• Thu, Jan 16 - 11:00 am ET

The Secret No New Mom Will Tell You: Babies Are Boring

boringI don’t know many new moms that will utter the words “baby” and “boring” in the same sentence, so I’m here to dispel the myth. Babies, especially brand new ones, are mind-numbingly boring. Don’t try to church it up because a newborn baby that looks and acts like a sack of flour just isn’t that interesting.

It took until my second kid before I was ready and willing to admit this in public. I remember after having my first son that I was totally freaking elated, and then tired, and then really bored, in that order. I was (and still am) fortunate enough to work at home, so I would spend the morning working and the afternoon “bonding” with my new baby.

Translation: I would guiltily watch Dr. Phil over his shiny, bald head as I held him in my lap. If I was really bored and too lazy to get up, I would even rest my wine glass on his head because it made the perfect absorbent coaster.

There were many, many times that I tried to do interesting things with my baby to no avail. I took him for special walks in the park in the stroller and in the baby-front-carrier-thing. In summary, he got a good nap or screamed the entire time, and I got some exercise. It wasn’t a total lose-lose situation, but I wouldn’t call it particularly stimulating.

The thing that sucked about not acknowledging the boringness of my baby was that I felt all alone in new motherhood. I made the grave, grave mistake of comparing my reality to Facebook and Pinterest “reality.” All of the moms appeared to be jumping for joy and throwing leaves in the air in a montage right out of Full House. My boring baby just happened to be slumped over in a corner sucking on an old spoon, and he wasn’t having any photo ops.

Finally, I sent an email to a good friend of mine that had also recently had a baby. We were both indulging in some friendly bitching and finally admitted to each other, “Hey! Is your baby boring too? It’s not just me?!?” Whew, what a relief that was. I wasn’t the only person with a chronically boring baby, and I wasn’t the only mom that found the whole gig kind of uninteresting, at least in the early days.

Now, I have to qualify all of this by saying that I don’t totally hate my baby. In fact, I happen to love both of my sons a lot. But the early baby years, my God, they really test you. Unless you’re stimulated by watching paint dry or watching grass grow, just know that new motherhood is ultra-boring, and the day-to-day monotony can get to you.

You can reach this post's author, Bethany Ramos, on twitter.
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  • aCongaLine

    I’m so glad I’m not alone in this! While all the little old ladies in the supermarket are telling me that I should “cherish these days!” (and I do, mostly), all I can think of is “good god, when is this baby going to walk and talk?” :)

    • Bethany Ramos

      We are just counting down until baby #2 turns one! He is an evil teething monster at the moment – I forgot all about this stage. Blarg.

    • aCongaLine

      us too. true fact. I look at her drooly face, and red cheeks, and think to myself “good god, molars are coming after this!”

      I think I’m way more excited about Smashcake than she is.

    • http://www.gamedevwidow.weebly.com/ Theresa Edwards

      It’s totally possible to do both. My is 7 and while its true that she’ll never be a baby again 7 is an awesome age cause they’re like little humans finally.

    • Andrea

      Between 6 and 12. BEST TIMES EVER. Old enough to have conversations with and fun times with. Young enough not to give you teen attitude. I am thankful that I knew this when it was happening.

    • Bethany Ramos

      I will remember this.

    • Kresaera

      My son must have missed the memo that teen attitude doesn’t come until 12… lol

  • http://www.gamedevwidow.weebly.com/ Theresa Edwards

    Ugh, yes. When a baby comes to my house I’m like, what do you even want to do, kid?

  • Amanda Rene Slinger

    I have bought more seasons of TV on DVD and spent more time streaming Netflix at my sisters since I had my baby than I have in my whole life. If it wasn’t for OitNB, American Horror Story and Walking Dead I woulda died of boredom by now. My sis has a new baby too, we are waiting for them to walk so we can stage toddler death matches over cookies and fruit snacks. ;-)

    • Aimee Beff

      I can’t believe we considered canceling our Netflix to save a few bucks when we found out we were having twins. I am not sure what kind of shape I’d be in without a steady diet of streamed West Wing and MST3K episodes but I’m pretty sure it wouldn’t be good.

    • Amanda Rene Slinger

      That would be utter insanity! I have crappy slow internet because we live in the middle of nowhere, the fact that I have to truck 30 miles to my sisters house to stream the next episode of whatever my current addiction is or buy it to feed my need is bad enough. If I could stream at home, you would pry that remote from my cold, dead fingers.

    • Mystik Spiral

      One upvote and a million virtual cookies for being an MST3K fan!!

    • ScienceGeek

      I marathoned all 10 seasons of the X-files in the first two months of my kids life (yes, even the weird, crappy seasons when Duchovney left). I re-watched Grey’s anatomy, Castle, Bones and Arrow. At one point, I discovered half a dozen episodes of He-man on our media centre. I still have no damn idea how they got there, but I watched them all. In case you were wondering, there’s a hell of a lot of homoerotic subtext I never noticed when I was a kid, and Teela is the Beyonce of Eternia. Seriously, there was even a funky backing track when she came on-screen.

  • http://www.twitter.com/ohladyjayne allisonjayne

    I was lucky enough to have 2 smart and honest sisters, who informed me about the boredom of the ‘useless lump’ stage of having a kid. Newborns are beautiful, soft, very portable, and they (usually) smell good. But oh man, having a toddler is soooo much better. I felt like I spent the first year focused on keeping her alive, and the second year was when I really started getting to know who she is as a person. Constantly changing, sure, and sure I loved her when she was born but it’s really just in the past year or so that I’ve started to love her for who she actually is, not just because she’s a human-shaped blob that came from my body.

    • Bethany Ramos

      Very well said – I feel the same way. I much prefer toddlers, even with crazy tantrums.

    • Natasha B

      I’m on the fence, I love me some sweet cuddly babies, and the fact that you can tote them anywhere with no complaint. Taking back talk from a 4yo, though…..I miss the days he couldn’t talk….
      But I was also one of those ‘bad’ moms who was all, baby is awake and content? Cool, I’m going to go take a shower. Or watch a show. Or have a conversation with a grown up. Or go to starbucks. Didn’t feel the need to ‘entertain’ baby.

    • Lala

      I don’t understand those moms who somehow can’t get a shower in. Maybe I am lucky I had laid back babies but I always managed to get in at least a five minute shower if I chose to even with a toddler and newborn. Only bad thing is when toddler points at my stretch marks on stomach followed by an “ew gross”. Thanks lol

    • ChickenKira

      The ones who cannot pee are the ones that leave me scratching my head.
      I will admit, my experience is limited to one baby, but come on, there is time to pee.

    • Lala

      I have two and I can always pee. I just take the toddler with me so she doesn’t smack her brother while unattended. I may have to wait a few extra mins while I make sure everyone is safe and secure but I can always do it!

      I also think watching tv is more difficult when they are toddlers. Between the “what’s this?” ANd the repeating all you moms of littler ones take advantage! It’s no fun watching revenge when I have to keep reqwinding to hear what was said.

    • Bethany Ramos

      ME TOO! They watch me shower, we put them in bouncers, they sit in the pack n’play – these are all valid options.

    • SusannahJoy

      lol, I have said that I’m enjoying my baby so much more now that he’s starting to turn into a real person! Everyone kept insisting that every little thing he did was part of his “personality” but I don’t buy it. All babies burp and cry and (after a certain age, provided they’re healthy) smile and laugh. I could get a doll that would do that. Now he’s almost like a real boy!

  • Steph

    Absolutely true. I’m super old so the thing that kept me going during my daughter’s infancy was the OJ Simpson trial. I was WAY too into that whole spectacle. But I could only watch my daughter stare at her toes for so long, you know? Compared to that, even Kato Kaelin was interesting.

    • Bethany Ramos

      LOL!

  • Guest 123

    I wish that I had read this article when my first was born! I felt like I needed to stare at him and dangle toys in front of him all day. I would stare at the clock and want to cry when I realized that my husband would not be home for several more hours! Toddlers are really challenging but at least we can finger paint now. :-)

  • Mystik Spiral

    I don’t have kids, and for a long time I was certain THAT is the reason that I don’t get babies. I would watch friends and family bring their newborns around and everyone would ooh and aah and argue over who got to hold the baby next. Whenever a baby is offered to me, I try to find a polite way to say “get back to me in a couple of years, when they, you know, DO stuff”.

    I finally realized that yes, babies are just boring.

    • SusannahJoy

      See, I’ll oo and awwhh over babies too. For about 2 minutes. Then it’s like, ok, yeah, you’re cute. But cute just isn’t that riveting for that long.

    • NotTakenNotAvailable

      I don’t and won’t have kids partly because I don’t think babies are cute, so perhaps that’s why I thought the boring stage was a desirable outcome? I mean, if they’re boring you to tears, at least they’re not screaming or getting, uh, waste products everywhere, right?

      I don’t mean to come off as rude, this is something I genuinely do not understand and likely never will because I am so scared of pregnancy/having kids that I’m diligently taking the pill in spite of having been voluntarily celibate for over a year.

    • Larkin

      I see both sides (and also don’t have kids). I love oohing and ahhing and cuddling newborn babies, but I still can see how it would get super boring if you are responsible for doing it 24/7. But I’m also a big proponent of sticking with your “normal” life as much as is reasonable, and just bringing baby along for the ride. They can sleep on you while you visit a museum or go for a walk, right?

    • Natasha B

      Yep….babies are pretty good sidekicks. That’s what I did with mine, anyways. I never felt the need to sit in the house and ‘engage’ them 24/7

    • Harriet Meadow

      I used to take little guy with me everywhere. Of course, he is my first, which makes it a little easier, but yeah, when he was in the newborn meatloaf stage he came to gatherings with the friends, lectures at the school (he’s a good sleeper), walks with the dogs, trips to the mall, to restaurants with my husband, to my class while I was teaching (just once or twice)…I just took him everywhere with me! Now that he’s 8 months, he’s less of a meatloaf and is getting into everything. On the one hand, it’s great because we can play together when we’re at home. On the other hand, I can’t just bring him with me everywhere (I tried bringing him to my class with me yesterday and it did not go very well lol).

    • acadrag

      Mine screamed. All the time. For 3 months. I couldn’t go ANYWHERE. But my experience apparently wasn’t normal and now he’s an awesome kid.

    • NotTakenNotAvailable

      Haha, for me, it’s more of a deer-in-the-headlights expression, then a fake sneeze in the arm with some mumbling about “just getting over the flu,” followed by, “Bring it back in six years when we can talk about books!”

  • Janok Place

    Awh… I’m definitely in the “enjoy it while it lasts” category. Granted, we had a freak baby who came pre-programmed to sleep through the night. I was so excited for her to crawl, or walk, or something but she did it all so quickly I feel like I missed some moments. She’s not the world’s most affectionate kid and now she’s big enough to resist the cuddles.

    I’m pretty excited for the second puddle of baby goo that is on his way :) walking and talking is SO overrated! (I have a toddler using me as a jungle gym as we speak…)

    • Natasha B

      I’m with you on this one ;) I miss the days where I could stick them in the swing and go about my business, or confine them to the stroller and they wouldn’t complain. Now they climb and run and jump and mouth off and basically give me 7 heart attacks a day
      (Excuse me while I pry the 18mo off the ceiling)

    • Janok Place

      Right? I refuse to teach this one how to crawl. He is on his own. I love the stationary phase.

  • Sterf

    You’re right on the money. The biggest problem for me is that when I am bored I get sleepy so even if I get a full night’s sleep with my baby, I’m still exhausted because he’s so boring.

  • EX

    It’s definitely boring at first but I have to say that around 8 weeks or so, when my daughter started smiling back at me I wasn’t really bored from that point on. The sad part is that that’s when my maternity leave ended. I totally only got to stay home for the boring part!

  • Tea

    My Brother in law, a stay at home dad, said that having a newborn is like having a really good cat, since they mostly just sleep and occasionally lay on your and purr, but they don’t do much unless they need you right this instant.

    He just eventually threw on a baby sling or grabbed a monitor and went business as usual, because he was going stir crazy.

  • KaeTay

    The way I look at this is; you don’t have babies so you have someone to entertain you. Even when my daughter was in the “boring” state as this writer would refer to it, I was happy because I had a healthy beautiful little girl. Of course I was lucky (not sure if this is the right word to use) because my munchkin hit all the milestones incredibly early so that “boring” state didn’t last long at all.

    I just don’t understand why parents apply the word boring to their children. I probably never will.

    • Amanda Lee

      You do realize you’re mom shaming right? I’m sure the Bethany is grateful for her child, but that doesn’t mean she can’t complain. She’s bored.. She tried to do things with the baby like go for walks and it didn’t work. Babies aren’t known to be mentally stimulating. I would classify them as boring, too.

    • stacey

      Haha, way to mommyjack the comments. Someone submit this to stfu, parents!!! “My child hit milestones early…never apply the word boring to my child” huge eyeroll lady!

    • Mystik Spiral

      Yes, because humans are completely incapable of feeling happy and bored at the same time. Two co-occurring emotions are too much for our piddly brains to handle.

    • Toaster

      Let me guess, I should also ‘enjoy every moment’ even when it’s 2am, the baby is screaming, I’m suffering from a stomach bug and need to throw up, and I’m covered in baby feces?

    • CMJ
    • candyvines

      Everyone should be more like you.

    • Kay_Sue

      Yeah, it’s totally impossible to step out of your world view and imagine someone else having a different experience parenting. I get that, I really do.

      Oh no, I don’t.

      I call troll, also. This is just too well-worded and precise an example of sancti-mommying and mom shaming to be real….

  • elle

    Yes, this is exactly how I felt. And I honestly felt like I must be doing something wrong, because nobody else I knew seemed bored/unhappy. Honestly some days I was so bored I felt like crying, and every hour felt like 2. And I felt like I couldn’t say anything to anybody lest I be branded a bad mom! But my son is almost 3 now and so much fun and now I know I’m just one of those people who hates the newborn/little baby stage. If we decide to have another one I would very seriously consider getting a baby nurse/Nanny for the first year…..

  • Aimee Beff

    It’s super disappointing that I have to go back to work right when they’re turning three months old – right about when they start to be able to participate in playing and doing things other than laying there like a cute chubby rug on the floor. Too bad it doesn’t really work for maternity leave to be from 3-6 months instead of 0-3 …

    • RB

      YES. THIS.

  • rebecca

    I hate hate hate advice columns that stress the importance of “bonding’ with your baby. Special circumstances aside (like adoption) most babies are plenty bonded to mama. “don’t read or watch tv while feeding your baby”. really?? I should just be staring into my babies eyes the entire time they’re awake apparently. My third baby got his bottle propped so often that he actually thought milk came from the blanket and at a year old still tries to shove his blanket in his mouth whenever I give it to him. Young babies don’t care where it’s coming from, as long as they get it. And all three of my kids are as bonded to me as I can take!

    • Aimee Beff

      Don’t tell the Mommy Police, but I’m reading Mommyish *right now* while feeding a baby … hopefully the emotional problems I’m inflicting on my daughter because of this aren’t permanent.

    • Mystik Spiral

      Quick, someone call CPS!!!

    • SusannahJoy

      I have read many articles with baby attached to me. RIght now he’s in his high chair yelling at his cheerios.

    • Jallun-Keatres

      LOL me too and I set her down so I could comment

    • AP

      Those articles annoy me from the adult relationship end, too. Bonding is something that happens over time, as you share experiences together that bring you closer over time. It’s not something that can be forced in any relationship, and I think giving parents the idea from the get-go that relationships with their children can be bonded by force and will is a rotten one.

      I say this because I’ve seen parents try to force-bond with older kids, or even adult kids, and it just doesn’t work. (*cough* my mother-in-law who was a huge fan of these Mommy Bonding methods *cough*) You can’t just go on a Bonding Excursion with someone, ask them a ton of intrusive personal questions while oversharing with them, and expect to come out of it Super Bestest Friendies. Life doesn’t work like that.

    • Bethany Ramos

      Such a great point.

    • Larkin

      No babies for me yet, but I’ve always thought that advice sounded like a load of bull. Literally have read articles that encourage you to gaze into your baby’s eyes the entire time you feed them every time. Seriously? I’d rather read a book, thanks.

      Hilariously, a woman I worked with went on maternity leave a few years back… and within a couple of weeks, she was literally calling us several times a day wondering if there was any work we needed her to do at home because she was so bored. Haha.

  • Fuzzy Dolphin

    is your Kindle broken?

  • SusannahJoy

    Yeah, at about 2 months I was feeling guilty for not doing anything all day. The first few weeks it was ok, because then I was “recovering” but I felt like at some point I should be better, and start getting into this whole motherhood thing. So I asked my sister for advice on what to do while home with the baby. She laughed and suggested Dr. Who. He’s 9 months now, and as I remarked to my husband, finally starting to get interesting. I love him so, so much, but ugh. I can only take so much crappy daytime tv before I want to rip my hair out. There was a “Now Hiring!” sign at Target and I seriously thought about applying, because working at Target has to be more fun than a boring baby!

  • Jem

    Thiissssssss. So much.
    I made the mistake of buying hook, line and sinker all those articles that say your baby will be completely ruined if there is a TV on anywhere in the vicinity of your baby so I felt like a bad mom if I watched TV. My poor baby just probably wanted to lay there and I was so worried I wasn’t engaging him enough, experiencing him enough, showing him enough etc etc so i was always there in his face, talking, reading a book, showing him a new toy. It was EXHAUSTING and YES I was SO bored. But saying that made me feel like I didn’t like my baby. I loved being around him, I really did, he was just boring when he was in the meatloaf stage.

    • Ashley Austrew

      Yes! I was so worried about “engaging” my first all the time. She was probably like, “Geeze, Mom. Go find something to do and leave me alone.” lol

    • Myra A Cottrill

      Agreed. I’ve managed to watch five seasons of Doctor Who these past two months on maternity leave, and I feel pretty guilty about it. Especially when he baby starts staring at the tv. So, I make it a point to read a bunch of books and go through the toy basket painstakingly. It IS exhausting and boring. There are only so many times I can sing “Itsy Bitsy Spider.”

    • Psych Student

      I will forever remember the phrase “meatloaf stage” and I will forever love it!

  • kay

    My husband is watching the baby next week while I work (first time he’ll do a full day with her)
    I wrote out instructions of how to drag out playing (post nap she and i snuggle, then we play around her crib for 10-15 minutes before a diaper change, when you feed the pets it’s also “let’s stare at the chickens for 10 minutes” time etc) so that you don’t pull your hair out. I told him he can ignore it, but he can’t then complain he was bored out of his skill.

    I’m curious to see how it goes.

  • MerlePerle

    Yes! This! Second baby is a lot better because I’ve got a 4 yo to keep me company. But that first year at home was so boring….

  • Kay_Sue

    I think one of the reasons I was more successful breastfeeding my second son was that I acknowledged that it was fucking boring. So instead of worrying over what was being done right or wrong, I just picked up my Kindle, downloaded a few books I’d been meaning to read (Song of Fire & Ice, actually, lol) and let him do his thing. By the time I came up out of the book enough to remember I was nursing, he was usually done and asleep. #winning Best snuggles!

  • MaebykittyRN

    This. My 10 week old is a super awesome little dude, but hanging out with him 24/7 can be like watching paint dry. Buying a baby gym saved my sanity. Now I can lay him on that thing for a while and he can entertain himself while mommy goes on the internet. I’m not ignoring him, I’m teaching him to be self sufficient, lol.

  • Jen

    I love them when they are all immobile and sleepy. Send me your babies because cuddling babies is the perfect companion activity /excuse for binge watching shit on Netflix. I WILL CUDDLE ALL THE BABIES!

    • Bethany Ramos

      My baby is on the way! I cut breathing holes in the box and everything.

    • jen

      I just sent mine to daycare for the first time this week so I am missing baby cuddle time.

  • Picklejar

    Never take the Internet to be a reflection of reality – It’s a *deflection* of reality. After all, who wants to see a close-up of my lanolin stained t-shirts?

    • Bethany Ramos

      DEFLECTION – yes.

  • Magrat

    This is great news for me! While my baby is being boring, I can grade papers and do research. And if the baby needs some stimulation, I can just read whatever I’ve got in my hand out loud. Aeschylus’ Agamemnon is a great bedtime story, right?

  • Katherine Handcock

    Oh, I TOTALLY tell people my babies were boring as babies! Don’t get me wrong, I was thrilled when they were there, and I did marvel at this little-wrinkled-creature-that-will-be-a-person and how they changed constantly. But every time someone said, “Oh, those days go by too fast!” I’d say, “No way! They are more fun with every passing day.” I love seeing actual personalities emerging, hearing my son’s crazy stories, discovering that my daughter has some pretty impressive singing ability for a three-year-old…THAT’S the fun stuff.

  • Andy

    My son, at four months old, is entering what I like to call the best age about having a baby-old enough to interact and smile/laugh and begin to want to play, but still young enough to nap and not move around much :)

  • Momma425

    Yeah, well my daughter is five now, and I’m all, “NOOOOO, go back. Why did I teach you to talk? Can’t you just lay there on the floor and look at nothing? No, I dopn’t want to share the ipad with you!”

  • The Kez

    Six to nine months was my favourite. All cute and drooly but not mobile enough to make too much mess and not yet able to yell at me to turn Peppa Pig on. I’ve got a 5 month old and a 2.5 year old and ill take being bored over being driven insane any day of the week!!

  • AnastasiaMcNally

    My baby has just turned 5 months and I have never been so thankful for anything! She does interesting stuff now! Though I must admit whenever she tries to crawl I kind of want to push her over, because she doesn’t need to be *that* mobile just yet ;)

    • Bethany Ramos

      Step on her back. ;)

    • pineapplegrasss

      sooo wrong :) I got a good laugh at that visual..

  • arrow2010

    Be careful or the Mommy Police will have you arrested for not staring into your baby’s eyes 24 hours a day.

  • Jallun-Keatres

    I got lucky and somehow instinctually knew I’d continue to be bored out of my mind at home when my baby arrived, not just the maternity leave waiting for her to be born. That’s why I am going back to work- to get out of the house and let Husband watch her for a bit!

  • AlexMMR

    Every mom I’ve ever talked to has their marathon show, as in “while s/he was a baby, I watched every episode of every season of fill in the blank.”

    Buffy and Dr. Who for me if anyone wants to be besties.

    • Sarahstired

      What did people do on maternity leave before netflix?!

    • Vicki Lewis

      “Hey. There there. Be quiet. Go to sleep. No really, stop crying. You’ve got a lot to look forward to you know. A normal human life on Earth. Mortgage re-payments. A 9-5. A persistent nagging sense of spiritual emptiness. Save the tears for later boy-o.”
      – The Doctor (talking to baby Alfie A.K.A Stormageddon)

  • Elizabeth

    I don’t have kids, but I definitely know what you mean! I was a nanny for an infant when he was 3-7 months old for 40+ hours a week, and was often incredibly bored. And I felt awful! I took care of him, of course, and played as much as he wanted to, but especially in the early months, he was as happy laying on the same old baby mat as he was looking at the shiniest, most interesting toys. I love the kid, but man, infants are just not that interesting.

    Plus side: I caught up on a lot of reading in those days. :)

  • http://oldnewberries.blogspot.com/ Melanie Makin

    I used to wonder whether I was boring my baby in those first months; all she did was sit and suck and cry, and she couldn’t even make eye contact yet. Agreed!

  • ted3553

    Love this. I have a friend who is now trying to get pregnant so she asks me a million questions. I tell her, with the caveat that my baby was not a crier, that my house was never cleaner than when he was a baby and I was on mat leave. He just sat/laid wherever I put him and I got tons of stuff done. We had tons of snuggle time but I mainly went about my business and had him with me. He didn’t do much until he was several months old so yeah, they are boring. My toddler who never stops moving could use a little more boring now.

  • http://twitter.com/mariaguido Maria Guido

    Oh man – truer words were never spoken. Boring and exhausting – not a good combination.

  • me

    Isn’t this the truth! I remember so well, when my daughter was a newborn I was texting my friend whom had a 2 year old, “what do you do with a newborn?!” LOL. As I type this, my now-four-year-old (the newborn i was referring to) is sleeping on the couch b/c she is sick and I”m bored lol

  • Teleute

    Mine was pretty boring throughout the fourth trimester. The more active he became, the more interesting I found him.

  • Bekkah

    I was definitely too busy being exhausted and hormonal to get bored. My guy was (and is) very social and “high maintenance”.

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  • sarah

    Deffinatley ok to watch t.v but drink wine on his head really? And my baby is far from boring she’s always been a trip! Sorry but I disagree here and I’m open minded. I’ve always felt some women just don’t like really being a mother as much as others! Nothing wrong with that, I love it though :)

    • Guest

      Guess some women prefer to judge based on a sarcastic yet honest column written by an Internet stranger.

  • http://www.friendlyphotozone.com/ Friendly Photo Zone

    You people who agree with this article suck. There’s a whole army of kids in today’s schools that are the result of the kind of “good enough” parenting you’re advocating. I’m a stay-at-home dad, and I’ve never once been bored with my baby daughter. Netflix is the farthest thing from my mind. I’m too busy marveling at my daughter’s evolution, and keeping up with cleaning/maintenance/work while she’s napping.

    It’s no wonder schools are over-filled with mediocre kids. They’re your offspring.

    • CupOfTea

      Well aren’t you just a saint :)
      Many people gave up incredibly stimulating jobs to be stay at home moms, and yes, the slow down can result in incredible boredom, months 1 to 3 were indeed very boring, a lot of sleeping and not much else while she was awake, we are at 6 months now though and it is really starting to pick up.
      You act like being bored is a bad thing or it makes you a bad parent, but no, in the first few months of life there isn’t much to do “with” your child but hold them.
      The reason these moms are bored is they can’t wait till they can fully engage their kids and do all the things that make parenting fun.