facebook ipod touchMothers wringing their hands over “aggressive girls” looking to tempt their pure and upstanding sons with all that slutiness always seem to find outward displays of sexuality of the utmost concern. Duck face from underage harlots can be found across multiple social media platforms, all the better to corrupt their otherwise pristine sons with. Such is the dilemma for one mother of teenage boys, Kimberly Hall, who pens a personal blog post addressing “lovely ladies” who insist on sharing pictures of themselves with “the red carpet pose, the extra-arched back, and the sultry pout.” Mrs. Hall, as she signs, is disappointed in you ladies for posting images of yourself “in a state of undress.” Yet, accompanying this didactic post criticizing said undress are pictures of her own sons clad only in swimsuits. Double standard, much?

Kimberly, who says that she is the Director of Women’s ministry at All Saints PCA in Austin, TX, opens her letter, entitled “FYI (if you’re a teenage girl,” by pointing out what her sons actually see in these pouty images:

We have teenage sons, and so naturally there are quite a few pictures of you lovely ladies to wade through. Wow – you sure took a bunch of selfies in your pajamas this summer!  Your bedrooms are so cute! Our eight-year-old daughter brought this to our attention, because with three older brothers who have rooms that smell like stinky cheese, she notices girly details like that.

I think the boys notice other things. For one, it appears that you are not wearing a bra.

I get it – you’re in your room, so you’re heading to bed, right? But then I can’t help but notice the red carpet pose, the extra-arched back, and the sultry pout.  What’s up? None of these positions is one I naturally assume before sleep, this I know…

I know your family would not be thrilled at the thought of my teenage boys seeing you only in your towel. Did you know that once a male sees you in a state of undress, he can’t ever un-see it?  You don’t want the Hall boys to only think of you in this sexual way, do you?

Neither do we.

Kimberly alerts these ladies to the “bummer” ahead in that she sadly had to block these young ladies for all their exhibitionism, adding “if you want to stay friendly with the Hall men, you’ll have to keep your clothes on, and your posts decent.” But it would appear that the chaste standards to which Kimberly holds her son’s potential suitors, she, of course, does not hold to her own sons — such bearers propriety. Kimberly uses the image below to properly illustrate this slut-shamey double standard:

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I’m sorry, but do young men usually FLEX before heading into the water? To quote Kimberly, “None of these positions is one I naturally assume before” going swimming?

Truthfully, I’m really not all that concerned with what constitutes a “natural position” before swimming or going to bed or what have you — for either sex. But Kimberly clearly does, therein lying some super problematic and differing rule sets for young men versus young women. Once again, it’s solely on the young lady to keep that skin and expression in check while her male peers can run up and down the beach in their swim trunks and it’s still considered family friendly enough to post on a personal mom blog.

The real issue here is sexist perception and the fact that we’ve culturally deemed a young girl in pajamas as innately salacious, but young men in bathing suits showing off their bods is just a wholesome PG time for all.

“FYI (if you’re a teenage girl),” this is pot meets kettle, the slut shaming edition.

UPDATE: Kimberly Hall host posted a new version of her original letter, entitled “FYI #2 (the one where everyone’s covered up),” in which she has posted pictures of her sons not in swimsuits. 

(photo: givenbreath.comMehfuz Hossain)