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Anonymous Mom: I Hate My Drug Addict Sister-In-Law For Having Another Baby

200566497-001I hate my sister-in-law for having another baby.

Let me backtrack a little – my sister-in-law is a drug addict. Before she had this baby, she had given birth to three more. Three kids that she didn’t take care of properly. Three kids that she had taken away from her by child services because she was a terrible mother. Three kids that, no matter how much love she gave them, she could never fully be a mother to.

Those three kids now live with my in-laws, and are brought up by the two of them with a lot of help from myself and my husband. It’s taken a long time to get things to a place where the kids are settled, but now they’re thriving. The eldest has a natural ability for sport that none of us could have predicted, and a burgeoning love of books that I’m proud to encourage. The middle one is an incredibly smart, perceptive kid, full of questions and hilarious statements. The youngest is the sweetest kid I have ever met, calm and happy and capable of so much love and warmth. We don’t have our own kids yet, but I know that when we do these kids will pretty much be siblings to ours. They’re a huge part of our lives, and we a huge part of theirs.

But then, a few months ago, my mother-in-law got a phone call. My sister-in-law was in labour. She was eight months into her fourth pregnancy, and none of us had been told. She gave birth to a boy, one month early, who then had to be weaned off methadone, as did his siblings before him.

My sister-in-law has been allowed to keep him, despite her track record and her addiction. Child services in our part of the world focus on keeping families together, so she gets the opportunity to try to look after her son, to prove herself to be a better parent than she has been in the past.

None of this seems fair. Especially not to that poor baby, who now is not only recovering from the bad stuff that comes with being a drug baby, but who now won’t have much to do with his siblings or his grandparents because of the choices his mother has made in the past.

But, strangely, this is not the part that made me hate her. I was angry, sure. Hurt, confused, disappointed, heartbroken – but still it took something else to make me feel hatred toward her.

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  • Andrea

    It’s isn’t fair and I am sorry.
    My hope for you would be that maybe your SIL does get it together and is able to parent this child properly. My hope is that your friends find peace somehow and are able to heal from losing this baby. My hope is that everyone gets what they want. Maybe they will. Maybe there will be a happy ending or at least a somewhat okish one. Hugs and prayers to you.
    And may I say, how amazing you and your in laws and your husband are for stepping in. Bless you all.

  • DatNanny

    I’m crying. This is heartbreaking. It isn’t fair. This all hits very close to home for me.

    Sometimes, I feel closely connected to the Mommyish community. I’m glad you could share your story here, and I hope it eased your frustrations somewhat. You’re not alone, and your feelings aren’t wrong.

  • Rachel Sea

    It’s hard sometimes not to hate the unfairness, or the people through whom the unfairness manifests.

    I’m one of those people that everyone thinks should be a mom. I’ve been in a stable loving relationship for 10 years. I am financially secure. And I have unexplained infertility. Thousands of dollars and years of trying have gone into trying to get me knocked up, but it hasn’t worked.

    My cousin, who has severe, untreated OCD, decided the best way to get her rich boyfriend of 3 months to marry her would be to get pregnant, and it happened for her on the first try.

    I don’t think I’m a big enough person to be supportive in her life to come.

    • pixie

      But at least you’re a good enough person to realize your feelings and admit them, even if it’s to a bunch of strangers on the internet. Plus there’s a difference between staying out of something and being mean, and you’re not being mean by not being supportive of something that holds negative emotional hurt for you.

  • http://wtfihaveakid.blogspot.ca/ jendra_berri

    Your feelings are totally understandable. Things don’t always happen for a reason. Good thoughts don’t create good outcomes, no matter what faddish self help book is out there. Life can be ruthless when it wants to be, without warning and for no gain. And fertility, like so many other things, does not discriminate.

    Odds are, this baby will be raised by you all in the long run, because your SIL doesn’t sound stable enough to be a mother. And that is also not fair because no doubt your hands are already full, even if your hearts have more room.

    I wish you good luck with this situation. And I hope your SIL gets her life together, and your friends find peace with their loss and go on to grow the family they deserve to have.

  • helloshannon

    Having gone through IF, I have had these thoughts many many times. It is unfair that people like your SIL bring innocent children into terrible circumstances and a couple that so desperately wants a baby has a hard time or great parents lose a child. You are not alone in your feelings. I hope your SIL gets well and most of all I hope that little boy gets a fair shot. You are a great person for helping raise the older 3 and giving them a chance at a good life.

  • scooby23

    You are completely right, this is horribly unfair. I really wish I could give the baby your SIL had to your friends so they could give him the great life he deserves. Hopefully this fourth baby will be a wake-up call to your SIL to get her act together, but at four babies now, that seems like a false hope. I hope this all works out for you guys.

  • Blueathena623

    Not trying to be snide, but are there any family members who could convince your SIL to get her tubes tied or an IUD or something?

    • Fuzzy ‘n Broken Mirror

      Or just knock her out and DIY

      I mean, how hard can it be, right?

    • Pzonks

      There was an excellent RadioLab about this family who adopted kid after kid after kid from one drug addict mother. The adoptive mom has started a foundation, she’ll give women something like $500 to have their tubes ties or have an IUD inserted. I think it’s brilliant and was surprised to learn she’s met with incredible backlash by people who feel she’s taking advantage of poor women.

    • Psych Student

      If this is the story I think it is (sorry, I haven’t checked it out yet), the women all choose to have their tubes tied. Every single last one. The women had a chance to have a non-permanent birth control option and the choose the permanent option because it’s what they wanted, they just didn’t have the opportunity. I love this story and would love to donate money to help the cause. The cause being, women getting the kind of birth control they want that works for their life.

    • Blueathena623

      I’ve been reading up about this, the support and the criticisms, and I think a lot of the critics are missing the fact that you can’t just walk off the street and get a tubal. As the creator noted, you have to be a certain age, have a kid or kids already, be evaluated by a dr, there is a wait period (I think she said 30 days). I don’t know when the ladies get the money, but I’m assuming it is after the procedure.
      So the critics paint this picture of women addicts desperate for money for their next fix, they wander in, get snipped, and wander out with money in their shaking hands, when really they have a while to decide and think about it.

    • AugustW

      Tubes tied isn’t a bad idea, but she may use birth control and it just not be working. Many women don’t realize that being overweight even slightly can alter the effects of BC. I can nay imagine what being on drugs could do to alter the BC chemistry.

    • Bunny Lucia

      Not to mention heroin addicts throw up. A lot. If she were ingesting birth control pills she could possibly be throwing up most of the medicine.

    • AugustW

      Yeah. I speak with experience with faulty BC, not as a drug addict but it’s amazing how easy it is to do it wrong. I was even on the idiot proof every three months shot…but nobody felt like mentioning that the fact that I was overweight meant it wasn’t going to work.

    • http://itsmyworldcanthasnotyours.blogspot.com/ wmdkitty

      Huh. I’ve been twelve years on the shot, and no babies.

      Your mileage may vary, and yours did.

    • Blueathena623

      If she is using birth control that is so ineffective that she has had 4 kids, its not really that great at “control”, hence the suggestion for an IUD.

    • AugustW

      Eh. I was on the shot and got pregnant. There’s no such thing as idiot proof birth control, unfortunately.

    • Blueathena623

      Oh, I know bc isn’t 100%, and there have been tons of responsible women who got pregnant despite using bc correctly (such as yourself) but even with you, if you kept using the shot and became pregnant 4 times, I’d say “honey, this ain’t working, try something else.”

    • CrazyLogic

      Yeah, I heard that even -antibiotics- and other commonly prescribed medications can make it less effective or even ineffective.

    • JLH1986

      Yep. My pharmacist warned me whenever I got antibiotics (because he knows I’m on oral bc) that it will be less effective and if I’m using it to prevent pregnancy I will need to alternate methods until my next pill pack. It’s hormones so like everything else, weight gain/loss, other meds etc. can throw it off just enough to end up preggo.

    • moonie27

      It’s only rifampin (and the other rifa-antibiotic) that has been shown to interfere with birth control (and it’s not commonly prescribed in the US). There’s a few other medications that interfere, (mostly epilepsy and HIV meds), and St. John’s Wort will interfere as well.

      But back-ups never hurt for peace of mind!

    • Ennis Demeter

      IUD’s have the added benefit of being non-permanent, but removing one requires jumping through hoops. Pressuring someone into sterilization might be unethical, but a little loving pressure to get an IUD that she can have removed at any time- what could be more reasonable than that? With the Mirena, you don’t even really menstruate, although it has to be replaced every five years.

  • Zettai

    Life is fucked.

  • Lee

    I’m outraged a hospital would be allowed to send a baby who was born with a drug addiction home with a women who couldn’t even get her shit together enough to stay clean while growing a child inside her. If she can’t stay clean while carrying any child (especially a fourth) and has already lost three kids due to drug use how the hell is CPS not getting involved immediately.

    • Alexandra

      THIS. Times a million.

    • AW

      I’m not defending this mother or her choices, however it should be noted that methodone is a legal drug you take to help get off of heroin. If she tried to quit methodone while pregnant, the fetus would experience the same withdrawls she would and there is a high risk of miscarriage. I only post this because I work with moms who struggle with drug addiction and they often want to “get clean” while pregnant. This can actually be quite dangerous for the fetus.

    • Lee

      The mother would still be addicted to methadone and the baby is still going home with her. Methadone addiction can be nearly as harmful as heroin even though it taken in a clinic rather than a alley. My brother is a recovering heroin addict and I have seen the harmful effects of methadone on several of his friends. Regardless, she has already lost 3 children due to drug use so where is CPS.

      Edited to say: You are right though about coming off cold turkey putting too much stress on the baby in utero.

    • AW

      I totally agree with you about the harmfulness of methodone addiction. I brought up it’s legality because it might have played into the decision of CPS. It looks like CPS was involved as the author says that “Child services in our part of the world focus on keeping families
      together, so she gets the opportunity to try to look after her son, to
      prove herself to be a better parent than she has been in the past.” CPS may have interpreted (perhaps incorrectly), that the methodone use was an indicator of her desire to change, to be a better parent.

    • http://fairlyoddmedia.com/ Frances Locke

      Being on methadone (or suboxone, another option for heroin addicts) doesn’t necessarily make the person a bad parent. It sounds like this anon’s SIL is a bad one, but when I worked at a domestic violence shelter, I women who wanted desperately to get clean and completely committed to recovery. I think that’s the key. I do agree that the three kids taken away by CPS should have been a red flag though.

    • AugustW

      Suboxone is actually a fabulous choice. The buprenorphine allows for pain management, and the added naloxone prevents the user from reaping the benefits of other narcotics. It’s the drug of choice for addicts who actually have pain.

    • http://fairlyoddmedia.com/ Frances Locke

      Agreed. I have volunteered at a shelter for domestic violence, and quite a few of the women who I met were addicted before they got pregnant and wanted nothing more than to get clean. It’s not something you can medically do in a weekend, it takes time to wean off, and methadone is what many doctors use. Suboxone is another option, and both have their pros and cons during pregnancy.

      I’m not defending the addict from the post at all, just giving my two cents about other situations (with mothers who were much more invested in their kids, going on what I just read, than this anon’s SIL).

    • Kay_Sue

      It’s also entirely possible that she’s been in treatment, including therapy using methadone, and the author isn’t aware of it, but CPS is. If so, CPS may be trying to give her a second…wait, no fourth, chance based on that.

    • LiteBrite

      My guess is CPS is still involved and monitoring the situation. I have friends in the social work arena, including CPS, and despite horror stories you may read on the Internet, most of them are about keeping families together, even if a parent does not have a great track record of previous parenting. But they do monitor situations that are considered high-risk.

      I don’t disagree with you in theory, and trust me, my social work friends don’t like this policy all the time either. Hopefully the SIL redeems herself, and if she doesn’t CPS gets involved right away and removes the child.

    • whatlight

      My limited experience with ACS (CPS is called that now where I live) is pretty much the same so I agree that the social workers may be thinking that this woman (SIL) seems to making progress right now and so deserves another chance under heavy supervision in case anything changes.

    • Julie

      I’m not defending her, since she did this 4 times. BUT, it is unsafe for a pregnant woman to detox off of opiates while pregnant if she wants to keep the pregnancy. Many doctors will advise the mother that it’s actually safer for the fetus for the mother to stay on methodone/suboxone/subutex for the duration of the pregnancy. If the pregnancy was planned, of course the right course of action would be to get clean before conception. But unfortunately this is not the case sometimes.

      I know this because I’ve been through it. I was on suboxone when I found out I was pregnant with my daughter. Surprise! The sad thing was that I was almost weaned off the drug when I found out I was pregnant. But I was told that miscarriage or preterm labor was highly likely if I was to continue with the titrated dose. We actually had to up my dose to accommodate for increased blood supply during my pregnancy to keep me from experiencing withdrawal symptoms. My daughter spent four weeks in the NICU weaning off morphine after she was born. It was the single most traumatizing experience of my life and I’ll probably never be able to fully let go of the guilt I carry because of it. But she’s here. She’s alive. And she’s beautiful and funny and all the things she might not have had the chance to be if I stopped taking my prescribed addiction therapy drug.

      I knew I wanted more children. But I knew I never wanted to go through that again, nor did I want to put another child through it. So when my daughter was 14 months old I finally kicked the drug. And guess what happened? I started having miscarriage after miscarriage. I had three in the last year. I almost felt like I was being punished for my past. So I’ve been on both sides of the authors story. Why when I was on opiates was I able to carry a pregnancy to term but then when I get clean and plan to do things the right way they don’t work out? Such is life.

      I’m now 13 weeks pregnant so we’re keeping our fingers crossed.

    • MellyG

      Fingers and toes crossed and good vibes your way! I’m so glad things worked out well for you with your daughter. I mean that sincerely. I often think pregnancy is funny the way it works out – my mother was told she’d never get pregnant, and never carry a baby to term. So she didn’t bother trying. It was during that ‘not trying’ period she had me, and despite being told she wouldn’t carry me to term i was actually 3 days late and 9 lbs! After having me she tried to have more kids, but had too many horrific miscarriages and gave up. Odd that she was successful when not trying

    • CrazyLogic

      My mother was told the same then…while she was pregnant with my older brother before the had started planning. (Not sure how Mom knew she could be infertile and knew to go to a doctor, but hey…)

      I’m kid number 3.

  • Megan Zander

    This resonates with me as I had severe infertility issues and at the time I worked in family court, spending every day watching couples fight over paternity tests and child support and rarely mentioning the relationships these kids were missing out on. Several of the parties had actually been on the Maury ” you ARE the father ” show. I grew so bitter and angry watching people who I felt were undeserving having baby after baby when I desperately wanted a child of my own. I came very close to quitting because it was so stressful. I understand your feeling completely. You sound like a caring person who is very much there for this baby’s siblings, and hopefully you can be there for this child as well if need be.

  • Jade

    Was the baby born addicted to methadone because the mother is in a methadone maintenance program? Because that’s not necessarily the same thing as being an active addict.

    • Gangle

      My ex junky husband would disagree with you on that one.

    • JLH1986

      “Not necessarily” the same thing. Depending on the clinic, counselors and clients they could be two very very different things.

    • Gangle

      Look, Methadone is a drug. An addictive drug. Just because it is legal and used for treating heroin addicts doesn’t change the fact that while you are taking it you are actively taking an addictive drug, and are addicted to it. It doesn’t matter if you are an outpatient or an inpatient. You are addicted to heroin, and now also methadone. Kudos if someone is genuinely doing something to change their life for the better (although I personally think that methadone is not effective), but that isn’t really the fault of the child. If you are addicted to methadone, you are high-risk and you are not in a position to care for a baby. Especially not a methadone-addicted baby. It is sad for the mother, but it just is what it is.

    • pontificatrix

      It’s true that methadone is problematic over the long term because it is so difficult to discontinue, but for an opiate-addicted pregnant woman and her fetus it’s better than the other options (i.e. ongoing abuse or opiate withdrawal):


    • Gangle

      Yep, and that is fine. But that doesn’t make the mother fit or ready to care for the infant once it hits the ground. I am not so much questioning the mothers commitment to getting clean, more her ability at this stage to care for a baby.

  • Katie L.

    I totally get where you’re coming from. I just found out a good friend had her second miscarriage on NYE. She doesn’t have any kids and desperately wants one. My heart breaks for her because I know there’s nothing I can do. This kind of unfairness is a really sucky part of life.

    • Jallun-Keatres

      That sounds like me. Two losses before I had my baby. I thought I’d never get it right and I wanted that child so bad.

    • Katie L.

      The feeling of never getting it right is what I wish I could take away from her. That “what if” is the worst thing. I only had one miscarriage before having my daughter and that was hell. I’m so glad you were able to have the baby you wanted.

  • Jallun-Keatres

    When I lost my first pregnancy, no joke, at least five other FB friends ended up having kids within a month of my due date. I was pretty pissed at how unfair that was. I’ve partaken in that anger as well.

  • Ann

    I feel your pain, I have not one but 2 SIL’s who have been trying so hard and for so long to have a baby and 2 brothers who would be awesome dads, but for different reasons neither couple are getting pregnant. My 17 year old niece has a friend who has a six month old child, she is a completely irresponsible, has had multiple abortions (3 that we know of) been in and out of trouble with the law since she was 12, uses drugs, her baby’s father is not any better and she just found out she was pregnant -AGAIN. My niece told her if she’d consider adoption we know people and this wonderful pregnant child said well if this one’s a boy you can just have it! I hate the “16 and pregnant” generation.

    • Jess

      she probably had the abortions for fun, because there’s nothing more carefree and irresponsible and thrilling than undergoing minor surgery.

  • hopefullysoon

    This was beautifully written and completely understandable. After trying, unsuccessfully, to conceive for the past 12 months, my husband and I are starting the whole diagnostic process and setting up RE appointments. Moving from excitement and hopeful enthusiasm, to cautious optimism, to bitter disappointment each month has been the most awful experience of my life. It’s very hard not to feel bitter when people are excitedly posting pictures of their baby bumps and rambling on about the trials of pregnancy, but at least many of them will love and care for their children. Hearing about people who abuse their children or are completely incapable of caring for kids, yet keep popping them out, is what really makes me want to just on on a Carrie-esque rampage.

  • Shannon

    I totally feel you. I have an aunt who had 3 kids she barely raised ( because of cps intervention) and 9 abortions. I have known people who have dearly struggled and it IS something to be angry about. Life is seriously unfair. Doesn’t mean we should be happy about it.

  • AugustW

    I was not (am not) a drug addict, but when I became pregnant with my little oops baby, I felt some incredibly strong guilt, because I knew people who were struggling so hard with infertility and miscarriages at the time.

    • MellyG

      You’ve probably been told this, but you shouldn’t feel guilty. Biology and pregnancy is odd. My mom was told she’d never have kids, and i was an oops baby, and she struggled unsuccessfully to have kids after me. It wasn’t meant to be. Some women struggle, some don’t, but no woman should ever feel guilty about their fertility or lack thereof. Good luck and happy pregnancy (that sounds so strange….but the sentiment is there :)

    • AugustW

      Oh, my oops baby is a thriving thee year old, but thanks. :)

  • http://fairlyoddmedia.com/ Frances Locke

    Heartbreaking. My life has been touched by addiction as well (not myself, but a close relative) and I know that anger. A close friend of mine was killed in a horrific car accident last year, and I was angry that she died and this relative of mine, in all the times they had driven drunk or high, never even got a ticket or a DUI (yet). Of course, I don’t want them to get into an accident, I love them and I have an overwhelming fear of this person killing an innocent person, but I was angry at the unfairness of it all.

    Don’t get me wrong. I love this relative so much, and I will always love them, as I’m sure you love your sister-in-law despite the situation,. But still, it gets to me and I feel your pain.

    • JLH1986

      I had the same reaction when a local kid, my brother’s age died in his early 20′s. My father who had given up on life, was drinking over a fifth of bourbon a day, required my grandmother and I to bathe and feed and clothe him was kicking. he wanted to die. I know this makes me sound terrible but my father had been married had two successful adult children and wanted to die. This young bright loving man who was giving back to his community died. I thought it was incredibly unfair. For those who think I’m a hateful bitch, don’t worry. God got me back, my father died the next month. I still think it’s unfair that such a wonderful person was taken so early. But…my opinion doesn’t matter. Which I also find unfair. lol

  • Kay_Sue

    This is heartbreaking. I really hope that your SIL has seen the error of her ways and is moving forward. We have friends that adopted their foster child last year. He was the fourth child born to this biological mother that was born with an addiction. All three older children had been taken from their biological mother. He was in NICU for several weeks, and struggled for his first year (he’s doing great now). And our state children’s services recently contacted them again to ask if they’d consider taking the child she is pregnant with now, because apparently they have just given up. It’s frustrating when people like that can conceive at the drop of a hat and people that really want and would love their children can’t.

  • Katia

    Infertility is very sad.
    Children being hurt when the government/whatever family program could have made the call to protect them from harmful parents or harmful caregivers makes me furious. How can “keeping family together” beat “keeping children/babies physically safe”?!

    However allthough I know lovely people suffering from infertility and only know about children who should have been protected from their awful parents/guardians (but its too late now) from the news, I never make that connection. I don’t get this logic, and I feel by this logic any North American who has enough food and sometimes throws food out should hate themselves for like not buying less food and donating the extra money to some of the people literally starving in parts of Africa and India.
    . I don’t know what’s wrong with people who do drugs or hang out with pedophiles but the government should be able to more aggressively protect children. And bye to the goal of keeping together , lets keep safe instead.

    • Gangle

      As someone who has battled with infertility for many years, I can understand, even if I don’t share, that point of view. I guess when I see situations like the one mentioned above, I don’t think ‘why does she have a baby and I have none’.. I really mostly think ‘that poor little baby’. A drug-addicted mother is a sad and tragic thing for her child/ren, and it makes me angry because no kid deserves to be brought up that way. But that isn’t what caused my infertility, and I can’t hate someone else just because falling pregnant comes easily to them and not me.

  • The Great Queen Spider

    I feel the same, only its my sister who’s the bad parent. Not only is she into drugs, but she chose drugs over her kid. On the other hand, my boyfriends sister who absolutely adores kids and would be a great mom just had a miscarriage.

  • Kat

    Okay. I’ll admit it.

    I was an addict too once, and I had a baby, and she was taken away by child welfare. I had gotten clean during my pregnancy, and I was also in treatment and on medication. That turned out not to be enough though.

    I fought for her for a few months before I realized she was happy with her new family, and that was the most important thing.

    Six years later, I have three kids who are prefectly fine (child welfare checked me out the first two times and agreed).

    So I don’t know, I want to point out the differences, but I can’t. It’s not really that different. Shit changes for everyone, sometimes for the best, sometimes not. I don’t hate anyone who judges me, and I’d like to think I wouldn’t hate myself if I were on the other side. Her new family doesn’t seem to.

    It’s unfortunate, and it’s sad, but I don’t like hate.

    • Gangle

      That was really loving and selfless of you to realise that at that time your daughters new family was the best thing for her. That must have been really hard to deal with.

  • http://www.cafepress.com/ladycrim ladycrim

    I had a similar experience on the other end of the life spectrum. My mother, a lifelong non-smoker who was careful with her health, was diagnosed with lung cancer. A few months later, my chain-smoking landlady went to the hospital with lung trouble and was diagnosed with pneumonia and released. I got an absolute surge of “It’s not fair”. Why should my mother, who took such good care of her health, get this hard-to-cure disease while my landlady who engaged in the most dangerous behavior for it escaped?

    I’ll cut the story off here before I stray too far from the topic, but the point is: your reaction is perfectly normal. I wish the best to your entire family, especially the new baby. Poor thing.

  • dy

    I feel your pain. My cousin has 4 kids. All born to different fathers, none of which are in the picture. All born while she was using. Meanwhile, I spent nearly 2 years dealing with my infertility, spending every dime my husband and I had to have a baby. Its bullshit and you are perfectly allowed to hate her for it.

  • pontificatrix

    Methadone is the treatment of choice for opiate-addicted pregnant women. It’s better for the baby than either ongoing narcotic abuse or (potentially repeated) opiate withdrawal.


    Sounds like your SIL is in treatment and trying to get her life under control.

    • Gangle

      I think the anger probably stems from the fact that the SIL have given birth to 3 methadone addicted babies previously, all of which are no longer in her care. Her previous behaviour suggests that (while it may be better for the pregnancy) methadone is not a treatment that is having a positive effect on her life. In any case, it isn’t the babies fault, and even though it may not seem ‘fair’ to the mother, this shouldn’t be about what the mother wants. It should be about what is best for the baby. A high-risk, drug-dependant mother with multiple children having been taken from her care is not it.

  • Brendan

    I work for rehabs nationwide. If you would like to try and get her into treatment, please give me a call 339-201-1739.


  • arrow2010

    Isn’t it amazing how hard drugs do nothing to cause infertility? I’m like wow.

  • http://itsmyworldcanthasnotyours.blogspot.com/ wmdkitty

    No, it isn’t “fair”. It sucks that her kids are taking the brunt of the hurt. It really does. But what do you want her to do, just up and quit? It’s not that easy with opiates…