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Mommyshamed Footballer’s Wife Caroline Eriksen Is Being Bullied For Posting An Amazing Post-Baby Photo OF Herself

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I think we sometimes forget that mommyshaming can go both ways. Yes, it often comes from sanctimonious women who want to make average moms feel like crap, but sometimes average moms can be the bullies to. I think this is what is happening to Norwegian footballer’s wife Caroline Berg Eriksen, after posting an amazing photo of herself in Instagram, just four days after giving birth.

Eriksen runs a popular fitness blog under the name “Fotballfrue” which translates to “The Footballer’s Wife. Obviously she is in excellent shape, and honestly that is something I respect. She posted the photo in question (above) on Instagram with the caption, “ I feel so empty, and still not…4 days after birth.” In another post she said,”I gave birth to the most beautiful baby girl yesterday, 10 minutes past 9 in the morning. Her name Nelia and she is perfect.”

Other bloggers online have been less than kind to Eriksen. Writer Suzanne Aabel wrote on her blog that she wasn’t sure if Eriksen “even belonged to the same species,” and that the photo was “In my eyes, this picture is wildly provocative. Not just because I”m the chubby girl who’s envious of her petite figure, but because I began to despise my own body wen I was about twelve.”

Another writer, who goes by the name Heidi, said “Is it really necessary to post halvnaken pictures of themselves?! It’s just to show off, thinking’s not much on how that image can affect readers.”

Now, I understand having body issues. I’ve written about my own eating disorder issues numerous times here on Mommyish. So I am sympathetic to somoene feeling inadequate after seeing such an amazing photo. But unlike the “What’s your excuse” woman Maria Kang, Eriksen said nothing braggy about her body. Nor did she imply in any way that all women should look like her.

The truth of the matter is, as a fitness blogger, being fit is Eriksen’s bread and butter. She is basically paid to look like that. So I see nothing wrong with her feeling proud of her physique or showing it off. That’s her JOB. According to Eriksen herself, “I let out he picture because I’m proud of myself and my body for something as tough as pregnancy/birth and I think all mothers, regardless of the body shall be.”

I think she’s inspirational. Not for having a killer body (though she totally does) but for being so proud of it, even after the rigors of childbirth. I think we should all be a little more kind to each other too.

 

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  • Justme

    I find the idea of posting half naked pictures of myself very odd…but then again, I’m just a modest person. But I think she looks amazing, having just given birth or not.

    I also think there is this belief or expectation that mothers are supposed to look and feel terrible after labor and delivery. Like if you’re not moping around in yoga pants, a big t-shirt covered in spit-up and going without a shower for days, somehow you’re doing motherhood “wrong.”

    • http://fairlyoddmedia.com/ Frances Locke

      I would never feel comfortable revealing this much of myself online, BUT she is European, and I know they are more open about that kind of stuff. She she’s not really showing more than a woman in a bikini would I suppose.

      I think you hit the nail on the head on your second point. There definitely is a certain expectation on how a new mom is supposed to look.

    • m

      I don’t really think you should generalize that much about “Europeans”… I’m Finnish, but that doesn’t mean I would be comfortable posting that kinda picture online.

  • Carolina

    How is she 4 days post-partum with no uterus pooch? She looks absolutely amazing, but I just didn’t think the uterus went down that quickly.

    • Justme

      I didn’t have a uterus pooch. I think it depends on the mother’s body shape, diet and exercise regimen and the size of the baby.

    • http://fairlyoddmedia.com/ Frances Locke

      Same here, at least with my first two kids. By the third I definitely had a pouch, but it was never super obvious. But I have a weirdly long torso, and hardly showed even being pregnant until late in the pregnancy. Every woman is different.

    • elle

      I didn’t have a uterus pooch but I also have a uterus that is a lot closer to my spine then the average woman according to my gyno

  • kris

    She was very tiny during her pregnancy, and if you go through the rest of her pictures and see some of the comments, people were very rude and calling her a liar because she wasn’t huge.

  • Momma425

    If I posted a picture of myself in underpants on the Internet, my husband would have a fit. I just don’t believe in posting pictures of that of myself. I don’t believe in doing that as a size 18, and I didn’t believe in it as a size 4.

    I don’t think Heidi’s comment was bullying by the way. I highly doubt that woman, or anyOne who looks like that 4 days after childbirth has any idea what some women go through as far as feeling bad about their bodies. Pictures like this ARE show-offy, and feel unnecessary, and my guess is that she didn’t think about how it might make other people (people whose baby weight didn’t literally melt off in less than a week) feel. That being said, it is HER blog, she didn’t say anything offensive to other women, and she has a right to post whatever she wants to for whatever reason she wants to. She looks great, and I am happy for her that she is proud of her body.

    The thing is, if you post something on the Internet, provocative or not, you invite yourself to public praise or criticism. Haters are gonna hate- either develop a thick enough skin to not take it personally, or don’t post. I say post away!

    • Justme

      I am all for thinking about others and being aware of their feelings, but there has to be a point at which people must take responsibility for how they react to images (provocative or otherwise). Although it is always good to be cognizant of other people’s feelings, we also cannot live our lives walking around on eggshells in an effort to protect the fragile emotions of other people.

    • Momma425

      I don’t disagree at all. I don’t have a body like that, but I am responsible for my own feelings, and I don’t hate myself so much that a picture of someone would make me feel terrible about myself. In no way am I saying the she needs to tip toe around in case someone gets upset. The fact of the matter remains, however, that posting show-offy pics on the Internet makes other people defensive and hostile sometimes. I don’t think that pointing that out is bullying her either.

      Sure, one can make the argument that she isn’t posting the picture for other people, but I disagree. You don’t post a picture of yourself in underpants on the Internet unless you are fishing for compliments. She DID post to get attention- and as with the Internet, good attention comes with bad attention too.

    • Katia

      So it’s bad cause she’s saying: ” I love the way I look! ” ….. And people might feel jealous because they do t look like her? So noone should post positive things like a pic with a boyfriend, just in case someone else gets sad?
      I feel it’s reaching to say, you deserve to be criticized because you felt proud of yourself and didn’t care that others might feel envious/inadequate.

    • Momma425

      I didn’t say that she deserved to be criticized.
      I said when you post pictures showing off and fishing for compliments on the Internet, some people are going to feel inadequate and lash out. I also said that I didn’t disagree at all that she shouldn’t have to tip toe around other people.

      I didn’t say that she shouldn’t or couldn’t post positive things about herself just in case someone else gets sad.
      I said she probably has no idea what it feels like to be a plus size and probably cannot relate to those who struggle with body issues after having a baby. I also said that it is her blog and she has a right to post whatever she wants for whatever reason she wants.

      I’m not sure how much more clear I can be.

    • Guest

      This is what irritates me about the world now. Everyone thinks everyone else should tiptoe around, because heaven forbid you upset someone else. I can’t remember if it was Dr. Phil or another psychologist, but the point they generally make is it is an issue with you not the other person. So people that have a problem with the woman posting a picture of herself, the fault lies with that person not the one posting. I’m going to go out on a limb and say she was in phenomenal shape when she got pregnant, maintained a healthy diet and exercise program while pregnant, and didn’t use the excuse of “eating for two.” If women are upset they are “frumpy” or whatever after giving birth or before getting pregnant, then maybe they should try personal responsibility and get in shape. Talk to a doctor to rule out underlying medical conditions and learn the concept of eating to live not living to eat.

    • victoria

      Why does it matter how the picture makes another woman feel? Why should women who have pretty good postpartum bodies hide from the world because it might make someone else feel bad? That’s like asking CBS not to air the Victoria’s Secret Fashion Show because it makes the average woman feel bad about her body. People have to put this into context—she does fitness for a living. I agree about posting something and then opening yourself up to whatever feedback you get, but I also think it’s funny that if this was reversed, and it was an average woman posting, she would be called brave, like others have said.

  • Melissa Burris

    There is nothing wrong with being proud of your body and showing it off. However, posting photos like this on a social media site for hundreds to see has only one purpose: seeking compliments and approval from others. I personally don’t care if someone posts a photo like this, if it’s annoying, that’s what the “unfollow” or “hide” button is for.

    • http://fairlyoddmedia.com/ Frances Locke

      True, but I think that is true for pretty much everyone (myself included). To me, I feel like it’s less of a braggy thing because she is a fitness blogger who makes a living this way. I totally agree with you on the “unfollow” button thing. People get so uptight about stuff that they aren’t forced to see, lol!

    • Alexandra

      True, but she is a fitness blogger, right? So it’s kind of like her job….it’s totally inspiring me to get into shape after my babies’ delivery, even though I’ll never look QUITE like her :)

  • personal

    She’s beautiful but I personally find posting selfies in one’s underwear distasteful.

    • FormerlyKnownAsWendy

      I totally wanted to say that!

    • kris

      Yeah,but those are really cute nursing bra’s. I wish I had known about those instead of the plain jane blah ones I had.

  • FormerlyKnownAsWendy

    I thought we weren’t supposed to judge women’s bodies post baby (at least according to several recent articles on here and The Gloss, Crushable, etc). Kind of foils the plan when they post it themselves for everyone to see.

  • Alanna Jorgensen

    If it was an average woman posting pictures of their body after delivery, I get the feeling many of these same bloggers would praise her bravery. I know it doesn’t take a whole lot of bravery to post a pic when you look this amazing, but I find it awful that women are trying to make her ashamed of her body just because they are ashamed of their own. We are supposed to build eachother up, regardless of our body shapes. She is not exempt from female solidarity just because she’s hot.

    • cesp

      I want to upvote this a million times. ;) I thought the same thing, if an average or large woman posted a similar photo she would be praised for being “a real woman”.

    • victoria

      100% agree. Women need to stop taking out their own insecurities on other women. By posting that photo, she is not telling anyone they have to look like her after having a baby. She does fitness for a living, of course she’s going to be in better shape postpartum than the average woman. Pregnancy doesn’t mean your body is destroyed forever and we should stop portraying it that way.

    • Katia

      Yes! That was totally my feeling growing up. That post baby bodies are terrible and you better not have a baby with a guy who isn’t going to be your partner, because noone else will want your damaged goods. Now I feel that the main hurdle
      To a relationship when you have a kid already is that you have a kid. (Limits the number of /tupes of guys you want and who want you) but Not that your body is all stretched out and broken.lots of moms look great and lots of child free people are overweight or have other issues. Having a baby doesn’t decrease your attractiveness that much usually (I haven’t seen it within my friends or acquaintances) some people even lose weight or look better with more weight.
      I really think its a harmful stereotype and sadly may contribute to women choosing abortion.
      Her photos a little too sexy/braggy for my taste but I guess that’s her career and I can’t believe she just had a baby!

    • Karen Milton

      In the context of the picture I assume (yes yes, I know) that she was very fit before pregnancy and continued with appropriate exercise and good diet for the pregnancy’s duration. A woman has no control over how long it takes her uterus to return to a ‘normal’ size (apparently hers got the memo and cooperated), but I do get the sense from the picture that her musculature is not an accident. I’m a tiny person and always have been, but I’m not fit and I didn’t look like that after pregnancy (40 lb of cheesecake did not depart my posterior region overnight, much to my annoyance). I’m not mad about that – I grew people, and that was pretty cool regardless of my cheesecake physique. Agreed that the photos are definitely in the neighbourhood of braggy and she doesn’t have the kind of body I personally think is attractive, but two thumbs up for her uterus!

    • Alexandra

      AGREE AGREE AGREE

  • ohplease

    what the what?! there is nothing about this picture that says, “I’m proud of myself and my body for
    something as tough as pregnancy/birth and I think all mothers,
    regardless of the body shall be.” It DOES scream, “look at my and my awesome body. Aren’t I awesome?” (And maybe, “Take that, bitches!”). I think a comment would have sufficed for the proud message and if a photo was really necessary, why a sexy stance in sexy underwear? Again, doesn’t scream proud to me.

    • Simone

      Maybe because she is comfortable thinking of herself as a sexy woman? I absolutely hate women’s sexualised bodies being used to sell everything from coffee to cars, but this is a choice of hers to pose as a sensual adult woman. You might argue that her choice is less than free given the messages we convey to women about the need to be sexy all the time, but that’s a very big argument that we don’t often go into.

    • Alison

      Yes, I agree with all you are saying and I applaud this woman for being “comfortable thinking of herself as a sexy woman.” That’s great. I just don’t think the picture, posted on social media, was necessary or a helpful way to communicate the awesomeness of women’s bodies and the incredible ways our bodies work to birth babies.

    • Simone

      But is it her responsibility to communicate the awesomeness of women’s bodies? Must all women at all times be standard-bearers? In the same way that some people with disabilities feel they are always somehow representing others with similar disabilities, must women always be subject to political dissection of their personal choices? It seems they must. The personal is always political when it comes to women’s bodies.

    • Kelly

      Oh, so if a woman is out of shape then she can post pictures and be proud but if she’s in shape then she’s just a bitchy show off.

      You are exactly what is wrong with modern women. Attacking your sisters because YOU are insecure. Pathetic and ugly.

    • Alison

      No. I don’t think you understood what I was saying. I didn’t say anything about someone out of shape posting a picture of themselves. And, if anyone is attacking someone, it is you attacking me for my opinion that the picture does not convey the message the poster said she was conveying. When I see that picture, I immediately feel that she is looking for people to think she is awesome (and, obviously, her body is). That’s it. I just think if she is going to post it, she should be honest about her intentions — maybe say, “hey, I look great and am sexy and am proud of it.” If you look at this picture, without the caption,, you’d have NO idea that she had a baby and you wouldn’t be thinking, “wow, the female body can do some incredible things.” I just don’t think the message of how amazing woman and their bodies are for doing something like childbirth is communicated by this picture. I think it does bodyshame women who don’t do that.

  • victoria

    of course she is being shamed—society tells us it’s only okay to post about your postpartum body if you are unhappy with it.

  • Ali

    I think she looks great and the pic doesn’t bother me a bit. I just want to know where she is hiding her giant postpartum pad!

    • Michelle

      I know! Looking at her pic all I can think about is that when I was 4 days post delivery I had that giant pad and ice pack all shoved in my granny panties! haha

  • Simone

    Holy cats. This is what paying attention to your body, being able to exercise regularly and knowledgably, will get you. She’s worked hard for her business and her body, which are connected, and she’s demonstrating the results of her work.

    Sure, not everyone has the capacity to do the same work. Looking like that takes a certain level of cultural, social and economic capital which we don’t all have equal access to. And sure, lots of people will judge that she’s simply showing off – but that’s within her rights as a human with a camera and a computer. I agree with the comment that bodyshaming goes both ways and also with the commenter who suggests that there might be a discourse indicating that women who don’t look the worse for wear after childbirth somehow haven’t had an authentic experience.

    This woman looks hot as hell because she has the capacity to put in a lot of time and work on her body. Good for her! If it upsets people, they might like to look away.

    Nothing about her is saying, ‘You should all look like this and if you don’t you’re a failure’. She’s just showing herself off and that’s her right.

  • Simone

    You know that Kang picture – what’s your excuse? Sadly, for most of us, the excuse is that we simply need to sleep sometimes.

    • Karen Milton

      Mine is “I want to watch American Horror Story and not be doing situps while I’m doing it”. I could look like her (I won’t say easily), but I don’t. I don’t mind.

    • Simone

      Mine is that I like to sleep sometimes. After my unavoidable duties are completed, I have about six and a half hours left and I want to spend most of it asleep and about twenty minutes of it having sex :)

  • Human Target

    If she wasn’t married to him or famous then it probably wouldn’t matter. I was proud of my post baby bod after shedding the weight and I posted photos as well. Not quite this risqué however, but still fairly revealing. I never heard a peep of hate for it though from family or friends. There’s always going to be someone out there that is going to hate what you’ve accomplished though. Can’t please them all.

  • Simone

    We’ve all seen this one, right?

  • disqus_WjKIYzni5a

    ugh. it’s so annoying when people make discussions of other people’s weight.

  • Libc

    4 days postpartum and no mesh panties? Hard time believing that.

    • Justme

      I never wore mesh panties after giving birth. Also, perhaps she took off the mesh panties, put on the lingerie, took a picture and then put the mesh panties back on?!

    • Simone

      What the hell are mesh panties in this context? I wear something I describe as ‘mesh panties’ occasionally but never after labour …

    • Katia

      Huge free panties from the hospital, comfy and can hold giant hospital pads. (For bleeding)
      I think if you have a c section or home birth you may not get these

    • Simone

      Ah right. Don’t have those in Australia.

  • http://itsmyworldcanthasnotyours.blogspot.com/ wmdkitty

    If she can’t take the heat, she shouldn’t post the photos.

    • Justme

      Where in the article did it state that she was upset with the criticism?

    • http://itsmyworldcanthasnotyours.blogspot.com/ wmdkitty

      The criticism was characterised as “bullying”, which I find rather hard to believe, as saying, “hey, your photo makes people feel bad about themselves” is hardly “bullying”.

    • Justme

      But not necessarily by the woman herself…other people put that label on the backlash for her.

    • http://itsmyworldcanthasnotyours.blogspot.com/ wmdkitty

      So? It’s still not “bullying” to say, “hey, this photo is hurtful”. (A point that the OP might want to consider.)

    • Justme

      You are right on that point…but it’s not the woman who is making the bullying claim. It is the author of this article who has attached the idea of bullying based on the responses from other women around the internet. So, your initial comment of “if she can’t stand the heat, she shouldn’t post the pictures” isn’t relative because the woman (Caroline) isn’t quoted in this article as being upset with the people who are criticizing her picture.

    • Lucille two

      Better to disengage. Some are unable to stop themselves from having the last word.

    • http://itsmyworldcanthasnotyours.blogspot.com/ wmdkitty

      *nods*

    • Justme

      I do believe it is called a conversation. You speak. I speak. You speak. I speak. And so on and so forth.

    • Lucille two

      It read more as a debate.

    • Justme

      Semantics. But regardless…your comment was a bit rude. Neither wmdkitty nor I were being disrespectful or accusatory – just discussing the finer bits and implications of the article.

    • Lucille two

      It read like you were pretty invested on proving why you were right. Neither conversational nor polite.

    • Justme

      I’m sorry you read it that way. I just felt her frustration with the woman in the photo was misplaced. Believe it or not, she and I actually agree on the fact that the responses to the picture don’t necessarily fall under the umbrella of “bullying.” Either way…I’ve seen wmdkitty enough around here to know that if she needed to, she could defend herself.

    • Lucille two

      I am sure she could.

    • http://itsmyworldcanthasnotyours.blogspot.com/ wmdkitty

      Likewise, you can hold your own — I like that, and I respect that.

    • Gangle

      I don’t get why this photo is in any way hurtful or offensive. A super fit lady posted a selfie of her awesome post-partum bod on her own blog. I don’t get how she deserves any sort of criticism at all, considering that people paste flattering selfies of themselves all over the net every day. If people find that offensive then they need to get some self esteem and/or start reading another blog.

    • http://itsmyworldcanthasnotyours.blogspot.com/ wmdkitty

      Because it’s yet another reminder that there’s only one very narrow range of “attractive” body-types. I don’t need to “get some self-esteem”, I need society to stop telling me — and every other woman — that we should aspire to this stick-thin ideal. I find it particularly cruel to do this to post-partum women, telling them that if their body doesn’t just “snap back”, they’re “inferior”. It may not be spelled out in words, but you know what they say about photos — they’re worth 10,000 words.

    • Gangle

      So ‘stick-thin’ women need to keep pictures of themselves off the internet and not go in public because our bodies are offensive? Should I just throw out my skinny jeans and invest in a body-bag then? When I had some woman I don’t know scream “you fucking skinny bitch eat some KFC” while I was minding my own business walking down the street, I *must* have had it coming because I flaunted my body IN PUBLIC and made her feel bad. Women are all sizes, all shapes. They all look pretty awesome to me. And yes, society does need to quit telling people that there is only one image worth aspiring to… but attack the industry, not the individual.

    • http://itsmyworldcanthasnotyours.blogspot.com/ wmdkitty

      Also, there isn’t a single word about her feelings in this article, so… yeah, kind of irrelevant.

    • Justme

      From this article: According to Eriksen herself, “I let out he picture because I’m proud of myself and my body for something as tough as pregnancy/birth and I think all mothers, regardless of the body shall be.”

    • http://itsmyworldcanthasnotyours.blogspot.com/ wmdkitty

      My whole point is: The backlash against the photo is well-deserved, if somewhat harsh, and for anyone to characterise it as “bullying” is ridiculous.

    • Justme

      She posted a picture of herself. If it makes someone else feel bad about themselves, that’s on them. She’s not responsible for everyone else’s self-esteem. She doesn’t “deserve” backlash.

    • meteor_echo

      I honestly don’t see how it’s well-deserved. Ferfucksake, it’s basically just a glorified selfie.

    • jenn

      Why does it matter if the photo makes someone else feel bad? The same people who get mad about this photo must also get mad when Bill Gates is profiled in a magazine because he makes more money than they do. It is the own person’s problem if it makes them feel bad. I’m sure she doesn’t even care about the criticisms. If I was her, I would be high-fiving myself.

  • Teleute

    This is ridiculous. My body is not as nice as this woman’s, nor would I ever post such scantly-clad pictures of myself online, but do I feel the least bit threatened by her postpartum body? OF COURSE NOT! Her beauty has in no way been achieved at the expense of mine, nor at anyone else’s expense.

    Any woman who feels threatened by another woman’s beauty clearly lacks self esteem, and that isn’t something that’s going to be fixed by blasting some poor stranger over the Internet. These women ought to be ashamed of their reactions. Last time I checked, beauty was still a thing to be valued. *utterly disgusted*

  • http://wtfihaveakid.blogspot.ca/ jendra_berri

    To be honest, I can see a body being SO in shape that it literally bounces back. Good genes plus a fit lifestyle could achieve that for some.
    No, what I find suspect is… where is the MASSIVE pad for the blood? I wore what felt like a diaper for at least two days and then a football-sized pad for another couple weeks before downgrading to something less intense. At her stage postpartum, I couldn’t be without a pad for a second. My husband had to help me at some point and saw the shower scene from Carrie and thought I needed medical attention. Four days outta pregnancy, even for the unicorn-esque means you be bleedin’.

  • Angelica

    I think it is egregious that women are so vile toward one another. Unfortunately, this isn’t a description that belongs solely to sanctimonious moms. I always find it so sad that women are so willing to tear one another down like this. Why can’t we just accept that women are different and, just because this woman in particular doesn’t look like the “average” woman who just gave birth, it doesn’t make her less of a person nor does it mean she should hide her body that still looks fairly fit, just because it might make some other women feel bad. I wish we’d all put on our big girl panties and suck it up instead of being offended over every little thing and learn to life our fellow women up instead of making it a habit to tear them down. Shameful.

  • Lauren

    I understand the fight against unrealistic expectations of women’s postpartum bodies, but that shouldn’t mean that the minority of women who do happen to look amazing after giving birth should hide under baggy shirts and never post a photo of themselves because “average women” might get offended and upset. If your self-esteem crumbles at the sight of a fit and attractive mother then the problem lies with you, not the woman who posted the photo.

  • Kay_Sue

    After my second, I could have fit in similar undies with a smaller pad, even at four days after delivery. Despite a rougher delivery than my first, my bounced back in that regard, so please don’t question the authenticity on that criterion, ladies. Some folks just don’t have as much.

    I reiterate: this comment is in regards to pads only. I did not look nearly that fantastic afterwards and I am in awe of this woman’s physique. At the risk of sounding cliche,
    You go girl!

  • Anne

    I call shenanigans. No one looks like that 4 days postpartum. She may not be mommy shaming but her pants are definitely on fire.

    • t.lei

      Yes, actually some women do. I’m petite and a few days after having my son my stomach and uterus completely shrank and I could fit into my size 0 pants. I looked like her without the abs. So its definitely possible, for the lucky ones.

  • Muggle

    Not sure if she *even belonged to the same species*!? fucking really? Is this that the “real women have curves” bullshit has come down to? Skinny women are not only fake, starving themselves, running themselves ragged or blowing thousands of dollars on surgery, but NOT EVEN HUMAN!?

    Suzanne Aabel is a cunt.

    • Simone

      Mmm. Women can’t win? Men shame women for being heavy and exhausted, so in turn, women shame women for looking sensational. Divide and conquer.

    • Muggle

      Women don’t even have to look sensational to be torn down by other women. I had horrible acne in my teens and I remember being called an “anorexic whore” in high school. you’d think being 95 lbs at the time would have worked in my favor, but it made things worse.

  • boots

    why is bragging considered such a negative thing? it’s almost as if we’ve come to a point that we should hide all awesome achievements because someone, somewhere might not achieve the same thing and be hurt. it almost makes me think some would be less likely to try ??? (pick a thing, any thing…) if they knew they’d be dragged down for succeeding… or at least letting anyone know they succeeded.

  • nomoreplease!

    See, here’s what I think: when a woman posts a picture like this, it DOES send the message that looking like this after a baby is possible. Which, though may be true for some women, makes women feel like a failure if it isn’t true for them. I’ve read a lot of comments on here about how “if you’re just in good shape” then this kind of bounce-back is totally normal. I call BS on that. I think being in shape helps, but it’s no such guarantee. And, again I say, it just makes women think this is what they should be aspiring to. Whatever her motivations (which I do think are suspect), this picture certainly did not contribute anything positive to the whole women’s-self-image-and-weight-loss-after-preganancy-childbirth situation.

    • Simone

      Isn’t there just an amazing amount of power and responsibility implicit in the possession of a woman’s body? It’s unbelievable. In one sense, all she’s doing is posting a selfie; in another sense, she’s participating in a global debate about bodily autonomy vs. civilian, feminist responsibility towards others. So many interesting and valid comments have been raised here just by a woman posting a picture of herself. The bodies of women seem to be the most powerful things in the world, to be invested with so much meaning on so many levels.

  • liss

    You are all missing the point here. The problem is not the other mothers who feel bad about their bodies. The problem is that mostly young girls under the age of 18 read her blog, girls down to the age of 12 years old. And this blogger is putting out pictures every day of her perfect life, refusing any criticism in her comments section. It does not give a true picture of how it really is, and it creates additional pressure on young girls who are already growing up in a world with so much pressure on how their life should be – on everything from working out, the perfect body, perfect clothes, education and work etc. And now this. Of course, working out and eating healthy is good for you, also during pregnancy. But genes also play a role, which I think we all can agree on. Do we want young girls to grow up thinking this is what is expected from them when they have babies in the future?

    • Alexandra

      That’s those girls’ parents responsibility to educate their daughters on how to have a high self esteem then. Scantily clad pictures of gorgeous women have been around since the invention of the camera!

  • ocbeach

    I think she looks great! She isn’t like Maria Kang, the other mom who posted “whats your excuse”.She was rude and preachy. Caroline, was just posting a pic, and yes she has a right to be proud. I don’t call this fat shaming at all. I call this fit and proud. She put in the work, she isn’t calling anyone names, she looks amazing! Lets all support the sisterhood, and say…good for you! This is her career, she is a walking billboard, great marketing.

  • Alexandra

    FOUR DAYYYYYYYYS???????
    How is that even possible.
    Wow, I’m jealous (but she looks amazing!)

  • Alexandra

    It’s real, you can still see the “black line” (not sure what it’s called) that you get down your tummy on her stomach below the belly button. but WOW she’s fab!

  • yardyspice

    The simplistic answer is that other moms are being “haters” but that’s not it. People are turned off because it is so unnatural for a new mom to strip down to her underwear just days after being home. Your brain usually changes after having a baby as nature has designed and based on this picture, I have to wonder about this woman. Not bashing her, just questioning her decision to take this picture. My full reaction is on my blog.

    • Simone

      ‘Unnatural’ is a really interesting term to use. What is natural? ‘Unnatural’ is a very loaded, disparaging term that really isn’t well defined. Some synonyms are depraved, immoral or degenerate, so I’d really like to understand what you mean by using it in this context.

  • Katie

    My husband and I have been unable to get pregnant after a year of trying and I don’t view women posting photos of baby bumps as an obnoxious or insensitive act just because their body was able to do something mine hasn’t been.
    Same difference.
    I’ve followed Caroline’s blog for over a year. She’s over the top, full on glam. The woman was wearing 5 inch heels at 9 months pregnant. Realize she’s either going to inspire people or rub them the wrong way, but she does work hard for her figure, so even if she is bragging, maybe she has the right to be a little proud?
    And be OK with a few extra lbs. My low weight/BMI may be a factor in infertility. So stop comparing. It’s the death of happiness.

  • tarren

    bravo. Though I also think the What’s your excuse fitness model was unfairly judged too. I think her message was I can find the time to move my butt with three small children, so what is your excuse. Not as in what’s your excuse to not look like me. Women are nasty beasts (and I am one…and I am fat too). I don’t get why women tear each other down for being beautiful, stylish, healthy or thin, or *gasp* successful at anything. Jealousy is very ugly.

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  • guest

    she looks fabulous – if I looked like that after giving birth I’d post it on billboards all around the city ;) good for her, frankly if her baby is healthy and she is healthy who cares how she looks!

  • Rain

    I don’t understand how she’s not bleeding like crazy! She does not appear to be wearing a pad and doctors do not allow you to wear a tampon after birth due to the risk of infection. Something is not adding up here. I don’t doubt her body bounced right back because of her lifestyle of fitness and good nutrition. However, every single woman who has a vaginal birth bleeds heavily afterwards. Some only for a week or so but most for many weeks afterwards. I don’t understand how she took this picture without a pad on unless she just took it off for a second while she took the picture and then got blood everywhere!

    • Actually.

      Every woman is different, after the second day I didn’t need a pad or anything. Bleeding was very minimal. My mother didn’t need anything at all after 24 hours, but my sister on the other hand had to deal with it for almost a week.

  • SANDY CASTOR

    I no longer have the picture, taken 2 weeks after delivering 8 lb 2 oz girl. in my 6th month I had to have an operation for a hernia…from picking up my other 2 children and carrying them to the car when it was raining. Picking both up at the same time caused it. I had to do a lot of bed rest, and doing that I ate everything in site haha I weighed 112 .
    The day I delivered I weighed 172!!!! In 2 WEEKS was a class reunion, and we attended
    and my weight was 106!!!! I was so happy, however having 3 kids kept me busy…..

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  • michelle

    so much jealousy…

    in chinese, the caracters for “women” and “sickness” combined create the word “jealousy”. such an extreme example here…

    the world should congratulate and admire Caroline for taking care of herself…

    and the world should fight obesity, which kills millions of people every year, instead of trying to turn it into a “new normal”.

    and instead of being jealous. giving birth is a natural act. being overweight is not.

    • http://itsmyworldcanthasnotyours.blogspot.com/ wmdkitty

      That was sexist and rather gender-essentialist — in short, utter bollocks.

  • CountySpud

    Two crucial details that are being left out of this discussion: She gain many pounds less than a doctor would recommend for someone of her body size. She says she gained 22 pounds but should have gained a minimum of 28. Second, I can find no where that shows how much her baby weighed at birth. These two details would certainly color my perception of her post baby weight. She placed her unborn child at risk by failing to gain the minimum weight needed.

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