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High School Kid Stands Up To Bully With Help From Over One Hundred New Friends

Facebook Rally For Bullied Halsey Parkerson Halsey Parkerson from South Salem High School was enjoying lunch in the cafeteria with his aunt when his aunt overheard some jerky kid tell her nephew that he doesn’t have any friends and that no one cares. The aunt, who belongs to a local car club, was bothered by this so she went home and posted messages on her Facebook page and on the page of her car club, explaining the incident and asking if people would join her at the high school on Friday. Over one hundred people showed up to have Halsey’s back as he confronted his bully. The school wasn’t informed of the impromptu gathering, but as soon as the principal learned what was going on he let it happen, with car after car jamming the high school parking lot.


The bully actually apologized to Halsey, and I doubt they will be acting all jerky to anyone again.

I love this story and I know that not every bullied kid has a posse of over one hundred to get their back, stuff like this gives me faith in the world that all of the strangers cared enough to show up on a whim to support a high school kid who was being tormented.

From Katu.com:

“It’s just unbelievable,” Halsey said. “I now know whenever I get bullied I’ll raise my head up and say, ‘Sorry, I have too many friends to think I’m being bullied.’”

But even Halsey knew the support was bigger than him. It was for anyone who’s ever been bullied.

“If you’re being bullied, stand up and express yourself,” he said.

 

And I know I’ll be showing my own kids this video after dinner tonight, just as a cheerful reminder to them that bullying is wrong and if they are being bullied, they should tell a grownup.

I think the bully learned his lesson, and it seems Halsey will be just fine. Now I hope we get updates on who he goes to prom with!

(Image: KATU)

 

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  • Alex Lee

    Friends can indeed come from several connections away. People you’ve never even met are willing to support you.

  • guest

    http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2012/10/08/bullying-term-overused-octavia-spencer-wendy-williams-poll_n_1948752.html

    http://www.cnn.com/2013/10/04/living/schools-bullying-definition-overuse/

    From the account given in the above story, it sounds like the “bully” was just some kid being a dick. People are dicks. Adult people and young people alike. As long as people have to interact with each other, there is going to be someone who is mean and rude.

    The problem I see with yelling BULLY at the slightest provocation (which this writer seems wont to do frequently) is that while putting the bully label on one jerk kid, you’re inadvertently labeling the other kid a victim. Not a good start in teaching a young person that they are strong and above someone just name calling and being cruel.

    There are real victims of pointed intimidation and harassment at the hands of other people who do need outside intervention and protection from authority figures, but that isn’t meant to include everyone who has ever been treated unkindly by one of the thousands of jerks in the world.

    • Alex Lee

      “… the “bully” was just some kid being a dick”
      So, how do you differentiate the two? Is it some arbitrary limit that a dickish kid crosses for you? Is it like porn where you can’t describe it but you know it when you see it?

      “you’re inadvertently labeling the other kid a victim”

      You are right, the label is inadvertent. But we must start at this label in order to progress forward.

      “.. someone just name calling and being cruel”

      Ah, so there is some degree of dickishness that you are willing to condone. Name calling and cruel behavior (as general as that sounds) is “boys being boys” for you.

      “…that isn’t meant to include everyone who has ever been treated unkindly by one of the thousands of jerks in the world.”
      I did read the two linked articles that you referenced and they are concerned about the “watering-down” of the bully term – which may lead to everybody claiming being bullied and denying resources to those who need it.

      That doomsday scenario reminds me of something out of “The Walking Dead” or a hospital E.R, or, more abstractly, a denial-of-service attack on a website. I think the more-rational approach is to try and prevent bullying in the first place. That means recognizing dickish behavior and NOT ENCOURAGING IT.

      I believe being silent about abusive behavior, accepting a level of cruelty, and/or condoning insults is contributing to the development of more-severe bullyiing attitudes. And it is best to understand and stop these early on.

    • Kheldarson

      True, we shouldn’t encourage name calling and such, but I think the guest’s point was that “bully” has a particular connotation as a label. And it doesn’t seem like the “bully” in this scenario was being a true bully, i.e. singling out the kid, being systematically mean, etc, etc. He was being rude, yes, and even a little mean, but that’s not necessarily being bullying. I think that’s the point.

    • AP

      I think the term “bully” needs to be applied to serial behavior, either a student who is:
      -serially targeting others (ex: they bully whoever presents an opportunity, they bully everyone equally, they go for the grift and bully each person exactly once.)
      -serially targeting one kid (ex: they repeatedly go after one kid.)

      That makes it easier to sort out the kids who need a behavioral correction from kids who need a serious intervention. It also helps bully victims, because quite often, a victim who’s been smacked 9 times will hit back on the 10th and get punished for bullying, while the bully gets off scot free because no one saw smacks 1-9.

    • Bulliedgirl

      Guest, I respectably disagree with you theory. I do believe kids should develop a back bone and stand up for themselves. Otherwise they will continue to being bullied. HOWEVER, that being said, that doesn’t work. Halsey said he’d been picked on (bullied) before. There is generally a “pecking” order where the “weaker” children get picked on, and bullies always seem to know who these kids are. (Shy, introverted, unable to express themselves, unable to help themselves.) I know this because I was one of those kids. All through 9th grade through Senior high I was constantly picked on, bullied and tormented, as to where I didn’t want to go to school anymore. I DID try and stand up to myself. It worked..once. I was told to “walk away, ignore them, tell an adult,” all of which I did but it didn’t help. Thank GOD we didn’t have internet and social media, and internet, because that makes it even MORE difficult and dangerous than now. Kids commit suicide because of bullying and cyber bullying, and you want these victims to grow a backbone and not get help? Unfortunately for bullied kids, the majority of peers will take a bully’s side and not the victim, because they don’t want to be uncool. You get even a few kids “bully blogging” online with social medias, etc..and it will expound from there. There are actually a LOT more “jerks” out there in schools (especially these days) than you think. Maybe if more people did more like Halsey’s aunt did (unrealistic for it to be to that extent), it would help with the bullying problem. The problem is that many (I’d hope all) schools have a “anti- bullying” policy, but never seem to enforce it, whether it’s because of looking the other way, or there’s so much going on they can’t get to everyone, I don’t know. But that’s my long, but humble opinion.

    • bullys are meanies

      THEN STOP BEING WEAK!!! Fuck, this ISNT rocket science!!!

    • Bruce

      Personally, I can get down and dirty with such bullies (and so they don’t pick on me: I’m 6’01″, male and built like a house) but I know enough people who just don’t have the stuff to be big and powerful. Smaller, more diminutive types need other strategies. I would recommend, for his after-school sport, that he study a martial art. There are martial arts other than karate, martial arts that develop small-people’s strengths, others that develop the abilities of people with divers special-needs. Most martial arts also develop a person’s self-esteem, balance, physique, attention-span and other qualities that he can use for the rest of his life. [And no, studying martial arts generally makes a person LESS violent, not MORE violent. He'll be able to defend himself (and, potentially, such people as a girlfriend and/or mother), but people who study martial arts generally don't go picking fights.]

  • Emmali Lucia

    South Salem high? So in Oregon?

    Hell, I’d go to prom with him. I’m still young enough that it’s not totally creepy, and I never got to go to my own prom. Lol

  • Denise Anzelmo Runyon

    GREAT JOB!!!! This needed to happen and it needs to keep happening. Finally a good ending for 1 kid being bullied. So many other kids didn’t have a good ending.

  • BiscuitsNgravy

    I sure wish ya’ll lived in San Antonio….My 12 yr old is ALWAYS told the same EXACT thing and goes to Alamo Heights….”No one likes you….You have NO friends….You are SO stupid….Why don’t you get lost….You’re a fat slob….You can’t even run…..You suck at football” When I could afford it, I bought him a cell phone, then, he came home with the phone cell shattered, as if someone ran over it, I asked what happened to it, he said he “dropped it”….Two weeks later, he told me the truth. The same bullies who will NOT leave him alone, since the 5th grade, took it and threw it down. I called & told his counselor and what was I told?….”What did my son do to ANNOY the other boys? WHAT?? Well, I don’t belong to a car club and I keep to myself…..But, I sure wish I did belong to one. Good job, ya’ll

  • BiscuitsNgravy

    I sure wish ya’ll lived in San Antonio….My 12 yr old is ALWAYS told the same EXACT thing and goes to Alamo Heights….”No one likes you….You have NO friends….You are SO stupid….Why don’t you get lost….You’re a fat slob….You can’t even run…..You suck at football” When I could afford it, I bought him a cell phone, then, he came home with the phone cell shattered, as if someone ran over it, I asked what happened to it, he said he “dropped it”….Two weeks later, he told me the truth. The same bullies who will NOT leave him alone, since the 5th grade, took it and threw it down. I called & told his counselor and what was I told?….”What did my son do to ANNOY the other boys? WHAT?? Well, I don’t belong to a car club and I keep to myself…..But, I sure wish I did belong to one. Good job, ya’ll

    • KM

      Hi BiscuitsNGravy
      Don’t let up!!! School administrators need to ask these questions. Write a letter documenting that this was the Counselors response to your concerns, make sure to copy the principal! vice principal and your school board. Here’s the tricky part, after you write the letter– and it will be painful to write about this– have your spouse, close friend, business professional you admire edit your letter with you. Your a parent so the letter will be emotional, as it should be!! But these people do not love your child like you do, you want them to walk away with clear points, your letter needs to read professionally.

    • blkmomw4

      Go to that school and let the princIPAL know you are going to file charges against the school, the parents and their children and the parents will start to want to be involve with their children. Let your child know you are not stupid, you told what happen so that is smart. You are not fat, you are blessed. You dont need them for friends, you have more friends than you know in the world that is going through the same thng . You are somebody, you are special, you are a gift fr GOD, you are IMPORTANT AND nobody can take you confidence so dont LET THEM WIN!!!!!!

    • Bullys are meanies

      How about making your fat lazy son lose weight. There I solved your “bully problem.”

    • BassFreak

      Your Mom does what for 5 dollars a night? Sorry, not interested.

    • dohdoh

      did that really just come out of your mouth?

    • BassFreak

      If any of my children were bullied this bad, then I would pull them out of the school. If they were still bullied, then I would just home school them. I could never in good conscience send them every day to school to go through hell like this.

    • Bruce

      Regretfully, I don’t think that your kid would stay in any one school for more than a school-year, in that case. In my experience, kids are like that and the experience is adolescence. I wish that it weren’t, but kids are cruel to each other, the way that I remember. Any opportunity to take out their frustrations on a kid who either can’t or won’t do worse back to them, they’ll torment him such as they can.
      Note: Homeschooling your kid has its own woes. For one, a kid’s social-life generally revolves around his school. He may qualify for a GED, being home-schooled, but college? (or trade-school, vocational school, etc.) It gets rough, these days. Your choices aren’t easy; they’re complicated.

    • BassFreak

      There’s a difference between bullying and teasing. I did my share of teasing as a kid as well. I’m not a big fan of home schooling either. It would take me a lot to make that decision, but if there was no way to resolve my kid going through hell every day when he or she went out the door, then I would have to make that decision.

  • aard rinn

    I’m happy the kid was OK, of course, but I think that this was a bad way to handle this. He hasn’t been shown how to handle his issues – the aunt handled it for him, really – and instead they subjected the “bully”, who for all we know may have been just being a dick or something, to humiliation in front of a couple hundred adults? Can you imagine being singled out like that in front of your peers in high school, especially when they’ve offered no evidence this was a chronic thing & not just a bad day for the kid – I know I said a few cruel things in HS when I had a shit day… The principal should have shut things down right away, not allowed strangers and outsiders onto campus to torment and harass a defensless teen. This was intimidation of a kid who had no way to handle such things, and now he’s being spread across the internet as an example of “bullying”… everyone involved, with the exception of the two teens, should be ashamed of themselves.

    • Wow Really?

      My Thoughts exactly. Shame on the school and shame on the adults involved. If I was the parents of the “Bully” or any other child on that campus I think I would be going after the heads of the School administrators for allowing ADULTS on the campus that have no business there…. Wake up people this is un-acceptable!

    • Wow Really?

      My Thoughts exactly. Shame on the school and shame on the adults involved. If I was the parents of the “Bully” or any other child on that campus I think I would be going after the heads of the School administrators for allowing ADULTS on the campus that have no business there…. Wake up people this is un-acceptable!

  • Nate Whilk

    ‘Sorry, I have too many friends to think I’m being bullied.’

    So if some kid doesn’t have enough friends it’s okay to bully them? Great message.

  • Nate Whilk

    ‘Sorry, I have too many friends to think I’m being bullied.’

    So if some kid doesn’t have enough friends it’s okay to bully them? Great message.

  • SHAME ON THE SCHOOL

    Shame on the school and shame on the adults involved. If I was the parents of the “Bully” or any other child on that campus I think I would be going after the heads of the School administrators for allowing ADULTS on the campus that have no business there…. Wake up people this is un-acceptable! Under no circumstances should random ADULTS be allowed an impromptu witch hunt on school property…

  • SHAME ON THE SCHOOL

    Shame on the school and shame on the adults involved. If I was the parents of the “Bully” or any other child on that campus I think I would be going after the heads of the School administrators for allowing ADULTS on the campus that have no business there…. Wake up people this is un-acceptable! Under no circumstances should random ADULTS be allowed an impromptu witch hunt on school property…

  • kmrtigger

    I don’t think ONE comment to this child was enough to be considered bullying. That word is used out of context and way too much. He was being teased, not bullied. Being bullied would have been this same kid continuously, day after day picking on him.

    Had I been a parent of a child in that school, and that many STRANGE adults showed up at my child’s school without permission from the school before hand, I would be raising hell over the safety of my child. All the other children were put in danger with that amount of strangers being at the school. Who knows if there was a child molester, kidnapper, etc. in that mix.
    Don’t get me wrong, it was for a good cause, but still gone about the wrong way.

  • kmrtigger

    I don’t think ONE comment to this child was enough to be considered bullying. That word is used out of context and way too much. He was being teased, not bullied. Being bullied would have been this same kid continuously, day after day picking on him.

    Had I been a parent of a child in that school, and that many STRANGE adults showed up at my child’s school without permission from the school before hand, I would be raising hell over the safety of my child. All the other children were put in danger with that amount of strangers being at the school. Who knows if there was a child molester, kidnapper, etc. in that mix.
    Don’t get me wrong, it was for a good cause, but still gone about the wrong way.

  • Bullys make me cry

    Wow, pathetic….. He’s nearly an adult and his aunt had to….. Im actually not quite sure what they did- drove through campus or something? I hope that “bully” beats this soulless ginger up tomorrow. GOD FORBID little Jimmy has his feelings hurt!! Want to not get bullied (which is such a stupid buzzword now), whoop homeboys ass or dont be a goddamn weirdo!! This kids never gonna be a man. China and Russia are gonna eat us for dinner in 20 years.

  • VonTruthness

    I don’t blame the other kid. I would’ve bullied this dork too.

  • Lina Brown

    Great, fighting bullying with bullying, because isn’t that what this was?

  • just_me_413@hotmail.com

    Well I have always said stand up to a bully as most are nothing but cowards anyway and most will back down when stood up to (unless of course they have their posse of “popular kids”. I say good job Auntie you are one of the best. And Halsey just remember the “popular kids” are really only popular among themselves as most of the other kids don’t really like them but are afraid to admit it.

  • PeterPat

    Bullies are the most pathetic people in the world. This was so great!

  • Dwayne Haywood Thornton

    Bullying should not be accepted under any condition however the principal should have had second thought about the way this was handled. THIS could have provoked an unnecessary incident which could have resulted in injuries. There are better method. Just my opinion

  • S

    Personally, I found the only way to deal with bullies was to ambush them, smash their heads into the floor (or lockers or the wall), and threaten them into submission. They understand the language of violence, so I just told them to stop in their native language.

    Bullying really is a problem in the world, though. I’m glad this kid was able to find a peaceful solution.