Dylan Farrow Courageously Calls Out Hollywood In An Open Letter About Woody Allen

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In case you’re somehow unaware of the controversy, last month the decision by the Golden Globes chose to honor actor Woody Allen started a firestorm of outrage. Why? Well, people may not remember, but back in the early 1990′s Allen’s then 7-year-old daughter Dylan accused him of molesting her. Dylan is notoriously private and has, for the most part, refused to comment on the situation (with the exception of statements made for a Vanity Fair article last year). Until now.

Yesterday, The New York Times published a gut-wrenching open letter penned by Dylan Farrow calling out Hollywood and the media for its whitewashing of her molestation accusations. I think it’s important to note that Allen was never formally charged with anything and is considered innocent in the eyes of the law. But once you delve into the details of the original case (you can read the official court papers here), the evidence is compelling. Seriously, read the Vanity Fair piece I linked to above, it’s eye opening to say the least. The point is, I believe (and always have believed) Dylan, and her open letter just solidifies that.

As another survivor of childhood sexual abuse, Dylan’s words ring true again and again in the piece:

“…when I was seven years old, Woody Allen took me by the hand and led me into a dim, closet-like attic on the second floor of our house. He told me to lay on my stomach and play with my brother’s electric train set. Then he sexually assaulted me. He talked to me while he did it, whispering that I was a good girl, that this was our secret, promising that we’d go to Paris and I’d be a star in his movies. “

and

“ I remember staring at that toy train, focusing on it as it traveled in its circle around the attic. To this day, I find it difficult to look at toy trains.”

Dylan’s letter has been met with an overwhelming amount of support. The hashtag #DylanFarrow has been trending since yesterday afternoon and most of the tweets I’ve read are a mixture of supportive and outraged:

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Of course, like the majority of people who open up about their abuse, Dylan’s had her fair share of detractors too. They run the gamut from insisting that there was no evidence (which simply isn’t true, if you read the court files) to calling Dylan a whore, a liar and much, much worse. What I don’t understand is what these people think Dylan has to gain from speaking out. As I mentioned above, she is notoriously private, going as far as to change her name and attempt to keep it out of the press. Speaking out in the past certainly wasn’t easy, either. According to Dylan:

“ I didn’t know that my father would use his sexual relationship with my sister to cover up the abuse he inflicted on me. I didn’t know that he would accuse my mother of planting the abuse in my head and call her a liar for defending me. I didn’t know that I would be made to recount my story over and over again, to doctor after doctor, pushed to see if I’d admit I was lying as part of a legal battle I couldn’t possibly understand. At one point, my mother sat me down and told me that I wouldn’t be in trouble if I was lying – that I could take it all back. I couldn’t. It was all true.”

I know all too well the toll that this process takes on you. It’s humiliating, and dehumanizing. It makes you doubt yourself and blame yourself, especially when people won’t believe you. I can’t imagine how much worse that feeling must be when the people who refuse to believe you are famous and influential. I can’t imagine how horrifying it must be to have to see your abuser’s face and work constantly in the media. Dylan touched on this in her letter:

“All but a precious few (my heroes) turned a blind eye. Most found it easier to accept the ambiguity, to say, “who can say what happened,” to pretend that nothing was wrong. Actors praised him at awards shows. Networks put him on TV. Critics put him in magazines. Each time I saw my abuser’s face – on a poster, on a t-shirt, on television – I could only hide my panic until I found a place to be alone and fall apart.”

She goes on to courageously call out directly many of the stars that have made Allen’s continued fame possible:

“What if it had been your child, Cate Blanchett? Louis CK? Alec Baldwin? What if it had been you, Emma Stone? Or you, Scarlett Johansson? You knew me when I was a little girl, Diane Keaton. Have you forgotten me?”

Judging by the amount of accolades Allen’s newest movie is getting, and the constant talk of “separating the art from the artists,” I would say yes. Yes, they have forgotten her. And it’s sickening.

I don’t know about you, but I stand with Dylan Farrow. As a child who also wasn’t believed. As a survivor of the same type of abuse. And most importantly, as a human being I stand with her.

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    • brebay

      Wanted to vomit when I read Alec Baldwin’s response, ala “we have no right to get involved in a private family issue.” What century is this guy living in that he still thinks child abuse and sexual assault are “family issues” and not crimes? Thought it was bizarre back when everybody gave him a pass on marrying a girl he helped potty-train, because “well, she’s an adult now, and they’re not biologically related.” Gee, neither is he related to Dylan….

      • Justme

        Probably the same guy who thinks that it’s completely appropriate to leave hateful, abusive messages on his daughter’s voicemail.

        Oh wait.

      • missiemeghan

        The kind of guy who uses “faggot” as his go-to insult for anyone he butts heads with.

      • http://fairlyoddmedia.com/ Frances Locke

        Yeah, Alec Baldwin has been ruined for me for ages now. He needs to keep his mouth shut and just be pretty. LOL

      • drinkpepsi

        If I were Woody Allen – and if I were innocent – I would demand that we both take a lie detector test.

      • drinkpepsi

        Aside from marrying his pseudo step-daughter, Woody also decided to make light of the fact that his first wife was sexually assaulted outside her apartment building:

        “Knowing my ex-wife, it probably wasn’t a moving violation.”

        This guy is all shades of wrong.

      • Sara610

        He said that? Ew. EW.

      • drinkpepsi

        I know. Even if you absolutely loathe your ex-wife,
        are you really going to joke about her getting raped?

        Disgusting human being.

      • drinkpepsi

        And here he is with his adopted daughters…

        Totally normal pic.

      • Steph

        I read that he did take one at the time, and passed. Not sure how reliable they are.

      • drinkpepsi

        Apparently it was arranged by his own defense team.

        Hardly unbiased.

        And I have never seen an actual transcript.

        We don’t know if they asked him if he raped Dylan. He could have said no and passed the test…but that still doesn’t mean that he never molested the girl.

        We don’t know if they asked him if he had an unhealthy relationship with Dylan. He could have said no – and in a pedophile’s mind, it would be an honest answer – so there would be no indication that he was lying.

        The questions are very important in these types of tests. We would need to analyze the details before assuming it was a fair test. Very easy for the defense team to construct a test in such a way that their client would pass.

      • CrazyFor Kate

        I think it was mostly because he was being hounded for an opinion on Twitter, and just said the safest thing he could – rather than open himself up to a possible slander suit. Of course this allegation should be re-opened and investigated, but that does not mean every single person who knows Allen needs to get involved – especially when it’s such a volatile and painful issue. Not fond of Baldwin for a variety of reasons, but here I don’t think he did anything too egregious.

      • brebay

        He could have said nothing.

      • Surfaces

        I took it to mean private as in “Nothing to do with the public or media” not to mean it wasn’t a crime.

    • Kelly

      It blows my mind that people would insult an abused seven year old child just to defend a pedophile they’ve never even met.

      Our society fucking sucks.

      • brebay

        Yeah, if they can convince themselves he’s not a rapist, they don’t have to feel guilty watching his overrated films.

      • FormerlyKnownAsWendy

        I always felt kind of uncultured because I’ve never seen any of his movies, but now I’m pretty pleased with that decision.

      • brebay

        They’re kind of like sushi; for every one person who genuinely likes it, there are another ten just faking it to feel sophisticated.

      • FormerlyKnownAsWendy

        That’s what I figured! Thanks for confirming that idea.

      • Katia

        Really?! I believe he’s a pedophile but unfortunately I love his movies, I would never fake it because I don’t want to like them, (he was already gross just with the soon-you thing, plus from the vf article I was almost sure he was a pedo… This confirms it to me) but they are pretty entertaining :/ my husband likes them alright too. And he’s pretty honest doubt he’s faking it

      • brebay

        Okay, Katia, you’re the one. Congrats.

      • http://fairlyoddmedia.com/ Frances Locke

        And for his celebrity defenders, they need to convince themselves he’s innocent so they won’t feel bad about taking part in his current success. I am especially disappointed in Diane Keaton, to be honest.

      • Gina

        Oh my god, me too! I’d always thought Diane Keaton was such an awesome champion for women’s rights. That’s what I get for celebrity worship.

      • Surly Canuck

        An acquaintance of mine is a big Woody Allen fan. He made a joke at Dylan’s expense yesterday that left me so sick with rage I couldn’t sleep last night. I couldn’t make it through her open letter because it was triggering memories of my own abuse yet he’s able to make sick jokes? Unfriended, and I will never work with him again. You’re right, society sucks.

      • drinkpepsi

        Good for you for taking a strong stand.

        What the hell kind of joke can be made about a potential child abuse victim?!

      • Surly Canuck

        Ugh, I’m not repeating it, but it was along the lines of “blaming everything that’s wrong in your life on something that happened at eight years old”. It was very crass and explicit about what happened, too. In an earlier pro-Woody post, he was adamant that he would have wanted adult attention as a teenager so it was fine for Woody to form a bond with his step-daughter. Honestly, I’m embarrassed I didn’t delete him sooner.

      • drinkpepsi

        Totally gross that a supposed adult would have such a cavalier attitude towards child abuse.

        Dylan’s first sexual encounters were with her father (or father figure if you want to get technical). Imagine how that would screw someone up when it comes to future relationships and just life in general.

        Add to that the fact that many people doubted her, her family was torn apart and her sister is married to her father/abuser.

        I cannot imagine how Dylan must have felt when Woody and Soon Yi adopted two girls.

    • Alicia Kiner

      The only thing I can come up with is these people have no personal experience with a victim of sexual abuse. It’s the whole “it will never happen to me” thing we are all guilty of. It has to be. The only other reason for excusing pedophilia is to be a pedophile yourself, in my opinion. I can’t imagine being in Dylan’s position and seeing his face, hearing his name all over the place, and hearing it revered. It has to be immensely traumatizing, and how in the hell can she ever truly move on? Even with therapy, it’s impossible to wipe those memories from your mind. And you never know what’s going to draw them out… a smell, a sound, a whisper… And I haven’t seen or heard anything about my abuser since I was 8 years old when my parents FINALLY listened to me (after 4 years of me telling them) and took me to the police. I don’t know if my heart breaks more for her for dealing with him, or the assholes on Twitter.

      • Anonymous

        I’m so sorry for what happened to you, and hope you have found closure.

        My partner was abused as a child, by someone his family knew to be a risk to children. Not only did they tell him that he was lying, but for years afterwards they kept in touch with the abuser as a ‘family friend’.

        I am *furious* that any person would be so dismissive of a child’s hurt. The casual cruelty of then displaying that by maintaining friendship with — or respect of, in the case of Woody Allen — the abuser is unconscionable.

      • Alicia Kiner

        Thank you. I’m not sure if “closure” exists for me exactly, but I don’t live my life in the past. It’s not something I think about everyday, but it has affected my life in ways. It wasn’t until I was an adult that it sunk in that what happened wasn’t normal and I started spiraling down a hole I was lucky enough to not got lost in. Therapy helps, but at the end of the day, the past can’t be rewritten.

      • http://fairlyoddmedia.com/ Frances Locke

        “And you never know what’s going to draw them out… a smell, a sound, a whisper… ”

        So true. Once my husband brought home a bottle of Listerine mouthwash and I lost it. I can’t smell Listerine without getting sick to my stomach. I discover new, weird things that trigger me all the time.

        So sorry about your experiences. I don’t think anyone can completely understand it unless they’ve lived it.

      • Alicia Kiner

        Thank you. I too am sorry for your experiences.

      • drinkpepsi

        So sorry for what you went through.

        The part where Dylan talks about being unable to look at trains (even now) really has the ring of truth to it.

        So sad that her abuser not only avoided jail, but was able to earn millions, win awards and accolades and secure two more potential victims (his adopted daughters with Soon-Yi).

      • Alicia Kiner

        Thank you. I truly hope those girls have been safe.

      • ted3553

        I think you’re giving too much credit to these people. To my knowledge, I have no personal experience with a victim of sexual abuse yet I can be compassionate enough to try to understand and not say foul, disgusting things basically justifying that child abuse is ok. These people really need to take a good look at themselves

    • Steph

      I was feeling similarly outraged about this issue when a friend directed me to this: http://www.thedailybeast.com/articles/2014/01/27/the-woody-allen-allegations-not-so-fast.html
      It is a completely different take on the allegations and subsequent hearings etc. Either way a really sad situation for poor Dylan.

      • brebay

        It’s a different take, alright, one with a very obvious motive. Remember when Fox News was still going with the hilarious “fair and balanced” motto until even they realized how ridiculous it sounded? Yeah, it’s like that. Given this guy who wasn’t there, and Dylan, who was, I’ll stick with the actual witness.

      • Steph

        Brebay, yes he is up front about his motive in that he wants to respond to what has really only been a one-sided argument.

        A man’s freedom (not to mention reputation, career) are at stake so evidence on both sides should be carefully considered before people draw conclusions.

        You can’t just ignore evidence to suggest that a child has been coached on what to say to police. Cases of people having memories of things that didn’t actually happen are not unheard of.

        Dylan’s letter says, “my mother declined to pursue criminal charges” whereas the other article says “a criminal investigation by the Connecticut State Police… concluded that Dylan
        had not been molested” and raises issues of inconsistency in her own evidence.

        I’m not saying I believe he is innocent, I am just saying there is obviously a lot more to their whole story.

      • http://www.ambiencechaser.com/ Elizabeth Licata

        One panel of psychiatrists sided with Allen and said Dylan sounded coached. The judge sided more with Farrow and her mother (http://www.nytimes.com/books/97/02/23/reviews/farrow-verdict.html). The prosecutor said there was probable cause to pursue the case, but that criminal charges were being dropped in part to spare Dylan the trauma of a criminal trial (http://www.nytimes.com/1994/02/24/nyregion/panel-criticizes-prosecutor-in-inquiry-on-woody-allen.html).

        It is true that none of us can really know for sure what happened. All any of us can do is look at the information put forward and decide what we believe. In addition to the evidence put forward in the articles about the trial, there’s an element of Occam’s Razor here. Is it more difficult to take the word of a young woman who says she was molested by a man who is known to have had a sexual relationship with her sister, whom he met when she was seven? Or to believe in a conspiracy of angry women, including one who is willing to deeply traumatize her own child for life, lying for years for no reason other than being jealous and crazy?

        No one’s freedom is at stake here. Nobody is going to charge Woody Allen for anything based on this. At best this is about public opinion and whether we think it’s OK to say “we can’t really know,” and use that as an excuse to behave the way we would if these accusations never happened and continue giving him honors for lifetime achievement and celebrating his creative genius as though he’d never been accused of inappropriate behavior towards his daughter.

        Personally, I think the likely outcome of all this is that at absolute worst for Allen, his ticket sales will slump a bit and a statistically insignificant group of actors will not want to work with him anymore. Either way, I hope Dylan Farrow takes some comfort in the knowledge that some people believe her.

      • brebay

        The victim knows for sure what happened. It didn’t just happen once.

      • http://www.ambiencechaser.com/ Elizabeth Licata

        You’re absolutely right. I meant “us,” as in the people commenting on the Internet (and while we were not witnesses to any of the acts, I do think we can be pretty damn confident about whether or not they happened). But Dylan Farrow certainly knows what happened. I thought one of the most heartbreaking things in the New York Times article was when she said, “I know it’s ‘he said, she said.’ But, to me, it’s black and white, because I was there.”

      • Steph

        Point taken re his freedom (though could she not press charges now?) but I meant generally – we can’t just hear/tell one side of a case like this when the consequences are so dire for the accused. I am not sure if assuming guilt is better than admitting we don’t know the truth?

        Do they apply ‘beyond all reasonable doubt’ in US criminal trials? Genuinely curious (and Australian)

        I don’t care for Woody Allen and have not read very widely on this issue but thought it helpful to add further views to the discussion. I am glad you are expressing researched and considered convictions.

      • brebay

        The statute of limitations has run, so the only consequences for him are social, and don’t seem to be hurting him much. The reasonable doubt standard applies to the criminal court system, but is not a restriction on the first amendment right to free speech. Citizens can, should, and will make their determination on the evidence at hand. And witness testimony IS evidence.

      • Steph

        I see, in Aus I think we have until age 37. We have a number of decades old abuse trials going atm.

      • Alicia Kiner

        The statute of limitations has long since past, so no she cannot press criminal charges. He however can sue Mia and Dylan for defamation. You’d think, if he were innocent, he would have done so back in the 90s when this first went public.

      • http://fairlyoddmedia.com/ Frances Locke

        I’ve actually done a lot of research on the subject, and while Woody Allen was never prosecuted, he certainly wasn’t exonerated in any fashion. There was a great Vanity Fair piece back in October where the writer interviewed dozens of people who were involved with the case, and many of them (including the ACS worker who was in charge of her case) express a lot of regret about the case.

        I’m all for reserving judgment when one doesn’t have the facts, but in this particular situation, after everything I’ve read about the case, Dyan and her mother had a compelling case.

        The Daily Beast article that you sited was written by a close friend of Woody Allen’s. So hardly an unbiased piece (even the author admits it).

      • brebay

        That’s because citizens don’t bring criminal charges, the state does.

      • pixie

        This makes me very pissed off. He claims not to be in Allen’s pockets, but then goes and says basically, well they said Dylan was unstable back then and that Mia fed her the story, so obviously Allen is innocent. *smh*

      • Steph

        I don’t mean to be rude, but I’m not sure how accurate that summary of the article is.

      • pixie

        Clearly I’m not summarizing the entire article, but he does make mention multiple times claiming not to be “in Woody Allen’s pockets”. He also lingers on alleged Psychiatric reports of Dylan being unstable and/or Mia coaching her with a story. He makes speculations about what happened during the starts and stops saying Dylan didn’t appear distressed.
        He’s not a 7 year old girl, so of course he would have a hard time imagining how one would react after being abused. Hell, I was once a 7 year old girl, but even I can’t imagine how I’d react. It’s not a one-size-fits-all reaction, every person and child is different.

      • Alicia Kiner

        Yeah that passed me off too. How can you label a 7 yr old as unstable when she’s trying to talk about this kind of assault. Of course she’s unstable. Most adults are when talking about it.

      • brebay

        Exactly. What do they think makes a person unstable? Hmmm…childhood sexual trauma is a pretty common one.

      • drinkpepsi

        Steph…honest question:

        If a man meets a girl at the age of seven and continues to see the girl regularly for the next ten years,
        do you think it’s okay for the two of them to date when she eventually reaches legal age? Or do you think it’s kind of creepy?

        Most decent guys won’t consider dating a friend’s ex-girlfriend.
        They certainly wouldn’t entertain the thought of dating a girlfriend’s
        daughter. Especially a daughter whom he met and knew from age 7 to 19.

      • Steph

        Sure, their relationship seems weird to me but she wasn’t seven when they became involved. We can’t assume guilt in one area because someone did something we find reprehensible in another. Not sure why you raised this – I linked to an article providing further info and said let’s not be hasty to assume guilt. I didn’t say he’s a great guy and completely innocent…

      • drinkpepsi

        We don’t know exactly when they began a sexual relationship.

        It wouldn’t surprise me at all to learn that Allen began touching Soon-Yi inappropriately when she was seven.

        Dylan’s recollection of the alleged abuse has remained consistent. She doesn’t waver.

        The pain she expresses all these years later seems incredibly real and deep.

        I only hope that authorities have interviewed Soon-Yi’s adopted daughters, though without an official complaint, it is doubtful. And I doubt Soon-Yi would alert police if something did happen.

      • brebay

        It might be years, but hopefully, if they are being abused, one of these girls will find the strength to come forward. Of course people still won’t believe it, but at least it may give Dylan some peace of mind.

      • Steph

        How on earth would that give her peace of mind?

      • drinkpepsi

        I think brebay means that it would substantiate Dylan’s own allegations and in that way (and only in that way) would it give Dylan some peace of mind.

        Lets face it…so many victims never come forward. Those that do only do so when someone else is brave enough to speak out first (then we hear of many more victims who were abused by the same perpetrator).

        There is strength in numbers and many victims only feel comfortable enough to talk about it if they are fairly certain that they will be believed. Multiple victims makes it easier for the public to believe it is not some kind of fabrication.

        Soon Yi seems so brainwashed that she will likely never say anything. But her adopted daughters always seem so sad and so awkward. If they were abused too, I hope that they read Dylan’s story and have the courage to speak up.

      • brebay

        Thanks, drinkpepsi, that is what I meant, which would be obvious to anyone who wasn’t looking for a fight. And Steph, it would shut up all the morons claiming Mia planted the idea, and more people would stop defending this louse. OBVIOUSLY I didn’t mean that she would be happy her sister/aunts were molested, but at a certain point, with enough victims who aren’t in contact with each other keep coming forward, eventually people stop defending the perv. Nobody believed Sandusky was a pedo when the first vic went public either.

      • Surfaces

        From one Steph to another, thank you for a bit of common sense.

    • Emil

      What’s troubling me the most is that he and Soon-Yi have two young daughters currently in their care (correct me if I’m wrong- not a Woody Allen expert). Who is protecting them?

      • Katia

        They are older now, don’t know the age but they are at least his height.
        But yeah they adopted the girls when they were young/babies?! It’s been a while.

      • Kristen L

        Apparently he’s a great father. Since, you know, he appears to be so in public. There’s no need to worry about those girls. Child molesters always identify themselves as such publicy. Woody has done no such thing. Those girls are A-OK.

      • Kelly

        He’s molested them. I’d bet everything I own on that. Pedophiles don’t just stop, especially when they get away with it multiple times and our society publicly backs them up.

    • drinkpepsi

      IMDB lists Soon-Yi Previn’s birthdate as 1973. That would make her about five years old when she was adopted by Mia. And only SEVEN years old when Woody began dating Mia.

      I don’t care whose name is listed on the adoption papers. Her adoptive father, for all intents and purposes, was Woody Allen. He was involved with Mia (and all the adopted children) for over a decade.

      The girl was only seven when he met her and any normal man would realize that any romantic or sexual relationship would be off limits…forever. So it would not surprise me in the least if he molested Dylan since he clearly has trouble with boundaries.

      What a disgusting creep. And shame on everyone in Hollywood who supports him.

      • Kristen L

        Watching Barbara Walters try to justify the relationship between those two, even though he was her father (or step-father, or whatever) and started dating her when they were 17, was almost as disgusting. So many red flags in that kind of behavior. No defense for it at all.

      • drinkpepsi

        I know. The fact is Woody knew this little girl when she was seven years old. He was a father-figure to her for the next ten years. The he married her. Sick on so many levels.

        The fact that he sees no issue with it is eerily familiar.
        Most pedophiles have trouble accepting the fact that their ‘relationships’ are wrong or that the victim didn’t
        enjoy it.

    • Paul White

      it seems like in hollywood it’s more important to be fashionable than be a respectable human. Sure we’ll champion feminism, but we’ll market shallow stereotypes and celebrate people like Polanski and Allen…

    • SarahJesness

      Why is sexual abuse treated differently from other crimes? If a person says he was, say, mugged, would people be so quick to question if he’s telling the truth? It’s ridiculous.

    • Steph

      Meanwhile, why is Mia Farrow still friendly with self-proclaimed pedophile Roman Polanski?

    • CMP414

      Woody Allen is so creepy and disgusting. I honestly felt sickened hearing Diane Keaton sing that stupid little kiddie friendship song to him at the golden globes. something must seriously be wrong with her too

    • anon

      Woody Allen has always been creepy to me. I never got the appeal of his movies, he basically tries to capitalize on being a socially awkward outcast. Now that this has come out I can’t in good faith watch his movies. He is a sick person and it’s disgusting that our society is so quick to protect people accused of reprehensible crimes, provided that they know the right people or enjoy some sort of cultural cachet, but the voices of victims are picked apart and downplayed and told to go away.

    • Guest

      No one knows what happened, and I doubt we ever will. I just think we should reserve judgment if and when we know exactly what happened.

      • brebay

        Unless you have a time machine, the only evidence you’re going to get is witness testimony, which you have. This is why more kids don’t come forward.

      • Kelly

        You’re right, we shouldn’t judge anyone for any crime anymore. Who are we as a society to prosecute anyone for murder, rape, theft, etc?

        That’s such a convenient attitude until something horrible happens to YOU or someone you love, isn’t it?

    • Kristen L

      Great example of this nonsense of defending the accused while the accuser is condemned as just trying to divert attention from his award nominations, get attention for herself, et cetera (blah blah blah) on The View just now. I detest Barbara Walters and can barely stomach that show, but had it playing while I put away laundry. Barbara was pontificating about how she knows Woody and has only ever known him to be a wonderful father and great husband and from what she has seen, those claims are bogus. I was outraged. I could see the other cohosts trying to say…but you have to at least wonder. She doesn’t have anything to gain. Barbara insisted that Dylan does, in fact. Why is it that these people are blind to the fact that someone can project an image of being a good husband and father, and behind closed doors do something awful? People do every day. Maybe not this awful, but still, people project what they want you to see. I guess it’s just because he’s famous, and Barbara Walters probably feels, as other commenters have said, like she needs to defend herself. It makes me sick. There’s a girl who was a victim, if these accusations are true. It’s not a matter of a family’s private business. We’re talking about a real crime, with a real victim.

      • Alicia Kiner

        Oddly enough, Barbara Walters was the one vilifying Roman Polanski not too long ago.

      • Kelly

        Every pedophile I’ve ever personally known was a “great father” and “upstanding citizen.” I wish people would get that through their thick skulls. They don’t walk around leering at people and living under bridges with PERVERT branded on their foreheads.

      • drinkpepsi

        So true. People need to keep in mind that child molesters often pursue careers that will give them easy access to children: Teaching, coaching, priesthood/ministry, etc. They are often charming individuals (they need to be in order to gain the family’s trust).

        Think about someone like Jerry Sandusky. Married, foster father, coach, volunteering with at-risk youth, etc. All of those things allowed him easy and constant access to his victims.

    • Kay_Sue

      This just sickens me to my core. I read another article on it earlier this week, and the comments were appalling. “What right does she have to talk about? Why is she bringing it up now? What closure is she going to get from this? What is she going to gain? Why would she want to seek closure from going public, isn’t healing better done in private?”

      Dylan has no need to justify herself. Her rapist should be the one that is on trial in the public eye, not her.

      And separating the art from the artist is bullshit. We dehumanize their victims in an attempt to make it “okay” to enjoy what they produce. We’re the consumers, and a change in our attitude is the only way that these predators that are sheltered by Hollywood are going to be stopped.

      • Sara610

        Exactly: What IS she going to gain? What could she possibly have to gain by making something like this up? Nothing, so what’s the likelihood that she is?

        Ugh.

      • drinkpepsi

        And they wonder why so many kids stay silent.
        Even as adults, they are questioned and ridiculed.

      • Kelly

        Yep, exactly. I’ve had people ask me, “If it really happened, why didn’t you tell earlier?”

        Because I fucking did tell and the shitheads I told didn’t believe me so I stopped telling because I was a scared little kid who got the clear message that nobody cared.

      • Alicia Kiner

        You aren’t alone there. I told my parents for 4 years. There are certain things a 4,5,6 year old kid just shouldn’t know about sex. If they do, there’s a REASON!

      • Surly Canuck

        It’s amazing how far people will go to bury their heads in the sand.
        It terrifies me because my mother was also sexually abused as a child. If anyone should have known what to look for, it was her. Now I’m trying to start a family, and I’m afraid I’ll make the same mistakes as her.

      • Surly Canuck

        Kelly, I’m so sorry you had to go through that.

        I hate that question. If I’ve just told a person my deepest, darkest secret, their first reaction shouldn’t be to suggest that I didn’t do enough to end it. In my experience, people who ask it don’t have the frame of reference to understand any answer I could give anyway or, as in the case of my mother, are deflecting blame off themselves.

    • http://ultimatemamacat.tumblr.com/ Hana Graham

      <3

    • brebay

      If a broke-ass janitor married his stepdaughter he’d lived with since she was seven, not one of these people would be defending it.

      • Surfaces

        He never lived with Soon Yi. In fact he never lived with Mia Farrow full stop. Soon Yi has nothing to do with this.

      • brebay

        Oh yes, yes she does.

      • drinkpepsi

        Woody dated Mia for more than a decade. You don’t think he would have seen Mia’s children regularly during that time?
        He would have first laid eyes on Soon Yi when she was only seven years old. He then watched her grow up.

        No normal man could ever date or marry a girl under these circumstances.

    • drinkpepsi

      Just wanted to say that Frances Locke rocks for writing this piece.

      It must have been difficult to put together, given your own experience
      with sexual abuse. But hopefully it gives you a sense of power as well.
      Speaking out about this issue and speaking on behalf of victims is a powerful thing.

      For those who doubt Dylan’s story…the part that really struck me is when
      Dylan says that people often asked her to recount her story over and over
      again and let her know that if she came clean and admitted that she was lying
      that it would be okay.

      Even Mia – her own mother – made such a remark at one point.
      Now why would a woman who supposedly came up with these abuse allegations
      in order to get back at Woody – why would she ever say such a thing to Dylan?

      It doesn’t make sense…unless Dylan is telling the truth.

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