Twinning: Playgroups Are A Life Line

life buoyHaving twins can be the most amazing experience of your life. It can also cause you to wake up in the morning wishing you were someone else. Twinning offers an honest depiction of life with twins from a mom who tries to keep things somewhere in the middle.

Playgroups are an essential part of parenting these days — a part that moms of multiples can benefit the most from. Getting out and interacting with other adults can be difficult in the early days with twins. But a playgroup filled with other twin moms, plus lots of little dynamic duos to play with your own set, can help make the early days of parenting easier and more enjoyable.

The twin playgroup I joined when my twins were about 10 months old turned out to be a lifesaver for me, and six years later I’m still in contact with all the original mothers. Our group consisted of seven mothers and 14 babies, so there was never a dull or quiet moment. There were actually so many unfinished conversations that we’d often have a follow-up group email afterwards, giving everyone a chance to finish the thoughts that had been interrupted by a fall, a bite or a diaper change.

When the women in my playgroup met, we were all first-time moms with twins under the age of one. We were tired, still getting over the shock of how much work infant twins were. But we had weathered the storm and were thrilled to be in the company of other women who had done the same.

I have to admit that I was the biggest slacker of the group—always late and the first to bail on account of anything. The thing was, that as my twins got older, hanging with them by myself got so much easier. They would sleep late, play nicely with each other and were angels to take out shopping. So as they got older, I went from “Must get to playgroup to maintain sanity” to “Playgroup would be fun, but the three of us could all just hang here too.”

One of our playgroup moms was so ultra-social and had kids so hyper that she was actually in two playgroups—ours and another one filled with moms of singletons. It worked for her. But if you’re a mother of twins looking to join a playgroup, my advice would be to join one specifically for multiples. Your twins will get all same socialization benefits that they would get from a twin playgroup, but it’s the mothers who really benefit from being with other mothers of twins. Not that moms of singletons have such drastically different experiences, but while you’re muddling through it all, it certainly feels like they do.

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