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10 Reasons Why Being A ‘Type A’ Mom Is The Only Way To Survive In The Parenting World

typeaSo what if I keep my kids on a schedule? So what if I plan out activities weeks in advance? Does that make me “crazy”? (Cue exaggerated air quotes here.) Even if it does, I’m totally fine with it because being a type A mom is the key to my survival.

I’ve always been organized, regimented, and kind of obsessive. But it gets results, I tell you! I recently saw an article on signs that you’re a little type A, and I had to take a look. It doesn’t take a rocket scientist to predict that my type A personality fit the bill of many anal-retentive “checkpoints.”

Eff that. I’ve decided that it’s type A or the highway in my house. My perfectionist personality may get on the nerves of many, but here are 10 ways that I’m winning every time:

1.    Type A’s hate to wait in long lines because it slows their progress.

Oh, REALLY? I don’t know about you, but I’m organized enough to figure out exactly when there aren’t going to be long lines at the grocery store, even if it means shopping at six in the morning. I win.

2.    Type A’s grind their teeth.

I don’t, but my husband does, and he wears a really cool mouth guard at night. Does that count?

3.    Type A’s panic when they waste time.

Oh ho ho, can I identify with this one. But I have a solution—I’m always multitasking. I manage to keep the mountains of laundry in my house at bay by folding while watching TV or while my kids eat or while meditating. (Kidding on the last one—kinda.)

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4.    Type A’s have a catastrophic point of view.

I struggle a lot with the “what if” scenarios running in my head, and I don’t like it. But at least I never forget anything when we go on a road trip! Boo ya.

5.    Type A’s talk over and interrupt people.

Yes, I have been known to do this. But my kids are still small enough that they don’t talk much, which means I can exhaust myself talking their ears off without annoying my husband. I win again, bitches.

6.    Type A’s have a hard time falling asleep at night.

Yes, this is another part of being a type A that I hate, but the silver lining is this: I used the same sleep training methods on myself as I did on my kids, and now I’m sleeping (mostly) like a baby. There is hope.

7.    Type A’s put more energy into career than relationships.

I’m making my type A drive work for me by working at home with my entire family under one roof. I work my ass off to get my work done by the time my kids get up from their naps in the afternoon so I can hang out with them. #winningagain

8.    Type A’s have a hard time relaxing.

I really, really do have a hard time with downtime and relaxing. But I’m forcing myself to step outside of my box and go on a girls’ trip in a few weekends. I know, I know, my life is so hard.

9.    Type A’s can’t function without a to-do list.

This is so, so, so true. But as a new mother with a toddler and a baby, my to-do list powers are an asset instead of an annoyance, so far…

10. Type A’s make it happen.

This is a positive type A trait that almost anyone can appreciate. As I said before, I get results! Sure, I’m still figuring out how to balance my life when it comes to work, family, and me time, but I’m confident that I’ll get it all straightened out in time because… Type A’s can do anything!

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You can reach this post's author, Bethany Ramos, on twitter.
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  • SA

    Love it. I only had a few Type A traits prior to becoming a mom, but my GOD has motherhood brought it out in me!! The only thing I don’t find true is having a hard time falling asleep….I’m usually out on the couch before primetime TV, but then up at 1:00 in the morning making to do lists!!

  • G.E. Phillips

    I’m definitely a type A, and I am fine with that. I’m not a perfectionist, but I am very organized, and I like being this way. Shit that needs to get done gets done, period. Especially as a single mom, ain’t nobody around to do the shit except me. I don’t like to come home to a sink full of dirty dishes, I don’t like to run out of toilet paper or milk, I don’t like to run out of clean underwear. If those things happen, I feel overwhelmed, and then I get anxious, and that’s no fun, so it’s easier just to stay on top of everything. And I generally sleep 8 hours a night, and eat 3 meals a day. #mostlydoingitall

    • Bethany Ramos

      You get results!! I also get 8 hours of sleep a night, and it might also be a type A thing. I like to have my little schedule and stick to it, which means that I normally get enough sleep.

  • Guest

    GIFs for the win. These are all amazing. Good lawd #3.

    • Bethany Ramos

      Hahha I had so much fun with these gifs, and #3, oh my God, amazing multitasker lady.

  • Megan Zander

    My family gives me tons of crap for being type A, until they need help. Then it’s all ” can you plan/call/research/do this for me”. And I do. Sigh, because I am type A and feel the need to fix everything.
    Also, Bethany from your writing I assumed you were really relaxed which either means I’m just that tightly wound or you’re just that good at making it all seem easy.

    • Bethany Ramos

      Yay, I’m happy I gave off relaxed vibes!! It’s a little of both, but I really love schedules and planning. My husband gets all eye-rolly when I talk about every detail of our upcoming date night because I NEVER LEAVE THE HOUSE.

    • Megan Zander

      Hahaha! I’m the opposite, my husband will try to get me to go pickup the take out just so I can see what the outside world looks like. I just like the control of knowing what’s happening at home with the kids. We’re planning to go into the city for a day in March and leave the kids with my mom and I’m already freaking out and making lists.

    • Bethany Ramos

      I am going on a girl’s trip this weekend and am dying but also so happy. I will drink away my panic attacks!

  • Kay_Sue

    #9 all day long. I have To Do lists for my To Do lists, bitches! ;)

  • JLH1986

    My husband makes fun of me because I will make a list of meals Monday-Spaghetti Tuesday-Tacos. It’s just easier for me to grocery shop that way, (I also add C next to my grocery list items with coupons which freaks him out, how else do people do this?) BUT when I don’t do this and ask him to take something out for dinner? Deer in the headlights. I’m hoping he figures out how I’m usually right sooner rather than later.

    • Bethany Ramos

      I am stealing your ways!!

    • JLH1986

      It makes my life way easier. I just don’t understand my husband’s inability to grasp this? lol Maybe if he had to grocery shop he would be like oh hell yes this is easier!

    • Natasha B

      Ditto. He does grocery shop sometimes. $80 at target and he brings home chips, salami, bacon, and m&ms. Da fuq am I supposed to cook with that?!

    • ted3553

      Are you sure we’re not married to the same guy? My husband will brag about grocery shopping and I open the fridge and cupboards and can’t figure out what he’s bought. Oh, nope, there it is, pasta, and sandwich meat. Huh. Ok. thanks for shopping I guess

    • Natasha B

      They try, I guess, maybe? Lol

    • Natasha B

      Oh I totally do this. I am type A about shopping/running the house because if I’m not shit would fall. To. Pieces. And more scheduling, because my toddlers midday nap is sacred and if you mess that up I will cut you.
      Besides, meal planning makes shopping soooo much easier. And cheaper. Otherwise, I’ve just dropped $200 at target and THERE IS NOTHING TO EAT.

    • ted3553

      I love that your toddlers nap is sacred. I am the same way. I schedule everything around that and it’s awesome. Do not expect me anywhere between 1 and 3-that is just crazy

    • Natasha B

      Hahaha ours is 1-3 too :) I felt like my life ended when the 4yo dropped his at 3, but then I moved past all guilt and he gets unlimited netflix time while tot naps and mommy regains her sanity.

    • MamaLlama

      Totally do this! But I circle the ‘c’ like a copyright :). Husband also dislikes that I have the store memorized so my list is split up in areas/aisles. He can’t quite figure out where to add things.

    • Natasha B

      Um. That is the only sane way to make a list! Otherwise, you’ll be almost done and picking up the last of the produce, and realize that you didn’t grab tide when you were in that section, so then you have to trek waaaay back over there. That is not efficient.

    • gothicgaelicgirl

      lol seeing as my fella and i work 6 days a week, dinner is pretty much survival.
      when we have the kids we go all out for proper dinners but when it’s just us, it’s more the BOIL PASTA, THROW IN PHILADELPHIA AND MUSHROOMS, EAT NOM!!!

    • JLH1986

      Oh if it were up to him we would eat frozen pizza or macaroni and cheese nightly. I’m off one day a week. So…I grocery shop set up a list and then all he has to do is set out whatever meat we are having. I cook. The trade off is I don’t clean a damn thing in my house. I’m gone 16 hours a day with school and he “only” works 8 hours. So if I gotta cook after 16 hours, he’s gotta clean. Not gonna lie…some nights I’m more “lets just have cereal and then ice cream” but my hubs drives for a living so he eats garbage all day, so I’m hoping ONE decent meal a day will hold off diabetes until he works a more normal job.

    • gothicgaelicgirl

      lol i love how cereal is still an accepted meal no matter what age you are!!

      I’m not allowed clean in our place, apart from washing and putting away dishes.
      fella has OCD. the three times I tried to clean he followed me around, replacing statues 1/1000th fraction of an inch…cos it seems I put em back crooked lol

  • rrlo

    I am not Type A at all – none of these really fit me! Although, I would like to think I get results as well. You are who you are… but not going to lie, being type A sounds kind of stressful…

  • CW

    I was a Type A mom back when I only had 1 kid, but now with 3 I’m way more “chill” about things. I frankly think it’s better for my kids’ mental health anyways. Back when I only had my oldest, I obsessed about every. single. pickayune. little. detail. Now I don’t sweat the small stuff. Like yesterday when my youngest decided to change out of the outfit I’d put her in that morning into a top and skirt that didn’t match right before we needed to leave the house. It’s not like I’m a celebrity and what my preschooler wears will wind up as tabloid fodder.

  • TwentiSomething Mom

    I cackled at the GIFS

  • JD

    I am not Type A but a lot of people around me are. It drives people CRAZY! But I do get things done, just work much better under pressure. My kids are clean, well-fed and happy. (I schedule play dates at my house regularly because they are a way to ensure my house stays clean. And if it’s not, my Type A friends/family will fix it!)

    I do go through phases where I try to be more “on the ball” but it usually just makes me a frazzled, unhappy mom and wife. I have always been pretty laid back so the people around me just have to accept it.

    The GIF of the breast feeding potato peeler is amazing.

    • rrlo

      My father-in-law and sister-in-law are both uber type A. Whenever they come over for dinner, they leave the house spot-less. At first I was a bit horrified and felt guilty – then I thought “Hey, this is amazing!”. I love type-A guests. Come over. Clean my house (while I protest of course). I will feed you and keep you liquored up.
      Yes, the breast feeding potato peeler GIF is the best!

  • SusannahJoy

    Yeah, this is so not me. I’m kinda jealous. I can’t get anything done or plan anything ever. I try…. it just… doesn’t happen. :( Luckily my husband, while not “anal” is good at planning and organizing, so things still happen. Yay!

  • biggerthanthesound

    Holy craps… i’m totally type A! I hate that I interrupt people and talk over them…. I do it without even thinking. gah… anybody have any tips for supressing this?? I’m actually relieved to read that is associated with a type A personality and not that i’m a huge a-hole.

  • ted3553

    Type A mom here because I work full time, have 2 teen step daughters and a 1.5 yr old that are all disasters and dramatic and a husband who works in camp. How do you not be type A and survive? I think that my organization is actually what kept me chilled out as a new mom. I was never scrambling for things that I lost or forgot or did anything last minute.

    • Bethany Ramos

      YES – a baby schedule comforted me so much as a freaked out new mom.

  • Véronique Houde

    OMG I’m so totally the opposite! Completely fly by the seat of my pants type of parent ;). But hey, it works for me, and I seem to get the cleaning, the laundry and the shopping done… Most of the time ;). I do have an agenda for my “social” and work and personal obligations though or I’ll forget completely what I have to do and when ;).

    I’m not a scattered person by nature though – my mind is always very organized naturally, so maybe that’s why people have no idea how completely willingly unorganized I really am?

    • Bethany Ramos

      I so wish I could chill, but I literally cannot! :)

    • Véronique Houde

      I think it’s a bit due to my job… I have no choice really but to let go – I can’t help all the kids that call in, it’s not about me. I can only do my part, and when I hang up the phone I have to be able to move on for my own sanity. I think I’ve just applied it to my entire life in general to save my own sanity!!!

    • Bethany Ramos

      No, this is a great perspective – soaking it in… :)

  • MamaLlama

    This reminded me if this: http://www.buzzfeed.com/erinlarosa/problems-only-anxious-people-will-understand?s=mobile.
    But, a downfall can be that you raise a little type A mini-me as I have… Heads butt quite a bit!

    • Bethany Ramos

      That link was awesome. :)

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  • Emily A.

    My husband gives me a (joking) hard time because I have an Exit Plan wherever we are. Like: I let me kids climb trees and stuff, but know how I’ll get one to the hospital with the other in tow, should she fall out of said tree. So this was always a funny thing until I sustained an injury, while on a boat, with two kids on board, and clearly needed to get me some stitches. Despite being about to pass out, I got that whole thing squared away in no time.