Nature’s Purest, a UK-based company, polled 2,000 new moms to see how their social behaviors changed after the birth of a child. Surprisingly (to me, anyway), most new moms admitted to increasing their social circles after the birth of a child. More than half of the 2,000 mothers polled admitted it was easier to bond with other women once they became a mother. The Daily Mail reports:
53 per cent of new mothers felt it was surprisingly easy to make friends after having a baby, and 70 per cent of those said it was because they had so much ‘in common’.
The study also found 16 per cent of those who took part in the poll said they had a better social life after having children as they had so much more free time to meet up with people.
I get the “having more in common” part – but having “so much more free time to meet up with people?” Seriously? Yeah – I’m doing something wrong.
Most of these women are meeting other mothers in playgroups and childcare classes. Admittedly, I didn’t participate in a lot of those. I will say that the few times I did meet a mother I liked, we sort of desperately clung to each other like some sort of buoy in a flood. I seemed to strike fast friendships with the few new moms I did make. I think you are definitely more inclined to quickly swap phone numbers in that scenario.
I think my biggest problem was living out of my social circle. The neighborhood where we lived for the first few years of my child’s life was filled with affluent city-couples I didn’t have much in common with and single professionals that I always seemed to click with more. I worked at night, and during the day it was usually me and a bunch of nannies at the park.
Now that I have moved to a more suburban existence, I am already looking into some playgroups and such. Frankly, I have no friends here yet, so I don’t really care if the ones I make are moms or not. I just want to meet some women to hang out with on occasion. Maybe that’s my problem – I’ve never really prioritized making “mom friends,” I’ve always just tried to connect with people I like.
A spokeswoman for Natures Purest, the company that commissioned the study, said: ‘There is a misconception in society that starting a family will mean you are stuck indoors but it’s simply not true.
Our research shows the opposite – becoming a mum can do wonders for your social life as there are so many groups and activities to become involved with.’
Okay. I’ll take your word for it.