• Wed, May 22 2013

Depressing Conclusion To The Texas Rape Of An 11-Year Old: She’s Now 14 And Pregnant

Texas Child Gang Rape Victim Now PregnantYou all may remember the horrific case that happened in Cleveland, Texas where an 11-year-old girl was gang raped by 20 men and boys over a four month period. Despite the awful ordeal the girl went through and being taken by CPS and placed with a foster family for a while before she moved back in with her mother and her siblings, the girl is now age 14 and pregnant by her 15-year-old boyfriend and due in about two months. She plans on keeping the baby. From KHOU.com:

A girl who was 11-years-old girl when she was gang raped in Cleveland is now 7-months pregnant at age 14.

Twenty men and boys were accused of gang raping the girl in 2010.

Most of the suspects have pleaded guilty, or have been convicted.

The girl spent some time in foster care after the gang rape, but moved to Houston last August where she’s living with her mother, brother and sisters.

The girl’s mother said she learned about her daughter’s pregnancy last December.

“Well, when she came with the pregnancy test, I was like, ‘Go away, get away from me, I was upset,” she said.

The girl said she is nervous and that the father of the child is her 15-year-old boyfriend. She said she will be keeping the baby.

 

Her mother is upset? I’m upset! What this girl went through is so awful and terrifying that I’m not sure how she even had the time or opportunity to get pregnant, when I sort of assumed she would have been spending the majority of her time in therapy and her family would have been doing everything in their power to create an environment for their daughter where she could heal and get an education and move on from this. I know how judgy I sound here, and I am judgy about this because what happened to this girl when she was basically still a child, and she still is now, was so awful and dramatic and I have thought about her in passing and I always hoped for a better future for her. For all I know maybe her mom was doing everything in her power to help her daughter but wouldn’t that include keeping her from getting pregnant until she was older?

I know many teens moms are excellent moms and it doesn’t have to mean that having a child as a teen is a life-ruining situation, but this girl is such a young teen and she has been though so much and I’m not sure how she can even be healed from her assaults, much less be in any mental or emotional state in order to raise a child. I’m blaming her mother. I don’t know how she could let this happen. And what will become of the young girl and her baby now? When a rape victim moves on from her (or his, but I am speaking about a young girl her so I will keep the pronouns accordingly) victimization and decides to start a family it’s a wonderful, healing time but you can’t expect me to believe this young girl is in any way ready to become a mother. Being a teen mom is challenging enough as it is without the recent history of a gigantic gang rape. This poor girl. I want to enroll her in school and get her some excellent therapists and birth control and fix her or at least support her in some way. This news sucks so bad. Excuse my in-articulation but this is just about all I can come up with.

I’ll be in the corner frowning and clutching my pearls.

(Image: KHOU)

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  • Life-Sized Mommy

    The mother doesn’t sound like the most supportive or loving person, by her own words. “I told her, ‘Go away, get away from me.’”
    Can you imagine being a “typical” (if there is such a thing) pregnant teen, going to your mom, and having her react like that? Much less after what this child has gone through.

    • http://www.xojane.com/author/eve Eve Vawter

      I am having such a hard time wrapping my head around this. Yeah, the mother sounds like she is disappointed, that makes sense. no one wants a pregnant 14 year old. but in this context it’s almost like she is sort of victim blaming her own daughter in a way.

    • http://www.whatwouldshethink.com/ Rachelle

      I hate that my first reaction was to want to slap the mother. Yes, I would be fuming on the inside, trying to find translations for all the expletives possible just to have more available in my vocabulary, if my 14 year old daughter came to me pregnant. But I definitely wouldn’t tell her to get away from me. Especially not with her history. Jesus, woman.

      This girl, I just want to hug her. And then build a plan with her. Adoption would be first. I remember when I was 23 years old, in a really bad situation, and pregnant and both my parents offered me support and talked about possible outcomes while being extremely sensitive to my own fragile state. Thankfully I made the right decision back then, and have lived an amazing life since then thankfully.

      I hope this teen gets the great outcome she deserves. It’s not a conclusion, just a very different chapter.

  • crankylex

    Where was the parental supervision when the 11-year old was being repeatedly gang raped, and where the hell was the supervision when the 14-year old was getting pregnant? Maybe this kid was safer in foster care.

    • http://www.xojane.com/author/eve Eve Vawter

      well, it was already established back when the NYT ran their rape apologist article that plenty of people asked the same thing. But OK, so once your child is put through that level of hell how do you ever leave her alone long enough to get pregnant? :( I do not get this at all

    • http://www.facebook.com/houde.veronique Véronique Houde

      I think that, at some point, you hope for your daughter to have a semblance of a normal life, and that sometimes means that you let your daughter go out with her friends. If my daughter had been through that and then was able to build a romantic relationship (albeit we don’t know how functional it is), I think i would be relieved and happy. However, I do think that I would try spending lots of time trying to discuss boundaries, respect, etc. Does that mean that she would listen though?

      Unfortunately, there is no amount of control that can reign in a teenager that wants to see a boyfriend. Perhaps the mom was neglectful, and perhaps this teen really just wanted to have a normal life?

    • A. Levy

      Where the hell were the 20 sets of parents of the 20 boys who raped her?

    • http://www.xojane.com/author/eve Eve Vawter

      word!

    • crankylex

      I agree 100% with you. But my overall point is clearly this is a child who is at risk on several different levels and is not being kept safe by any responsible adult.

    • http://www.facebook.com/valerisexton.jones Valeri Jones

      They weren’t BOYS who raped her, from my understanding. They were men. Adults. It was said during her trial by one of the pigs’ defense lawyers that the girl was “soliciting sex” online and that she “asked for it,” therefore he wasn’t guilty of raping an 11 year old girl.

      Just typing that makes my skin crawl.

    • A. Levy

      From NYT: “the suspects range in age from middle schoolers to a 27 year old.”

    • http://www.facebook.com/valerisexton.jones Valeri Jones

      That’s right. I forgot about the sheer number of them. I just remember reading about the defense of one of the men who said she had solicited sex and his lawyer trying to say that she was by no means an innocent child. That’s the part of it that’s really stuck out in my mind.

    • A. Levy

      Every detail about this incident is saddening and sickening. I can understand blocking some of them from memory.

    • Makabit

      The layers of evil in that statement are almost awe-inspiring.

    • http://www.facebook.com/valerisexton.jones Valeri Jones

      I know, right?

  • Vikky

    This is what abortion is for. All you anti-choicers scream all you want, but 14-year-olds should never have babies.

    Also, why wasn’t she still under psychiatric care–and did the psychiatrist know she was dating?

    • http://www.xojane.com/author/eve Eve Vawter

      I feel you 1000000000%.

    • KatieLady

      :( it must be known that ‘psychs’ and counselors are not free forever.. im sure she had SOME counseling or psych time, but after her initial time that probably was state paid for, for only a short time, if the family couldnt afford it, she probably didnt continue…if the family didnt have that included in any of their insurance ((which it isnt in public aid insurance)) then she most likely didnt continue. working with public agencies, its a sad truth that since it has been 3 yrs since the initial incident, she was no longer bound to stay in counseling , esp. with her state change.. all kinds of wrong happen when people move states. :( its a sad truth about our system in America…

    • http://www.facebook.com/houde.veronique Véronique Houde

      and maybe she didn’t want to be in counselling anymore? teens + counselling does not always equate

    • diablo

      Vikky,

      You are stupid. What is your IQ?

  • http://twitter.com/TwAlexLee Alex Lee

    Compound the “mom” with the fact that this is in Texas, one of four states that will not cover birth control under the Children’s Health Insurance Program. They have the most-restrictive policies surrounding birth control and, curiously enough, the highest rate of teen pregancy, teen births, and yes REPEAT pregnancy.

    http://www.ehow.com/list_6927542_texas-birth-control-laws-teens.html

    I’m all for re-socializing this child back among her peers – she can’t be relegated to an institution at such a young age. If you don’t want birth, then allow and provide effective birth control.

    Instead, the populace can point and shame this poor family.

    • http://www.xojane.com/author/eve Eve Vawter

      I am pointing and shaming :(

    • http://www.xojane.com/author/eve Eve Vawter

      I am pointing and shaming :(

  • Kat Hudson

    This young lady needs so much more help than she is getting. Her family has utterly failed her. It sounds to me like her needs in recovery from her horrific rape have been ignored by those closest to her. There is NO WAY she has recovered from what has happened to her. This family needs an intervention.

  • Rachel Sea

    Maybe she should have stayed in foster care.

    I hope she gets support through all this, but I expect she’ll be just another statistic, as will her child.

    It’s just heartbreaking all around.

    • Makabit

      Girls in foster care also get pregnant.

      I cringe at the idea of pushing away a child in a situation like that, but I have no idea who this mom is, or what she’s been through, or how she sees this. I don’t know how old she was when this daughter was born. This is a woman who’s had to sit in court and hear some sneering asshole say her eleven year old daughter wasn’t innocent. I suspect she doesn’t live in an easy world.

      I suspect this kid was being set up to end up pregnant at fourteen long before she became a rape victim.

      I really hope for the best for her and the baby. May they gain strength from adversity, and not be crushed by it.

    • Rachel Sea

      That is all true, but it’s hard not to what-if. What if she hadn’t gone back to her mother, or the community that vilified her? What if she had gotten intensive therapy? What if her mom had guidance on raising a victimized child, and skills training on how to break the cycles that lead to teen pregnancy?

      It’s a horrible reminder that many families lack resources to raise a physically, mentally and emotionally healthy child, and the social safety net is too full of holes.

  • A-nony-mous

    I’m not going to crucify the mother. Teens can be extremely willful and deceitful. Even with her history it’s unrealistic and even unfair to the girl to basically be shackled to her mother 24/7 even in the name of ‘safety’. No one can predict rape. If we could it wouldn’t happen. I don’t blame the mother for that. Nor do I blame her for the pregnancy happening. How many times did you lie to your parents as a teenager? Tell them you were going to a friend’s house but went elsewhere? Was the mother supposed to attach an ankle monitor? Never let her out of the house until adulthood? Stand beside her everywhere she went?

    It’s incredibly unfortunate the situation she’s in but the choice should remain hers. As strange as it is, this may be just what this family needs to join together, heal, force some stability into their lives. Children can bring so much joy and love even in the most heartwrenching situations. She has her family there and she is likely still in contact with various government agencies such as Child Services who will monitor the situation as well.

  • Chibuikesmith

    I think that This child is facing a Lots of Problem after the Rape .

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  • Yves

    Clearly, there were family issues before, on top of the gang rape issue – the girl was placed in foster care after all. We’re not talking about an upper-middle class family with all kinds of money to spend on therapy and education to actually understand the scope of what happened and what should be done for the girl. And she lives in TX . This girl honestly sounds like she was a future teen pregnancy statistic even before the horrible rapes happened. And now the teen pregnancy has happened.

  • Heather

    It’s unfortunate that this day and age, everyone lives their lives in an open book. Unless you’ve lived through traumatic sexual abuse it’s hard to understand. I’m sure she felt worthless, ugly, at fault, and stupid for ever letting this happen. The biggest issue is that these girls place the blame on themselves and devalue sex. She likely met a boy who told her she was beautiful, who she trusted and felt safe with. Without a support system in place I am not shocked to see she has wound up in this position. Having sex with someone who cares for you after having already been raped by 20 men, I’m sure, did not seem to be a bad idea at the time.

    Frankly, I understand everyone’s concern for this poor girl. I also see that her mothers initial reaction was inappropriate. And I’m sure everyone judging right now has never said something inappropriate in moments of extreme emotional upset. Certainly all of you are professionals with a deep understanding on PTSD. Of course you’re outraged, everyone knows every teenager is easily controlled and teen pregnancy is only ever the result of negligent parenting.

    Just my two cents, but judging now will accomplish nothing. If someone were interested in helping this poor girl, why doesn’t someone in her area start a drive for her? Fundraiser and provide her the means to afford day care for her child. To afford college. Diapers, formula, clothes. Sit there and judge, or do something to help people like her. We’re all big girls, I’m sure we can all think of something better to do with our time.

  • Nate

    not really sure how this is a “conclusion”

  • kaeli

    You can’t judge the girl or her mother for her finding the time to get pregnant with consensual sex with her boyfriend. Most of my friends have had a non consensual sexual experience and I have also been raped by both a boyfriend and a acquaintance, it is extremely common to react by seeking out sex with both your attacker and other males. It is a way of attempting to take back that control that was stolen from you. No one should be blamed for her choice to have consensual sex but if you are going to blame anyone, blame her attackers.

  • SickofIgnorance

    This article should be taken down because the author is obviously highly uneducated about rape and sexual assault of children and young people. If she had done any research at all, she would have found that young people who are sexually assaulted often become promiscuous. This is a well documented result of rape at a young age. Another result is that the victim could become absolutely terrified of intercourse and not participate in it for long periods of time. Once raped, one is never the same; no matter how much therapy they have. Those who have no idea what they are talking about should not go around passing judgement. Why don’t you focus on putting an end to rape instead of picking on this teenager survivor?

  • Jamie

    I think what is making people sick is that an 11 year old girl was (still is, obviously) sexually active. This is their culture. That’s why it was never condemned publicly, and the perps were outright defended. These incidents are trophies in their world. That girl never knew what rape was until authorities defined it. Outside of that it’s just what they do. Listen to the songs, they talk about this stuff all the time. Unless you’ve been living under a rock, nothing here should be a surprise to you.

  • equeecia

    why do young girls have to be the ones that suffer i know what it is like to be raped

  • equeecia

    life should not have to be so hard

  • Katherine

    THink about it for a minute…. This girl who was raped at 11- thought she was a willing participant. So although it was rape and she was being traumatized- It tells me that it was probably her being RE-traumatized. Healthy 11-yearold girls don’t seek out sex from men. I bet she was sexually abused already- so it is no surprise her mom is like this…. Wouldn’t surprise me if all this girl knows is trauma…. She needs someplace safe.

  • Manie

    Judging by all events pertaining her case, I think she is sexually hyperactive. Most girls her age even adults who experienced less of the so called rape would run from men and need therapists to help them pull through.