Whoever invented the biological clock is a sick bastard. You’re just going on merrily about your life, minding your own business – when all of a sudden your doctor starts mentioning things like the age of your eggs and using phrases like “advanced maternal age.” And you’re single. You don’t really want to do it alone, so now what?
The pressure of finding that perfect girl or guy to start a family with is overwhelming when you are suddenly on the clock. How can you freely date when every single person you meet has to not only appeal to you, but also be ready to start a family? I have many a friend who missed the baby boat because they were waiting for the perfect nuclear family situation to land on their doorstep. Unfortunately, that doesn’t always work out.
A genius named Ivan Fatovic decided to do something about this conundrum by starting the website Modamily.com:
We noticed a good portion of family and friends spending their 20s and 30s focused on their careers and putting off marriage and children.Yet, as they approached 40, especially in the case of female friends, there came an enormous amount of pressure for finding a partner, often resulting in rushed marriages ending in divorce.
It was even more disheartening when a child was introduced because now that child would often have to be raised in an environment of friction where mommy and daddy did not get along. I felt there had to be another viable option that could protect against these problems. Hence, co-parenting.
This could seriously be the wave of the future.
The site provides background checks, legal resources, fertility resources and of course – matchmaking services. Members fill out an extensive questionnaire that matches people based on financial profiles, religious and moral preferences, and parenting styles.
This seems like a sound idea to me – especially considering divorce rates and how many families are raising children in separated homes anyway. Add the bad blood that can often exist in relationships that have failed, and it almost seems like a better alternative.
Dawn Pieke from California was in a long-term relationship that ended when she was 40. She met Fabien Blue on the site and they are now co-parents of baby Indigo.
Rachel Hope has co-parented both of her children. She says her focus was on finding the best father for her child rather than the perfect husband. Using Modamily, she expects to be pregnant with her third child this year.
“Everyone on here is ready to take that next step and whether they are romantically dating or not the point is they’re ready and we’re going to help you find someone,” said Modamily founder Ivan Fatovic.
Sounds good to me. Why not?
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