Nebraska Court Rules Teen Isn’t ‘Mature Enough’ To Have Abortion, But Is Miraculously Mature Enough To Be A Parent

shutterstock_143044900__1380997591_142.196.156.251A 16-year-old ward of the state requested a waiver of consent from the Nebraska Supreme Court so she could get an abortion without the written consent of her foster parents. This week, the high court decided she “had not shown she is sufficiently mature and well-informed enough to decide on her own whether to have an abortion.” By default, she is sufficiently mature to birth and raise a child, but clearly the high court hasn’t realized the faulty logic here.

She admitted to not having the financial means to raise a child. She also feared she may lose her foster placement status because her foster parents are deeply religious and would no doubt have a problem with her pregnancy. Those seem like pretty lucid, mature observations to me. But who am I? Just another woman who doesn’t think teenagers should be forced to have children they’re not ready for. From Chron.com:

Nebraska law was changed in 2011 from requiring minors to inform parents of an abortion to requiring them to get the written, notarized consent of a parent or guardian. Exceptions are limited to cases of abuse by the parent or guardian, medical emergencies and instances in which the minor is sufficiently mature and well-informed to decide whether to have an abortion.

Bataillon rejected the girl’s request, saying that for the purpose of her case, her foster parents would serve as her guardians — even though, under Nebraska law, the department is considered the guardian of wards.

County District Judge Peter Bataillon asked the girl if she knew “when you have the abortion, it’s going to kill the child inside you.” Hmm. Seems like kind of an odd thing for a judge to say, doesn’t it?

Court records found online make reference to a Peter Bataillon who served in the 1980s on a committee for Metro Right to Life, an Omaha anti-abortion group.

Bataillon did not immediately return a message Friday seeking comment on whether he had ever served on a committee for that or any other anti-abortion group.

Aren’t judges supposed to be impartial defenders of justice? Forcing this girl to have a child she cannot support by saying she’s not “mature enough” to decide to have an abortion is completely absurd.

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    • Blueathena623

      Since she is in foster care, will the baby be put into foster care as well?

      • quinn

        Great question.

      • Erin

        This is just an assumption, but I think an older teen with a baby would be exited from the foster care system and connected with some other social service. She’s close to aging out anyway, and it might be hard to re-place her with an infant. She certainly can’t stay with her current family if they are as deeply religious as she says.

      • Angela

        Which essentially means she and her baby would be put out on the streets.

    • Blueathena623

      http://www.omaha.com/article/20131004/NEWS/131009292/1685
      This article gives me some hope that someone did help her, even if it was illegal, since her lawyer won’t comment on her current pregnancy status.

      • Emmali Lucia

        Good. I was about to drive to Nebraska and be like “GET IN MY CAR IF YOU WANT TO ABORT!” and have some super fun car ride to a state that isn’t full of ass-backward crazy folk.

    • Ptownsteveschick

      Face meet palm, over and over and over.

    • K.

      “No, Judge, I actually have no idea what an abortion is. I just thought it’d be super fun to hang out at the courthouse for a week or so.”

      Dick.

    • Cee

      According to the comments on the story, they worry that she might regret having an abortion when she grows up. So, can the same be said about having a baby? When she is up taking care of a baby and trying to graduate high school, go to college or have to turn down going to college will she regret having a child she didnt want? When she has to work hard to feed her child and herself or is forced to give up dreams and aspirations because she has a baby, will she not regret that? Oh no no. Don’t even spill that logic on anti-choicers. Everyone wants a baby!

      • Nia

        How about if she doesn’t work hard to take care of the child and leaves the child at home? Or in a car? Or abuses the child? No woman should be forced to have a child if they feel they don’t want it. I’d imagine being a child in foster care she knows what it’s like to have parents who don’t want you.

      • Blueathena623

        My guess is, given her maturity in approaching the judge and her experience in foster care/abuse by her parents, she will make a great mom WHEN SHE IS READY.

      • CrazyFor Kate

        Or if she places the child for adoption and winds up missing it forever, etc, etc. Why can’t these idiot lawmakers get it through their skulls that NO PREGNANCY CHOICE IS EASY.

    • http://wtfihaveakid.blogspot.ca/ jendra_berri

      From the sounds of that question, I don’t think there was any way she was ever going to get that waiver.

    • Muggle

      Let me guess, they think teenagers should have children to “show them that actions have consequences.”

      I think they’ve worked that out already…

      • Blueathena623

        I’ve never understood that line of thinking — a child should not be a punishment.

      • meteor_echo

        Those people have zero logic, sadly.

      • Erin

        Right? They view a baby as a just punishment, then assume your motherly love will cancel out any regrets. Its twisted and infantilizing, and I hope this girl gets the care she needs. I teach high schoolers, and she sounds way mature for her age for having even taken these steps. But that doesn’t mean she should be burdened with a child before she’s ready.

      • Panther2017

        A child should never be killed because his parent made a mistake either.

      • Véronique Houde

        Yet, they should grow up feeling unwanted, raised by parents who are ill equipped emotionally and financially, and potentially know that they were an unwanted mistake… Yes?

      • Blueathena623

        Thank god a 10 wk old fetus is no where near being a child yet! Phew, bullet dodged.

      • Danielle Smith

        Agreed. A two week old infant should never be drowned by the depressed mother who was guilted in to birthing him/her due to anti-choice rhetoric. Brilliant argument.

      • Panther2017

        One bad deed does not justify another.

      • http://itsmyworldcanthasnotyours.blogspot.com/ wmdkitty

        NOTHING justifies enslaving a woman to a clump of cells that WILL cause illness, and may result in permanent disability or even death.

    • meteor_echo

      I’m seriously wondering whether the judge understands that some women (teens included) are going to get an abortion at all costs – which includes back alley abortions, Mifepristone, black cohosh, or just plain old punching yourself in the stomach/stabbing yourself. I don’t think he does. He’s too busy being a disgusting pro-fetus asswad.

      • Blueathena623

        I think she did. I’m hoping that she got her abortion. Her lawyer said she won’t comment on it, so I’m hoping thats code for “she is no longer pregnant”.

      • meteor_echo

        I really hope so.

      • Blueathena623

        Although, when I think on it, the timing of this announcement is odd. She was 10 wks along when she asked in July. The appeal was apparently expedited and upheld by the higher court in August. But its being announced publically now, 3 months after the girl originally asked. So, if she were still pregnant, she’d be about 20 weeks along.
        I dunno, I could just be pulling a John Nash, but maybe there is something there.

      • Emmali Lucia

        I remember once in high school my friend was super freaked out that she was pregnant, we went to a Whole Foods store looking for Pennyroyal root to make some tea. Fully aware that Pennyroyal can do anything from cause liver failure to flat-out kill you.

        She ended up downing a whole bottle of vitamin C tablets (Because the lady who worked there said that’d work), and I live in one of the most liberal cities in America, if she needed an abortion she would have had no problem getting one. But there was no information out there for teens, I had no idea that you can actually get funding to have an abortion until sometime this year. That’s actually why we were looking for Pennyroyal, because there’s no way a 17-year-old can pay $700 without anyone noticing the money being gone.

      • Blueathena623

        Granted, I don’t know what a whole bottle would do, but that lady is stupid because vitamin c is one of the water soluble vitamins, so you just pee out what you don’t need.

    • Angela

      Oh, but you know if she’s not ready to be a mother she can always adopt. Because adoption is so incredibly simple and resolves all the problems that accompany unwanted pregnancy. NOT

      If she’s old enough to get pregnant she’s old enough to have an abortion. Even if she were only 10 years old. ESPECIALLY then actually.

    • Angela

      County District Judge Peter Bataillon asked the girl if she knew “when you have the abortion, it’s going to kill the child inside you.”

      Um, no actually. It will prevent the fetus from maturing into a child. Does the judge know that the law does not recognize fetuses as children?

      • Panther2017

        At one time the law recognized Blacks as property. The law is often wrong.

      • Véronique Houde

        A judge’s job in court is to consider situations and apply the law accordingly. Not to use their own personal morals in order to condemn someone who is suffering.

      • Angela

        Exactly. There are many laws I disagree with but judges have a duty to set aside their own biases when making verdicts.

    • AnonyMouse

      You know, there is always adoption. I don’t agree that she should be deemed too “immature” to have an abortion. Of course she’s immature, she’s 16. She doesn’t feel she can care for him or her, which I don’t blame her. But, she could always give the baby up for adoption. I know that considering she’s in the system herself, it’s not something that she probably looks favorably on, but there are other options.

      • meteor_echo

        She should be able to choose from three options: abortion, adoption and keeping it, not from two. Sorry not sorry, but no woman should be forced to go through a pregnancy that she doesn’t want, then have a painful birthing experience and be left with irreversible changes to her body because “there is always adoption”. Woman goes first, fetus doesn’t.

      • Erin

        Plus, pregnancy and birth are not always safe. We tend to forget in a first-world country, but maternal death can and does happen due to complications. Women should not be forced to risk losing their lives because some people are uncomfortable with a safe, legal medical procedure.

      • AnonyMouse

        This isn’t a health issue, this is a she has a choice and should be able to use it, issue. I agree that she should have control over the decision. As I commented above, I’m just saying everyone is saying “they are forcing her to care for a child” no, there is adoption. I think the girl should be able to make the choice for herself. I never said I didn’t think she should. I’m just saying there are alternatives to abortion. It doesn’t have to be abortion or be a parent. It can be abortion, be a parent, or have the baby and put it up for adoption. There’s a third option people are ignoring here. Don’t blast me for bringing it up. Read my original comment again, I said I don’t agree with their decision to not let her have an abortion. I was merely suggesting another avenue.

      • AnonyMouse

        Of course if it is a health issue, and it’s a high risk pregnancy, it should be a no brainer that she needs to have the abortion to save her life. Right now it’s on the grounds that she shouldn’t have to care for the child.

      • Gangle

        No its on the grounds that she shouldn’t have to continue carrying a fetus.

      • AnonyMouse

        The first concern mentioned was her not being able to care for the child. I took that hand in glove with her concern she would lose the stability for herself and her child if her foster parents revoked their care. The added fear of losing your home and having to have a baby is terrible. The “continue carrying a fetus” issue is obvious, and comes with being pregnant in the court’s eyes. They aren’t really being very flexible on the matter, though, or else we wouldn’t be having this coversation.

      • http://itsmyworldcanthasnotyours.blogspot.com/ wmdkitty

        Forcibly continuing the pregnancy == SLAVERY

        Slavery is illegal.

      • Erin

        Whether you choose to keep the child or give it up for adoption, the resulting pregnancy & childbirth are still the same, and that is absolutely a health issue. I find it disingenuous to pretend otherwise.

      • Blueathena623

        I get what you are saying, because I also feel the need to be technically accurate.
        So yes, we agree that there are three options, and we also agree, based on your second to last sentence, that she should have three options, and it sucks that the court took away one of those options.

      • AnonyMouse

        Thank you, I’m glad someone finally seems to get what I was saying. That’s all, you managed to sum it up nicely.

      • AnonyMouse

        Yes, thank you. That is exactly what I was saying. You managed to sum it up nicely. People are so quick to jump on the offensive, I wasn’t disagreeing with anyone initially, I was just adding a third option. It got a little out of hand. (Sorry if this appears twice, my last attempt to respond seems to have disappeared.)

      • Blueathena623

        No problem.

      • meteor_echo

        Oh, I know. I witnessed that firsthand once (the girl almost died from a difficult home birth, the baby actually died). Childbirth is terrifying.

      • AnonyMouse

        I’m not saying she should have to. As I said, I think it’s ridiculous that they deemed her immature, and then took away her right. She’s 16, teenagers, as generalization, are fairly immature. That’s not the issue here, and the fact she is immature should tell them that she shouldn’t be a mother at her age. The issue is she doesn’t think she can care for the child. I’m simply saying that everyone on this board is saying they are condemning her to care for a child, and to be a parent, and they are not. She can adopt the baby out. Do I think they should have made that choice for her, no, of course not. But, things happen when you are underage and people feel they can push you around.

      • R Zhao

        Yes, adoption is an option, if she wants to take it. But this choice may also put her in a very difficult situation, long term. If what she claims is true, that her foster parents are extremely religious and won’t take this well, she could very well be pregnant with a child she doesn’t want and put out on the streets.

      • Gangle

        I understand what you are saying, but you are offering up adoption as a viable and easy solution. It isn’t. The only viable solution is to allow her to make the choice she wants about her body.

      • AnonyMouse

        I’m aware of that. I believe I even said that myself. I brough up adoption because everyone else had the other two options covered.

      • Gangle

        Do you know how hard ‘there is always adoption’ is? I have a friend who fell pregnant in her late teens to a one-night-stand while she was struggling to study, work and survive away from home. Between living in isolation, a complete lack of resources and being in denial about her pregnancy, and then being unsure of what she wanted to do, she missed the cut-off point for abortion. She came from a strict, conservative family that would never have accepted her being pregnant out of wedlock and she did not want a baby or to be a mother – she just wasn’t ready. So she went through with the pregnancy, keeping it a secret from everyone and basically spending the whole time being afraid, miserable and lonely. She put the baby up for adoption, and shortly after had a breakdown. When her family found out they hit the roof. They were angry over the pre-marital sex, the pregnancy and the adoption. She went through enormous guilt and shame over adopting the child out, and today, nearly 13 years later, she is still dealing with the emotional stress related to it.
        Women who decide that they want to adopt out a baby they carried for nine months endure a lot. I can only imagine that would be magnified if you were forced to do that against your will.

      • AnonyMouse

        Guilt is felt with abortions as well, as adoptions. One is ending a fetus before it has a chance to be a child, and the other is carrying a chld and then having to give it up. Both can be incredibly stressful, and having an abortion doesn’t eliminate stress. I have a friend that got pregnant in college, she wasn’t in the right point in her life for a child, so she aborted it fairly early on. It’s five years later and she still thinks about who that child could have grown up to be. She kicks herself over it often, and it’s magnified now that all of our friends are having babies. So both can impact someone negatively, and both can have lasting damage to the poor woman involved.

      • Gangle

        I never implied that one was easier than the other, only that the ‘just adopt’ theory is just as potentially stressful and problematic as abortion. My point is that neither is a cake walk even if it is your decision, so I can only imagine it would be worse if someone else demanded to make a decision for you against your wishes instead. Both my friend and yours got to make decisions about what they wanted to do with their bodies. This girl had her choice taken away from her, and a complete stranger make decisions about her body for her. It makes the situation so much worse.

      • AnonyMouse

        You also didn’t mention it, either. You made abortion seem like a magic fix. I’m getting all of these down votes for essentially not saying anything wrong. Adoption is an option if the girl doesn’t want to raise the child, but she can’t get an abortion. Babies are put up for adoption in the US it is not impossible.

      • AnonyMouse

        When I say “magic fix” and abortion I mean it’s the underlying “solution” for your friend in your previous comment. I’m sorry for what happened to her, I was just saying that her having an abortion most likely wouldn’t make all her problems go away. It would have most likely been difficult as well. But, she should have had the option.

      • Gangle

        Um, no I didn’t. You clearly didn’t read and comprehend what I had written. I never *said* abortion is a magic fix. Neither is adoption. I wouldn’t have wanted my pal to have an abortion because she didn’t want one, and I would not have forced her to do something with her body she was uncomfortable with. Only she has the right to decide what happens to her body. But, like an abortion was no walk in the park for your pal, neither was adoption for my friend.. Could you imagine how much worse either of those options would be if they were forced to go through with something not of their choosing? I only disagree with you in the sense that for this teenaged girl, the only option practical or right for her is abortion, not adoption. Do you know how I know this? BECAUSE SHE FREAKING SAID SO

      • AnonyMouse

        There is really no need to shout at me (caps lock). You made an assumption about what I said, and now you are angry that I made an assumption about what you said. You commented on my initial comment to tell me that adoption is not necessarily easy, and that your friend struggled with it, I never said it was easy, I just said it was an option, but you assumed that’s what I meant. Then I respond to your comment, by saying that you made it seem like you were saying abortion would fix it, because carrying the child and adoption clearly didn’t work out for the poor girl, but aparantly that’s not what you meant either. We have clearly misunderstood each other, and I have no desire to raise my voice towards you.
        I absolutely understand that no one should be forced to do anything, and I 100% agree that they shouldn’t be forced, I’ve consistently said this. But, the court made a ruling, and regardless of how much we disagree, that is the ruling. I was suggesting an alternative for the poor girl if she can’t get an abortion, and can’t care for the child. Unless someone can reverse his decision, that’s that on the matter for her, unless she finds a way around it. I do not, nor have I ever said she should have to be pregnant or have to give the baby up. It was an observation that no one had mentioned if she didn’t have any other options.
        I’m frustrated that I made a simple suggestion, and I’m getting continually pelted by negativity. It was not an unreasonable suggestion, but a common sense one if she’s not permitted to get an abortion, and then has to carry out the pregnancy. She should have her own choice, but her own choice has been ruled against. Wishful thinking and “what should be” and dinging me is not going to change it. It needs to be overthrown in court.
        Thank you.

      • AnonyMouse

        Also, I am finished with my commentary on the matter. I feel I have expressed myself well. I wish the best for this girl, and I hope in the end she is able to do what is best in her situation, whatever that may be. I also hope your friend is well, my heart goes out to her and her struggle.

      • AnonyMouse

        Thanks so much to everyone hitting the down arrow for my friend’s tragic story. That was mighty sympathetic of you considering she had an abortion, which you are obviously not against.

      • NYBondLady

        people down-vote the most absurd crap. Pro-choice here almost always means pro-abortion.

      • http://www.twitter.com/ohladyjayne allisonjayne

        Pro-choice means pro-abortion in situations where a woman has made it clear her CHOICE is to terminate her pregnancy.

      • gothicgaelicgirl

        we need more people with logical thinking like you!!! currently in a… “discussion” with Panther2017. I hope this user has no daughters…

      • Panther2017

        Would she rather have had her kid killed? That doesn’t sound like a guilt-free existence.

      • Gangle

        Please re-read the post. You completely missed the point.

      • Mikster

        Not to mention that adoption is a PARENTING choice. Abortion is a PREGNANCY choice.
        Choosing adoption does not solve the issue of terminating a process with which you are unwilling to continue.

      • Gangle

        EXACTLY!!

      • Panther2017

        An infant would not be in the system long. There would be a line of ppl hoping to adopt that child.

      • Gangle

        And what about the physical and mental well-being of the mother? Where is the system taking care of her?

      • anonymous_for_this

        True, my friend was adopted really quickly….unfortunately, she was adopted by a pedophile (and his enabler of a wife) so she’s not physically able to have children now because of all the scar tissue where her uterus should be.
        I’m just saying, adoption isn’t all happy endings.

      • Amanda

        My mother was placed into adoption when her parents passed away at a young age. She was physically, emotionally & sexually abused by her adoptive parents and introduced to meth at 11 years old by them. Her therapists think her paranoid schizophrenia was onset by the trauma. She is now so severely mentally ill that she is unable to care for herself and is in the process of being put into a mental health unit where she will have 24 hour care available.

    • Panther2017

      Ever heard of adoption? The girl does not have to raise the child.
      Also, the judge is right, getting an abortion will kill the child. What would you have preferred he had said? It is just a bunch of cells?
      So are you!

      • Gangle

        I kinda think that the girl understands what an abortion is – the killing and removing of a fetus. That is the point.

        I’ve already discussed the ‘just adopt’ “option” below.

      • meteor_echo

        I’m a bunch of cells that doesn’t mooch on another bunch-o-cells’ resources anymore. That makes a really, really big difference.

      • Panther2017

        It does not when one is forced to be dependent on another through no fault of their own.

      • meteor_echo

        Nope, you’re wrong. The presence of a fetus requires constant consent from the woman, since it’s taking her resources and may damage her health – regardless of whether it’s there “through no fault of its own”.

      • Visiting

        O_O

      • Blueathena623

        No, I have never heard of this adoption thing. How does that work, exactly?

      • Mikster

        Adoption is a PARENTING choice. Abortion is a PREGNANCY choice.
        Choosing adoption does not solve the issue of terminating a process with which you are unwilling to continue. I prefer legal and medical terminology when the issue at hand is either medical , legal or both, as in this case. The proper terms -listen, this is a valuable TEACHING moment here- are: “embryo” or “fetus”.

      • Panther2017

        “Terminating a process”, a failed attempt to pretty up “killing one’s own child.” Of course, you prefer euphemisms, you don’t like facing the fact that abortion is the intentional killing of an unborn child.

      • break_time

        Sorry Panther2017, “unborn child” is the euphemism there.

      • Emmali Lucia

        Actually we are using scientific terms. “Unborn child” is not a scientific term nor is it factually correct.

        If you want to turn this into a philosophical debate, then so be it. But don’t tell others that we are using incorrect terms or “Euphemisms” when you are the one using the most tired euphemisms around, they are tired and make you sound uneducated.

      • Panther2017

        You are the uneducated one. An euphemism is an attempt to make an unpleasant idea or act less so. I.e. Grandmom went to meet her maker. Instead of Grandmom is dead. Calling an unborn child a fetus supposedly makes it more acceptable to kill her in your estimation. It is nothing new. People in power seeking to kill or oppress human beings have done it throughout history.

      • Emmali Lucia

        Go ahead and look at any biology book. It’s not even a fetus until the end up 10 weeks, it’s technically in it’s embryonic stage.

        I have no problem agreeing with you about that last bit, but I think that making abortions safe, early, and cheap would help those historically being repressed (The poor who can’t afford to raise a child) be able to get an education and hopefully make money or a difference in the world if they so choose to. That’s also why I think birth control should be free for everyone everywhere, but that’s a whole other discussion entirely.

      • CB

        Fetus is a real word. Grab a dictionary and try to keep up.

      • Panther2017

        You first. See 3.

        child

        Use Child in a sentence
        child [chahyld] Show IPA noun, plural chil·dren.

        1.

        a person between birth and full growth; a boy or girl: books for children.

        2.

        a son or daughter: All my children are married.

        3.

        a baby or infant.

        4.

        a human fetus.

        5.

        a childish person: He’s such a child about money.

      • Thyme

        How many babies have you adopted? I want to see how much you donate to organizations to help care for all these babies that women are forced to have. Stop forcing your backwards rhetoric on the rest of us and step into the modern century. Science is science and science is fact. A group of cells is not a child, and the only person being oppressive is you.

      • Panther2017

        I don’t have to be willing to welcome an abused woman into my home to be against spousal abuse. I don’t have to adopt every child out there to defend a child’s right not to killed by an abortionist.

        Considering a week doesn’t go by that, that I don’t receive mailings from a children’s home, a children’s hospital, or a Pro-life group I must be giving them something.

        But those are all red herrings. The question is if it morally defensible to advocate that women be able to kill their children why they reside in the womb. The answer is no. Morality doesn’t change. It’s always wrong to kill a child. Always.

      • gothicgaelicgirl

        why don’t you adopt the baby so? what gives you the right to pass judgement on this case? I didn’t realise women had to report to you in relation to pregnancy. So in that case, let me inform you of something- people get raped. there is incest. there are mistakes made. are you saying you never did something you regret when you were 16? if this girl ends up regretting her abortion, at least she can know it was HER choice.

        I have always been s firm believer in “if you fuck up, learn from it. if you regret it, at least it was YOUR choice and you can learn”

        let me know how you adopting the child goes.

        ass.

      • Panther2017

        GothicGaelicGirl, you reek of guilt. Did you kill your child? Did you assist a mother in killing her child? Defending the killing of a child by their own mother is sick and barbaric. You are a sad excuse for a human being. Pathetic actually.

      • gothicgaelicgirl

        I am guilty of nothing. I have never had an abortion, but going to support a 14 year old friend of mine who was raped by her brother- that kinda made me pro-choice. I notice you didn’t answer my question- when is your adoption of the child going through?
        What would give you the right to force someone like my friend to have her rapists child? SHE WAS 14! HER BROTHER RAPED HER!

        I realise you must be one of those Bible Bashers. I would never wish rape on anyone but maybe one of your daughters will…have a slip and get pregnant. I wonder how you’ll support her emotionally.

        People like you are the reason we are so backward. “O you got raped? You MUST have the child. Ignore how it might affect you mentally, ignore how it might traumatise you or irreparably damage your mental health, you must have this child. Then when it’s born, well, you’re on your own.”

        It saddens me that people still have this attitude. What if your child was raped? What if your 14 year old daughter came home and told you she was raped?

        I am not arguing, I am genuinely curious since you are so set in your thoughts- I presume that means you would make your daughter have the child?

      • Gangle

        Ok, would you feel better if someone used your terminology? I’m cool with that. This teenager should most definitely have the right to intentionally kill and remove her unborn child.

      • CB

        We all are bunches of cells. A fetus, however, is a bunch of cells that can only exist while parasitically feeding off a living host who is in this case, a desperate teenager.

      • A-nony-mous

        Sorry but as an adoptee I have to disagree with you. Adoption is not a cure-all to abortion. For one, it doesn’t deal with the pregnancy itself which is often the problem. Two, even if you are fine going through with pregnancy and birth, adoption is difficult and carries it’s own risks for both the mother and the child.

        Natural (“birth”) mothers often face secondary infertility linked to the stress of losing their child. They often go through PTSD and depression.

        Many are coerced into placing their children up for adoption by family members, their religious community, the father of the child or society in general and young mothers are particularly vulnerable to this idea that an older, wealthier mother is better than them which simply is not true.

        Fathers are often shut out completely from the process and viewed as nothing more than sperm donors. Utah, South Carolina and Florida are particularly reknown for basically having zero rights for fathers to establish paternity or contest adoptions.

        Adoptees ourselves face huge risks. A recent study just came out that showed that adoptees commit suicide at a rate four times that of non-adoptees. Adoptees also have rates of psychiatric institutionalization sometimes 10 or 15 times that of non-adoptees. Also higher rates of use of all illicit drugs and alcohol. Minority children adopted into non-minority households face larger identity issues.

        There’s a scary pro-adoptive narrative that’s been fed to society for decades that borders on almost fanatical. Anyone who dares try to reveal that adoption, especially as it exists currently in the US, is largely a corrupt for-profit industry is flamed, shamed and smothered.

        Adoption can be wonderful but the idea that it is ONLY wonderful and a cure for 100% of abortions is misinformed and insulting to all adoptees who have suffered, been sold, been purchased and been part of this industry without our consent…often precisely because someone told our mothers the same thing you are…”Just put them up for adoption!”

    • http://itsmyworldcanthasnotyours.blogspot.com/ wmdkitty

      I guess slavery is back “in” this season, seeing as how women are being denied their basic human rights, all in the name of “life”.

      No woman, no girl, NO BORN PERSON should have their body used without clear, informed, ongoing consent. EVER.

    • pineapplegrasss

      the whole adoption over abortion… this really irks me. All I think when I meet or read anything from antiabortionists is..”how many unwanted children have you adopted?” Because as sad as it is, abortions are performed on unwanted children, for whatever the reason, they are unwanted. What happens to unwanted children? abuse, neglect, horrific stories we read everyday about what a monster human can do to a child. And the ones that are financial decisions? Go GOP- force them to have the baby as abortion is wrong, but then cut their foodstamps, deny them the chance of a good education, poison the water supply, heat up the earth…. wheres all the support and rightousness when it comes to the 16yr old taking actual care of a baby?

    • gothicgaelicgirl

      let the judge raise it…