• Tue, Apr 2 2013

Twinning: ‘Mommy And Me’ Classes Are A Bust

mommy and me classes

Having twins can be the most amazing experience of your life. It can also cause you to wake up in the morning wishing you were someone else. Twinning offers an honest depiction of life with twins from a mom who tries to keep things somewhere in the middle.

Once you become a mom, a lot of people will tell you it’s important to get out of the house and meet other moms. Taking a class with your baby will accomplish both. It’s good advice, but it’s a bit harder to follow if you’re a mom with infant twins.

First of all, don’t be disappointed if you’re not allowed to sign up. Sad as it sounds, many classes such as baby gym classes (like Gymboree) and swimming lessons have a one adult to one baby requirement. This works out for the stay-at-home-mom with a live-in nanny, women with partners who can take time off, or women with agreeable relatives living nearby. But it’s not such a great deal for the rest of us.

One of my friends hired a babysitter to come to baby-gym classes with her, but personally if I’m paying for a babysitter, I’m going shopping or out to dinner.

While I completely understand that 1:1 is obviously mandatory for swimming lessons, I do think twin moms should at least be allowed to try out other classes in non-life threatening situations like baby gyms or music rooms.

Many of my twin-mom friends who experienced the 1:1 ratio shut-out were pretty pissed off about it. They thought it was unfair and felt sorry for their twins because they weren’t getting the same experiences a single baby would. As mothers of twins, we spend our days and nights taking care of two babies, so to have a baby gym tell us “No, you can’t provide adequate care for your two children” is an insult.

While it’s frustrating to spend time looking into a program only to find out the door is shut in your face, I wasn’t sad for too long. I usually take The Path of Least Exertion in all situations, so I wasn’t too upset that I didn’t have to schlep two infants around a germ-filled, padded room, or that I didn’t have to wear a bathing suit in front of other adults only months after giving birth. I had a fleeting moment of disappointment, and then I moved on.

I did want to try a class with my twins though, so I decided to bring them to Story Time at our local library. It’s a free program, so I figured if it didn’t work out, I just wouldn’t go again.

And it didn’t work out. At all.

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  • http://www.facebook.com/houde.veronique Véronique Houde

    I kind of call bull on not being able to make friends in class when you only went once… ;) And as for the music class, what else did you expect the teacher to do? Swing out the pianos and teach you all heart and soul? lol

  • Stephanie

    I agree…sort of :-) I didn’t do any classes until my twins were almost 1. I also have the luxury of my husband coming to class with us most of the time. We go to The Little Gym and especially since they’re now walking I can do it alone.

  • Cheryl Lage

    We did B&N storytimes, in the double stroller. They could both see, I could interact with them (no other adult needed) and FREE! Best of all, if they went ape, we unlocked the wheels and could high-tail it out without disturbing others! :)

  • competitivenonfiction

    I just saw a mom at baby boot camp and my immediate thought on her pushing twins in a stroller up a hill (running) was that the rest of us were not nearly as hard core. Also – by the time the class got back indoors for strength training, the babies and toddlers were so deafening. There was absolutely no need to worry about your kids “disturbing” anyone. Any mom who would be in a class like that and judging someone’s kid(s) for noise would be a hellava piece of work.

  • CK

    I’ll be honest, some of the reasons you mentioned are why I haven’t brought my daughter to any classes, and she’s a single child. We’re going to start going to the library next week as I’ve seen her interact with other kids, and she really enjoys it. If I had my way, though, I’d just let her loose in the backyard.