• Thu, Feb 13 - 12:30 pm ET

Mom Uses RSVP For 7-Year-Old’s Party To Write Bigoted Note To Gay Dads [UPDATE]

My favorite thing about the Internet is that occasionally it is used to publicly shame awful people. Well also Cats In Space - I love cats in space. But not as much as I love it when homophobic jerks are skewered, like this mother who decided an RSVP to a 7-year-old’s birthday party was a good time to let the birthday girl’s parents know she doesn’t approve of their “lifestyle.”

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A morning radio show got this “from a set of dads in Baldwin who were really upset over how one mom, Beth, chose to respond to their daughter’s birthday party invite.” Sophia has two dads and Tommy’s mommy does NOT approve. Which is unfortunate, because not only is Tommy going to miss an awesome tie-dye party, Tommy’s mom is going to miss an opportunity to broaden her small world and stop being such a judgmental witch.

I’m sorry Sophia has to grow up this way.

Yes, it’s terrible that Sophia has to grow up with two parents who love her and who are throwing her an awesome tie-dye party. Do you know how amazing you have to be to throw a tie-dye party? Do you know how much patience and disregard for the state of your home goes into allowing seven year olds to play with dye? These parents deserve a medal.

If you have an issue or need to speak to me…

I took the liberty of blocking out her number, but the station did not. I imagine she’s had to change it by now. In this time of iPhones and quick Internet uploads, you should probably be more careful with leaving a paper trail of your ignorance. Clearly she doesn’t care, as she gave the station permission to leave her number on the image:

BTW: Beth gave us permission to post her phone number and said anyone who has a problem with what she wrote can call her, too!

The sad thing here is that Tommy is the one who is really suffering because his mother’s homophobia is preventing him from enjoying a perfectly innocent day with his friends. That’s pretty awful.

UPDATE: Station hosts are liars. They made up the invitation story as a publicity stunt. Here’s an excerpt of their apology letter:

On Wednesday, we told you the story of Sophia’s birthday party, and one parent’s objection to the same-sex household of Sophia’s parents.  We also posted the invitation on our Facebook page, and invited comments from our followers.

This story was, in fact, totally fictitious, and created by the two of us.  This was done without the knowledge of K-98.3 management or ownership.

We were attempting to spur a healthy discourse on a highly passionate topic, but we made a mistake by misleading our listeners into thinking that this specific situation actually existed.

I will never understand these publicity stunts, as those who perpetrate them just end up looking like huge jerks.

(photo: Facebook)

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  • Robotic Arms Dealer

    Do we have proof this is legit?

    Not like that one lesbo waitress chick who forged a “no-tip b/c you’re gay” receipt?

    • Kay_Sue

      That was my first thought too. It kind of sucks having to doubt everything. I am not ready for that much cynicism today, dammit. *sighs*

    • keelhaulrose

      Even if it’s not, the sentiment is real. I’m good friends with a lesbian couple who have had family members decline invites to their kids’ birthday parties because they “don’t want their kids exposed to that lifestyle”

    • JLH1986

      this both pisses me off and makes me laugh. Because what kind of exposure do these people think will happen? Like a gay porn party or what the hell?

    • CMJ

      I mean tie dye = ORGY!!! amirite?

    • JLH1986

      I’m kinda out of the loop because of school, but now I know tyedye=Orgy! Hells yea. Wait…I went to a tye dye party when I was 10…maybe I’m not sure what orgy means…

    • CMJ

      OMG- Maybe THIS is what Beth is talking about!?!?!

    • keelhaulrose

      Wait, parents aren’t supposed to put their sex lives on display during their kids birthday parties?
      *non-chalantly kicks dominatrix costume into the closet*

    • JLH1986

      I’m so glad I found this site before we had kids. We would have left that sex swing out when we had a birthday party and shit would have been awkward.

    • Kay_Sue

      Sooooo…you called it. No one would have an AOL email, indeed!

  • Kay_Sue

    Assuming this is real, can I take that empty spot? Because a tie dye party sounds totally baller.

    • Robotic Arms Dealer

      I say it’s fake

      Who uses aol.com???

    • CMJ

      If you go to the Facebook page, Beth’s number (the woman who declined) is on there…call it!!! Report back!!!

    • Alexis Rhiannon

      I called!

    • Kay_Sue

      Whoa! What happened??

    • krislankay
    • http://wtfihaveakid.blogspot.ca/ jendra_berri

      Bigots who are stuck in the past, that’s who.

    • Robotic Arms Dealer

      You know that the person who wrote the invite card is the gay dad, right? The person who wrote the reply letter is your bigot

    • brebay

      There you go dashing another fun gay stereotype of hip-ness. They’re just a couple of old, boring dudes still clinging to their aol addresses…no one old enough to have an aol account is having any kind of awesome, crazy sex…

    • http://wtfihaveakid.blogspot.ca/ jendra_berri

      Womp womp.

    • Momma425

      I know, right? I haven’t been to a tie-dye party since I was like 9- I’m sure they are way cooler now!

    • Kay_Sue

      Well, that settles it. When we do MommyishCon someday, it must be tie-dye themed.

    • Sara

      I just got super pumped for MommyishCon and then realized you were joking. You killed my senior trip dream!!! In all seriousness I support a MommyishCon!

    • Kay_Sue

      If it were within my power, believe me, it would have happened like, yesterday.

      No, seriously, yesterday. We were iced in and the last time we had the talk about MommyishCon, someone offered to host it in HAWAII….

    • krislankay
    • Kay_Sue

      Yeah, I kind of caught this story in umpteen billion news outlets and also the update above. We kind of questioned the veracity to begin with, which you can see in some of the other comments too.

  • keelhaulrose

    A simple no suffices, people.
    I didn’t blame my decline to go to my cousin’s wedding because his fiancee was a gold-digging wonder slut. I just said “sorry, can’t make it”, then toasted my ability to avoid the gold digging wonder slut for the majority of their extremely short marriage (I knew she was chatting on him before the wedding, it took him three months to figure it out for himself).
    I feel sorry for the bigots kid.

    • CMJ
    • http://fairlyoddmedia.com/ Frances Locke

      I was waiting to see what awesome gif you would find for this, and you did not disappoint.

    • CMJ

      Look how young he looks!

    • Kay_Sue

      “Gold digging wonder slut”…I kind of want to emblazon that ironically on a jacket, because it is pretty epic.

    • pixie

      I think we should all get ironic “gold digging wonder slut” jackets.

    • Kay_Sue

      It would be amazeballs.

    • whiteroses

      Shut up and take my money!!!!
      Plus, it has to have bling. A TON of bling.

    • pixie

      ALL THE BLING!

    • keelhaulrose

      I don’t like jackets.
      I want a blinged-out gold digging wonder slut wine sippy. Can I get that?

    • pixie

      Obviously.

    • keelhaulrose

      We need to make this Mommyish store happen.
      Where’s Eve? Our head bling bitch needs to get on this.

    • Kay_Sue

      I think this would be even better than a jacket, actually. ;)

    • Tinyfaeri

      YES! Like a bowling league!

    • keelhaulrose

      The Mommyish store would be epic if we produced everything we think would be awesome.

    • CMJ

      I would be like a snarky, hilarious etsy.

    • Kay_Sue

      It would be enough to get me back into retail, and *that* is saying something.

    • LiteBrite

      If I didn’t already have a roller derby name, “Gold Digging Wonder Slut” would be it.

    • Kay_Sue

      I would love to see it. I would cheer on Gold Digging Wonder Slut any day.

    • KatieLady

      or tye-dye it onto a shirt!!!!! :)

    • Kay_Sue

      I like that! It’s in keeping with our whole theme for this post!

    • SarahJesness

      If I ever form a band or a gang I’m calling it “Gold Digging Wonder Sluts”.

    • Kay_Sue

      And I will personally buy all of the albums. All of them.

    • SarahJesness

      Don’t forget the merchandise! A T-shirt, and a nice big poster for your living room!

    • Kay_Sue

      I will frame that shit. And I rarely frame posters. ;)

  • http://www.twitter.com/ohladyjayne allisonjayne

    I guess I’d rather someone be up front with me about why we can’t be friends, rather than letting me wonder if it has to do with my personality or coffee breath or whatever. If someone’s shitty or distant or weird with me I never assume it’s the queer thing, I always assume it’s about me as a person and it brings my self-esteem down, which can be such a drag because if it is the queer thing then I can move on much easier on account of I don’t care what assholes think.

    • Lauren_Alli

      While I can totally see what you’re saying, I don’t feel a child’s birthday party invite is a great place to exhibit said assholery.

    • http://www.twitter.com/ohladyjayne allisonjayne

      Oh, for sure.

    • Givemeabreak

      Parenting win/fail not really sure: I was explaining to my 5 year old that my cousin was gay and that meant that Bob* and Joe* love each other VERY much and are very best friends and that they live together, just like how Mama & Daddy do. His response, “I CAN’T WAIT TO GROW UP AND BE GAY WITH BILLY (aka his best friend)” My husband looked at me and told me he didnt think I did that right but.. meh? He’s got the right idea right?Either way, we have a be kind to everyone rule in our home. NO matter who or what or why. It’s be kind.

    • Kay

      Last year my 6 year old told me that when he grew up he was going to marry his two best friends. They would play video games and sports all day. I thought it was the cutest thing ever. We didn’t correct him, and he hasn’t said it again this year.

    • Givemeabreak

      Kids are awesome. They don’t care or have prejudices until they are TAUGHT to have issues with others. It’s pretty sad when you think about it. I feel bad for Tommy growing up in a home like that.

    • Mandi

      Hey, I married my best friend and we play video games and eat pizza all the time. Not a bad plan.

    • Alfreda Wells Morrissey

      In preschool my daughter wanted to marry her best female friend. By kindergarten she had a boyfriend she planned on marrying. Grade one, still friends with boy, but now obsessed with another female best friend. At some point though she started saying, she can’t marry a girl, and I was a bit upset because I wonder where she got that information. I guess from all the disney movies. I told her she can marry whomever she pleases, boy or girl and she just giggled and said silly mommy, girls can’t marry girls. I mentioned that her Uncle is married a man and now she is just really confused. I’m not really sure where to go from here but pretty much hope she will figure things out on her own. As long as she knows I will support her with whatever she chooses.

      At this age what is most is shocking is the intensity of their relationships. Both girls will be absolutely obsessed with one person and cry at night because they miss that person, even though they see them 5 out of 7 days at school/daycare. My eldest used to sleep with her best friend’s photo under her pillow. Now her friend borrowed a sweater and her mother washed it. My daughter sleeps in it because it smells like her friend. I am not bothered by the gender of the friend, but I wonder is is normal for them to be so intense about their love for people at this age? It is almost like they are having separation anxiety from their friend. I guess they are just starting to experience connection with people that they are not related too and maybe that is scary for them, but wow. Just trying to be supportive and listen. Not sure what else to do.

    • Adrenelynn

      Personally, I think you’re right and they’re learning how to handle having a deep connection with someone who isn’t family. It sounds like you’re doing the right thing by keeping an eye on it but not condemning it. They’ll probably mellow out once the newness wears off, or they make more friends. On the other hand, if they start to get all “Heavenly Creatures” you may need to step in.

    • CrazyFor Kate

      I upvoted you just for the Heavenly Creatures reference. Great movie.

    • Alfreda Wells Morrissey

      I had to google “Heavenly Creatures” but I am so watching that movie tonight. It is on Netflix.

      I was a bit worried when she started talking about how she really is a fairy. She needs to complete her fairy tests then she will become a fairy and move to the fairy world.

      Then I remembered that when I was a kid, my friend and I were princesses of wonderusland where dolls were real and my mother was in league with the evil shadow villain.

    • Eli

      My 7yo stepdaughter thinks she’s the strongest superhero in the world and she could beat up anyone she doesn’t like or that tries to hurt her.
      To me that is infinitely more terrifying than the times she’s said things like “I want to marry Lucy/Andrea/Mary/Generic Female Name when I grow up.”
      Sorry, just saw a little connection there :-P

    • KatieLady

      made me giggle to picture your kid shouting that :) cute… love when mom things kinda backfire on me .. makes life fun…

    • Williwaw

      I’m sure he’ll figure it out when he’s a bit older. I have encountered a lot of little kids who said they wanted to marry their parent when they grew up. I think little kids just really don’t distinguish between different kinds of love (i.e. best friend versus lover). And I like your household rule of be-kind-to-everyone.

    • K.

      Dan Savage wrote a great column about how his son also said that he wanted to grow up and be gay. Savage astutely points out that his son can no more choose to be gay than he could have chosen to be straight.

      And besides, my son’s last aspiration was that he wanted to grow up and be a harmonica, so I’m not sure why we pay that much attention to the shit kids say anyway.

    • CrazyFor Kate

      Eh, when they were five my mom and her twin brother decided they would marry each other, because looking for a spouse was too much work. Kids have a very different concept of marriage!

    • Romylove

      Myrcella? Or are you Tommen?

    • CrazyFor Kate

      I’m Joffrey, bitches.

      *should add the caveat that unlike the Lannisters, these particular twins put away their marriage plans…however long a kindergartner’s attention span lasts later.

    • Givemeabreak

      To further this. If anyone watches Jimmy Kimmel. My cousin & his boyfriend got engaged last night live on the show :-) It was awesome!

    • Tea

      Agreed. At least at that point you just shrug and move on, rather than deal with a whole bunch of passive aggressive avoidance bullshit for seemingly no reason.

  • Kate

    I bet this same mom is going to be all butt-hurt if the kids from the party show up at school wearing the t-shirts, causing Tommy to feel left out.

    • JLH1986

      She will then promptly email the school and demand that no more birthday parties for anyone ever!

  • E.silva

    This is so stupid. It’s just a kids birthday party. It’s not like it’s going to be “first we dye tshirt a, then gay sex for everyone display and then we cut the cake and open gifts!” I mean why do people have to be so stupid and close-minded?

    • JLH1986

      Because people, in general, are stupid and close-minded.

    • Givemeabreak

      That kind of sounds almost like a really awesome Cinemax movie. You should send them the idea!

    • Mike

      The fact that she is making the connection between a gathering of children and sex of any kind is worrying.

  • drinkpepsi

    So many things to love about this story:

    1. The homophobic mom spelled “believe” wrong. (Not that I’m surprised.)

    2. What exactly does the mom envision these two dads will be doing during the birthday party?? (My heterosexual partner and I barely have the chance to glance at each other if we are entertaining 20 kids in the house.)

    3. Stop calling it a “lifestyle.” It makes it sound like it is something that can be easily changed or changed at all. It is not a choice. Just like the mom who RSVPd did not “choose” to be heterosexual.

    4. I hope the dads take the high road. It isn’t poor Tommy’s fault that his mother is a bigot. Give him a tie dye shirt after the party and teach him that gay people are awesome. (A shirt with an extra dose of rainbows…)

    • personal

      Love the idea of a rainbow tie-die shirt! You.are.brilliant!

    • Kelly

      Giving him a rainbow shirt could start some serious shit in Timmy’s life. The dads don’t have to live with Timmy’s homophobe mom but Timmy does. Trying to rub his mom’s face in it is not taking the high road.

      I’m the child of a couple of hardcore homophobes. I’m so glad no one ever did anything like that. It would have made my life even more difficult.

    • drinkpepsi

      Relax. It’s tie dye. It is meant to be colorful.

      Besides, I am sure Tommy’s homophobic mother will throw the shirt out anyway.

    • Sara

      Yes, but if Tommy’s mom is open about her distaste of homosexuals to this degree then Tommy’s the one who is going to suffer for the tie dye shirt. My dad hates basically everyone, but holds a special place of hate for gays. My ass would’ve been handed to me for even daring to speak about gay people let alone accepting clothing from them.

    • drinkpepsi

      I’m sorry that you grew up in that kind of household.

      Does your dad think that being gay is a choice?
      (Really…who would choose it? And did your dad ‘choose’ to be straight?)

      I sincerely hope that your father didn’t have any gay children. Being raised with a homophobic parent would be bad enough. But being raised by a homophobic parent when you are gay must be absolutely horrible.

    • http://www.twitter.com/ohladyjayne allisonjayne

      I can confirm that it’s absolutely NOT GREAT.

    • Sara

      Can I just ask, does it get better? I mean did your parents ever like accept who you are? My mom’s cool with whatever I happen to be, but my dad not so much.

    • http://www.twitter.com/ohladyjayne allisonjayne

      They did. To make a fairly long story short, I came out to them a second time when I was 21 (the first time wasn’t my decision and it didn’t go well, to say the least). It coincided with both of my parents dating new people, so while it was never said out loud, in my head at least there was a sort of “you have to accept me if you want me to accept this” thing about it. They both came to my wedding and while neither of them are exactly PFLAG leaders or anything, they’ve actually come a really, really long way. I think they know that at this point in my life, I won’t stand for anything less than acceptance. I credit Ellen DeGeneres for my mom’s turnaround…she LOVES her and thinks she’s the funniest person ever so I think that actually really helped her accept me.

      But yeah, growing up it wasn’t great. I came out to all my friends when I was like 16 but I knew I couldn’t dare tell my parents so I had to keep a lot of things hidden from them. It put up a lot of walls between us.

    • Sara

      Thanks! My mom is amazing and would accept pretty much anyone I brought home as long as they treated me and other people with respect. My dad would probably disown me. Were your friends cool with you being gay? (If this is a ride question just let me know)

    • http://www.twitter.com/ohladyjayne allisonjayne

      Oh yeah, they were fine. I went to an arts high school so being bi wasn’t weird really. My best friend (I came out to her a bit earlier than the rest of the group) was like, “cool, let’s go get sundaes”.

      I had a roommate in university who was a bit irritating in the “I’m ok with it as long as you’re not like, attracted to me.” me: “nope, not at all”. her: “….why???? why aren’t you attracted to me???”. That was annoying but I’ll still take it over being treated like shit.

    • http://www.twitter.com/ohladyjayne allisonjayne

      Oh and I’m sorry about your dad. This might sound trite but you really never know….I have friends whose parents initially kicked them out, cut them off, they thought that was the end of it…eventually the parents came to their senses and realized that it just wasn’t worth losing their kids over. It doesn’t always happen obviously but yeah, I myself am still pretty shocked at how far my own mom has come.

    • Sara

      I’ve always pretty much figured my dad wouldn’t be part of mylife as I got older, but it’s nice to have a glimmer of maybe. Thank you for answering my questions and all of your really cool/funny comments!

    • disqus_kNAFlNmi3a

      Yep, been there. Had a lot to do with religious brainwashing at the time, but they’ve come around. I’ve forgiven them, but I think that guilt still weighs pretty heavily on them.

    • Sara

      It really sucks. And I’m still growing up in one so it’s not easy. Also, I’m not really sure what I am, but I know my dad would lose his mind if I ever questioned my sexuality. He’s just a hateful person that hates pretty much everyone, but we’re making progress on his racism!
      I wasn’t trying to be rude when I replied to your comment, but taking a stand at the expense of a kid is horrible. It’s happened to me before and it’s pretty brutal hearing your dad scream and swear about something you might be, and knowing that he hates every single part of you.

    • Alicia Kiner

      I saw this video asking heteros when they chose to be straight. The looks on their faces were awesome. They we were all like, what? I didn’t choose to be straight. I just am. A couple of people didn’t get the connection until the interviewer said but you think gays choose to be gay. It was epic. I’ll try to find the video

    • Alicia Kiner
    • brebay

      Well, this gives me some hope for humanity. I’m surprised this many people were willing to see the flaw in their reasoning so easily.

    • drinkpepsi

      So true! Nobody chooses to be straight. And no one who is straight would choose to be gay. I mean, it makes no sense.

      On the plus side, I have a feeling Sophia has two awesome dads. I cannot imagine letting 20 kids have access to permanent dye in my home. And the party is in March. In NY. It is too cold for an outdoor party.

      These dads deserve a medal.

    • krislankay
  • cici

    Wow… obviously no balls! She didn’t call the dad!

    • whiteroses

      Because actually telling someone to their face that you disapprove of them is FAR too much work- I mean, giving someone a chance to respond? How dare you make such a suggestion!!!

    • brebay

      It’s not really ballsy to call someone up and tell them you don’t like where they stick their penis; Even in the context of bigoted moves, she should have just ignored the invite.

  • whiteroses

    Maybe it makes me a bad mom by some people’s standards- but if I have a choice between my son attending a birthday party for a friend who has a pair of kind, thoughtful, conscientious dads or a mom and dad who are racist or bigoted, I pick the dads every time. And I’m not sorry about it.

    I mean, I don’t know for sure if they’re kind and thoughtful, but being willing to let a group of 7 year olds who are hopped up on sugar play with dye, just because it’s fun? That’s the kind of parent I want to be.

    • Kay_Sue

      I don’t know that I am personally on that level of parenting. I aspire to it, though.

    • whiteroses

      Oh, me too. I’m working on it!

  • Alex

    I’ll wait a bit before accepting that this is real. I don’t necessarily have any reason to believe that this couldn’t happen or hasn’t happened before, but viral stories like this always make me suspicious that it might be a forgery or that we don’t have all the facts or have only heard one party’s version of events.

    • brebay

      I’d love to hear a hypothetical in which a mother writing this is anything other than a douchecanoe. Did they photoshop out the “jk:) ?” I believe forgery is possible, but not “or that we don’t have all the facts or have only heard one party’s version.”

    • Kay_Sue

      Yeah, I think she made her version pretty clear if it is real.

      Unless she meant something totally different by lifestyle. Maybe they were rival football team fans? We’d have trouble letting our kids go to a Cowboys-themed birthday party…

    • brebay

      True, maybe they’re cat people? extreme couponers? wizards? I suppose the possibilities are endless.

    • Kay_Sue

      I’d be okay with cats, but have a serious issue if they owned spiders. I don’t know that I would keep my kid from going, but someone else would have to take him….

    • pixie

      Maybe the problem is they’re muggles and the mom doesn’t want her precious pureblood son mixing with them.

      Sorry, couldn’t help myself going all Harry Potter on that.

    • CrazyFor Kate

      Maybe Harry finally admitted his love for Draco and they bought a condo in the States to get away from the press? And Beth is a former Death Eater who thinks Draco’s a traitor and Harry a half-blood freak (and, you know, Harry freakin’ Potter)

    • pixie

      Hahaha. YES!!!

    • Heather C

      “The- the neighbors are WIZARDS?! VERNON! Halp!”
      ****
      “Darling, the muggles are at it again. Should- should I say something to them?”
      “No, it’s best just to let them alone. There’s no helping such people.”

    • Alex

      I meant that in general, “we don’t have all the facts or have only heard one party’s version of events” is a valid reason for skepticism, like the Kaitlyn Hunt (lesbian statutory rape) case. Forgery is certainly the most reasonable explanation if this turns out to be bogus, like the Toni Jenkins (racist Red Lobster diners) case.

      The main problem I have with viral stories such as these that so many reporters and bloggers tend to want to get their articles up and published before even half the obvious questions have been answered. Because well-researched journalism takes time, and by then most of the clicks will be gone.

  • candyvines

    Maria, for the free love of hippies everywhere it’s tie dye.

    • Maria Guido

      AHAHAHHAHAHAHA. Damn. How did I get to 40, grow up near Santa Cruz, and not know that?

    • brebay

      Every time I see your screen name I want to sneak out to the C store and get a movie theatre-sized box of Red Vines. I hope you can live with yourself…

    • candyvines

      I never meant to use my name for evil, my apologies. Grab an extra while you’re out?

  • Fireinthefudgehole

    Tie dye is a sin. Y’all need to read the bible.

    • keelhaulrose

      Then I’m driving a rainbow-spiral road of fabulousness straight to hell!

    • Muggle

      If tie dye is wrong, then I don’t want to be right.

    • K Jones

      Best.comment.ever.

    • Lackadaisical

      Well what if linen and wool were put together in the dying process? That is biblically bad. Perhaps that’s what she is worried about exposing her child to.

  • Amber Starr

    What a nasty, rotten bitch. I really feel bad for her kid because he’s the one who has to miss out on a sweet-ass tie dye party (and probably a bitchin’ gift bag) because his mom is a scumbag.

    She sounds like a miserable person. I just hope her son escapes her claws and isn’t damaged as he grows up.

  • Joseph

    Does anyone else find it just a little bit…um….weird that this woman thought about a couple’s sex life whilst reading a 7-year-old’s birthday invitation? I mean, that’s more than a little creepy. When you get an invite from a hetero couple’s child, do you immediately think about them having sex? That’s definitely not normal, and she might want to talk to a professional about it.

    • http://Mommyish.com/ Eve Vawter

      NO. I think it’s the best. I hate taking my kid to parties. from now on, whenever ANYONE invites my kid I am writing the same thing, for no reason. I DON’T BELIEVE IN WHAT YOU DO could mean like, they type of detergent they use

    • StephanieTruth

      Her response is funnier if you read it assuming she is just anti tye dye.

    • Amber Stacey Larsson

      Your “lifestyle”. Damn hippies.

    • Kay_Sue

      I did this, and you are so right.

    • Courtney Lynn

      THIS. All day. And I like your name, it’s also my son’s name!

    • LiteBrite

      “When you get an invite from a hetero couple’s child, do you immediately think about them having sex?”

      Nope. My first thought is, “Shit…ANOTHER birthday party?”

    • Momma425

      Right?
      I was reading that and going “subject her innocent son to that lifestyle?” WHAT LIFESTYLE? The lifestyle of tie dye birthday parties?

      I really think this woman is afraid of these dads dropping their pants and humping on the cake table or having gay porno magazines out or something. I don’t get it.

  • KaeTay

    I don’t understand what someone’s sexuality has to do with a 7 year olds birthday. I mean they aren’t going to be teaching methods of safe anal sex to all the children. I hope if this is real the woman gets bombarded with calls.

    • Sara610

      Wait, you mean that’s NOT on the list of typical children’s birthday party activities? Crap, I’ve been doing it all wrong.

    • CrazyFor Kate

      Condom balloons are the latest new trend!

  • Stephanie

    I’d have to write her back and say “Relax, honey. The only thing getting blown at this party are some balloons.”

  • Guestosexual

    This woman doesn’t BELIEVE in what they do? Someone tell Miss Vanilla that gay people aren’t Bigfoot.

    • Guetosexual

      Beeleeve*

    • CrazyFor Kate

      I don’t believe in the gays. They were invented by the TV industry in 1978 to make Christians feel awkward. And don’t even get me started on dinosaurs.

  • brebay

    Whatever. The best part of every kids’ birthday party is the part where the parents get freaky on the cake table…

  • MaebykittyRN

    I will totally take Tommy’s spot at that party. I want to tie-dye!

    • K Jones

      Count me in, too!! Sophia is going to have an awesome party.

  • Lauren Victoria

    What a dumb bitch. I feel like I could rant and rave but it just comes right back to her being a dumb bitch. I’ll just leave it at that.

  • Shelly Lloyd

    Dear Beth, I’m sorry that your innocent Tommy will have to grow up with a mom who has such a poor grasp of the English language that she is incapable of spelling “believe” correctly. If you have an issue with this, please consult a dictionary for further reference.

  • brebay

    apparently Beth called into the radio show this morning and was every bit as intelligent as we suspected…

    • Maria Guido

      I’m sorry I missed that…

    • slysnootle

      Is there a link or can you provide the name of this show? I just want confirmation before i start calling a stranger names.

    • brebay

      I clicked on the red link in the above piece: “morning radio show.” which took me to the FB page, then I scrolled down to this story (same pic as above).

    • slysnootle

      Thank you!

  • Elisa Probert

    I can’t even…just…whaaaaat?

    You can just say no without going into your whole life story.

    She couldn’t call them to say this, but she expects them to call her and what, beg her to let her son come to the party, while pledging to never again be gay? *headdesk*

    • andrea

      ha! I would have jacked with her: “Hi, Beth! You’re totally right, and we’ve ‘decided’ to be straight now.” I mean, what did she expect?????

  • Natasha B

    Did anyone notice she spelled ‘believe’ wrong….freakin bigots. Can’t even spell. I’m sorry little Tommy has to grow up in a household that encourages spelling mistakes and shaky grammar…..

  • Courtney Lynn

    Aside from her being a rude, tactless bigot, I understand that not everyone is a-okay with homosexuality. I’m a Christian who attends church and I know how most of my fellow Christians feel about it. I choose to leave it alone and support gay marriage, but that’s me. I have a lot of gay friends, I just can’t resolve telling anyone, especially those I love, WHO to love. Disagree if you will. I’m well aware of what the Bible says but that’s another can of worms I’m not opening right now. Not to mention that legal marriage is a civil matter not a religious one, but I digress.

    That being said, I get that she doesn’t agree with these men being gay and raising a child but there was NO need to say anything other than “decline”. None. To be hurtful and hateful was unnecessary.

    • Muggle

      Or a divorced/remarried couple. Or two unmarried divorcés. I mean, divorce is wrong according to the Bible, right? We shouldn’t be subjecting our kids to that and letting them think it’s okay.

      Oh, wait….

    • Courtney Lynn

      It’s mostly wrong unless adultery is involved, so yeah. And yes. Much agreed.

    • Muggle

      You know, there are a lot of churches who wouldn’t recognize adultery if they believed the cheated-on woman wasn’t submissive enough, so no divorce for her.

    • Courtney Lynn

      I don’t doubt it.

    • slysnootle

      Bigot, bigot, bigot……..sigh. I think disagreeing with a disgusting lifestyle is bigotry like an average German thinks Bud Light is beer. BTW….give it a few days and we’ll learn this story is fake just like most of the others trying to make bigots out of average people and Christians.

    • candyvines

      Most bigots do a pretty good job of outing themselves. Case in point.

    • slysnootle

      “Bigot” once had a real definition. Now it’s only used to identify people who have a problem with homosexuality. Expand your vocabulary.

    • candyvines

      Bigot:

      : a person who strongly and unfairly dislikes other people, ideas, etc. : a bigoted person; especially : a person who hates or refuses to accept the members of a particular group (such as a racial or religious group)

      If the shoe fits…

    • slysnootle

      If the shoe fits……..

      Can’t speak for you but most people I run into who love throwing “bigot” around have their share of unfair prejudices for Christians, the wealthy and conservatives.

    • Courtney Lynn

      So what is the true definition? You do not have to agree with or like homosexuality. I’m not a fan of divorce, myself. I’m not sending scathing messages to my parents for splitting up, though OR my friends who are divorced.

    • slysnootle

      What’s wrong with just calling them what they are? Azzwholes!

    • whiteroses

      I can’t speak for all Christians- but I’ve always believed that I am the only Bible some people will ever read. I don’t have to agree with the way people live their lives, but I can at the very least love them as human beings, who are just as flawed as I am.

      Jesus loves everyone, no matter what they’ve done. If the whole point of Christianity is to be Christlike, who am I to judge or condemn? Shouldn’t I, too, love everyone as best I can?

    • K.

      Thank you.

      And as someone who studies religion in a historical context, I don’t recall that much about homosexuality in the Bible–I believe the entire book has all of maybe six verses that obliquely reference same-sex sexual relations (‘homosexuality’ was not a concept for the historical culture that was contemporaneous with when the Bible was written).

      I do, however, recall thousands of verses that directly and explicitly command tolerance and love.

    • K Jones

      I’ve always wondered why so many who call themselves Christians are obsessed with other people’s sex lives. There are a multitude of sins listed in the Bible, but all I hear about is homosexuality. I’d like to see some of these people decline an invitation because the host is too vain and boastful with maybe some gluttony thrown in.
      Just to clarify, I specifically used the words “call themselves Christians” to define these people, because I like to think the real Christians are the ones practicing love and tolerance, or at least trying to.

    • neighbor57

      I’m sorry, little Dewdroppe can’t come to your kid’s party because I saw you pigging out on brownies in the break room at work. We don’t associate with Gluttons! :)

    • whiteroses

      I used to be plenty judgey. Then I got pregnant out of wedlock.

      People came up to my parents in church and told them how sorry they were to hear I was pregnant. Others openly referred to my son as a bastard, despite the fact that his father and I were married when he was born. They ignored my son in the nursery when I dropped him off, letting him cry instead of holding or rocking him. Just for the record, these are the same folks who are the loudest when it comes to condemning abortion. So either way, I would have been quite literally screwed.

      If that’s Christianity (which it isn’t), I want none of it. God has a plan for every life that exists- which includes my son. Who were they to question that? Fortunately, we found another church who doesn’t care in the slightest about my background. It works nicely.

      As a side note- my former church has sent out a call for young mothers and families to attend. I tell every young mom I know to avoid them.

    • slysnootle

      I’m not really concerned about the religious aspect of this incident, rather how we(the peanut gallery) jump immediately to judge when half the stories we hear on the Internet are BS.

    • whiteroses

      Forgive me- “trying to make bigots out of average people and Christians” led me to believe that you were, in fact, concerned with the religious aspects of the story. If that was not true, perhaps your original comment should have reflected that.

    • slysnootle

      I dont believe anyone should be stereotyped or discriminated against, period. Wether it’s a gay couple getting an inappropriate RSVP or people rushing to call Christians hypocrites. If this story were to be false then it’s another of many others that get folks to gang up on Christians for no other reason but their own prejudices. All we end up learning is that we have our prejudices and we need to be more careful about them.

    • whiteroses

      The story’s fake- but even if it wasn’t this happens all the time.
      I agree that nobody should ever be discriminated against. However, I find it difficult not to discriminate against closed-minded people, no matter their religion. And speaking as someone who has been mightily discriminated against, via fellow Christians (or at least those who claim to be), I don’t give people breaks when it comes to bigotry. No matter their reasons.

    • http://itsmyworldcanthasnotyours.blogspot.com/ wmdkitty

      Upvoted for doing it right.

    • Courtney Lynn

      Copy/pasted definition: bigoted attitudes; intolerance toward those who hold different opinions from oneself.

      How was she not a bigot, again? She can disagree. It doesn’t surprise or shock me. A lot of Christians feel that way about homosexuality. Her response was completely over-the-top, rude and uncalled for. They didn’t ask what she thought of how they live, they asked if her son could attend their child’s party. A simple “decline” would suffice.

    • slysnootle

      I don’t disagree. I’m merely suggesting that a waiting period be put on stories like these before we start getting all bent out of shape over it.

    • darras

      Now I just don’t believe you’ve ever actually been to Germany if that’s what you think the average German thinks about beer.. I figure everyone else has done a good job smacking you for your bigotry but somebody has to stand up for the beer of this world as well!

      Germany is one of the best beer countries there is! And consider that quite a large part of it bordered the Czech Republic.. honestly, apart from the UK I suspect there is no finer place that you could go for beer diversity and quality (although I do have to say Australia have a rather fine line with the James Squire brewery..)

    • Lackadaisical

      Yes, bigotry is bad but as you say the poster already got a ruddy good smacking for that. Don’t mess with beer, Darras and I are on the case, for the honour of CAMRA. Bud light has no place in any analogy anywhere.

    • slysnootle

      I don’t mind the dislikes but I must say everyone replying to me on this thread have been the most open minded and kind bunch of people. I’m getting real and thoughtful responses when usually my opinions are just chum in the water for the majority mind set. I’m even slightly embarrassed by my abrasive tone from my original posts.

    • slysnootle

      I was actually complimenting the German people’s taste for beer by assuming they wouldn’t like our American, watered down beer.

    • Lackadaisical

      The pope says that, while the church isn’t in favor of homosexuality, christians should always be kind and respectful to gay people as they would to anyone else. The archbish of Canterbury (head of the church of england) says that prejudice to gay people is “wicked” and that Anglicans who treat gay people with prejudice must “repent”. Two of the most important people in Christianity today say that is bigotry and wrong, but I guess you are going to argue that they are the wrong flavour of Christian.

    • slysnootle

      I don’t care either way.

    • CrazyFor Kate

      I live in Russia, where homophobia is rampant, as has been all over the news lately. You have to be very, very, VERY careful what you say. I lost friends for choosing to come here during this time, but frankly, they’re generally so ignorant about what Russia’s like that I don’t care. Homophobia is pretty frequent here no matter what’s in the law, but on the other hand, people =/= the government, and many citizens (esp. young people) are much more tolerant than the previous generations. It seems wrong to give up on a country entirely just because of a current law.

    • slysnootle

      Hmmm. What would the next fake person do in the next hypothetical situation? I wonder…..actually, no I don’t. My real life deserves my attention.

    • Courtney Lynn

      Yup. It’s fake. And that’s a really shitty and weak attempt at trying to spark a discussion. I don’t know what would have been wrong with just saying to the affect of, “Hey, we want to know what you would think if… Call us with your opinions”.

      It makes me think, though, the reason they came up with the “RSVP” is because there ARE people who think like “Beth” and will say things like this. They sometimes flood my newsfeed with such sentiments. Sadly, their (the radio DJs) generalization was not off the mark with how some people are. I am equally annoyed that these DJs clearly think that most, if not all Christians believe this way. Honestly, I’m just damn tired of the left vs. right crap. Both sides are getting ridiculous and embarrassing, pointing fingers, making outrageous claims about each other to the point where I’m wondering if anyone even TALKS anymore without arguing. There’s ignorance on both sides and it’s just downright annoying.

    • slysnootle

      Couldn’t had said it better, Courtney. Believe me…I think I tried but failed. : )

  • slysnootle

    Most of us learned not to touch an iron after being burned once or twice but most of you swallow every single ridiculous story you read on the Internet. Im just waiting for the donation cup to passed around to help send Sophia to college.

    • brebay

      You’re really missing the point if you think it’s about this particular invitation. This kind of thing was happening to people for years before the internet; so what if someone made one up to make a point? Do you not believe in critiquing novels either because they’re fiction? It happens; whether it happened in this particular case or not; and discussing the reality that it happens does not mean we’re all necessarily believing every word we read. We just know there are thousands of stories out there that never get told; I really don’t care if someone made this one up.

    • Lackadaisical

      Agreed. For many real kids of gay parents experiencing real prejudice this is an important issue. Were this a fake it would still be worth highlighting and discussing.

    • slysnootle

      That’s absolutely insane.

    • slysnootle

      Ummmm I do. Why would we need to hear a BS story? Since writing my post, I’ve been convinced its real but I’m at the polar opposite of your way of thinking. For one, telling a BS story because the “real ones never get told” is kind of psychotic. Why generate false stories to get people’s emotions elevated? What’s the point? So lets also make up false stories about any minority group who’s out to make others look bad. That mindset is for lonely people who get their kicks from conflict and drama. No thanks.

    • Lackadaisical

      Yes, there is always the chance that a story like this is fake but parents like the woman with the poison RSVP definitely do exist and it is good to discuss things like this. This one does not have the glaring inconsistencies that most of the fake stories have and I have yet to see anything to show this to be made up. Kids with gay parents do sometimes get a bit of nastiness from bigotted parents of classmates and I think that is worth discussing even if this does get disproved (and I have yet to see that happen).

    • slysnootle

      Good post and I’ve been informed that the story is legit.

    • Lackadaisical

      And now it seems that you were right all along. You warned us and indeed it was a hoax. I still believe it is an important discussion to have but I also believe that the DJs who did this were wrong to present it in this fashion when they could have started a discussion by asking people to call in with their own experiences. I apologise as you absolutely called this one.

  • CW

    I am careful about which families ours associates with socially, so I would’ve declined the invitation as well. But I would’ve just politely said “no” and wished Sophia a Happy Birthday. No need to give my $0.02 about why- that’s just plain rude.

    • brebay

      Just out of curiosity, why?

    • darras

      Probably the tie dye.. that hippy shit is hella catching!

    • AP

      Sadly, in some areas, if you associate with the “wrong” people (whoever they may be in a particular community), your kid gets bullied. While it’s laudable to try to be an agent of social change, it might not be worth subjecting your kid to years of abuse and ostracism from others over it.

      I’d honestly consider moving in a situation like that, because bigots are generally unpleasant, intolerant people to be around, but not everyone has that option.

    • Jess

      In that case- I think I would prefer you to put your two cents in- so I know not to send MY children over to a close minded family!

    • CrazyFor Kate

      I don’t think it’s right to discriminate with parents, but at least you have a grain of sense about your behavior. Stupid Beth.

  • scooby23

    If she doesn’t want little speeshul snewphlaque Tommy to ever be exposed to the “gay lifestyle”, then she better never take him to the park, the mall, or, gosh, she better just lock up her precious angel in a whitewashed room with no windows, and a small tv that stays on Fox News with no commercials.

    • CrazyFor Kate

      Ah, but Fox news talks about gay stuff all the time (just from the other side). Better an empty room with a bouncy ball for entertainment. Just not a rainbow-colored one.

    • slysnootle

      Fox News? It’s pretty clear people all have their fair share of prejudices.

  • K.

    Irony of ironies–

    For this generation of kids, the ones who are more likely to be embarrassed and ashamed of their parents are not the ones with gay parents…it’s the ones with homophobic parents.

    I mean, Beth can cane-shake all she want, but *pssst* she’s already living in the brave new world.

  • aliceblue

    Damn it people, what is so hard about RSVP.
    1. DO IT so the host/hostess has correct headcount.
    2. Yes or No – that’s it! NO ” can I bring my 4 children under 5/Great-Aunt Mildred/newest boy toy? No complaints about time/location/activities. And :NO need to launch into a boring story or bigoted diatribe why you can’t/won’t attend.
    Where is Miss Manners with a stun-gun and cattle prod when you need her?

  • CrazyFor Kate

    That is digusting. I sure hope Sophia has a great party, and that Tommy’s mom (though not Tommy) gets a nice dose of shaming. WHY do bigots get to hide behind “belief” and “lifestyle”?

  • gothicgaelicgirl

    Christ on a bike, that’s crazy!
    I CANNOT imagine anyone actually secluding their child from LIFE!
    Silly wench.

  • Alex Lee

    Waiting for Tommy to come out of the closet in 8 years…

  • neighbor57

    This isn’t a case of bigotry. Everyone’s entitled to his/her/its own opinion. But it’s a HUGE case of lousy manners! I don’t like that my neighbors watch zombie movies 24-7, so my kids don’t play over there. I’m not marching over to shout at them that I think allowing 6 year olds to watch zombie movies is wrong (even though I do think so). It’s called MANNERS! Live and let live whenever you can.

    • Ro

      So… if the parents were black, would this not be a case of racism? I think it’s bigotry and bad manners.

    • neighbor57

      I think you misunderstand my point. My point is, if she hadn’t opened her big mouth, she wouldn’t be considered bigoted. We can think whatever we want inside our heads as long as we don’t open our big fat mouths and let it all spill out. Or in this case, her big fat pen.
      If I think in my own puny little mind that gay marriage is wrong, but I treat everyone — gays, blacks, whites, Democrats — with respect, am I being bigoted?

    • guest

      But that’s just it, you aren’t marching over to shout at them. While i personally disagree with this woman’s viewpoint and think it a terrible reason to not let a kid go to a party, I know there are others who feel differently. If she felt that way she could have just sent a “not attending” RSVP and left it at that. What did she think would happen? That the dads would cease to be gay because of her little note? It’s just rude.

    • http://Mommyish.com/ Eve Vawter

      You cannot equate being gay to watching zombie movies – but now for the love of everything holy I’ll be spending my Sunday praying that someone makes a gay zombie movie.

    • Alex Lee

      “28 Gays Later”

    • slysnootle

      It’s equal in how much it’s relevant to his own daily life. I don’t care if my neighbor watches zombie movies or happens to be gay. I don’t want my child to have anything to do with it. That’s our business, not yours.

  • Hannah

    Of course it’s not real, the e-mail address listed was for AOL. It’s not 1997.

    • AP

      I was thinking the exact same thing the first time I read this story: who still has and uses an AOL account (besides AOL employees?)

  • slysnootle

    The comments below are perfect examples of the absurdity of the gay agenda. There’s a very huge difference between equal treatment and completely selling out to an agenda where the self righteous come out in droves to irrationally handle an issue. Notice how some people find the gay agenda much more important than the truth. They continue to beat the drum even though the story is fake, Sophia is fake and this party never took place…….it doesnt matter, does it? Bigot this and bigot that and damn all those bigoted Christians that allowed all their hate to generate this fake story to make the gay advocates assemble to jerk each other off.

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