• Fri, Mar 22 2013

I Wonder How Jennifer Lopez Squares Motherhood With A Collaboration With Chris Brown?

jennifer lopez and chris brownJennifer Lopez has never been my most favorite person in the whole wide world, but she never really bothered me. I didn’t even see Gigli, so there’s no reason to hold a grudge over that nonsense. I find the whole “still from the block” bit to be a little absurd, but whatever floats her boat. Then, I saw the news that she is most likely collaborating with Chris Brown on her next album. Now, from one mom to another, J. Lo is kind of dead to me.

I realize that the Chris Brown hatred has been done. I think it’s a generally accepted idea that people are either fans, or they really, really hate the young musician who beat his girlfriend Rihanna to a pulp. We all know that Rihanna has forgiven her ex, as they seem to thoroughly enjoy stoking outrage with musical collaborations featuring extremely explicit lyrics and racy Instagram shots. But honestly, that doesn’t mean that the rest of the world suddenly needs to be supportive of a man we find morally repugnant.

More than that, viewers and fans have a right to turn their backs on anyone who chooses to associate themselves with people who disrespect and abuse women. And that’s a right that I’m happy to exercise against Jennifer Lopez, who seems perfectly happy to pose with this man for pictures and work with him professionally.

J. Lo has twins, Max and Emme. And I have to wonder how she would feel if it were her daughter who had her eye blackened and her lip split. Would she still be so willing to look past those previous crimes? What would Lopez, as a mother, have to say to her son if she ever found out that he had physically assaulted a significant other? Would she tell him that it’s no big deal and people shouldn’t hold it against him, or would she force him to understand just how unforgivable and awful his crime was?

As a mom, how do you throw your arm around someone who put another woman’s daughter in the hospital because he couldn’t control his anger or his fists?

I’ve never really cared all that much about Jennifer Lopez. But seeing this picture has convinced me to never watch a movie or buy an album that she releases, just like I wouldn’t give my money to Chris Brown himself.

The music industry might be comfortable welcoming Chris Brown into their elite ranks. They can give him awards and let him perform on high-profile shows. Lopez might feel like he’s an appropriate person to work with. But I can’t forget his past, especially given how unwilling he seems to take responsibility for it or attempt to learn from it.

(Photo: Twitter)

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  • kat

    If it bothers you so much don’t Lindsay, don’t read, listen or buy anything about them..It annoys me when self righteous people like you judge, go to church or read the bible about forgiveness, Chris Brown only has to answer to God not you, so get off your high horse…

    • lea

      Wait, what? So are you seriously saying that no one is allowed to comment on or criticise someone for horrific violence? Or that it isn’t ok to call someone out for ignoring and perhaps even condoning that behaviour by their inaction?

      Of course Chris Brown is answerable for his behaviour. To the police, the courts, his family, Rhianna and his community. We have standards for how people should treat each other, and those should be upheld and defended by everyone.

      You don’t get to be an asshole and then claim “only god can judge me” thinking it will be a free pass!

    • kat

      Forgiveness is a commandment, not a free pass. Chris was young man when that happened, no positive role models or consequences from his mother, and I never condone a man hitting a woman, I believe in forgiveness..THE COMMANDMENT TO FORGIVE

      I. As a Christian, God does not give you an option when it comes to forgiving someone who has wronged you. The commandments regarding this subject are clearer than most any other commandments in the Bible. We are not allowed the luxury of bearing “any grudge,” remaining “angry” (for longer than a day), becoming bitter, or discussing the person with a malicious, slanderous, or bitter slant or attitude. Forgiveness entails, “remembering no more,” forgiving “from the heart,” and allowing no “root of bitterness” to begin. You are to do all that you possibly can to initiate and restore any broken relationship (irrespective of who was at fault). Forgiveness does not mean that one has to pretend that what was wrong was right (wrong acts are still wrong acts), but it means that one must embrace and love the person no matter what wrong they have done. As Christians, we are to hate sin, yes, but we are to love people–as Jesus did and as he commanded. To have the power to love and forgive, we must first ourselves be right with God. Our own reconciliation to God is the foundation for all interpersonal forgiveness.

    • Guest

      Also the bible does say repeatedly to call people out when they are doing something obviously wrong.

    • whiteroses

      Wow. Just… wow.

    • whiteroses

      I haven’t bought a Chris Brown album or song since this whole Rihanna thing happened, for the same reason I don’t watch the Philadelphia Eagles play (Michael Vick), buy songs and albums from Rihanna herself, and will not buy or watch anything having to do with JLo from here on out. It may not make a darned bit of difference to them, but it makes me feel a lot better knowing that I’m not condoning violence or stupidity. Does it bother me? Yeah, it does. Do they owe me an explanation? Not really. Do I have to support them with my money? Not on your life.

    • kat

      Well live in your bubble then, perfect world, in your perfect little life, but I choose to believe people are made in the likeness of God, and if he can forgive so can I..Before he became famous Chris Brown he had no issues or a record, but Hollywood and a poor example of adult role model not parenting him and setting boundaries made his head and ego big, look at Lindsay Lohan, Justin Bieber, he started the same way, clean squeaky kid, now look at him now, on the same path as Chris, scrapes with the law,so forgive me I believe different
      these young men don’t have the right people guiding them…

    • whiteroses

      And at some point, you can’t blame parenting for your bad choices. Eventually everyone has to take responsibility for their own actions. I’m sorry that these people let Hollywood get to their head- but as a survivor of domestic violence I refuse to support one of its perpetrators.

      My life is far from perfect. I don’t judge people. I do, however, try to cultivate a spirit of discernment, as God calls us to do in Phillippians 1:9-10. God also calls us to think of pure, lovely and admirable things (Phillippians 4:8), and I would like to know how Chris Brown beating his girlfriend to a pulp is either pure or admirable. That’s worldliness I don’t want to be a part of. Yeah, he doesn’t have to ask for my forgiveness. But I refuse to allow sin into my midst if I can avoid it. The type of life Chris Brown leads is not one that I want to support or bring into my home for my son to emulate. You’re more than welcome to support him. That’s on you. But I don’t. Never have, never will.

    • http://2beapaperdoll.blogspot.com/ Cori

      This is perfect.

    • whiteroses

      And at some point, you can’t blame parenting for your bad choices. Eventually everyone has to take responsibility for their own actions. I’m sorry that these people let Hollywood get to their head- but as a survivor of domestic violence I refuse to support one of its perpetrators.

      My life is far from perfect. I don’t judge people. I do, however, try to cultivate a spirit of discernment, as God calls us to do in Phillippians 1:9-10. God also calls us to think of pure, lovely and admirable things (Phillippians 4:8), and I would like to know how Chris Brown beating his girlfriend to a pulp is either pure or admirable. That’s worldliness I don’t want to be a part of. Yeah, he doesn’t have to ask for my forgiveness. But I refuse to allow sin into my midst if I can avoid it. The type of life Chris Brown leads is not one that I want to support or bring into my home for my son to emulate. You’re more than welcome to support him. That’s on you. But I don’t. Never have, never will.

  • kat

    Wow, she is dead to you really, are you serious?????Like she really cares….And you are somebody’s mom? wow..It seems like your kids should be worried coming from a lady who doesn’t even know these people personally…

  • Salome

    The same thing can be said about you, kat. If you don’t like this woman’s blog, then don’t read it and keep it moving. Sounds like you need to go to church or read the bible. Anyway, Hollywood is Hollywood. I think time and time again artists have proven that they are more concerned about money and fame than in making a positive impact for our youth. Not surprised that J. Lo would do this but I think you make an interesting point.

    • kat

      Same goes for her if she doesn’t like JLO because musically she collaborated with him, keep it moving, don’t buy their music, ignore them, why rant and rave, and I don’t have a problem with her blog, I have a problem with people who pass judgement..Ye without sin, cast the first stone..
      THE COMMANDMENT TO FORGIVE

      I. As a Christian, God does not give you an option when it comes to forgiving someone who has wronged you. The commandments regarding this subject are clearer than most any other commandments in the Bible. We are not allowed the luxury of bearing “any grudge,” remaining “angry” (for longer than a day), becoming bitter, or discussing the person with a malicious, slanderous, or bitter slant or attitude. Forgiveness entails, “remembering no more,” forgiving “from the heart,” and allowing no “root of bitterness” to begin. You are to do all that you possibly can to initiate and restore any broken relationship (irrespective of who was at fault). Forgiveness does not mean that one has to pretend that what was wrong was right (wrong acts are still wrong acts), but it means that one must embrace and love the person no matter what wrong they have done. As Christians, we are to hate sin, yes, but we are to love people–as Jesus did and as he commanded. To have the power to love and forgive, we must first ourselves be right with God. Our own reconciliation to God is the foundation for all interpersonal forgiveness.

    • http://2beapaperdoll.blogspot.com/ Cori

      Just because you forgive someone’s actions doesn’t mean you should fund their bad choices. You can love a person and not enable them. Most of the things you mention about forgiveness are about personal relationships, you can’t “repair a broken relationship” with a stranger. In fact the definition of interpersonal is “being, relating to, or involving relations between persons” which isn’t relevant when you don’t know the person. Judging isn’t cool, but forgiveness isn’t really something you can give someone you’ve never interacted with. Benefit of the doubt or hope for their future actions, yes.

      She’s a blog writer on a website, she kind of has to comment on things out that happen in pop culture once in a while. No one visits a site with no content.

    • whiteroses

      I have a problem with people who plagarize the first hit when you Google “The Commandment to Forgive” and pass it off as their own words. There’s a commandment that states “Ye shall not steal.”

      We don’t have to forgive him. He didn’t sin against us. He sinned against Rihanna. At the same time, as Christians we don’t have to support or give money to those who don’t live by Christian principles. If you’re going to argue that we should forgive him based on Christian principles, then I would also argue that we shouldn’t support him based on the many Christian principles he broke (public drunkeness, mistreatment of Rihanna, verbal threats *the entire book of James comes to mind*).

  • Ipsedixit

    I’m sure JLo *really* cares about what you have to think. (Eye roll). A no name mommy blogger from a fly over state – who already wasnt buying albums – REALLY won’t buy them anymore? That’s going to hurt album sales.

    Mommyish: where we advocate not judging the choices of other moms, unless that mom is a celebrity. Then I’ll do so anonymously behind a pen name.

    • whiteroses

      She might not care- but I’d have a hard time explaining to my son that I tell him not to hit girls and yet buy albums and support those that do.

    • Ipsedixit

      You know everyone who is profiting off a song well enough to know if they’ve assaulted another person? That’s impressive. I haven’t cross checked the criminal records of sound mixer, producer, distributor, etc of the last album I bought.

      I’m not saying I support Chris Brown, but this article is idiotic. She wasn’t buying her records anyway, so the point is moot. Apparently she couldn’t come up with an intelligent piece, saw a picture of JLo and Chris Brown together, and decided to phone this one in.

    • http://2beapaperdoll.blogspot.com/ Cori

      You don’t have to say it, you have the trademarked hostility his fans have when they see any article mention him even slightly negatively. Although you can spell, so kudos for that.

    • Ipsedixit

      Haha thats adorable. You caught me! Chris Brown superfan right here!

      You are *so* right. Of course one cannot point out the ridiculousness of this article without being a closeted Chris Brown fan…

    • http://2beapaperdoll.blogspot.com/ Cori

      It’s pointless to state “I’m sure JLo *really* cares about what you have to think.” That sentiment can be applied to any article written about a celebrity and is just stating something anyone with a brain already knows. Of course they don’t care, there’s not need to.

      I’d wonder if you aren’t why would the article bother you, I suppose you could be a Lopez fan, but they don’t usually feel the need to belittle blog writers over articles that aren’t all that important anyways. Of course I’m assuming there based on what I’ve seen. Brown fans always do and since I have nothing else to decide your motives on I’m forced to rely on “If it looks like a cat, sounds like a cat and act’s like a cat, it must be a cat.” logic. Sorry for the insult in thinking you were, but again google some articles, other than your ability to spell and lack of recommendations the author kill themself, it’s a pretty typical comment for one of them to make.

    • http://2beapaperdoll.blogspot.com/ Cori

      It’s pointless to state “I’m sure JLo *really* cares about what you have to think.” That sentiment can be applied to any article written about a celebrity and is just stating something anyone with a brain already knows. Of course they don’t care, there’s not need to.

      I’d wonder if you aren’t why would the article bother you, I suppose you could be a Lopez fan, but they don’t usually feel the need to belittle blog writers over articles that aren’t all that important anyways. Of course I’m assuming there based on what I’ve seen. Brown fans always do and since I have nothing else to decide your motives on I’m forced to rely on “If it looks like a cat, sounds like a cat and act’s like a cat, it must be a cat.” logic. Sorry for the insult in thinking you were, but again google some articles, other than your ability to spell and lack of recommendations the author kill themself, it’s a pretty typical comment for one of them to make.

    • whiteroses

      I wouldn’t say that I do. But I am very careful about what I bring into my house. I can’t in good conscience tell my son not to hit women and then say, “Oooh, Chris Brown is SO super cool!” That’s hypocrisy, and I’m not going there. I’ll screw up more than once as a parent- this is something that’s completely within my control.

    • Justme

      And that’s why my child will never own a Kobe Bryant jersey….allegedly, of course.

  • MaryJanice Davidson

    Thank you for bringing this to my attention. I’ve never bought a thing by Chris Brown, and after reading this I deleted Jenny Now A Blockhead off my iPod. It’s not about whether they’ll notice. It’s about not putting money into the pockets of a thug who’s guilty of felony assault, nor anyone who would overlook his record of violence (against women, against women via Twitter, against windows on Good Morning America, against bottles at a club…) and help make him richer.

  • longtimemom

    Chris Brown in a slime ball, and I am disgusted that anyone would think otherwise… there is a sick mentality about how women are supposed to be treated in this country.