a toy for small children and some grown collectors, but all the Barbie collectors I know are not really interested in the sexy ladies in Sports Illustrated. Who are the people who are like, “FINALLY! Barbie is in Sports Illustrated after all these years! *This* is what I have been waiting for my whole life!”

      • http://Mommyish.com/ Eve Vawter

        maybe when our kids get the barbie catalogue they will have a crossover and we can look forward to Heidi Klum’s boobs in the middle of it

      • http://www.ambiencechaser.com/ Elizabeth Licata

        Wait, I just realized I do know one group that would be interested in seeing Barbie in Sports Illustrated, and it’s actually me. I am a nerd who likes Barbies and has actually subscribed to Haute Doll magazine, and I spent several years as a low-rent, retro Internet model, so I have purchased Swimsuit Issues to study the models’ poses for my own photoshoots.

        Are they appealing to the market of nerdy hipster girls who do kitschy pin-up modeling and like Barbies? Because I really didn’t think there were that many of us. (Yay! I am a demographic.)

      • chisai

        There is just a huge amount of “offense fatigue” happening right now and I have been trying to figure it out myself. Every time I talk about how something was tasteless or sexist or racist, someone is always like “GOSH DO WE HAVE TO PICK APART EVERYTHING?” The only explanation I can come up with is that a) these people are very privileged and sheltered and are blissfully exempt from sexism, racism, ableism and all other offensive behavior so they don’t realize it exists and/or b) people do not want to change the status quo of being able to make “jokes” about anything you want even if they’re terrible, mean, hurtful and perpetuate stereotypes and oppression. Either way, whenever someone tells me to “lighten up” or “just appreciate what you have” I throw up a little.

      • Kitsune

        I don’t understand being upset at critique thing. You can like something and still acknowledge that maybe it’s not perfect. I love pictures of hot women like these guys but the images don’t exist in a vacuum and I think that the affect they can have should be thought about and discussed. I also think that people get really sensitive because no one wants to be a racist or an asshole so they get really defensive and lash out instead of thinking about what they said.

      • http://mother--bored.tumblr.com/ Aimee Ogden

        Ugh, I hate that kind of complacent argument. “Women in some countries can’t vote so what are you even complaining about!?” Yup, we have the franchise, now it’s time to retire happily to the kitchen and not worry about the deeply problematic aspects of our own society.

      • whiteroses

        I agree completely. If Alice Paul, Elizabeth Stanton or Susan B. Anthony were still alive, they’d agree we still have a lot of work to do.

      • Kevin Miskel

        It’s an ADVERTISEMENT! The real cover has a real picture of three real women. The Barbie cover is an ADVERTISEMENT for her 50th anniversary. Nobody’s jerking to Barbie. If anything, the readers of SI would be annoyed that space was wasted on the doll, rather than having more pictures of real girls. Mattel wanted the word “Barbie” to be the #1 most searched word on the internet and guess what? It worked, because women are SO easy to offend. You played right into their hand, silly broad.

        But honestly, even if Barbie wasn’t on the cover, you’d still complain about the girls being too thin, or too white, or too Photoshopped, something. Every year, the swimsuit issue catches flack. Yet magazines like Star, InTouch, US Weekly and other rags have headlines like “Guess who has cellulite?”, or “Has ___ gained weight?”, with ZERO backlash.

      • Meghan Cooper

        haha right?

    • CMJ
      • Kay_Sue

        I love this GIF. Her face makes it. It really does.

      • http://Mommyish.com/ Eve Vawter

        I was pretty shocked by that. I mean, not very feminist of them to throw that much shade

      • CMJ

        CNN has turned into a horrible cesspool. Fuck all of them.

      • Crusty Socks
    • Alicia Kiner

      These men got awfully angry over an opinion. Honestly, I don’t see the Internet comments as a surprise. People on the Internet, just like people in general, are asshats. Individuals are awesome. But the Internet gives people the ability to be their jerkiest selves without consequence. The comments on CNN though, are disturbing. Since when did CNN get into opinions?

      • elle

        NEVER read the comments on CNN. One big troll fest. They really need to do something about it.

    • practicallyperfectineveryway

      I mean how dare a woman have an opinion and express it on the internet on her own website. What cheek.

      • http://Mommyish.com/ Eve Vawter

        (IT’S NOT MY WEBSITE. BUT YEAH! #howdareyou)

      • ElleJai

        You’re editing it. That’s close enough to ownership for the purposes of this conversation ;)

    • Jessica

      Hey, CNN- you would think that reading comprehension would be part of your qualifications. Damned if you didn’t miss the whole point. And the comments make my skin crawl. My stretched out, potato chip greased, oil of olay wearing skin.

      • Crusty Socks

        As a CNN Troll, I can assure you, their writers are some of the most illiterate people.

        I’m fairly certain CNN outsources their writing to natives of Antarctica.

      • Bethany Ramos

        Oil of Olay, lol!

      • Jessica

        #oilofoldlady #sosmoothsoshiny

      • Bethany Ramos

        Hahahaha

      • MellyG

        I’ve been using oilofoldlady since i was a teen – LOVE it. mainly the smell and it’s not ridiculously expensive

      • Jessica

        Every women on my mom’s side wears it. I think it’s in our DNA.

    • Crusty Socks

      Eve, rest assured that when I use you as a source, I refer to you as Evebama

      • http://fairlyoddmedia.com/ Frances Locke

        I refer to her as “Eveington Von Vawterson the third”

    • JLH1986

      Eve, you should just write a similar article under a man’s pseudonym. Then wait and watch as you are lauded for your “progressive” thoughts and opinions…

      • Crusty Socks

        Eve, your male pseudonym shall be:

        Ivan Stolkoffsky

      • Jessica

        I vote “Steve Bawter!”

    • K.

      Eve, I confess I did not read your Barbie article, but I’m disturbed that people feel the need to defend Barbie on the cover of SI by saying mothers don’t have a right to social opinions and cultural critique. That’s seriously disturbing in its callous disrespect–if you refuse sexual objectification, then your opinion is void because you clearly don’t live up to the standards of sexual objectification.

      Yes: misogyny must be beyond critique because misogyny.

      I admire your thick skin. Keep writing.

    • Alfreda Wells Morrissey

      Wow I guess those guys must be really attracted to Barbie. Who knew, I thought she was not meant to portray a realistic body image, hence the fact that she actually has no genitalia or nipples. I guess they can use their imaginations though.

      I didn’t really think the cover was all that sexy. I was more offended by the guys talking about what a great model she was than the idea of Barbie in sports illustrated. I just found it really confusing. Why? Do men actually want that?

      • http://www.benwhoski.com/ Benwhoski

        And here’s the thing: if they really are that attracted to Barbie and attached to the idea of being able to ogle her, they know they can just buy one, right? The beauty of internet shopping is that they don’t even have to be seen carrying out of the toy section.

        Oh, right. Buying a doll to ogle it would be weird and creepy. And buying a magazine to ogle pictures of it wouldn’t be. Somehow.

        Yeah. No. Still confused.

    • http://wtfihaveakid.blogspot.ca/ jendra_berri

      “I don’t think a child’s toy belongs in Sports Illustrated’s Swimsuit Edition”
      “You must be jealous of BARBIE! You must be UGLY! You must be BORED! You must be FAT! You must be OLD! RAWrw11!! Sandwiches!aqqr ZMOG…mri! Me man penis has NEEDS skgfhskg…!!!
      With intelligent counter arguments like this, who needs other points of view?

      I mean, I’d suggest something like Sports Illustrated should feature real human athletes in their photo spreads, and there are plenty of female athletes who do not get the media time men do, so giving a doll this space seems dismissive of this fact… but since I’m writing down an opinion sans penis, maybe I’m overstepping my bounds here.

      • http://Mommyish.com/ Eve Vawter

        I love your internet dude speak so much

        “You must be jealous of BARBIE! You must be UGLY! You must be BORED! You must be FAT! You must be OLD! RAWrw11!! Sandwiches!aqqr ZMOG…mri! Me man penis has NEEDS skgfhskg…!!!

    • MellyG

      Do these men know Barbie isn’t real? And that her body type is impossible? Not “oh you need to put down the fork” impossible, but physically impossible? I’m a little disturbed that men want to have sex with barbie – a TOY. I’m certainly glad i picked a man to partner with that doesn’t view dolls as sex objects. (I also appreciate the lack of literacy in the hateful comments – isn’t it always the way?)

      • ElleJai

        The lack of literacy is our first clue we’re not interested in the content.

        Or it could be because they think we’re all fat. Because everyone knows that the fatter you are the less grey matter you have… *insert eye roll here*

    • Gretta

      Ok so my brother is a young single guy who would probably buy the SI swimsuit edition… I think he would feel weird owning and looking at a magazine with Barbie dolls in it!!! The same Barbie dolls my daughter (his niece) plays with???? That’s weird! And creepy!

      And I totally agree with you on Mommy blogger being derogatory. However, the Internet trolls attack EVERYONE you know….

    • Rachel Sea

      This is why Mary Anne Evans wrote as George Eliot. Different millennium, same stupid problem.

    • meteor_echo

      After I’ve read all those Douchedude Bagbro comments, I started singing “I Wish I Was a Lesbian” out loud.
      I really wish.

    • Joy

      Fuck everyone, you ladies are awesome. This is quickly becoming my favorite corner of the internet, largely because the comments are generally a mutually supportive conversation instead of a bunch of trolls trying to be shocking. (Also because the articles are funny and not sanctimommy-ish.) Eve, you’re my kind of people.

    • brebay

      Free speech is not a police power. No one’s trying to outlaw the swimsuit issue. The next time you’re reading your copy of the 2nd amendment, flip around a few pages. A uterus is not part of the genitalia. Woman is singular, women is plural. Many feminists are thin and hot. Many anti-feminist women are obese and homely. That’s enough for today, I don’t want to overwhelm you with too many facts known to the average 10-year-old.

    • Snarktopus

      You wanna look at bikini-clad ladies and masterbate, fine, whatever. You wanna look at BARBIE in a DOLL binkini and masterbate? There’s something wrong with you.

    • Fireinthefudgehole

      Doesn’t want a children’s toy in an adult aimed magazine= Fat woman with fat kids??

    • Elisa Probert

      People are stupid. The national media is stupid, too. (not local though, I have to say that since my husband is a reporter for a local network LOL)

      I don’t agree with everything you say, but this is ridiculous…you have an opinion, so you must be fat and ugly? Pshaw…you’re HAWT!!! And smart, and funny, and if “Mommy Bloggers” are all like you it’s a freakin’ compliment.

    • MellyG

      if they assume that women with an opinion are fat, ugly, old and whatever, can we assume the men that get angry over crap like this, and can’t type or spell, are not getting laid? I kind of assume that, because i wouldn’t give the time of day to men like this, nor do i know any woman that would.

    • Andy

      Wow-it never fails to amaze me how idiotic some people can be. Barbie doesn’t belong in the SI Swimsuit issue because she is a TOY. A plastic child’s plaything. The models in SI? I don’t have a problem with them-yes, they won the genetic lottery, but realistically they also make sacrifices to look the way they do. And before anyone asks, no, I’m not obese. I’m not a 5’10 supermodel either. I’m just an average woman.

    • http://fairlyoddmedia.com/ Frances Locke

      I love how “Kevin O’Brien” thinks he’s all clever and shit because he knows how to work a mean Twitter-stalk.

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    • http://manifestyourdreamspublicity.com/ Curt Bizelli

      I took the liberty in checking this out; owning a media outlet of my own and having mercy on you, but I’m sickened with grief by the way you’ve publicized your misfortune in YES! a “whiny” way. I don’t believe in being rude or telling a woman to shut up. I am a rather respectful gentleman, and I would like to talk to you sometime about you writing for us to address you concerns to yet another audience. ;-) without the “whining” that is ;-) You never publicize bad publicity. And BTW, a court just ruled that it is in fact the hierarchy of a media outlet (not the fact that it is in print), but the hierachy, having publishers, editors, writers, etc. that makes it a media outlet and not JUST A BLOG!
      Feel free to get in touch. I’ll be around. God bless.

      • Sri

        Congratulations! You just told a woman how to do her job! And you used 2 condescending winky faces to do it! Do you feel accomplished? Do you feel proud? Do you feel like a man?

        Honestly, Eve raises a valid point. Her words were completely invalidated by a large number of people for 3 reasons. 1) She’s a woman, so her words are automatically worth less than a man’s would, despite the topic being sexualization of a toy commonly used by young girls, which is often seen as a de facto “woman’s issue.” 2) She has children, so despite the fact that she is, in fact, the editor of this site, she is called a mommy blogger. 3) A bunch of commenters decided that she was old and fat and ugly and he words were without any merit because of this. Everyone knows that old, fat, ugly women are incapable of good ideas because they are too busy being jealous of every other person who isn’t as old, fat, and ugly as them and they’re constantly looking for people who are older, fatter, and uglier than them. I’m not going to go into the fact that this isn’t true, because there’s nothing inherently wrong with being old, fat, and ugly.

        The fact that you think that pointing out the inherent sexism in our society is “whining” says a lot about you, bro. Have fun with your cool cool “media outlet.” BTW, it’s so full of virus laden scripts that my browser wouldn’t even let me go to your front pages. Good job, bro.

      • ElleJai

        I’m “sickened with grief” after reading your comment.

        Go back to the swamp you crawled out from, we’re not interested in this patent rubbish. Not Eve, not the writers, and most definitely not the Mommyish community.

    • Ddaisy

      I am so sorry that those people would say things like that to you. I actually started crying while reading them. People can be horrible.

      I don’t have kids, will probably never have kids, and am not really interested in parenting in and of itself. But I visit this website every day because it has some of the smartest, funniest, most thoughtful, intelligent, loving, well-written things I’ve found anywhere on the internet.

      If only all those other “real” writers were half as insightful, informed, and eloquent as you are.

    • Shelly Lloyd

      They are just jealous because we can make people and they can not. :)

    • Kathryn Rawson

      I think what bothers me the most is that I would have expected comments like these. I suppose it really is further proof that some men think with the wrong head. Had anyone decided to use a shred of common sense, I’m going to bet we wouldn’t have a seen a reaction like this one, regardless of who wrote the piece.

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    • Marie Neilon-Hart

      If it’s any consolation, I think you’re awesome Eve. I’m glad you read the comments and wrote a response. Also, I laughed out loud at the “I killed America” quote. You keep doing what you do.

    • Jane Doh

      Eve, how dare you have opinions when:
      A) They are different from those of men who still enjoy being titillated by printed media
      B) You are over 30

    • Allyson_et_al

      Since I am, in fact, fat and middle-aged, I guess I have no business speaking or writing at all. I guess it will free up a lot of time for man-hating and overeating.

      • http://Mommyish.com/ Eve Vawter

        We need jackets that say this

      • Allyson_et_al

        Cool! We can be like the Pink Ladies, 25 years later!

    • NYCNanny

      I wouldn’t take it personally, Eve… Most bloggers are treated this way. You’re doing a great job @ Mommyish!

    • http://www.fitnesscheerleader.com/ Janice – Fitness Cheerleader

      This article, and the other one this article links to, are titled and written to drive traffic, and sadly I was lured to this site by the sensationalism of this blog post title – shame on me, I was expecting a much deeper article. But since I’m here, I might as well add my 2 cents worth… I’m a mom who blogs about living active, eating healthy and accepting your body, therefore I am a mommy blogger. I am neither offended nor worried about my THREE daughters seeing Barbie in SI for two reasons:

      1) My daughters are confident, sporty girls who get their self-worth from how hard they tried at hockey practice.

      2) My daughters do not even know that the SI Swimsuit edition even exists because they are far too busy being little girls – going to school, hockey practices & games, playing with their friends and doing homework.

      It’s too bad this mommy blogger has spent so much time writing about being offended, she should instead be working to raise a daughter so confident in herself that it doesn’t even matter what the media displays.

      • Jane

        lol… What is it with people like you? Like none of that is part of blog anatomy. It’s just like sales and whatever else involves self-promotion. What’s the BFD?

      • http://Mommyish.com/ Eve Vawter

        Because you have such “confident, sporty girls” maybe you aren’t offended by one of their iconic toys being used in a magazine that exemplifies sex and “sexiness” – that’s your opinion. Maybe you don’t care that the term ” mommy blogger” is used, a lot, as a way of degrading women with kids who write. Also your opinion. You don’t know my kid, or how I’m raising her.

    • http://sourcererblog.wordpress.com Sourcerer

      Keep Blogging, and keep talking about this stuff, please. I’m sure you are correct about the differential treatment you’ve received. Most of the best bloggers I know are mommies, even if their posting isn’t necessarily devoted to mommy-blogging. Following you on Twitter.

    • Kat

      This group of men sure is pissed Barbie might go away.

      THEY MUST BE UGLY AND BALD AND FAT AND STUFF HAHA OLD FAT UGLY BALD LOSER GUYS JEALOUS BECAUSE BARBIE WOMEN THINK THEY’RE BALD UGLY FAT BALD FAT LOSER OLD FAT UGLY BLADFATULGYDHDBSNSKXJCBCB

      Men — this is your brain. This is your brain on… no, it’s just your brain.

    • AE Vorro

      Preach, woman! Tell it like it is!

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