Gwyneth Paltrow Says The Key To A Strong Marriage Is Neither Party Asking For A Divorce — At The Same Time

Gwyneth PaltrowDespite her marital advice on squabble-diffusing blowjays, Gwyneth Paltrow says that her marriage to Chris Martin can be pretty tough. Like all relationships as the old adage goes. They may have been together through two kids and nearly 10 years, but it certainly hasn’t been a cake walk. According to Gwyneth, there have been “terrible times” in the Paltrow-Martin household.

Gwyneth reportedly told Glamour U.K in the June issue that she and her husband are very different people. She describes herself as a “very grounded, homey person” and her husband as “a very mad scientist, genius songwriter.” It’s apparently for that reason that she chooses not to impose any restrictions on his time:

 ”So I never say, ‘Where are you? You should be home by now.’ I never place demands on him because I think he’s a really talented man and he’s putting something good into the world.”

Gwyneth walks through the standard talking points of “it’s hard being married,” “we’re the same as any couple,” advocating hard work and all that. But in these times of great marital strife, Gwyneth once went to her late father for advice who brought up the issue of timing:

“I asked my dad once, ‘How did you and Mom stay married for 33 years?’” she tells the mag. “And he said, ‘Well, we never wanted to get divorced at the same time.’”

“I think that’s what happens,” she continues. “When two people throw in the towel at the same time, then you break up, but if one person’s saying, ‘Come on, we can do this,’ you carry on.”

I guess timing really is everything?

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  • EmmaFromÉire

    Screw the people who don;t like her, I find Gwyneth absolutely hilarious. Yeah, she doesn’t even seem vaguely aware most people cannot afford to dress head to toe in chanel, but she says some absolutely deadly things.

  • desiree

    I, along with hundreds of others, feel what she is going through. I admire my very wise daughter, for she knew when to walk away for the sake of her daughter, my granddaughter. Her husband was a cheat and a sexual addict. No one was aware of this, and I can’t even say he was totally to blame, for It was his father who exposed him to pornography when my son- in- law was a very impressionable age of 6 years old It took a couple of years for my daughter to realize why he was behaving in such an odd manner. . It was extremely difficult and painful to divorce her husband of many years. She tried everything from meeting his insatiable demands to having faith in their minister to help them with marriage counseling. along with group therapy. My daughter gave, tried , every resource to give their marriage every opportunity to keep their marriage as the main focus. It didn’t work, but she tried, and I believe he did as well, but he was so far into sex addiction. In the long run what was best was for her to leave him, but still have the grace to let him in their daughter’s life. The father remarried, had another child, and with God’s blessing all will work out well. WHY, because my daughter wants what is best for her daughter’s well being. May God’s blessing be with all of them.