‘I Can Do Whatever I Want With My Baby’ Says Moron Holding Her Baby Over A Railing In An Instagram Photo

shutterstock_149971097 (1)__1379181953_142.196.156.251Instagram user “RatMove13″ wants the world to know that she can do whatever she wants with her baby and no one can stop her. She thought it would be cute to illustrate this fallacy by holding her infant son over an apartment balcony railing and taking a photo. Wrong, dummy. You can’t do “whatever you want” with your son – and the police and child protective services can stop you.

Friends of 25-year-old Aisha Jean Clark called police after seeing the photo posted to her account. When the police arrived at her apartment, they asked if she knew why they were there. Laughing, she brought out her iPad with the Instagram photo on it. Yeah – that’s HILARIOUS.

“I was mad and I was making a point,” Clark told police. “I can do what I want with my baby. Nobody can stop me.” Methinks your friends may be giving you some tips on how to be a better parent and it’s pissing you off. Maybe you should listen. I’m going to give you one right now – Don’t dangle your child over a balcony railing to prove a nonexistent point.

A child isn’t an item that we own and can do with what we please. It’s a human being who just happened to enter this earth through our bodies. That is why I get so irate when I read stories of child neglect and endangerment. No one has the right to put a child at risk. Your child is a completely separate entity from you – and deserves to be respected as such.

From the Tampa Bay Times:

“This single act would reasonably be expected to have resulted in serious physical injury or a substantial risk of death to the infant,” an officer wrote.

Clark was booked in the Hillsborough County Jail on a charge of child neglect and held without bail. On Wednesday, her Instagram account was set on private.

I just can’t even with the news today. I’m going to go bang my head against a wall now.

(photo: Aquir/ Shutterstock)

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    • personal

      Maybe she’s now figured out that she can’t do whatever she wants with her baby without consequences, at least. Idiot.

    • Cee

      “I was mad and I was making a point”…because that is why people have babies.

    • ktz

      Just read the original article, she was holding him by one arm! What an idiot. Poor kiddo.

      • Kat

        What. I. Ugh. Want to kill her. Just saying.

        And I can do whatever I want with parents who can do whatever they want with their kids. Oh wait, I forgot there are LAWS.

      • Wendy

        How bout instead of killing her we just dangle her over a railing by one arm for a while? You know….until our arms get tired and we….oops….where did she go?

    • Blueathena623

      I’ve used the “he’s my baby and I can do what I want” argument, but that only involved putting wigs on him.

      • Emmali Lucia

        PICTURES. PICTURES NOWWW

      • Blueathena623

        So many wigs

      • http://twitter.com/mariaguido Maria Guido

        OH MY GOD. CUTENESS OVERLOAD.

      • Cee

        He can really pull off auburn (?) hair.

      • CMJ

        This makes me happier than Buster drinking a juice box.

        http://gifrific.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/05/Buster-Bluth-Excitement.gif

      • Annie

        This party is off the hook!

      • Wendy

        HOLY shit I LOVE it!

      • Justme

        I feel like we’re friends now.

      • Hibbie

        That first one needs to be an album cover.

      • brebay

        Oh, hell YES!

      • Emmali Lucia

        WHERE DID YOU FIND ALL THESE BABY-SIZED WIGS?!

      • http://www.twitter.com/ohladyjayne allisonjayne

        OMG WHY DID I NOT DO THIS TO MY KID????

      • Ptownsteveschick

        Haha, we totally used to put wigs on our baby too, but she liked it so no one said anything negative to us. WIG BABY FOREVER!

      • AugustW

        I may or may not have made videos starring my infant daughter lip syncing popular songs with the help of my finger on her lower lips. I CAN DO WHAT I WANT

      • Justme

        Mommyjacking time: the other day my MIL showed me this video of my daughter singing some kind of song – she couldn’t figure out what it was. I didn’t have the heart to tell her that I had taught my daughter Beyonce’s “Single Ladies” complete with hand gestures and dance moves. I CAN DO WHAT I WANT.

      • Blueathena623

        YES. I must do that soon.

      • Justme

        Sometimes I feel a bit “Toddlers and Tiaras” about it, but then I remember that I’m not shouting “get it girl” while she dances around, so I figure I’m safe.

      • Blueathena623

        Love it!

      • whiteroses

        I used that argument when I dressed my son up as Cupid (complete with wings) and had pro photos taken of him.

    • Emmali Lucia

      So the woman who held her toddler on the railing of the African Painted Dog exhibit, the same toddler that she dropped and he DIED. She’s trying to sue the zoo. She has no case because that was her damn fault.

      Now onto this news story, this mother should be sent in for psych evaluation because I’m willing to bet that she has PPD and this was a cry for help because she just got too overwhelmed.

      • Justme

        Please, please, PLEASE don’t stigmatize PPD any more than it already is. This woman put her child in harm’s way because she is an idiot, not necessarily because she is suffering from a debilitating mental illness.

      • Justme

        Who would down vote this?

      • Emmali Lucia

        Usually when I get that random downvote I just assume that someone pressed the wrong button on their phone or iPad

      • Alicia Kiner

        I was thinking of this exactly, and was going to post about it. Just to add, this happened at the Pittsburgh Zoo last November. When the the prosecuting attorney said the zoo was not at fault, she decided to sue. The zoo issued a statement saying point blank if she hadn’t dangled her son over the fence, he wouldn’t have died.

        The fact that she laughed at the police and CPS when they asked why tells me she’s a) clueless about the fact that they CAN in fact tell her what to do b) she’s a spoiled brat who doesn’t like being told what to do c) needs to grow up.

      • whiteroses

        Speaking as someone who fought PPD for the first year of my son’s life, I can say this. It was like being in a very deep, very dark hole. Most of us would never hurt our kids. Ourselves, maybe, but not our kids. What you’re referring to is an illness called postpartum psychosis that has a lot of features of PPD but is a completely different illness. PPD can be a deep, dark depression– but you don’t see or hear things that aren’t there or feel the urge to kill your child, as some women who have postpartum psychosis do.

        A woman with PPD can take care of her children and function well. A woman with postpartum psychosis can’t and shouldn’t take care of her children on her own.

      • Rachel Sea

        A woman with PPS also wouldn’t qualify her actions with, “I can do what I want.”

      • whiteroses

        Yes. Another important point.
        This woman is just a douchecanoe. Who does this crap??? Seriously!

      • Chrissy

        Honestly, I think she was probably just sick of people “telling her what to do with her baby.” She sounds like she’s conceited and not too bright, but I doubt she has postpartum anything. Some people are just kind of terrible and the only reason for it is…they’re terrible.

      • meteor_echo

        I mostly agree with you, except for the PPD thing. It, like other kinds of depression, is about feeling like a failure yourself, and is not the reason why women harm their newborn kids.
        Also, that one who dropped the kid off into the African painted dog exhibit is simply a fucking moron.

      • whiteroses

        Yeah. If your kid can’t see the exhibit— you move on to the next one. Not that hard. What you don’t do is lift your child over a net that protects them from carnivorous animals.

        A theme park near where I live has a wolf exhibit. My son loves looking at them. The only way that happens is if he either a)stays in his stroller or b) is securely in my arms with both my arms wrapped around him. I would never dream of holding him over the net. That’s five gallons of crazy in a three gallon bucket.

      • Emmali Lucia

        Yeah, I actually meant to write to write depression and just put down PPD instead because the TV show I was watching mentioned it. I was going to change it but then everyone’s responses would sound weird.

        Might just change it anyway because I don’t even agree that it was PPD.

    • Justme

      If Michael Jackson can’t do it, neither can you.

    • Amanda Stanley

      This—- “A child isn’t an item that we own and can do with what we please. It’s a human being who just happened to enter this earth through our bodies”

      I wish people would realize that the “it’s my child and I can do what I want with it” logic shouldn’t be applied to ANY situation that harms the child. It’s like when the child is in our uterus it’s somehow okay to kill it because we can’t see it there smiling at us. How is killing sustainable life (that wouldn’t be endangering the mother and babies life) legal?

      • Copperkroewe

        Oh no, I don’t think you will find many like minded individuals here. I don’t post very often but I have noticed that most posters and bloggers on mommyish are pro choice.

      • Amber

        Not the same thing at all. That life isn’t independently sustainable.

      • Amanda Stanley

        I think that’s what them entering the world through our bodies is all about- life comes from life. We’re all dependant on life giving things- food, water, cellular growth etc. A baby is even dependant on its mother after its born, she’s what can provide nourishment. If life is classified as independently sustainable then there is no such thing.

      • Amber

        Food, water, cellular growth, etc. are not other human beings with rights of their own.

      • noelle 02

        I thought the same thing. I thought the idea was that a baby is a part of the woman and therefore the woman has a right to do whatever she wishes with her possession. Why precisely does that change when the kid is outside the mom? The kid still needs mom to meet his or her needs. The child is just as dependent outside the womb as inside. Of course women believe they can do whatever they want with their child. That is what the pro-choice people shout from the rooftops.

      • Amber

        Pro choice isn’t about owning a developing fetus, it’s about women owning the rights to their own bodies.

      • noelle 02

        I honestly do understand your point. Really, I do. It just seems ironic to me that a site that touts the virtues of a mother’s right to do whatever she wants with her baby a matter of weeks before birth also focuses on how wrong it is for a mother to believe her newborn baby is her property. I understand that I miss the point because I believe an embryo is a person and should have the same rights as a newborn. I shouldn’t have commented, but I was surprised that someone else came away from the article with the same musings I had internally. Have a great evening!

      • Amber

        It really doesn’t matter if you think an embryo is a person and has the same rights as a newborn.

        No human being of any age has the right to use another human being’s body against their will to stay alive. No one has that right.

        If the only way you could stay alive was for me to give you a kidney, that’s just too bad for you. I don’t have to do it. I don’t have to do anything to my body to save your life or anybody else’s life because I am a person too.

      • noelle 02

        I could argue, but I think instead I will tell you that you have interesting points and are absolutely entitled to your very popular opinion.

      • Copperkroewe

        i totally feel you on the not commenting part. I read these articles everyday, and there are quite a few articles that i find interesting, i rarely comment because I know the response I would get from most of the everyday posters. I totally get what you are saying, and agree 100%. Iam not sure why I continue to read any of the articles because it seems very ironic and maybe even a little stupid that this is a site dedicated to parenting stuff but its also so very Pro abortion that it is sickening at times.

      • whiteroses

        Nobody’s forcing you to continue to read, tbh.

      • Copperkroewe

        really? I guess i didn’t realize that. thanks for clarifying for me.

      • whiteroses

        You’re welcome.

      • whiteroses

        You’re welcome.
        Look, everyone’s entitled to their opinion. But why start the debate when you don’t have to?

      • noelle 02

        Technically, copperkroewe didn’t. :)

      • whiteroses

        True. But it was handily sustained by kroewe’s judgement.

      • noelle 02

        I know I should find another site with interesting articles since I end up annoyed here (by commenters, not ordinarily the posts, ironically), but I do enjoy the articles so I keep returning. :)

      • Copperkroewe

        me too, I like a lot of them. I am pro life totally 100%, but I am also very liberal leaning on most every other subject, so I actually find myself agreeing a lot of the time on a lot of the articles, it is a double edge sword i guess.

      • CMJ

        Sigh, I know this probably doesn’t mean anything to you but being pro-choice does not mean you’re pro-abortion.

      • noelle 02

        Honest question here. Would you mind terribly explaining the difference? I swear, I won’t argue or respond or be disagreeable in any way. I have seen many different explanations as to the difference, but most are from really irate women and don’t make that much sense. I love your tone and would really love to hear your explanation, please.

      • Becky

        I’ll put my two cents in here. I’m pro choice. I don’t think abortion is ok, but it’s not my place to tell someone that they can’t have an abortion. It’s not my business, it’s not anyone else’s business either. The choice isn’t mine to make for someone else, that’s why I’m pro choice.

      • noelle 02

        Frankly, I agree with you. I have serious problems with abortions when the baby/fetus is capable of sustaining life outside the womb and feel that delivery should be induced instead, but I have no right to impose or legislate my opinions on anyone else.

      • CMJ

        Sure. Basically, I believe that a woman has a right to choose what she wants to do with her body. That means anything – if she wants to keep her baby – that’s her choice. If she doesn’t, it’s her choice. It’s not mine nor anybody else’s decision what she can or cannot do with her body.

        Believing in a choice doesn’t mean you have to believe in abortion. The overwhelming majority of women aren’t making the decision lightly. I also don’t believe anyone runs around saying – “yay! Abortion!!!” So, while I 100% believe that a woman should have access to abortion I don’t think that makes me (or a lot of women) “pro-abortion.”

      • noelle 02

        That is the most intelligent explanation that I have ever heard and I really appreciate your giving it without emotion to cloud the message. Thanks.

      • Peggy

        It took me a long time to come to this exact realization.

      • Blueathena623

        A baby needs someone to take care of it. Doesn’t have to be the mom.

      • whiteroses

        Please don’t turn this into a debate about abortion. Everyone’s allowed to have strongly felt beliefs, but this isn’t the time, place or article to express them, imho.

      • Copperkroewe

        I have been reading mommyish articles for over a year now, I very rarely post comments, and I have learned that anyone with a ProLife opinion is being “inflammatory”, or just trying to “troll”.

      • whiteroses

        Nope. I’m actually pro-life myself.

        Didn’t know that, did you? And there’s a good reason for it— because no one freaking asked. It’s inflammatory if you take a controversial subject and try to inject it into an article that it has absolutely nothing to do with.

        There’s a time and place for political arguments. This isn’t it.

      • Copperkroewe

        i don’t believe she was trying to inject anything into this article except her opinion, which is what this little box is for, right? Maybe phrasing the last part as a question wasn’t a good idea, but i don’t think she was trying to start a debate, just making a comment that IMHO does make sense in its on way in concern to this article.

      • whiteroses

        “I don’t think she was trying to start a debate?” Come on. If you know that the culture of the blog and the articles in it are distinctly pro-choice, then you also have to know that the comments probably will be.

        So you can’t be surprised when people ask you NOT to start an abortion debate in the comment section of an article that doesn’t mention the word “abortion” once. This article isn’t about abortion. Why deliberately open a can of worms just to get your opinion on an unrelated subject out there when a) no one asked for it and b) you know it’s going to be controversial?

        I get that you think this article is about abortion. But it isn’t. And no amount of mental gymnastics will make it so.

      • Copperkroewe

        Excuse me but I am pretty sure I did not post the aforementioned post that we are speaking about, I also stated that I didnt THINK that she (the poster) was trying to start a debate. I am unsure of her knowledge concerning “the culture of the blog and the articles in it” so I cannot comment on what her true intentions were, I said IMHO, which again is what this little box is for right? And obviously you don’t “get” anything, because I did not and do not think this article is about abortion, I simply can see the correlation that she (the poster of the post we are now post/arguing about) was trying to make.. And your little attempt at intellectual jabs with your mental gymnastics comments makes you look silly.

      • whiteroses

        I, at least, have yet to use sarcasm to make my points.

        If you didn’t think this article was about abortion, perhaps you should have made that clear without trying to pull other people into a debate about whether or not such comments belong on this article.

        I’m not arguing with you. She has every right to her opinions. But for the eighth time– this is not the place.

      • Copperkroewe

        No, right now it seems like the place where a person can only state ones opinion if it is worded in such a way that it is completely unrelated to any other personal opinion that may not be the actual topic of conversation,regardless of whether or not both feelings/opinions are actually related to the person posting their opinion, unless of course it is the majorities opinion as well. I don’t know if starting a debate was the point of her comment. I know that I was not trying to start a debate with my own comments, and I am sorry that you took it that way. Have a wonderful day.

      • whiteroses

        Majority opinion aside- there’s a time and place.
        Again- this wasn’t it.
        You have a good day as well.

      • Amanda Stanley

        I wasn’t trying to start some sort of flame war, I just figured the comments section was for thoughts on the article. The article led me to thinking about how many people who are disgusted with child abuse and fight for children’s rights completely disregard a baby in the womb.

      • whiteroses

        The thing is, though, that most of us don’t. If a pregnant woman is murdered, we’re outraged. Pro-choice doesn’t mean “pro-abortion”.

      • Amanda Stanley

        I don’t think you understand. I did not say, “Pro-choice=pro-abortion=horrible serial murderers grrrr!”. I was only commenting on what I thought to be an interesting trend in the thinking of those who are “pro-choice”. I am not here to argue on the Internet. I see that as pointless.

      • whiteroses

        As do I. My main point? As I said ad nauseum, there are many, many places to bring up an issue that’s so controversial. This was not one of them.

      • Amanda Stanley

        I just disagree with you.

      • whiteroses

        As is your right. But topics such as abortion really push people’s buttons. I would rather not see that happen here.

      • Amanda Stanley

        I’m uncertain as to why you’re so concerned about what I post on the Internet. Could you please just let’s have my opinion in peace and stop trying to tell me what you think is appropriate for the comments section of a random article?

      • whiteroses

        If it had been ANYONE, I would have said the exact same thing. And if you post something, then you get responses to what you post. That’s how sites like this work. I could care less about what you, personally, post. I have no vendetta against you and I won’t be following you from site to site to tell you that your wrong. The original comment is contextually inappropriate. That’s my opinion, which I am also entitled to.

        You get a right to your opinion- and when you make it public other people (me, specifically) get the right to tell you what they think about that opinion. Then others can either jump in and tell me they think you’re right, or tell me that they think I am. Or chime in with their own opinions. Or start talking about fluffy kittens or waterskiing corgis. Abortion pushes a lot of buttons. Most people on Mommyish are pro-choice. The article has nothing to do with abortion and can thus a comment like yours can be considered a bit inflammatory and trying to fan the flames of controversy where there previously was none.

        Look, you clearly don’t get it. So I won’t respond further. What’s the point?

      • noelle 02

        In all fairness, I think Amanda Stanley noticed the irony in the author’s stance and commented on it. I think she had an interesting point, even though this may not have been the best forum for it.

      • whiteroses

        I don’t disagree. But this article isn’t the time or place for that debate.

      • http://twitter.com/mariaguido Maria Guido

        Don’t use my words to frame an anti-choice argument, kay? Thanks.

      • Copperkroewe

        whether you like it or not your comments work nicely in an PRO LIFE argument, mmkay!! Thanks.. have a great day.

      • Copperkroewe

        I told you so

      • Copperkroewe

        i told you so

      • Blueathena623

        With the exception of back alley abortions, I believe there is usually a 20, maybe 24 week limit (except in cases of endangerment.) 24 weeks it generally the limit on viability. So abortions aren’t killing sustainable life.

    • The Great Queen Spider

      People need to stop treating their kids like pets, or like what was said, accessories.

    • whiteroses

      I bet she’s pretty surprised to be in jail- since he’s her baby and all.
      Here’s a protip. If you endanger your child and the cops come a-knockin’, you shouldn’t be shocked.

    • ElleJai

      I didn’t care when MJ did it because that looked like a very secure hold. The only difference between that and normal baby holding was a greater drop but you rarely drop your baby when holding them properly anyway (14 months drop free here).

      But one arm?! For a start she’s lucky she didn’t dislocate something on her baby. Secondly the chance of dropping your child is huge with just one damn hand on said child and then a giant drop. WT actual F?!

    • lisa

      There is a difference between responsibility and ownership. I have a purse and children. I own my purse and can do whatever I want with it. My children are human beings under my care. I have to consider their needs [such as safety], wants, likes, dislikes, effects something may have on them later including their self-worth and emotional well being. They are not puppets to suit my every whim. There should be an IQ and maturity test before some are allowed to have children.

      • DMH

        An IQ test wouldn’t really prove much, to be honest.

    • Rollergirl09

      Every day the news reminds me that I’m glad I moved out of Florida, specifically Tampa Bay.

    • Geogirl

      Huh, I cheated on breastfeeding whenever I found it convenient and still managed to successfully breastfeed four kids for a year+ each. Clearly breastfeeding and I had an open relationship.

      • Ptownsteveschick

        You need to write the poly amorous breastfeeding column now ;)

      • Geogirl

        Oops! I meant to post this over on the real or fake sanctimommy quote column.