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Twinning: 10 Reasons It’s Easier To Have Twins Than Singletons

Having twins can be the most amazing experience of your life. It can also cause you to wake up in the morning wishing you were someone else. Twinning offers an honest depiction of life with twins from a mom who tries to keep things somewhere in the middle.

If you’re a mother of twins, phrases such as “You’ve got your hands full!” and “Double trouble!” become as annoyingly common as “Hot enough for ya?” becomes in summer. As a rule, people think having twins is very difficult, and I don’t plan on telling them any different. It can be hard of course, but it also has plenty of advantages.

1. One pregnancy, two children

twins sonogram

You are the queen of reproductive efficiency, skipping past the 10 months of morning sickness, bodily changes, maternity wear, and sobriety it will take your friends to create two babies.

(photo: Photogé-Nic)

 2. Built-in playdates

twin trolls

Every day is a playdate for your twins, which means less actual play dates you will have to organize.

(photo: m00n.mullins)

 3. Every effort is more impressive with twins

This doesn’t always happen, but more often than not, you’ll get props for any “effort” you undertake with twins. I remember walking into Bloomingdales with my twins in their double stroller and the woman behind the makeup counter gave me a free tote bag that she stuffed with free travel-sized cosmetics, because she “couldn’t imagine how hard it must be to get any shopping done with twins in tow.” Umm, about as hard as getting any shopping done with a husband in tow, but I’ll never say “no” to free makeup.

 4. You don’t turn into a kiddie chauffeur

messy car trunk

As long as you can enroll your twins in the same activities, you don’t have to race all over town, dropping kids off here and there, trying to remember schedules and appointments and work that in with your toddler’s naptime. Two kids + one drop-off  = ahhh.

(photo: Bugsy Sailor)

 5. Losing your “baby weight” is seen as a major accomplishment

Even though I gained less weight with twins than some of my friends did with their singletons, and didn’t do a thing to lose the weight once my twins were born, wearing my pre-baby clothes three months after they were born was hailed as some kind of story worthy of the cover of People. The praise was unwarranted, but nobody loves a compliment like a new mom of twins, so I happily basked in it.

 6. Twin moms always have an excuse

sorry game

Having a messy house, not getting stuff done, being stressed, forgetting appointments…you name it, it can almost always be explained with “I have twins…” Don’t ask me why, just take it and use it.

(photo: SHAG (Philadelphia))

 7. Two kids, one birthday party

twins birthday cake

Birthday parties are half as expensive when they’re thrown for twins. This is especially true if you rent a place for the party. Having thrown two separate parties this year at a karate studio and a ballet center, my wallet truly misses the days of combined twin parties.

(photo:  Sugar Dreams by Marvic)

 8. Kids who know how to share

captain dogs

Sharing comes easy to twins. Come time for preschool, you’ll be surprised by kids who have never even heard of sharing. Your twins will be the sharing stars, having been forced to share since they were born.

(photo:  bztraining)

 9. The Buddy System. For life

vintage twin girls

The buddy system takes some of the parental worry load off your back. You know that there’s someone looking out for your child—their twin.

(photo:  Mirror Image Gallery)

 10. Once it’s over, it’s over

old kids toys garbage

If you don’t have any more children besides your twins, you only have to go through the teething/diapers/terrible twos stages once. When your friends complain the second time around about any of these, you can say, “Oh I hardly remember those days!”

(photo:  garbagebabe42)

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  • cheryllage

    LOVE this, and concur 100%, Gloria! Number 8 was a BIG deal when the kids got to school….teachers were WOW-ed that they were “so good at sharing” amidst the tantrums of the singletons who’d not had the early “forced” training! ;)

  • peggy

    Yes, Yes, and Yes. Love how they always have someone to play with.

  • AlexMMR

    Yup! One of the main advantages I’ve found is that all of those lessons that are hard to teach children (like sleep training, delayed gratification) become easier to teach with twins. Why? Because going through the pain of the teaching process becomes easier than tolerating them not knowing these things for one more day. My babies were sleep trained around 5 months and I know a lot of singleton moms still having trouble with that at over a year old. And they are simply forced to wait every morning while I get one up and diaper changed before I can get the other one out of her crib. Waiting is second nature to twins.

  • 88Mwife

    Am I the only one who loves that fact that the birthday twins are named Berta and Samwel? Adorable!

  • Alicia

    My husband and I are planning to have kids in the coming years, I’d like only two and for all of the above reasons I hope it’s twins the first time around!!

  • BigBlue

    When I was pregnant with my son, I secretly hoped for twins. When he was an infant, especially between 3 -12 months, I thanked my lucky stars and all the gods that he was the only one. Now at 19 months I could totally see how having twins would be great. A lot of hard work up front for the advantages you listed in the long run.
    And that pirate dog picture totally cracked me up.