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10 Must-Haves For A New Mom That Have Nothing To Do With Baby

new mom and baby craftSo, you’ve had a baby? If you are wondering whether anyone will every pay attention to you again, the answer is “no.” Get used to it.

I jest – sort of. After the baby is born, it’s all baby – all the time. Everyone wants to talk about the baby and bring the baby gifts. You may be left wondering where the hell your gifts are; I mean, you are the one that just grew and birthed a baby, after all. The baby didn’t do shit, am  I right?  Here are a list of things that you can get/do for yourself if you are a new mom that will make feel a little loved and pampered.

1. A killer robe

Get a robe. Not a thick, terrycloth bathrobe – something soft and silky. It doesn’t have to be satin if swank isn’t your thing – they make great modal cotton ones now, too. There will be various times when even putting on clothes seems like the most exhausting thing on the planet. Get a robe, and you won’t have to. This is one of those rare times in life when people don’t really question anything you wear. Go with it.

2. A nursing bra

Guess what? This doesn’t only apply to those who are nursing. Your boobs will probably still be really huge for a while, and there are some cotton nursing bras that are really comfy. I bought one that crosses over and allows your boob to just flop out easily when you need to feed baby. It is really comfortable. It may seem like is nursing bra is for the baby, but it’s not.  I can’t be the only one who has tried to nurse over an underwire bra. I don’t think there is anything more uncomfortable than squeezing your boob out of one of those. Trust me – get a nursing bra.

3. Fancy face wash

After you’ve had a baby, it can feel like your body is not your own. It may take a little while to feel like yourself again and that’s okay. One thing you can do for yourself is really care for a part of your body that hasn’t been ravaged by pregnancy – your face. Occasionally companies will send me samples of stuff because I write about mom-things for a living. After my pregnancy, a company called Belli Skincare sent me some face wash that rocked my world. Seriously – it made my skin glow and it was nice to indulge and care for something that had nothing to do with my baby – or my baby body for that matter.

4. An amazing lipstick

I am a firm believer in red lipstick. I think it looks great on everyone – even people who insist it doesn’t look good on them. If you’ve never worn it, borrow some from a friend, put it on, go out, and see what happens. I bet you anything someone will compliment you about how “great” you look. It’s normal to feel a little frumpy for a while after giving birth – and red lipstick is magic. It’s like instant glamour. I have a personal favorite – it’s made by Guerlain and it’s called “Rouge d’Enfer” which translates to “red of hell” or something equally as hot.

5. Yoga pants

A woman in yoga pants is one of the biggest “mom stereotypes” out there – and the brunt of many a mom joke. Who cares? Yoga pants are comfortable as hell. It’s like your clothing is giving you a hug. Who doesn’t need a hug?

6. Breast milk alcohol test strips

You have a new baby. You are exhausted. I bet you’d really like a nice glass of wine after a long day of mothering. Well, now you can have a second glass without freaking out about how big it is. If you ever think you’ve had a little too much, you can dip an alcohol test strip into your milk. If there is alcohol in the sample, give the baby expressed milk or wait a while and test again. Oh, and the whole “pump and dump” thing is a myth. You don’t have to do that. Alcohol leaves your breast milk the same way it leaves the bloodstream – eventually. No need to waste precious milk.

7. Some alone time

You are not a horrible mother if you leave your newborn for a few hours, understood? Leave the house by yourself without an infant tethered to you – it will do you some good.

8. Happy people and lots of laughter

Surround yourself with the right people. Your life is probably pretty intense right now. Make sure you make time for people who have a good attitude and make you happy. No soul-suckers allowed, even if they are in your family. You have a small window of time when you are a new mom to say whatever the hell you want – people still treat you with pregnancy-kid-gloves for a little while. Take advantage of this time to tell those that don’t make you happy to back the fuck off.

9. A spa day

Get a massage. Get a foot rub. Get a facial. If you can’t afford anything fancy – get a pedicure. Go out and pay for someone to focus on one part of your body and rub it down. You deserve it.

10. Wine, sushi, a triple espresso, fancy French cheese, deli meat, etc.

Don’t forget you can have all this stuff now. Do it. I advise you pretend that you still aren’t allowed to clean the litter box though.

(photo: DazzlingDelight)

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  • Katie L.

    I think I lived in my robe and yoga pants for the first month of my daughter’s life. If I’m being perfectly honest, I still wear them because they’re comfy as hell. Nothing is a sweet as taking off work pants and pulling on the warm embrace of yoga pants.

    I still don’t clean the litter box. The excuse I give is “But I’m going to have another baby someday, so it doesn’t make sense for me to do it now if I’m just going to have to quit doing it.” My husband is a saint.

    • http://www.twitter.com/ohladyjayne allisonjayne

      Oddly enough, being able to clean the litterbox again was one of the things I was looking forward to after being pregnant. Not that it’s a joy in and of itself, but because my wife doesn’t do it as often as I’d like and then our asshole cats pee on our stuff. Also, hell yes to raw cookie dough. That was one of the other things I was looking forward to. YUM.

    • DrStephanieDVM

      My sister still doesn’t clean the litter box. Her youngest is 8 and she’s not planning more :-)

    • C.J.

      I haven’t cleaned the litter box in almost 12 years. Since I got pregnant with my oldest. My youngest is 8 and we are not having any more. My husband kept doing it because it just became part of his routine and I didn’t remind him I could do it again.

    • http://twitter.com/mariaguido Maria Guido

      I’m seriously trying for this.

    • Ptownsteveschick

      My husband isn’t a cat lover, he told me that if I want to get a cat, I have to wait till our second baby is done with because there is no way in hell he is changing the litter box.

  • kay

    I made and froze a batch of cookie dough before my little understander was born, thinking “I can bake cookies whenever I want one this way!”

    What really happened was “I can eat raw dough at 2 am without worrying I am giving my fetus a tail!” I have no regrets.

    • SusannahJoy

      That is such a good idea! I need to do that. Because really, don’t we all need raw cookie dough at 2am?

  • Erin Murphy

    I think I am the only woman on the planet who can’t WAIT to scoop the damn litter box again. I love my husband dearly and he does a lot of things well but scooping the box isn’t one of them. More than once I’ve ended up wearing rubber gloves and just doing it because I hate to keep reminding him.

    • http://www.facebook.com/people/Jessica-Weber/1149485644 Jessica Weber

      Amen! I’ve got 3 cats and my husband PROMISED he would take care of the scooping for the whole pregnancy and an additional 6 months after because HE IS AWESOME! What he failed to mention is that he only felt the litter needed scooping once a week and cleaned once a month or so. Reminding him didn’t help because he genuinely thought a more frequent cleaning schedule was just ridiculous.

  • keelhaulrose

    My go-to gift for baby showers is assorted nursing stuff (pads, nipple cream, etc) and a season or two of the mom-to-be’s favorite show. Pop it in the dvd player, cue it up, and it’ll be ready to go at those 2am feedings to help stay awake.

  • Ptownsteveschick

    I told my best friend from high school that I will bring her a bottle of wine, because as the first one to have kids, it is the most necessary thing I can think of for a new mom!

  • Edify

    Gin and a stockpile of tonic because some days (like today) Mother needs a Little Helper

    • http://twitter.com/mariaguido Maria Guido

      I hear you.

  • Andy

    This article reminded me to get myself a new robe STAT-when I had my daughter I lived in Chicago and it was March, so I loved my plushy robe. Well, I now live in Texas and am due in mid October, when it can still be 90 degrees outside, so I want a nice soft knit robe!

    • http://twitter.com/mariaguido Maria Guido

      Yes! I found an awesome one at Target. I love it. It’s nice and soft and not to warm.

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