• Wed, Feb 12 - 5:30 pm ET

Mom Starts FB Page To Wish Her Shy Son Happy Birthday, Response Will Make You Weepy

1779228_485448488231192_895456082_nA Michigan mom who overheard her 10-year-old saying he didn’t want a birthday party because he “didn’t have any friends to invite” took matters into her own hands and decided to try to get him some well-wishers. I’m usually rubbed the wrong way by these viral parenting stories – but I have to admit this one made me weepy.

Jennifer created a Facebook page for her son, with one simple request: Please help a mom wish her son a happy 11th birthday. It worked. As of today is has 1.3 million likes. 1.3 million! Something tells me this is going to put a huge smile on his face:

 I am Colin’s mom, I created this page for my amazing, wonderful, challenging son who is about to turn 11 on March 9th. Because of Colin’s disabilities, social skills are not easy for him, and he often acts out in school, and the other kids don’t like him. So when I asked him if he wanted a party for his birthday, he said there wasn’t a point because he has no friends. He eats lunch alone in the office everyday because no one will let him sit with them, and rather than force someone to be unhappy with his presence, he sits alone in the office. So I thought, if I could create a page where people could send him positive thoughts and encouraging words, that would be better than any birthday party. Please join me in making my very original son feel special on his day.

The page is a huge outpouring of positivity. There are thousands of comments from well wishers all over it. His mom said teachers have always explained Colin doesn’t get along with the other kids, but adults always love him. She told Good Morning America, “His peers don’t understand him but every adult who meets him loves him so I thought I would go to a place where adults and my friends are, Facebook, and have them write nice messages to Colin so I could share them on his birthday.”

It’s obvious his mom knows him best – and if she’s convinced this will make him happy, she must be right. Kids can be cruel. I think adults respond to stories like this one because we remember how hard it is to be a kid, but also because we would hate for our own children to go through something similar.

I’m not sure how she’s managed to keep this a secret, but I will certainly be checking in on his birthday, March 9th, to see how he responds.

(photo: Facebook)

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  • gothicgaelicgirl

    I’d LOVE to get his address to send him a card!

    • Armchair Observer

      His mom set up a P.O. box for cards and the like. The address is on the FB page. Apparently he loves Pokemon, if that helps. :-)

    • gothicgaelicgirl

      O that’s brilliant, I was going to send him something in the post and get all the kids to sign it for him and send it on.
      What a gorgeous little smile he has!

  • Ptownsteveschick

    I didn’t have any disabilities, so I don’t know if I have the same perspective, but as a kid who was bullied horribly and ate lunch hiding in either the locker room or the library every day, I would have been HUMILIATED by my mom going on facebook and telling people I had no friends and no one to invite to a birthday party. Honestly, this makes me tear up a little for all the wrong reasons. :(

    • KarenMS

      I thought about the possible embarrassment factor, but my brothers will also be 11 in March and I think they’d just be giddy about all the likes and Happy Birthdays with their names and not even notice the reason why.

    • Emil

      I would have been beyond embarrassed too but I’m willing to give the mom the benefit of the doubt on this one. Hopefully she knows her kid well enough to know if this is something that would do more harm than good.

    • chickadee

      I kind of thought that, too. And the thought that the bullies might hear about this and then torment him with it made me extremely sad

    • ShanLea

      I hope that isn’t the case! A close friend of mine in our small town did something similar for her son, who has CP and other physical disabilities. His response wasn’t quite as massive, but still overwhelming for a kid from our small corner of the world. The absolute best response was personal notes from two kids that had bullied him, apologizing and begging to be his friend! Hopefully parents will use these types of viral posts as a teaching tool for their children, that it’s never ok to pick on a child that’s different than them!

    • TwentiSomething Mom

      I think a child who may not have disabilities would be mortified but in this case, he may not feel the same embarrassment factor and just feel happy that so many people cared enough and like him enough to wish him a happy birthday.

  • KarenMS

    I’m sobbing. Again. I sobbed reading the story somewhere else last night. Just his sweet eager face is killing me. I hope he gets to be really happy both at home and at school one day.

  • Kat

    I know they’re not the same person but –

    Everyone treated my boyfriend like crap when he was that age, and he didn’t have friends either. I explained this to him and asked him what he would think if his mom did this on his 11th birthday. He looked at me with such a horrified face, I thought I might cry.

    – I just hope Colin doesn’t feel the same way.

  • Guest

    I’m not sure it’s fair to call the kids who don’t like him “cruel” or “bullies.” I’m very empathetic to his disabilities, but if he acts out all the time (even if it’s not his fault) I don’t blame the kids for not wanting to be his BFFs. Not wanting to hang with a kid is not the same as bullying a kid.

    I’m going to agree with the other commenters here and say that most kids I’ve ever known would expire from shame if their moms told the whole world that they have social disabilities and have no friends. This was something private and painful that he’s feeling and having his mother discuss it on GMA is not exactly fair to him. That said, I believe her intentions were pure. I just think this is wildly inappropriate to share his private pain with the morning shows and everyone online.

  • TwentiSomething Mom

    I really really hope this will help the other kids in his class and their parents understand Colin better. The children may not understand his disabilities and struggles with making friends but hopefully the parents will talk to their kids and encourage them to reach out and at least let him eat lunch with the rest of them.

  • Robotic Arms Dealer

    Great, now 1.3 Million people know that this lonely boy has no friends IRL

    THANKS MOM!

    • gothicgaelicgirl

      Great, now people are aware that not every kid is as popular as Disney programmes would have you believe.