I had the importance of manners and social niceties drilled into me from a young age. (Thanks, Mom!) I don’t ever remember being forced to write thank you notes, but I’ve always felt guilty and queasy inside if I don’t. (What will people think? Will they think I’m…ungrateful?)
I don’t write thank you notes just to make people like me. I write thank you notes because it’s the right thing to do. Maybe I’ve set way too high of a standard, but it really chaps my ass when someone doesn’t reciprocate by sending me a thank you note for their own special occasion—like a wedding or baby shower.
I’ve gotten a cramp in my hand from all of the thank you notes that I’ve written over the years for my engagement party, wedding gifts, baby shower, baby gifts, birthday parties, and more. I have sent out thank you notes religiously. You’re welcome.
I just feel like it is such a kick in the teeth to never send out a thank you note for all the gifts that you have been given. Yes, I know people like this. Also, I’d like to point out that we are in the digital age. So if you are totally lazy and don’t feel like putting a stamp on an envelope, you can at least send a GD text!!! But I digress.
Before you think me a high and mighty Emily Post type, I have decided to make a compromise to merge thank you notes into digital technology. Like I said, I’ve sent out hundreds of thank you notes in my lifetime. We just recently had my son’s second birthday party, so thank you notes were in order.
I’ll be honest—writing a thank you note isn’t that convenient, but that’s what makes it so special. But I also felt that since I’ve been writing hand-written thank you notes for years, maybe it was time to take it down a notch.
After my son’s recent birthday party, I asked my husband to create a custom thank you picture of my son, made to look like a card. I sent this custom picture in a private message through Facebook to each person that attended the party, with a personal thank you added.
My point is this: Okay, maybe the day has passed where handwritten thank you cards are a must. But at the very least, if someone decides to give you a gift out of the kindness of their heart, send them a fucking email to acknowledge it.
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