The Bode Miller Custody Scandal Is Totally Overshadowing His Embarrassing Olympic Loss

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Earlier today Olympic skier Bode Miller finished a disappointing eighth in the men’s downhill skiing competition, after getting the top time in training.He was beat out by (among many others, obviously) the dark horse Austrian skier Matthias Mayer, but that isn’t the real controversy surrounding Miller this year. The real story involves Miller, his ex-girlfriend Sara McKenna and their 11-month-old son.

Bode Miller and Sara McKenna are currently embroiled a heated custody battle over their young son. The former couple are at war and can’t seem to agree on anything, even the child’s name; Bode calls him Nate, but Sara calls him Sam. And that’s just the tip of the iceberg. According to the ESPN article on the subject, Miller is known for being a wild card in his professional life:

“For 16 years, he has built a reputation as an überathletic, win-or-crash-trying daredevil who pushes the line between safety and success. Since 1998, he has won five Olympic medals and 33 World Cup races, more than any other American male Alpine skier.”

Apparently this wild, devil-may-care attitude can be found off the slopes as well, judging from his tumultuous personal history. It seems that it even took precedence over his career:

” If every minute of every day would have been dedicated to skiing, he undoubtedly would have grown to hate the sport, burned out and quit. So instead, he reaped the rewards of his worldwide celebrity in the most anti-establishment way possible. He partied. He drank. He chased women. “A rock-star life,” says Lowell Taub, Miller’s agent. ”

According to Miller, back in early 2012 he had sensed that his “ability to be a husband had finally developed,” (whatever that means) and he went searching for a wife the same way he seems to do everything – with a sense of entitlement and bravado that wouldn’t work with any man but a famous Olympic bad boy. Of course, Bode went the Millionaire Matchmaker route and hired a high end matchmaking service, saying strangely that he “needed someone just as complicated and fucked up as it gets.” That’s where he met McKenna And it only gets more head-scratchingly-weird from there.

According to Bode, after a few dates with Sara he realized that she wasn’t “the one.” But of course he was intimate with her anyway, because with a name like Bode, what do you expect. He even goes as far as to say “I have no one to blame but myself,” in a tone that actually says “She was easy, I should have known not to sleep with a slag,” because DudeBros like Miller always blame the woman when they can’t remember to put a raincoat on it.

A few weeks after McKenna and Miller ended their short relationship, she realized she was pregnant with Miller’s child. The two tried to be amicable at first, with Miller attending various appointments and sonograms, but of course, according to Bode, bitches be crazy, and it soon fell apart.

I think I should mention that the ESPN article goes on and on about Miller and his new wife Morgan, pandering in the way only a sports publication can. The slut shaming against Sara McKenna in that piece is so thick you could cut it with a knife. They mention Morgan having a miscarriage in a tone that suggests that it’s unfair that the mean old ex’s baby lives when the sweet, deserving wifey’s didn’t. Yuck. 

Before giving birth, McKenna moved from California to NEw York to pursue an education at Columbia University. Although, according to McKenna he hadn’t even wanted her to keep the baby, he apparently saw this as her “kidnapping” the fetus, and quickly sued her for custody.

Obviously there is going to be a lot of he said/she said going on in a story as complicated as this one, but a few things are clear. After Sam was born, a New York judge scolded McKenna for moving across the country while pregnant with Miller’s child, because apparently it’s okay for him to be out of the country all the time for his work, but as a pregnant woman she didn’t have the right to pursue her education and career outside of her ex-boyfriend’s sphere of influence. It’s not like he’s filthy rich and could make it work cross-country…oh, right, he totally is and could.

The New York court’s decision threw the ball back into the California legal system’s court, where they granted Bode custody. However in November of 2013 a New York appellate court reversed this decision and gave primary custody back to McKenna, with Miller sharing custody as part of a short-term agreement. agreement.

Obviously the drama is still going on. At one point, Miller wanted to bring Sam (or Nate, as he calls him, because DudeBro gets what DudeBro wants apparently) to Sochi to see him compete, but due to issues with getting a Russian visa, it couldn’t happen (because of the ridiculous name issue). Personally, I think the issue is a typical frat-bro type becoming enraged when he can’t have his way. I empathize with the desire to be a part of your child’s life (though the jury is still out on whether he was genuinely interested or feigning interest to impress his new girlfriend-turned-wife), but by refusing to call the child his legal name, and fighting for custody while the kid was still in utero, he seems like a petulant child who cares more about getting his way than the mother of his child bettering her life for her own sake and more importantly, the sake of their child.

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    • keelhaulrose

      I hope he wins/is sponsored for enough money to pay for the poor kids eventual therapy.

    • MeLuRe

      One thing they should both agree on: save up ALOT of money for the psych bills that are coming.

    • Justme

      “Because with a name like Bode, what do you expect.” This is where you lost me….regardless of whether it was meant tongue-in-cheek.

      I think we can all agree that Bode Miller is probably not the kind of guy we want our sons to grow up to be…but I think we also have to recognize the fact that she is probably not completely innocent in this, either.

      I *think* I get the point you’re trying to make. I just don’t agree with the nasty, biting tone of the article.

      • drinkpepsi

        Personally, every time I hear the name Bode I think of broody. Which kind of fits Bode’s personality…

        Also, some names do connote a certain feeling. For example, when I hear the name Barron or Warren, I think CEO.

        When I hear Bode, I think ski bum or surf dude.

      • Daiseymae

        I agree.

      • guest

        THANK YOU. This.

      • emilyg25

        It also really undercuts credibility when an author is so petty and biting. Sticking to known facts is much more effective than ad hominem attacks.

    • Lu

      How sad for that poor little boy. It will be awful when he grows up and reads all the awfu things his father said about his mother. No matter the situation, public name calling and shame are completely unnecessary.

    • ChopChick

      Frances, girlfriend. You have GOT to edit! At least run your article through Word or Google Docs if you don’t have the time to re-read before posting….

    • drinkpepsi

      Seems like Bode did the same thing when his daughter was born five years ago…

      “My daughter’s name is Neesyn Dacey but everyone calls her Dacey. Her mom chose Neesyn and I chose Dacey after she was born.”

      Maybe Bode should keep it in his pants, or at least wrap it up, so he doesn’t keep having babies with strangers.

      As for re-naming BOTH his children – grow up, man. Grow up.

      Oh – and his latest baby mamma was even nice enough to name the boy after Bode (his real name is Samuel Bode Miller).

      Again, grow up Bode.

      • drinkpepsi

        If I was the baby mamma and Bode still insisted on calling the kid “Nate”…I would probably change his last name to my own.

        This guy is such a jerk that he reportedly tried to get joint custody and child support payments from baby mamma #1. Please.

    • whiteroses

      I wish Sam the absolute best of luck. With a father like this, he’ll need it.

    • chickadee

      I took 2 things away from this post:

      1. Now I have to put Mommyish on the list of Possible Olympic Spoilers Sites
      2. Taking sides in the custody battle of people you don’t know (and even, sometimes, when you do) is always going to be a misfire, since you won’t know what is actually going on. The only entity that deserves a full blast of scorn in this story is the court system that decided that the mother wasn’t entitled to move her fetus away from the sperm-producer. That was all kinds of wrong and deserves criticisms all day, every day.

    • personal

      So what would you do if you were the judge? I know I would want the child with his mother and visitation with the father. I agree that Bode has enough money to visit cross-country. AND I’d forbid him from using the name Nate. Can a judge do that?

      • brebay

        A judge can’t ban a parent from calling a kid whatever he likes, but he can order one parent to make legal decisions, which includes the name on the birth certificate.

    • gothicgaelicgirl

      My god what an eejit!

    • kelly

      Since the baby, Sam, is less than a year old, he needs to spend the majority of time close to his mother. Bode has the resources and could have just visited his infant son a few times a month and increase the visitations as the child grew older, eventually leading to shared custody. Instead, he chose to take his infant son from his mother and hand the baby over to his wife for babysitting duties, while he trained and traveled for various competitions including the Olympics. He did not have to chose this route but appears he wanted to have the perfect family set up, excluding the baby’s biological mother. I hope Ms. McKenna gets to keep her son, because it appears she moved to NY and attend CU as a means of changing her occupation as a firefighter and eventually support herself and her son to avoid a lifetime of financial dependence on Bode Miller.