• Mon, Dec 23 - 1:30 pm ET

STFU Parents: Mommyjacking In A Winter Wonderland

Happy holidays from STFU, Parents! The jingle bells are ringing, the snow is falling (depending on where you live), and the fire is raging (unless, like me, you just watch this). As of last week, we have officially entered The Winter Season. Let us all rejoice before sliding down a flight of stairs. To help kick off the season, and to celebrate the Christmas holiday, let’s take a look at some mommyjacking examples that pertain specifically to winter weather and snowy activities. After all, mommyjackers don’t get a “winter break.” They’re mommyjackin’ around the clock, 365 days a year. They mommyjack through wind, snow, ice, and hail. They’re like carolers who spread joy and good will, except their version involves trolling people on Facebook. What would the holidays be without a little friendly and/or familial unnecessary drama, am I right? Here’s what some wintertime mommyjackers had to say:

1. Teachers Should Sleep In While They Can

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Hey, Orange! ORANGE you glad you posted about wanting another day off from school due to an ice storm? L. sure is! She looks for just about any opportunity to remind people that children = NO MORE SLEEP, NO MORE LUXURY, NO MORE ENJOYMENT OF ANYTHING EVER AGAIN BECAUSE YOU WILL BE A ZOMBIE, and your status update about sleeping in fit the bill perfectly. Sleep in while you can, you lazy teacher!

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  • Bethany Ramos

    It is my favorite thing when people don’t understand how to write on a person’s wall to tell them news (like that OUTRAGEOUS hockey pic!!). I know an older lady FB friend that posts on her feed stuff like, “Family dinner on Friday.” And then tags her kids. JUST STOP.

    • Kay_Sue

      My grandmother is terrible about this. I think she just doesn’t understand how Facebook works. I mean, she once started a family feud when she meant to message something nasty to my aunt about one of my uncles and accidentally posted it on my 12 year old cousin’s wall…

      So I just assume that these folks also don’t know how it works, because otherwise, I’d get rage headaches all the time..

    • Bethany Ramos

      Hahhahaha oh wow. Luckily, my grandma is afraid of clicking and getting viruses on FB, so she just lurks silently. She is the master of the email forward though. :(

    • http://anniedeezy.tumblr.com/ Annie

      That’s hilarious.

    • Kay_Sue

      It really, really is now. At the time, not so much. I had to hide my entire family on that side for a while.

    • http://anniedeezy.tumblr.com/ Annie

      Oh I can imagine!

    • CrushLily

      My grandma is still in the ‘afraid the computer will blow up so I don’t touch it’ camp. She is so 90s – in age and era. I reckon your grandma would be good value on Facebook though, keep everyone on their toes!

    • lea

      My husband’s 97 year old nanna was just commenting last night about all this reliance of ‘the technology’ is bad for young people these days. “What if there was no power?”, like we are constantly on the verge of a global blackout and will have to go back to camp fires and hand washing our clothes (which she still does, no fandangled washing machines for her, no siree!). Nanna, chillax!

    • EcnoTheNeato

      Can’t tell if negligent old person
      *narrows eyes*
      Or ultimate troll…

    • Kay_Sue

      I would not put it past her to start shit for the sake of starting shit. Granny gets bored sometimes, lol.

    • Teleute

      A former assistant of mine attempted to stalk my Facebook on several different occasions. She evidently did not understand how the ‘search’ bar worked, because multiple people informed me that she was spamming her own wall with my full name. Awkward!

    • Ashley

      Right?? I am SO curious why this person not only commented on a totally unrelated item (the hockey photo), but did so on the second photo of an album. How did they get to that spot and go, “Hey, I think this is where I should type this news!”

    • Christine

      One time, my aunt wrote a personal message to me as her status, which I happened to see. I thought it would take too much time to explain how FB works, so I just went along with it. Facepalm.

  • elle

    I just do not understand these woman whoseem to begrudge childless people for everything they do! Can you really just not be happy for them or enjoy watching other people have fun? Is jealousy? Regret? Bitterness? I don’t know but they come across as kinda….deranged. and backyard luge sounds amazingly fun.

    • brebay

      I think it’s bitterness. People who are truly happy don’t try so hard to make others miserable.

    • Alicia Kiner

      Every time I see these posts, on here or actually on Facebook, I think of the “if mom ain’t happy, ain’t nobody happy.” Why can’t these moms just be happy? If being a mother was the best thing that ever happened to you, wouldn’t you be spreading joy?

    • whiteroses

      Personally, I’d want to join the backyard luge club and hire a babysitter.

    • CMP414

      I don’t get it either and I’m the mom of a small child. It’s as though no-one is ever allowed to be busy or tired if they don’t have kids. I was tired before I had my daughter and I’m tired now. Last time I checked having kids was a choice.

    • SusannahJoy

      It confuses me too. I want to yell at all of them that I did not stop living once I had a kid. I still hike and we still fly off to exotic places and enjoy good wine and all the same stuff we did pre-baby. It’s just, now we hike with one of us carrying stuff, and one carrying the baby, we have wayyy more checked “luggage” when we fly, and we only have a glass or two of wine after he goes to sleep. So suck on that, all you sad people who’s only identity is Mom. I’m Mom and a human being!

    • http://www.cafepress.com/ladycrim ladycrim

      My friend has her first child just over a year ago. Everyone warned her that her life was about to go on lockdown, she would no longer get to do the things she used to enjoy, etc. Totally, totally wrong. Not only did her life not stop, but she published two novels!

    • http://www.cafepress.com/ladycrim ladycrim

      If someone like Purple replied to me like that, I’d be sorely pressed to respond, “You’re right. My boyfriend and I went to a play, had dinner at our favorite restaurant, saw two movies and then had amazing sex. Thank you for the reminder of why we’re childfree!” Snarky? Yep. But don’t piss on my happiness parade!

  • Kay_Sue

    So, I need the secret to being a mom 24/7. I feel like I could do my best parenting if I could just get rid of that whole having to sleep, eat and shit for myself shabang. Also the sexing of my partner–definitely not mommying then, and obviously could be more productive if I were.

    In the meantime, I need these mommyjackers to quit being douches. Nobody cares. That’s the truth.

    • Alicia Kiner

      I was with you until you threw in the sexing of my partner. Not willing to give that up, even in jokes ;)

    • Kay_Sue

      I will joke, but in real life, that would happen over my dead body. I am afraid I do not love my children more than regular…ah….relief. We’ll go with that. ;)

    • lea

      See, she lost me at food…. mmmm foooood.

  • ShinjisSecret

    This is one reason why I am glad most of my FB friends are middle aged rock musicians.

  • brebay

    I hope orange doesn’t teach English.

    • http://seejulestravel.com/ SeeJulesTravel

      That’s exactly what I was thinking.

  • brebay

    My guess is Jenn is a newlywed. Which means that, unless she is a horribly, horrible Selfie McSelfish, she’ll DEF be getting knocked up as soon as possible, therefore, babe-in-arms by next winter.

    • TattooedLittleMiss

      That’s what I’m thinking. That, or Mandy does this on all her posts because Mandy feels Jenn’s been married too long without producing an heir.

    • http://www.benwhoski.com/ Benwhoski

      And yet, the folks constantly throwing out the “Enjoy the things you enjoy now because once you have kids you’ll never enjoy the again!” reminders always seem to wonder why all these aren’t hurrying up with the baby-making already!

    • TattooedLittleMiss

      Seriously. The people who get the most upset that I don’t want kids are also the ones who complain about parenthood the most. It’s like, “Nothing you are saying is endearing me to the concept of childbearing.” Not that anything could, but some days, you can feel your ovaries actively trying to escape as they describe staying up all night with two kids under five sick with the flu.

    • whiteroses

      Which I think is kind of hilarious. I still do exactly the same stuff I used to do before I got pregnant, I just do less of it. Drinks with the girls? Yep, still do that, though not so often. Time spent on my main hobby? Yep. Movies in the afternoon? Occasionally.
      Your life changes completely, it’s true. But everything you enjoyed before you became a parent doesn’t have to disappear. If it does, that’s just your personal choice. You have to adjust what you do and when you do it, but you don’t have to become a martyr to your kids. That’s not healthy.

    • JLH1986

      Right? I spent last night listening to “my kids are ungrateful brats I’m not sure why I spent so much, we’ll be paying this Christmas off in June, as I’m wrapping their gifts I get called to wipe an ass, I’m always so tired”. Then almost immediately “So you’ve been married 6 months…when are you guys going to start trying?” Because all that you JUST described sounds like a fucking blast.

    • pixie

      I can relate and I’m not even married yet! It’s basically “my kids are hellspawn demons that climbed out of the pits of Mordor and scream like harpies and always destroy everything they touch…Oh, but kids are the best, you don’t know pure joy until you have kids. They are so sweet and special and my life is totally fulfilled. When are you going to get married and have cute little angels?”
      I want kids, but please don’t tell me you’re kids are basically nazgul right before you mention how great motherhood is. I know kids have their moments, but it’s very off-putting when all I hear is how bad your kids are. Plus I’m not even close to getting married!

    • EcnoTheNeato

      Remember, no one gets between a Nazgûl and its prey!

      My favorite thing to say to people urging me or my girlfriend to have kids (despite us not being married) is: What would you say/do if I told you I was pregnant RIGHT NOW?!

    • The Great Queen Spider

      Yeah this girl was questioning me intensely about not wanting kids. She was pretty pushy about it. But I can’t blame her right now since she just had a miscarriage.

    • AA

      Yup…. got that vibe too. Since approximately 10 minutes after I walked down the aisle, people have begun sentences with “Well, when you have a baby…”

      I AM NOT PREGNANT!

    • http://abasketcase.blogspot.com/ Basketcase

      I have a former colleague who has openly said that people have stopped asking when she will be having a baby now that they have been married a year – ON THE ASSUMPTION they are infertile / having issues.
      Whats with that?

    • EcnoTheNeato

      For some reason, there’s a (rather large) cluster of people who think it’s their business (or right!) to know all about a couples’ private life. Or worse, the woman’s lady bits :-x

    • Teleute

      My best friend has been married for over two years now, and people still won’t quit asking his wifey when they’re going to start having babies! It’s funny how infrequently the question is posed to men.

    • whiteroses

      I always respond with, “You do realize what you’re really asking with that question is how many times these people have unprotected sex, right?”
      Shuts them down pretty quickly.

    • EcnoTheNeato

      “Are you guys trying yet?”
      “I’m sorry, what?”
      “You know, *whisper* are you trying to have a baby?”
      *spoken loud* “Are you asking if my partner and I are having unprotected sex?!”

    • whiteroses

      Exactly. I can’t tell you how many times people have asked me when I’m going to have my second. My response? “Well, I didn’t want to leave you with the mental image of my husband and I having sex. But if you want me to be specific….”

      Then I just enjoy the cloud of dust as they run far, far away.

    • Katherine Handcock

      That is the best response EVER.

  • G.E. Phillips

    Can I just say that I’ve never understood the whole “Motherhood is a 24 hour a day job” thing? I mean yeah, when they’re babies, sure. But my kid is almost 4 now, and I’m like, if it’s between the hours of 9pm and 6am? Unless you’re projectile vomiting or on fire, I am OFF DUTY.

    • brebay

      Yup! My youngest is eleven and I’d be thrilled if he ever wanted to spend an entire day around me! Yeah, when they were babies I can remember thinking “I’ll never get to sit on the couch and read a magazine ever again”…it passes…you’ll be begging them to stay home!

    • Leafyleafster

      I gotta say, I’ve got a month-old baby (my first) and it’s not as bad as everybody made it out to be. He’s an easy baby, sure, and his dad is super supportive, so maybe I’ve just got it too easy.

    • Teleute

      Congratulations on the new baby! Mine was hardly a chore either. But then, I didn’t keep him strapped to me 24/7 with my nipple in his mouth and hold his bare ass over a bucket whenever he made the slightest grunting noise.

      When infant care becomes a 24/7 operation, it’s because the mother chooses to make it that way.

    • G.E. Phillips

      Can we be friends? Because yes to all of this.

    • Teleute

      :-)

    • Leafyleafster

      Thank you! =). Yeah, I think I I’m too easy-going, I sold the goofy contraption I was supposed to strap him to me in and I barely bat an eye at anything short of crying. The little guy grunts constantly, even in his sleep: if I were a hover-parent, I’d be totally screwed. =P

    • Teleute

      I tried the “goofy contraption” a few times, but my baby absolutely hated it! $100 down the drain. I think it’s still rotting in the trunk of my car.

    • aliceblue

      You clearly don’t love him. I could never be separated from my infant for more than 3.2 seconds……….ROFL. Sorry – just wanted to try that out. After reading similar snotty comments from so many sanctimommies I thought that it must provide some kind of orgasmic thrill; Sadly no thrills for me….sigh. ;)

    • Jallun-Keatres

      I’m totally the same! Cept she is 3 weeks old.

    • G.E. Phillips

      Amen! I read a post on here a few months ago about how completely bone-suckingly agonizing the first year was, or something like that, and I was all like, “Um, I don’t really remember it being that bad?” and got a bunch of down votes. Barring things out of the ordinary such as having a sick child or special needs child, or being severely ill yourself, I think motherhood is really only as hard as you want to believe it is. I feel like I was kind of prepared for the fact that it would be hard sometimes, and so when it was, it wasn’t a shock. Congrats on your little one!

    • Leafyleafster

      Thank you! =). Besides, I learned everything I needed to know from Eve: I sleep when he does (never been so rested!), have a few cocktails when dad’s on duty, and he’s pretty much always wearing a sweater. =P

    • val97

      Not going to lie – I had a really tough time with the infant stage. Both my kids were pretty good as babies, so I don’t know what it was – maybe my job, maybe undiagnosed ppd, I really don’t remember. FB was in it’s infancy as well back then, so luckily I didn’t shout my misery for the world to hear. Anyway, my point was going to be that even the toughest stages are relatively short – by the time my kids were toddlers, I had gotten the hang of it. And now that they are school-age… I make jokes about how they are so independent that I miss them more than they miss me.

    • OnionButt

      I did L out loud at “projectile vomiting or on fire”. For some reason I envisioned a kid on fire projectile vomiting and putting the fire out himself.

      Also on par to the 24/7 thing – that post/status thing that listed all the stuff moms do and how they do it FOR THE REST OF OUR LIVES. Um, sure, I’d agree that one is a mother their entire lives, but unless their children are not physically or mentally dependent on them, they should NOT be doing all that mom stuff forever because their children should have grown into independent adults. If one’s able-bodied and minded kid is unable to be/has never been independent at say 40 then you failed as a parent. (Also excluding temporary and/or unexpected situations like a medical issue or financial collapse that warranted help from parents.)

    • FormerlyKnownAsWendy

      I think you’ve just hit the nail on the head; they will be doing the mommy stuff forever because I strongly suspect that mommyjackers are also helicopter moms and they’re babying their special snowflakes so much that they’ll never be independent!

    • OnionButt

      It is rather scary how dependent some mothers (and fathers but it does seem to be mothers do it more often) make their children on them.

      As evidenced by STFUParents – parents now get all proud over the wrong things – things that used to mean you were screwing up as a parent. Now they’re proud that their kids are completely dependent on them for(ever)/far too long. And they do that because they want to feel NEEDED. Or being proud that their kid does/says asshole things – or misbehaves in public/is destructive. Instead of being embarrassed they BRAG about it on Facebook.

    • The Great Queen Spider

      And the sad thing about this is the mothers (and some fathers) will be creating a person that will ALWAYS be dependent on them. Their selfishness will become the bane of their existence.

    • whiteroses

      Yes indeed. I have no desire to tie my son’s shoes on his wedding day. Hell, if he couldn’t do things for himself, I’d feel like I failed as a parent.

    • G.E. Phillips

      “For some reason I envisioned a kid on fire projectile vomiting and putting the fire out himself”

      Now that sounds like a life skill I need to be teaching him!

    • Music Mamma

      Them’s are called LIFE SKILLS.

    • EcnoTheNeato

      Stop, drop, and roll.
      And vomit.

    • MellyG

      Wait – is THIS why my mother gets pissy when I expect her to take care of me 24/7 even though I’m 33? (i come home for the holidays, expect her to get stains out or help me wrap gifts and all i get is lectured about being a grown ass woman…..*shakes head* she must not love me since she’s not a mommy for the REST OF HER LIFE!) Also ,i bet the last 15 years not living at home haven’t been a break at ALL for her! nope, mommy 24/7 for the REST Of the kid’s life! No fun for any parents ever again after birthing!

    • EcnoTheNeato

      I feel that part of being a successful parent, is ensuring that your children don’t NEED you anymore. But another part is ensuring that, despite that, they still WANT you in their lives.

    • ScienceGeek

      My kid’s 5 months, and aside from occasionally sticking a dummy in his mouth, he doesn’t really need me between about 7pm and 4am. Heck, right now he’s literally snoring in his bouncer beside his dad (who is watching a cartoon. THIS is the downside of parenting, you’re watching Octonauts and suddenly realise the kid’s been asleep for twenty minutes…in the other room).

    • Katherine Handcock

      My parents CONSTANTLY joke about their tendency to look up and suddenly realize that their grandchildren have left the room, leaving a pair of retirees watching Octonauts or Bubble Guppies. It’s even funnier because they only see the kids every 6 weeks or so, so it’s a surprise EVERY TIME it happens :-)

    • SusannahJoy

      I totally read that as “projectile vomiting fire” and pictured some kid running around in his snow outfit ala A Christmas Story with fire shooting out from his face.

  • Pablito

    Every one of these women is like Kanye West interrupting Taylor Swift.

    “Yo, [friend], I’m really happy for your [non-child-oriented situation]. I’mma let you finish — but motherhood is the toughest job of all time. The toughest job of all time!”

    • EcnoTheNeato

      I wanted to “up-vote” this twice, so I made a reply to compensate

    • FormerlyKnownAsWendy

      Then I got to upvote it twice that way :)

    • Spitziehi

      THAT was impressive.

  • Kim

    OOH, we were in New Zealand doing the whole luge thing off that huge mountain in Queenstown WITH a 6 month old and do you know what we did? We handed said 6 month old to my mother in law who didn’t want to do the whole luge thing and we went and did the whole luge thing while MIL had a grand old time drinking hot chocolate in the lookout while 6 month old slept in her pram.

    • http://abasketcase.blogspot.com/ Basketcase

      Yep! Or you take turns – one holds the baby while the other does a run and switch. Might mean you dont get to race each other, but you still get to participate!

    • Fireinthefudgehole

      You mean it’s possible to be a parent…AND have fun?????

    • MellyG

      Wait – NOT possible! When you become a parent you do NOTHING for yourself, and EVERYTHING for your kid – if you do ANYTHING fun you’re not doing parenting right!!!! If you have fun you don’t love your babies! (i remain SO grateful for my friends with kids that didn’t lose their personality and sense of fun with their placenta. Phew)

  • DrunkenLush

    People love to throw so much shade on Facebook. It’s quite hilarious.

  • Mommy often

    So these are all ridiculous but can there be a stfu teachers that occur every September and at end of every one of their breaks. First one is only one I sympathize with the mommy jacker!

    • Lillibet

      Why? She didn’t say she was a teacher until someone mentioned it, it was a very tongue in cheek post. In fact nothing she said justified either the mommyjacker’s response nor yours.

      Do you have a go at anyone who ever mentions anything about work and not wanting to go back after a holiday or is it just teachers who earn your vitriol?

    • Mommy ofte

      Just teachers

    • Kathleen O’Malley

      There was no need for the mother to whine about how being a mom is a 24/7 job. Orange just happened to mention that she likes sleeping in, but Blue had to play the pity card. Plus, ‘…when you can…children will end that luxury’, makes me think that Blue either knows that Orange is planning on children (so she’s informing her how miserable motherhood is) or, more likely, assumes that Orange will have children.

    • EcnoTheNeato

      “or, more likely, assumes that Orange will have children.”
      Probably this, if Orange is a woman and Blue is as terrible of a person that we suspect…

  • EcnoTheNeato

    #5: Works 7 days a week, 24 hours a day, but not only finds time to post on Facebook, but has NO CLUE HOW TO EDIT OR DELETE POSTS!

  • OnionButt

    The 2nd one really chapped my ass the most. It’s not clear whether the original poster who wanted to repeat the day has kids or not, but at any rate, why does the mommyjacker get so pissed that someone else had a good day? Just because her kids were being a pain, everyone should have had a shitty day too? I’d love for her to post something similar about a day being so enjoyable she wants to repeat it and the original poster raining on her parade. And the exchange being sent to B. One can dream.

  • Sam Inoue

    I just don’t know why these moms have to attack all the time, or make it about their child. I love my kids, but honestly I don’t feel like a mom 24/7. I also don’t need to force anyone I know on facebook to pity me for deciding to have kids. No one on facebook is making me parent and they don’t need to be tortured when I am having a bad day of it.

  • Teal

    Dear “mamas,” I don’t give a crap if you have to work “24 hours a day, 7 days a week,” and that you can never sleep in.Just because you’re bitter and resentful doesn’t mean you have to spread it all over the internet.

    • AP

      I’ve had jobs where I was on call 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. I really don’t think these moms understand what that entails. I got barrages of angry phone calls at 5 am if one of my employees was even 2 minutes late. I got called into work on Sunday nights for last minute meetings. If I went anywhere on my “time off” and anything happened at work, I was expected to drop everything go rushing in, no matter where I was, unless I specifically asked permission to spend my so-called personal time out-of-reach. I got called at 11:45 pm the day after Christmas, during a blizzard, while I was two states away, asking me to do some work. If an emergency broke out when I had the audacity to do something like, say, “get a filling” or “be underground on the subway,” there’d be a lecture waiting for me when I finally did get in.

      I get that babies need 24/7 care, but babies also don’t require an hour commute and they certainly don’t care if you’re professionally dressed and showered while you care for them.

    • Kay_Sue

      If my kids had cared whether I showered or not before they slept through the night, they would have been shit out of luck.

    • Teleute

      Disqus is only letting me up-vote this once. >:-(

    • The Great Queen Spider

      Also makes me think of people like firefighters, emts, paramedics and nurses. Not only are the hours extremely ridiculous but they are responsible for a lot of different lives.

  • http://wtfihaveakid.blogspot.ca/ jendra_berri

    My baby’s asleep right now. Technically I’m still being a mom, as I am one 24/7. I’m also a woman, a wife, a person and a lover of cheese 24/7. But I’m more on call than anything at this time of night. I’m playing video games and surfing the net. There’s also some laundry going that I’ll get my husband to deal with, gem that he is.

    Where was I going with this? 24/7 motherhood or something?

    • pixie

      I am also a lover of cheese 24/7. Yay cheese lovers! :D

    • aliceblue

      When I’m sleeping I’m dreaming of cheese.

    • Katherine Handcock

      Cheese lovers FTW! By the way, I have combined my mommying and my love of cheese…my son’s preschool does a cheese fundraiser. Giant, delicious blocks of cheese from a nearby dairy, which I can argue I’m TOTALLY only buying to support the school, and I have to eat fast because it would be a shame if some of it went bad…

    • pixie

      That’s fantastic!!
      My boyfriend’s family does this Secret Santa gift game thing every year and this year’s theme was “consumables”. I managed to score some 10 year aged cheddar. I was SOOOO happy. It’s delicious.

  • Janok Place

    When the first snow hit, my daughter was giving me all kinds of hell about having to wear boots. She’s 18 months, she communication isn’t our strong suit yet… So I opened the door, she ran out, looked horrified, and ran back in. She now knows the word “Boots”, and also puts them on herself. Score for bad moms everywhere!

    • EcnoTheNeato

      Reminds me of a Calvin and Hobbes comic.

      *Calvin constantly complaining about how his dad needed to turn up the heat*

      Next panel, Calvin is outside while snow is on the ground
      “Now, stay out there for five minutes, and when you come inside, you’ll be nice and warm!”

    • AP

      A mom in one of our programs at my old work did the same with her kids. If they didn’t want to put their shirt, or coat, or whatever on, she’d just throw the offending article of clothing into her bag and leave with the kid half dressed. In New England, in the winter.

      She said usually within a minute or two the kid was cold, and she’d say, “Yes, that’s why we wear shirts/jackets/whatever, it’s cold out and they keep us warm,” and the kid would agree to get dressed. Smart woman.

    • Katherine Handcock

      I did the same; works like a charm! Besides, unless you’re living in seriously cold weather, your child will not get frostbite/hypothermia if they refuse a coat for a while. The longest my son ever went was about five minutes.

  • aliceblue

    Dear Mandy,
    Actually, if the turns are not banked too high, a well swaddled newborn can make excellent time going down a luge.

  • val97

    Other moms: what age were your kids when you started sleeping in again? I think mine were 3 or maybe 4? I don’t remember, I just know that it’s definitely not an 18 year moratorium on sleep. I sleep in whenever I can! I read all the time and watch too much TV, and I have a job, too. The 24-7 thing is BS, right? right? Or am I a failure as a mother but everyone is too nice to tell me?

    • ladybenn

      My parents did it right on weekends. I was taught that if I got up before them the first thing I had to do was close their bedroom door. I could then get myself a bowl of cereal and quietly watch TV (with the volume at a low level), play, read, etc until they were ready to get up. It was a win-win.

    • aliceblue

      Same here. I had a bedtime so tended to wake at 7ish. I did the same things you did and woe to me if I turned up the t.v. I think that independence started at late 3ish or 4 I (and on weekends I could have A (just one) poptart. Easy for a kid to fix; lack of nutrition for one small meal for a day or two apparently didn’t send the world off its axis.)

  • Sparksinky

    In defense of Hockeyjacking, this looks more like a case of the older person who doesn’t understand how Facebook works. I get a lot of these random tidbits on my posts that have nothing to do with the subject and usually it’s from a relative new to Facebook who thinks they’re posting on my wall or sending me a private message.