Toddler Boy Gets His Pink Headband Ripped Off And Called A ‘Faggot’ At Walmart , Says Mom

A mother thing Dexter Oh Good Lawd, gather around me people, better yet, gather around Katie Vyktoriah and her absolutely gorgeously adorable little guy Dexter, who is two, and get all hopping mad with us when you hear about what happened to Katie and Dexter at their local Walmart.

Warning: You will get extremely pissed off, as I am.

So Katie decides to head to Walmart with her two little ones. In her blog she talks about how Dexter loves wearing some of her things on occasion, and any mom with a toddler boy knows how boys do this, my own sons were very fond of clomping around in my heels or snatching my costume jewelry to wear or grabbing any number of my things to play dress up in. Katie explains how Dexter had wanted to bring his teddy with but yeah, like Katie needed to deal with two kids and a bear and everything else when she was wanting just to dash to the store, but when she tried to remove an old lacy headband of hers from Dexter’s head and he fussed she decided that it wasn’t worth the battle. I can so relate to this. Sometimes you let them wear the damn Spiderman costume or the tutu or the bathrobe over their clothing because it just isn’t worth the tantrum.

Katie goes to Walmart does her shopping, and according to her blog:

Soon enough, we were done with our shop and were making our way toward the front. As we passed through the produce section, two teenage girls began giggling and one of them asked, “Is that a boy or a girl?” I smiled and said, “He’s a boy.” I looked on at him adoringly as they continued to giggle.

Out of nowhere a big booming voice rang out. “THAT’S a BOY?!” The man was overly large with a bushy beard and a camouflage shirt with the arms cut off. He had tattered shorts and lace up work boots with no laces. I could smell the fug of cigarette smoke surrounding him, and there was a definite pong of beer on him.

“Yes,” I said simply, still smiling.

With no notice, the man stepped forward, grabbed the headband off of Dexter’s head and threw it to the bottom of our shopping cart. He then cuffed Dexter around the side of his head (not hard, but that is not the point) and said with a big laugh, “You’ll thank me later, little man!”

At the same time as I stepped forward, Dexter grabbed his head where the man had smacked him and threw his other hand forward, stomping his foot and shouting, “NO!” I got between my son and this man and said very firmly, “If you touch my son again, I will cut your damn hands off.”

The guy snarled at me, looked at Dexter with disgust and said, “Your son is a fucking faggot.” He then started sauntering out, but not before he threw over his shoulder, “He’ll get shot for it one day.”

Katie explains that people witnessed what happened, but no one approached her or said anything. This happened around a day ago and she still doesn’t know what to do.

I made my way to the front, still in shock, and I paid for my items and left. I did not report it to the management nor to the authorities, though I am considering doing both. But as I live in a tourist area, I doubt there is anything I can do to find the man – he could be anyone from anywhere.

 

No one should ever ever ever EVER (how many times can I add “ever” to this before Koa yells at me?) touch your child without your permission ever. No one should EVER call someone, much less a tiny little kid, a derogatory hate bomb like that. Poor Katie. Poor Dexter. I hope she reports this. I hope they find the man who did this. I am not sure what else she can do besides contacting the store and calling the police. I am sure they will have surveillance tapes of the incident.

I am so furious for this mom and her little guy. Can we all go to where she lives and hunt this creep down and lecture him for a few hours and make him apologize and give Dexter all of our hand-me-down headbands?

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    • Justme

      First of all, lets all understand one thing – wearing clothes or playing with toys that are traditionally of the opposite sex is NOT what makes a person gay.

      Secondly, it sounds like that guy had his own issues with gender and sexuality going on. Doesn’t excuse his behavior, but I think we can all agree with the fact that such a public outburst over a random toddler wearing a headband is not normal.

      And lastly, when children are so small they only understand what they are exposed to. For example, that little guy might not have had any concept that him wearing a pink headband was “wrong,” but now, by that mans outburst…he does. And that is truly the most unfortunate aspect of this whole scenario.

      Good on that Momma for standing her ground.

      • http://Mommyish.com/ Eve Vawter

        who doesn’t KNOW that? I guess creepy assaulty walmart shoppers ugh

      • Justme

        And I can’t even use the stereotype of the camo outfit because I think this mindset crosses ALL socioeconomic groups. One of my very preppy, wealthy friends (a guy) sends his toddler son to gymnastics but he refuses to call it “gymnastics” because that’s too “gay” he says. So he just says his son goes to “gym.” Right. Because those seven letters at the end of the word is the difference between you having a son-in-law versus a daughter-in-law. Ugh.

      • Shelly Lloyd

        I agree. One the families in my girl scout is rather well off and very urban, but the father is super macho man. They have 2 older daughters and a younger son. Well of course the younger son wanted to play dress up and barbie with his older sisters. But they were horrified and freaked out that he may “turn out gay” and would spank him whenever they found him playing with any of his sister’s dolls or dressing up in their clothes.
        Then you have my sister and her husband who are quite the rednecks–camo wearing and all who have 3 girls and 1 boy–the boy being the youngest. Growing up in a house full of sisters he carried a purse, played with dolls, and did make overs with his sisters. When anyone would question my sister and her husband about it and ask if they were worried he would be gay, they were just like “meh, he’ll out grow it when he gets to school.”

      • Emmali Lucia

        That little boy getting spanked for just wanting to play with his older sisters is making me tear up.

        I’m for spanking a kid when they get out of control but HOW IS THAT NOT CHILD ABUSE?!

      • http://Mommyish.com/ Eve Vawter

        That breaks my heart so hard

      • Psych Student

        Now we need to read about keelhaulrose’s husband again so we feel better! :)

      • http://fairlyoddmedia.com/ Frances Locke

        That’s pretty much my attitude with my son playing with his sister’s toys. And if he doesn’t grow out of it? So what? If he’s gonna be gay then he’s already gay because you’re born that way.

      • LiteBrite

        My son is in gymnastics because he loves tumbling, etc. I can definitely see the improvement in his balance and coordination, but when my BIL heard the kid was in gymnastics he was appalled. “Why don’t you put the kid in football or something more manly?” he asked.

        Well, first of all the kid is 5 1/2, a little young for football. Second, gymnasts are strong-ass mothers. Can you, the big macho guy, hang upside-down on a bar for 30 seconds or more? Yeah, I didn’t think so.

      • keelhaulrose

        My daughter has a boy in her ballet class. My husband and I went to watch during their show-off class, and a dad leaned over to him and said “I’d never allow my boy in something girly like dance.” My husband, without missing a beat, said “While all those other boys are out there running into each other your son is the only man in a room of svelte, flexible women. What’s the problem? They slap each others butts, he gets to dance with several different women. That just sounds like upping his chances.”

        There’s a reason I married him, even if those were five year olds he was talking about.

      • Tawnya Reid

        OMG keelhaulrose your husband is awesome!! I’m reading these comments just smh like what kind of planet do I live on.. and then boom there is your awesome comment that gives me a little faith. Thanks. :)

      • jsterling93

        I was a dancer all through high school. there was one guy in my class that was also a neighbor and friend. He danced until he was 18. He is most definitely not gay. He is now 32, married ,with 3 kids. He would sometimes get teased since this was Mississippi after all. He would remind the guys that he got to spend his afternoons in a room full of girls wearing tiny little Lycra outfits and helping us stretch.

      • Justme

        It’s kind of like the male cheerleaders in high school and college – they squarely have their hands on the rumps of cute girls a large amount of the time. I think those guys have it all figured out…

      • Daisy

        My dance teacher met her husband when he was a student in one of her adult ballet classes. She saw him hanging out in the hallway on the first day and assumed he had a young daughter in the class next door, but no, he’d signed up for her class. I guess one thing led to another from there, because they’ve been married over 30 years now, so I think it’s pretty safe to say he’s not gay!

      • That_Darn_Kat

        My son, 4 1/2, is in gymnastics, too. He has some major balance and coordination issues. He started gymnastics at the beginning of the year and he has improved so much in those areas! I had a friend in high school who was a male gymnast, that guy was much stronger than the football players.

      • Mystik Spiral

        Has your BIL never seen a male Olympic gymnast ffs? There’s more talent, athleticism AND manliness in one of those guys than an entire team of meathead football players.

      • Justme

        Exactly! Gymnastics when they’re so young is about following instructions, building balance and coordination, and developing gross motor skills and strength. My daughter is well on her way to being six feet tall (just like me) and I am understand that she will most likely NOT be a gymnast but I take her to class because all those basic skills are super important.

      • http://www.facebook.com/valerisexton.jones Valeri Jones

        Gymnastics, as well as ballet, make for phenomenal building blocks for football players. In gymnastics, they learn balance and coordination to help defend against tackles. And in ballet, they learn muscle strength and fancy footwork for running the ball 60 yards in one play.

        And, if your kid would rather do gymnastics or ballet…. So what? Do people not realize that there are male gymnasts competing in the Olympics and male ballet dancers on Broadway? Some people are so dumb.

    • EB

      This is so awful that it actually made me cry. Granted, I’m pregnant so take that for what it’s worth. But argh! Absolutely I hope she calls the police. He should be charged with assault and endangering the welfare of a child (or something). I’m not a lawyer or a cop but this must be a crime, no? If not it should be! You’re right. Now I’m mad.

      • http://Mommyish.com/ Eve Vawter

        WORD, I feel the same way and congrats on being pregnant

      • EB

        Thanks!

      • ChillMama

        It is not just pregnancy. I got teary too. The thought of anyone forcing their BS issues on little ones always gets me very upset. All kids will find out soon enough (unfortunately) that people are just rife with stereotypes and judgments. Let them enjoy the sweet limitlessness that is childhood as long as possible.
        As for people not saying anything during or after the incident…I am flabergasted. Geez, I say something to a waiter/waitress if I think a customer has been rude to them. Some a**hole cuffed this lady’s child?! Unthinkable!

    • Shelly Lloyd

      When you say “…hunt this creep down and lecture him for a few hours…” Would that lecture involve base-ball bats? Cause I’m not feeling very talkative this morning and would rather just show that asshole what I’m feeling instead.

      • http://Mommyish.com/ Eve Vawter

        OBVS

    • blh

      WTF. Seriously. I would’ve probably hit that guy and caused a shit show….unless I was too shocked to do anything. What a bastard. I have a 3 year old boy myself and he’s always getting into my things.

    • Fabel

      Oh wow, you are right that this would piss me the fuck off. I actually felt the adrenaline rushing. WHAT THE FUCK. Who ~thinks~ that way, first of all, & who the fuck does/says something like that to a stranger & her little boy?

    • keelhaulrose

      Congratulations on keeping your cool. I would have punched him the moment he cuffed my child, light or no. My husband probably would have left him unconscious on the floor.

      • Emmali Lucia

        I know, I’m thinking about the kids I used to babysit or my nephew, that dude would still be in the hospital and that child would still be eating ice cream. Haha

      • BBJim’s Mam

        Right?! I carry a black jack. I’d have had it out and across his knee with a quickness, and no thought. NO ONE touches my kids let alone hits them.

      • Justme

        I am assuming that when you say “black jack” you are NOT referring to a combination of a 10-card and an Ace, correct?

      • Rachel

        Exactly. I am hardly the type of person who flippantly talks about physically doing harm to others, but if someone actually had the nerve to just hit my son on the side of the head and then endorse shooting my kid? I would have pepper sprayed him.

    • TngldBlue

      I’m not one to always talk about going “mama bear” on people cause that’s kinda ridiculous but this would be a case where it would be wholly warranted. I shudder to think what my husband would do if someone had the audacity to put their hands on our child. This guy is a tool and I sincerely hope she reports this to the police.

      • Ptownsteveschick

        Oh god, I didn’t even think about what would happen if my husband witnessed that sort of thing! The thought makes me shiver.

    • LiteBrite

      Oh hell to the fucking no. I would’ve been hard-pressed to not go all mama bear on his camouflaged ass and might’ve got my own ass in big trouble.

      This made my blood boil.

      • Shelly Lloyd

        If that happened to you I think all of us here will be willing to bail you out of jail. :)

      • LiteBrite

        Sweet! :)

    • Emily

      Phew, we finally know that it is HEADBANDS that cause the gay! Thanks for ‘splaining it, jerky Walmart guy!

    • Erica

      What a horrible HORRIBLE thing to do to a little boy. I think she does need to report it to the police, let them deal with getting the tapes from Walmart. Calling 911 right after would have been appropriate. He hit the kid and ripped something from the kids head. This is not the same thing as McDonalds not giving you your chicken nuggets. Call 911 and then walk to the customer service desk to wait.

      • keelhaulrose

        Walmart has enough security cameras this douchenozzle was caught on at least one. Even if he’s gone by the time the cops get there, they’ll have his picture.

      • http://Mommyish.com/ Eve Vawter

        That’s what I think too

    • G.E. Phillips

      Fucking Wal-Mart, man.

      The other day, my son informed me that Spiderman was for boys and princesses were for girls. I told him that wasn’t true, and that girls can like Spidey and boys can like princesses or whatever they want. He said, NO, boys CAN’T like princesses. To which I calmly replied, “DO YOU WANT A PRINCESS? I WILL GET A YOU A PRINCESS! I WILL GET YOU A PRINCESS RIGHT NOW IF YOU WANT ONE!”

      Yeah, I think I handled that one well.

      • http://Mommyish.com/ Eve Vawter

        hahah RIGHT?

      • http://Mommyish.com/ Eve Vawter

        Face can do no wrong, he gets all the princesses

    • Emily

      Oh good lord. Poor sweet little boy! My dad isn’t as bad as this guy, just doesn’t like when my baby brother does this. He loves wearing dress up heels to clomp around in, and as we speak, I have a picture of him with a huge smile. And what’s he wearing? His favorite spiderman shirt accessorized with pink and purple sequined boots. He also likes to get his nails painted, because likes doing whatever everyone else is doing. Basically like every toddler. It doesn’t make him gay, or mean he’ll grow up to be gay. And so what if he did?

    • Melody

      I feel like you are more likely to get shot for assaulting other people’s toddlers than for being “gay”…

    • Tawnya Reid

      I’m just sitting here hoping that he doesn’t have children in his life that he is infecting with his chosen illness (because intolerance/hatred is a choice) and disrespect. I hope if he does, that they don’t turn out like him. So sad. Arrrghhhhhhh yea I’m officially mad. Haven’t even had a cup of coffee yet and I’m wide awake now thanks to that.

    • TwentiSomething Mom

      Wow. I don’t even know what to say. I want to find that guy and beat the crap at him for touching that little boy. Such a shame no one jumped to their defense. I hope he was visible on camera.

    • Suzie

      This. Makes. Me. FURIOUS. Also, just adds to my already very long list of reasons I never to go to walmart.

    • LadyClodia

      This just makes me sick to my stomach. Katie was so brave to stand up for Dexter like that, and that man was so completely out of line, it boggles my mind.
      My 4 year old currently has bright pink nail polish on just like mine, and his toe nails are painted green. He loves having the color, and it doesn’t hurt anything, so I’m happy if it makes him happy, but I do worry that someone might make an inappropriate comment to him about it. I mean, other kids comment on it sometimes, and that’s fine, and he’ll decide how much he wants to listen to what they say, and how much he wants to go along with the social norms he learns from them. But an adult imposing their bigoted ideas on kids is totally unacceptable and upsetting.

      • http://Mommyish.com/ Eve Vawter

        Both my teen boys have painted nails due to their sister. My boys always wanted their nails did as toddlers too

      • LadyClodia

        My younger brother always did too. Although, now I’d say that he’s the one most likely to make a snarky comment about my sons doing it. He’s weirdly homophobic too. *shrugs*

      • JLH1986

        My very macho brother who played “manly” sports throughout high school always painted his middle finger and thumb with nail polish (he purposefully chose these two fingers for their view when flipping people off so that might help). Not black all the time sometimes blue or green or whatever ridiculous color I offered him. His HS football buddies eventually got into it and THEY all started painting their middle fingers and thumbs. Only once did anyone say anything…and the 300 pound linebacker laid his ass out and reminded him if he was going to notice painted finger nails he was going to miss his giant ass running right at him.

      • Mystik Spiral

        My brother’s toenails are often painted because his only child is a 5-year-old girl. :D Pretty sure he’s not gay, just a good dad.

    • Kathy Burton

      As nice as it is that she stood up to him she should have called management and the police. He should have been arrested for assault.

    • Angela

      Ugh! I have to wonder what goes wrong in someone’s head to make them think assaulting an innocent toddler is morally superior to becoming a “faggot” (if in fact wearing a headband is any indication of future sexual orientation which is bogus).

      As a side though I totally think there are times that warrant toughing someone else’s child without permission. The other day at the park a little boy was about to dump a bucket of sand on my 20 month old’s head and I (gently) stayed his arm and explained that my baby doesn’t like sand poured on him. He threw a tantrum though and his dad went ballistic about me “disciplining” his son and warned me never to lay a hand on him again. Another time a little girl tripped right in front of my husband and he helped the crying child up and asked if she was ok. Then her mom flipped out and accused him of being a pedophile. There have also been times I’ve prevented children from doing something dangerous (like running into the street), assisted a lost child, etc which required unauthorized physical contact but was completely appropriate to the situation.

      Obviously I don’t think you were referring to these types of situations. When it comes to assaulting a child there is NEVER an excuse for it even WITH parental permission and of course we need to respect a child’s boundaries but it saddens me that we’ve taken this idea of no unauthorized contact so far as to make even rendering children necessary assistance taboo.

      • Angela

        OOPS! I meant “touching” not “toughing” in the first paragraph

      • meteor_echo

        I had another situation where I think touching someone else’s kid was warranted. A couple years ago, I saw a bunch of pre-teens torturing a cat – the poor thing was outright screaming. One of those kids ended up with a bloody nose, the other one was flung away. I’m not even sorry about it.
        The cat got some kibbles and ran away safely.

      • SusannahJoy

        What the hell is wrong with people that a man helping a hurt child is accused of being a pedophile?!? UGH!!

      • IgnoranceIsBliss

        I agree. I had it out with a mother at the playground once because her child was holding my 4 yr old son (who has asthma) face down into the mulch. I yelled for him to get off of him, and when he didn’t I went over and gently grabbed his arm, and pulled him off of my son. The mother wasn’t anywhere to be seen, but her 5 kids ran off, and came back with her 20 mins later, and proceeded to get in my face about touching her son. I told her she needed to watch her damn kids, and I have every right to protect my own child. Of course it’s completely different situation when some stranger just comes up out of the blue, and bullies your child. I don’t understand how an adult could behave so childishly.

    • KB

      Let someone make such an ignorant comment about my child, or really about anyone’s child….I’ll be in jail because I would kill a motherfucker.

    • Michelle Pittman

      what…a…butt hurting douchebag! it never crossed his mind that the child didn’t see a pink headband — he probably saw an alien costume, indian costume, etc.? and to the person who commented about the parents smacking their son for playing barbies w/his sister…SERIOUSLY?!?!?! what is WRONG w/people? grrrrr….

    • Smishsmash

      My toddler son wears a special type of hearing aid on a headband. We’ve never gotten anything this bad, but we have had a couple weird comments of the “is that a headband? Is that a boy or a girl” variety. Over a hearing aid. Why can’t people just mind their own business?

    • Scared

      Is anyone else concerned that this guy also apparently believes that the child will be “shot” if he grows up to be gay!?! This guy apparently believes it is okay to SHOOT gay people?! It sounds like there may be a larger problem than this one incident portrays.

    • Berker

      I wonder if my daughter had been playing with a monster truck – her latest obsession – if this would have happened. My guess is not. There is so much more sensitivity with boys playing with/wearing “girl” things than the other way around. It’s certainly very sad. I feel bad for Katie. People are ridiculous and sad and disgusting.

      • The Great Queen Spider

        I played with all the boys toys as a kid, never got shit for it.

    • Shelly Lloyd

      The blogger states that she is in tourist area and there fore she thinks this guy could be from anywhere in the world–but after going to her blog she is in Central Florida and as another resident in Central Florida I think it is entirely possible that that guy was not a tourist and it wouldn’t hurt to go to the authorities and maybe the press as well. While we do have TONS of tourist, esp. in the summer months, we also have a fairly large red-neck population. I have a feeling the guy who did that lives in the area and should be exposed for the asshole he is.

    • Rachel Sea

      Fucking Florida. If I had been a bystander, I would have RUN to call the cops, because the alternative would have involved nutting him with a hand-basket.

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    • Ringo Juna

      Was this reported anywhere else in the news? I realize that my questioning this will bring down the irrational hatred upon me, but it smells a little fishy to me.

    • Ptownsteveschick

      Sorry, this would be rage blackout time, and however big he was, he would see my fatass move faster than you would think possible and he would have no idea what was coming. I have faith in my ability to take his ass down. Not proud of violence, but there are some things where my internal switch just gets turned off and the control is gone.

    • The Great Queen Spider

      That guy probably has some serious personal issues to pick on a little kid.

    • Stephen

      It’s always annoyed me how a girl playing with ‘boy’ things is seen as cool, but a boy playing with ‘girl’ things is such a huge deal. He’s a fag, going to get shot…how disgusting. Well this little boy is absolutely adorable, gay or straight who cares? He’s going to be breaking hearts either way.

    • Bluenomi

      A guy once ripped a dummy out of one of my sibling’s mouth while telling my mother how dare she give a boy a PINK dummy. The irony was it was my sister who just happend to not have much hair! He was given a mothful by my mum as he deserved

    • Michele

      this can’t be true–if the mother did not report this guy who assaulted her son to security then she should be arrested.

    • Portia Mount

      This is where my alter ego Brooklyn comes out and I say, “Aww, hell no. You never, ever, ever, ever touch my son or I will Fu***king reach down your throat and rip your balls out.” Really she should have filed a complaint but good on her. I have a three year old son who loves having tea parties and wrapping up his teddy bear in a onesie as much as he loves his trucks. As parents we have to be secure enough to let our children play, explore and express themselves. The other thing I might add though is this is why I don’t shop at Wal-Mart. You tend to get the camo and ammo types there (at least where I live which is in the South – how’s that for a stereotype?).

    • slysnootle

      The story is either made up or something much less dramatic took place and the mother is exaggerating the incident for her blog. Use your freaking heads here, folks. This woman has been called out many times before for her over dramatized accounts of strange coincidences. Wal Marts have cameras all over the place but we’ll never see any footage because the mother conveniently doesn’t mention where this took place. Nothing in this story adds up.

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    • Porst

      [Actual reportable offense happens]
      “Hey I know! I’ll post it on the internet instead of contacting any authorities!”

      The above situation does not happen in real life.

    • michael

      x’D this is the funniest thing ive read this week

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    • RantOn

      *Stands up and slow claps* Thanks to that man who stood up for boys being boys. No male child should be wearing his mother’s pink headband. He’s right to call him a faggot, because any boy who wants to wear pink headbands or dress up in his mom’s attire, deserves to get called a faggot.