I Refuse To Fly With My Entire Family At The Same Time

168883089I never fly with my entire family at the same time. I learned this from my ex’s fiancé’s parents, years ago, before I became a mother. His parents will never fly on the same plane with their only child, even now. And he’s 48. Why? Because if, god forbid, and sorry to be so morbid, but if something went wrong (you can imagine all the scenarios) then at least their only son, who they love like no other, would still be alive.

This may be twisted thinking for some, but I totally get it. In fact, when they go to the same destination, his parents will go on an earlier flight, and then he will go on a later flight, on the same day. I’ve adopted this practice, since becoming a mother. On a recent family vacation to Mexico, it was a bit of a gong show, to say the least, booking tickets for everyone in our blended family. I left first with my daughter, then a day later my nanny (who is like a family member) left with our baby, and then the day after that, my fiancé brought down his two girls. That’s three flights, to the same place, in three consecutive days. The chances of something going wrong (hijacking, crash, etc.) becomes less minimal, and at least, if I die (sorry, again, to be so morbid, but once you become a mother, the worry never stops!) the children will have at least one parent to raise them and take care of them.

There are other, more superficial reasons, as well, like who would take care of my ex-fiancé’s parent’s businesses, or my fiancé’s business if they were gone. If I died in a plane crash, or my fiancé did, since we’re not on the same flight, at least I know my son would be well taken care of by one of us. Yes, I take my daughter with me, but that’s only because she’s ten, and my good luck charm (My daughter is, enviably, one of those humans who is always lucky at everything!) and I don’t really trust just  airport employees, who are supposed to look out for your children on the plane if they are travelling alone. How many stories have we read that children, under supposed supervision, ended up in Vegas when they were supposed to end up in Barbados? When she’s older, like 18, you can bet I will not be travelling on the same plane as her, even, in fact, when she’s 48. We’ll just meet up later, the same day, after taking different flights. Sure, she’ll be sad if I die. But I want her to live more than I do and she’ll understand that. I want my son to live more than I do, and though he’s only 18 months, he’ll too eventually understand. What mother wouldn’t give up their own lives for their child’s?

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  • Kay_Sue

    Yeah, it’s morbid, but it also strikes me as kind of superfluous.

    Do you guys all ride in the same vehicle together? Because statistically speaking, you have a much more significant risk of dying on a roadway than in an airplane. Also, how do you know, when your daughter is 48 and you guys are taking separate flights, that hers won’t still be the one that goes down? It’s kind of pointless to me, because statistically speaking, you aren’t increasing or decreasing your chances of being involved in an incident. The only thing you are doing for sure is spending a good bit more on transportation costs. I don’t see how it’s giving your life for your children–because it’s equally likely that they’ll be the ones that go down instead of you.

    However, all of that is meaningless. If it’s what makes you feel better, and you’ve got the money to do it, it’s absolutely none of mine (or anyone else’s) business. Happy flying.

    • Pam

      Haha, just posted the same thoughts!

    • Kay_Sue

      Great minds. :)

  • Pam

    This is kind of insane. I mean, do you take 3 separate cars when you go anywhere? It’s way more likely for you all to die in the same car, sorry to say. It just seems like such a HUGE hassle for something so remote. But to each their own, I guess.

    • Sherri

      This was my exact thought- you are much more likely to die in a car crash so really you guys should be driving separately everywhere as well. I get the fear though, I’ve been trying to make sure all my ducks are in a row since I was 20.

    • wonderstruck

      Exactly what I was going to say! Chances of dying in a car accident is way higher, so do you and your husband split up between vehicles when driving too? I’m sorry but this is just crazy paranoid and something it sounds like the author probably needs some sort of phobia therapy for.

    • EX

      I was going to write the same thing. If one were to really accurately assess the risk of every activity undertaken (including driving) it would be hard to leave the house. Yes, the whole family dying in a plane crash would be tragic but so would the whole family dying in a car wreck, bus accident, train wreck, terrorist attack, etc., etc. I mean, if this method of travel makes the author feel better then go for it, but it’s pretty far from logical.

  • VA Teacher

    Just pointless.

  • CMJ

    So you travel like the President and the Vice President?

  • pixie

    And if the plane to go down is the one your child is on and not the one you’re on?

    If we’re thinking morbidly, we might as well consider that option, too, I hate to say.

    • bl

      Yeah, that’s why I’d rather all be together. Especially if all these flight plans were the result of my irrational fear (and I mean absolutely NO snark toward Eckler. I have an irrational fear or 10 myself). But if it worked in reverse and my kid died with the nanny because I scheduled him a separate flight, I’d be devastated. At least together, I’d know I was there to provide comfort (I’d like to think I wouldn’t be losing my shit) as the plane went down.

    • Véronique Houde

      I would imagine feeling horribly guilty that my child was terrified and I wasn’t there for her in that time…

    • pixie

      That’s what I was thinking, especially since I know that as someone who loves her parents and is close with them, I’d feel bad enough for not being their for my parents in a crisis like that.

  • JudasSong

    I have known couples where they travel separately if their children are not going with them, in case there was a crash or anything else. I haven’t heard of people splitting up when their children are with them, though.
    Although, maybe my family is equally “morbid” (I think you like that word:)) in that if we’re going to die in an airplane incident, fuck it, we’re all going together- as a family. It’s weird to think that we would think that we’d rather die together in a crash than live without each other, but it seems like that’s the case. Either that, or we’re cheap as fuck and are so not shelling out the added expense it would take it take 3 or 4 trips both to and from the airport.

    • pixie

      Yeah, maybe I’m selfish, but I’d rather go down holding the hands of my loved ones, for both my sake and theirs, than to die afraid and alone in a fiery plane crash or have that happen to one of my family members.

    • JudasSong

      It is so not selfish to not want to die alone in a fire. I think of it as “if the plane my family is on crashes, I’d rather be on it than live without them” rather than “If my plane crashes, I wish my family were here to die with me”, because no, I obviously don’t want to take everyone down with me when I die, regardless of the scenario.

    • DatNanny

      This is my thinking. I can get behind parents traveling separately. I wouldn’t bother, but ok, it makes some sense.

      But a family trip? I think I’d rather all go down together then leave some family members to feel the loss of the rest of their family.

    • rebecca

      I Love my entire family! And guess what this mommy would do after anyone of her her children, on the off chance, that something goes wrong? Yeah, I won’t last too long. And not to make this post even MORE morbid, but I have to ask, how many of you have more than one children. Is this a reason to have a second? Curious?

    • Lucy

      Sorry, but I literally could not understand this comment at all. What are you trying to say?

    • guest

      I think she is trying to say that she doesn’t know what she would do if her child died. She thinks she would kill herself. Then she wonders if this is why people have more than 1 child.

    • JudasSong

      It is NOT the reason for me to have multiple children. People in my life cannot be replaced in case they die. Younger children are not “back up” children in case the older children die. They aren’t objects to be used in case the other one gets used up, for goodness sake.

  • bl

    To me, I get the separate flights for parents thing (even if statistically, you should be driving in separate cars to really affect your “don’t die together” wishes). You want to leave one parent alive for the child(ren) should a plane crash happen. But if you’re all going? I say hop on the same plane and risk going down in a crash together. I have no desire to die anytime soon, but if I were on a plane with my husband and future child and it was going down, I don’t think I’d be thinking “DAMN, I could have been on that later Delta flight and lived!”

    • Sherri

      Agree. If that plane is going down I honestly would want my husband there with me. Not because I want him to go down too but because I’d be terrified. I’d prefer that my kids not be there…but I also would not want my kids to have to go down by themselves. So morbid, I know.

  • Janok Place

    You’re at greater risk to die in a car accident… When you take your daughter somewhere, do you drive and have her hop in a taxi? Come on Eckler. These articles just keep getting weaker, and weaker.

  • http://Mommyish.com/ Eve Vawter

    This is pretty much exactly like my life but because I make people not shower at the same time because we run out of hot water and our water heater is OLD

    • Kay_Sue

      I wish ours would die (while we’re all being morbid here) so that our landlord would replace it.

      Right now, we shower in twos when possible (my husband and I, which would be way more erotic if it wasn’t to conserve hot water, in the morning and the boys in the evening), and having my stepdaughters (who need separate showers) meant having to schedule showering tightly the last week and a half…all because the damn thing won’t make it through one shower without being totally depleted and taking forever to fill back up.

    • bl

      I hope you also bear the risk of taking the first shower of the day, you know, just in case the water is TOO hot. Fourth in line might get a cold shower, but you gotta look out for the family. ;)

    • JLH1986

      exact opposite at our house. The pipes are cold at our house so the first shower of the day gets barely any hot water! My hubby hasn’t learned yet, but I shower at night…that way dishes are done etc. and the pipes aren’t so cold so I can shower and be warm!

    • http://www.twitter.com/ilikeswears Dusty

      Me too! But mostly because if I have to take a cold, low water pressure shower I might kill the family member in the other shower.

  • jane

    My husband and I sleep in separate rooms so in case one of the carbon monoxide detectors goes the other will still be able to drag everyone to safety. When we have to ride in elevators, I send someone up early so that, in the event it gets stuck, they can call the police. My husband and I used to like to go to concerts in small venues, but since the nightclub fire a few years ago, he goes in and just live streams it for me while I wait in the car. I won’t even send my kids to the same school in case there’s a random shooting.

    Or, you know, I could push those “what ifs” to where they belong in the back of my head and make reasonable choices about how to spend my time and money.

    • VA Teacher

      You had me at the first sentence. I was sitting here going ‘Geez la-freaking Wheez!” until I caught on. Nicely done. :P

    • MerlePerle

      If you want to be extra safe, you could get a divorce and live in seperate countries! In case of an apocalypse, you’d die at different times!

    • drinkpepsi

      The author is simply ridiculous.

      See how she allows her ex-fiance (an only child) to travel on the same plane with his only child. So if their plane goes down, the grandparents would lose their only child AND their only grandchild. Somehow that is okay?! (Sorry, but a phone call won’t negate a plane crash.)

      Just proves that the author has ulterior motives.

      She doesn’t want to travel with her stepkids because she doesn’t like them (see past articles) or her baby because he’s too much “work” (see past articles).

      And this is the lame excuse she uses to get her current fiance to agree to these crazy terms.

    • drinkpepsi

      The author just doesn’t want to travel with her stepkids.

      I mean…she travels with her own daughter. She tries to justify it by calling her daughter a good luck charm. Um…okay. Why not take your step-daughters too then? The flight should be lucky.

      She makes her baby travel on a different flight…no doubt so she can enjoy a more peaceful flight herself. And if the baby’s flight goes down? No mom or dad with him to hold his hand or comfort him in his final moments.


    • http://whereintheworld-stephanie.blogspot.com/ Stephanie Diamond

      We actually do look for the fire exits at concerts and movie theaters. But that’s because 1) my husband is a first responder and he wants me out ASAP if there’s an emergency and 2) friends of my mom’s were at that nightclub fire in Rhode Island and survived because they stood in the back next to the exits.

    • jane

      Right, of course. I also look for fire exits. I also buckle my seatbelt. But there’s a difference between safety conscious and ridiculous.

    • Holly

      I wonder if separate gallons of milk are purchased for each family member in case one is bad. I’ll also bet that on take-out night everyone has to pick a separate restaurant just in case there’s tainted food at one restaurant. Leftover night…only one person gets spaghetti in case it wasn’t stored properly!

    • Shea

      No, she just has a designated food-tester on staff. Like a 14th century king, you know?

    • Williwaw

      That sleeping in separate rooms might help save one of you if a small meteorite hits your house, too!

    • drinkpepsi

      Rebecca – when you ditched your 10 wk old baby to fly to Mexico with your fiance, did you and the fiance fly together?

      Because if you did, this entire article is a lie.

      If you and the fiance died in a plane crash, your son would be orphaned.

      You just don’t want to be stuck on a plane with your stepkids and a fussy baby.
      Admit it.

    • drinkpepsi

    • drinkpepsi

      Out of the mouths of babes…or out of the mouth of Eckler’s own stepkid:

      “Mexico is great but tbh I’m sad that I’m not home for Christmas”

      “I’m too sad for it to be Christmas Eve”

      Wow, Rebecca…way to go!!
      Sounds like your stepkids are super happy with their ‘bonus’ mom!

      So much for letting the girls decide where and with whom they would
      like to be with on Christmas.

      You think that fancy gifts or vacations can buy people’s love and affection.

      Thankfully, their real mom did a great job raising them and these girls know
      that family is what matters when it comes to the holidays.

      Shameful that you would keep them away from their own mother on Christmas when you do not even celebrate it.

      You may have won the battle but you will almost certainly lose the war.

  • Alfreda Wells Morrissey

    I would think it would be better for the whole family to go at once. Then nobody misses anybody. The people that stay behind are the ones who grieve. The dead people don’t feel anything. Of course now I am thinking, my husband is taking my girls to Florida next week and I am staying behind. What if the plane goes down and I am the only one left. That would be the worst. I think I need to find some cat pictures to take my mind off that one.

  • Yo yo ma

    My Grandmother has been preaching this for years. I have a large extended family and we travel together a lot. When we do, we always go separately. We usually drive and when we do she tells us to make sure there’s lots of distance between us. That way if there’s a crash, everyone won’t be involved in it. I know it sounds crazy but we have always done it.
    I carry a lot of anxiety about a lot of things that my mind knows are ridiculous. I can’t shut it off. I know this won’t get the popular vote but I completely understand where she’s coming from.

  • Emily

    In addition to the many fine points made by other posters, I have to say that phrases such as “The chances of something going wrong… becomes less minimal” are driving my forehead towards my keyboard.

    • EX

      Ha! I was going to comment on that too. I had to read it several times to see if I could even make sense of what she was trying to say.

    • Mystik Spiral

      Like most of her articles, what she’s trying to say could be summed up in one concise sentence: “My family is never on the same plane at the same time because crashes and terrorists.” I commend you for even attempting subsequent reads of that grammatical disaster.

      It’s a true miracle that this woman is actually paid to write… smh.

    • brebay

      You could pare that down even more: “I’m a neurotic mess.”

  • AP

    My mom worked with a businessman who had 4 children, and he’d split the family in half for flights. Mom and the 2 girls would take 1 flight, and Dad and the 2 boys would take another. Just in case something happened, it would only happen to half the family.

    Oddly, she’s superstitious about the extended family piling into a large minivan, on the grounds that we could exterminate the whole family in one accident. Though we’re a large enough crew (10) that taking 2 cars isn’t a ridiculous thing to do, either.

  • MerlePerle

    Aw man, these Eckler posts are getting so lame….

    • Rochelle

      I can’t help wondering if she’s being ridiculous and annoying on purpose, to get more comments or something.

    • MerlePerle

      Oh definitely.mand that’s what she’s paid to do. I mean, these are aren’t exactly well written. But at least in the past I could get all riled up about the outrages things she said. It’s just gotten boring…

    • Blueathena623

      I’ve been a defender of Rebecca in the past few posts, but this article basically had the same points written over and over. It could have been one paragraph and gotten the point across.

    • FormerlyKnownAsWendy

      I thought it was just really weird she chooses to travel with her good luck charm, the ten year old girl, but leaves the apparently unlucky but also fairly new infant to die in the plane with the nanny.

  • http://ultimatemamacat.tumblr.com/ Hana Graham

    I’m bananas, and this whole thing strikes me as bananas. Like others have said, do you drive in separate cars? Do you stay far away from each other during thunder storms? Do you eat at separate times in case of choking? And I agree with others as well that I’d rather be there with my kids in case of a crash, and definitely with my husband! And my cats.

  • Kelly

    This is the level of paranoia where you should seriously consider therapy. That’s not an insult, it’s just reality. I hope you find a way to work through this issue.

    • JLH1986

      If it’s impairing her life, costing her money, she spends large amounts of time ruminating on what “could” happen, begins to prevent them from vacationing…then I would agree. But so far it doesn’t seem to be impairing her life (that she’s reporting) and it doesn’t seem to bother her too much.

    • 21foot house

      I saw this go spiralling into the toilet with my own family though to the point where my mum eventually refused to travel with us AT ALL. She also stopped going to parties and over night stays with my dad on the off chance that her children would be left parentless if they died in a fire or car accident or whatever. We’re all adults now, and the rift this created in our family is still evident. When my grandmother died my mother didn’t want to attend the funeral because what if the plane crashed and no one got home in time to feed the dogs?
      Since my mother hadn’t traveled with us for YEARS at the funeral everyone thought I was my dad’s new 24 year old trophy wife. It was humiliating.
      Anyway, to cut a long story short, my parents still argue about this, it still affects our family, and it started just like this, with a lot of “what ifs” and irrational thinking.

  • K8

    This makes me think of a tragic situation from a few years ago. The parents of two children had taken a child each on separate flights home from holiday and whilst one parent and one child landed safely the other parent and the other child did not. One half of that family waited at the airport for their other half to arrive… just awful, my heart broke for them and it haunted me for months. As a result I decided we would, wherever possible, always travel together because being either side of that scenario and the resulting “what ifs” is just too painful to contemplate.

    • Williwaw

      Also, if you assume every plane has an equal probability of crashing, then if everyone in the family is on the same flight, there is a smaller chance that at least one loved one will die than if the family is dispersed onto two or more separate planes (although the risk for each individual would be the same no matter who was on what plane). Of course, if it’s that one flight that crashes, there’s a much greater chance of losing everyone, but hey, life is hazardous.

  • http://whereintheworld-stephanie.blogspot.com/ Stephanie Diamond

    So you make airline travel even more expensive and inconvenient than it already is? I guess if you can afford it and want to spend half your vacation worrying about the logistics of everyone in the air at different times rather than actually relaxing, that’s your choice.

    Do you all take separate cars every time you leave the house, because statistically speaking you’re more likely to die in an automobile crash.

    We travel all the time. Sometimes we need to travel separately because of different plans; most of the time we travel together. If the worst happens, we have wills in place to make sure the surviving parent and/or child is taken care of according to our wishes.

  • Amy

    You do realize that you’re increasing the chances that something bad will happen to someone in your family, right? The odds of a plane crash are about 11 million to 1. By putting your family on two or three different planes, you’re increasing those odds to 11 million to 3. Still minuscule but you’re accomplishing the exact opposite of what you’re intending to do!

    • courtahhh

      Exactly. Math win.

  • guest

    I think that parents have all sorts of different paranoia’s- this is hers. If someone else had written this article the online community on here would have banded together saying ‘aww mama don’t you worry, we all have things that trouble us and worry us etc. etc.’ – that said this has never been an issue for me, I like travelling together because someone can help me with the tantrums and whining and “are we there yet’s!”

  • confused

    Wouldn’t your fiance’s daughters still have a loving mother even if you both died in a plane crash? It strikes me as odd that that’s one of your reasons why you don’t want to fly together

    • not confused

      Read it wrong, I understand what you mean now.

  • MellyG

    I get this kinda – when i was in high school I was in a marching band with over 200 people. Our band director insisted on splitting up into multiple flights because 1) heaven forbid the whole damn band die and 2) the other passengers likely didn’t want to deal with 250 teens and 3) by the time you add in chaperones i think we just HAD to.

    He would also purposely split up families, so i kind of get it. But this seems excessive and odd

    • AP

      It does, but almost every major plane crash has had students on it traveling in a group to some destination (study abroad, a field trip, etc.) Students travel a lot, and it’s probably just better for the school to not have to deal with the ensuing drama that happens when such disasters happen, angry parents suing, negative media coverage, and all that.

  • Nat

    I refuse to ever get on a train with one of my aunts after getting stranded on the side of the road with one and in the middle of a lake with another.

    • 21foot house

      But the common factor here is you! Lol ;)

  • Chippy

    My folks and I always fly separately but that is mostly because we live in different places. My parents from from New York and my sister and I from Boston. It can get a little confusing. For example my mom and I went to Florida for thanksgiving and while I got a direct flight TO Orlando my mom did not. She had her connection in Dallas and I waited in Orlando. On the way back, I had to fly to Miami before connecting to Boston while my mom got a direct flight back to New York.

    It’s usually easier that way because otherwise I would have to drive three and a half hours to their place and then the other hour to JFK plus however long the flight is. I did it once and it didn’t end well for me. I had a six and a half hour flight from Heathrow to JFK and then the drive back from CT to Boston. I actually had to stop halfway to take a semblance of a nap before I could finish the whole thing.

    For us it’s a matter of practicality. My dad and I are attending a wedding in England in May and he will fly from New York and I will most likely fly from Boston.

    Safety never had a part in it. Personally, if my plane is going down I would rather be WITH my family than without them.

  • http://wtfihaveakid.blogspot.ca/ jendra_berri

    So, you never take the same car anywhere? Car accidents are way more common. What about sleeping under the same roof? There could be a fire. Will all your children go to separate schools in the event of a shooting?
    There couldn’t be a safer way to get from point A to B than air travel. This couldn’t be a more neurotic waste of time for everyone. I mean, I thought at first it must be about reduce stress and wrangling less children at once. That might’ve made some sense.

    There are so many random ways to go that planning against the least likely death possible strikes me as ludicrous.

  • Kate

    Or, you know, just don’t live a life of fear. Something bad is going to happen to all of us. I hate to say it but we are all going to die…Eventually. Why obsess about the inevitable? The voices in my head tell me to obsess over ridiculous crap too. I want to listen and pretend that I have some semblance of control in this life. But I know the truth. We are all just along for the ride. It’s best to try and enjoy it, no matter how scary it seems.

  • Mary

    Dumbest thing I ever heard. What if the plane your child is on crashes? Odds are the same. See, I believe the opposite: there is no way in hell we aren’t all dying together as a family. We all fly together.

  • ktz

    This makes no sense. Yes you cut down the risk of all of you dying in one plane accident, but now you have three planes where something could go wrong instead of one, there are more opportunities for things to go wrong. You are not increasing your kids’ chances of survival. The plane doesn’t care who is one it, all three planes you stick your family on are pretty much equally likely to crash. Plus, car crashes are way more likely than plane plane crashes, do you drive everywhere in separate cars?

    If you’re that terrified of your plane crashing I hope to god I never have to sit next to you on a flight.

    • Williwaw

      Also, if post-crash behaviour (e.g. opening exit doors, jumping down the escape ramp, struggling out of a dark and smoke-filled plane with hundreds of terrified fellow passengers, escaping from a plane sinking in the Hudson) plays any factor in survival, there is no one who would try harder to save my kid than my husband and myself…so I want us all together.

  • bean_shadow

    Wasn’t there a movie like this? I think it was called “King Ralph”.

  • Williwaw

    I’d prefer that both my husband and myself fly with our toddler…that increases the likelihood of his survival since, if something happens to the plane, there will be two people with our son whose highest priority would be to get him off the plane safely (since plenty of people have survived initial impacts and then never made it off a burning/smoke-filled aircraft).

    (Also, not to be too morbid here, but if my son and husband were killed, part of me would want to die with them, so I might as well fly with them.)

  • Gangle

    This seems really weird and illogical to me… but, I guess if it helps you sleep at night…

  • gee

    Is this article a joke? Seriously? This does not make a whole lot of sense. So do you choose the kid you like the most to go on the plane with you in case something happens to the other ones so at least you are left with the “good one”?

  • gee

    and isn’t this the lady who hates her stepkids so much she refuses to allow them to celebrate Christmas in her house?

  • brebay

    I bet she lets the stepdaughters fly together…

  • footnotegirl

    So… do you actually also refuse to ever get into the car with them? Because by any way you shake out the statistics, even mile-for-mile, getting into that car is WAY more dangerous than getting on that plane.

  • Alice

    Oh hell. It’s her again. I hate when I don’t know it’s her and I click on the link because then my little click becomes a number to the editor who then believes that we all somehow want them to continue this show of snobbery, ignorance and stupidity.

  • arrow2010

    Why not just put the whole family in a bubble?

  • courtahhh

    1) Taking separate flights increases the chances of something bad happening.
    2) What if your child’s plane crashes and yours doesn’t? Of course nobody would want to witness their child die, but at the same time wouldn’t you want to be there to comfort them in the last moments of their life?

    Makes me sad to think about these things :(

  • Sarahstired

    I just have never understood this theory. It makes no sense to me. What if your child’s plane crashes and not yours? Won’t you have survivors guilt? There are just so many flaws in this theory the first being that flying is much safer than driving and I am sure you all drive together all the time. Just ugh.

  • aliceblue

    I’m confused. While I don’t worry about it, yes I can understand both parents not taking the same plane while there are small children to consider. Maybe even until they are 18 (again – not for me but I can understand). However, what is with the post-18 thing? Why do you and your friends assume that you or your partner will die and the kid will live? Wouldn’t you feel guilty if the adult kid’s plane crashed and s/he died because you wouldn’t let him/her take the same flight as you?

  • PrairieCoast

    I’m truly sorry that you have to deal with this level of anxiety…and also sorry for all the hate you’re getting for this post. But, I’m with everyone else…this is a rather nuts. I can’t imagine going through all that inconvenience. I think lots of others have said this already, but if you are so into thinking about morbid things, perhaps you should sit down and go through a bunch of statistics that tell you the most likely scenarios in which your whole family would die. I’m pretty sure “airplane crash” would be well below many other commonplace scenarios (car crash, house fire, natural disaster, etc.). I’m not saying this in a sarcastic or condescending way, but maybe your should seek therapy to deal with your flying anxiety?

    • drinkpepsi

      My money is on the fact that the author dislikes her stepkids and does not want to travel with them. She also does not want to travel with a crying baby. So, she picks the quiet 10 year old (her own daughter) and makes everyone else travel separately. This is merely her excuse.

      Like you said, they likely travel by car together.

      And she allows her ex-fiance and daughter to travel on the same plane together. Even though if the plane went down it would mean that the grandparents would lose their only child and their only grandchild. If she was that paranoid, she would make sure they traveled separately too. (Insisting on a phone call upon landing doesn’t really prevent a plane from going down.)

      This is just Rebecca being Rebecca. Why be stuck on a plane with stepkids you don’t like and a screaming baby when you can make other people deal with them…

    • proy8

      You hit the nail on the head. This comment should have a 100 upvotes.

    • drinkpepsi

      Thank you. Not hard to analyze though given her previous pieces.

      I wonder, when Rebecca and Fiance #2 went on vacation right after she had her baby boy, did they travel together or take separate planes?

      I am going to go out on a limb (not really) and guess that she and the Fiance traveled together since there were no stepkids or crying babies involved.

      She probably did not think twice about a possible tragedy that would leave her infant son orphaned.

  • Julie

    The author is a moron. What a twit.

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